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20 Things I Wish My Children Knew

20 Things I Wish My Children Knew

While thinking about what matters to me and what advice to give my children if it was the last thing I could tell them, I realized that there are 20 things I wish my children knew.

1. I wish they knew that though I constantly tell them to keep trying, there will be times when they will have to quit!

I hope they will learn the art of knowing when to hold on and when to quit and start something new.

2.I wish they knew that if you don’t step out of your comfort zone you will never realize how great you could be.

Sometimes my children will have to try something new and dare something that scares them in order to find their inner strength.

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3. I wish they knew that happiness is a choice and not something that you search for like your car keys.

First they have to find what makes them happy and then they can go ahead and pursue their goals.

4. I wish they knew that you can’t wait for life to happen.

Life only happens when you know what you want and when you’re working hard to make it happen.

5. I wish they knew that if they make their own decisions they will get the credit when things go right and have no one for the blame when things go wrong.

If my children make their own decisions, they won’t live with regret wondering what could have been.

6. I wish they knew that investing in things trumps short-term enjoyment.

Sometimes they will have to put their temporary desires aside in order to achieve their long-term goals.

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7. I wish they knew the importance of taking some time for yourself.

When you take care of yourself there will be more of you to share with others.

8. I wish they knew the question of intelligence should never be “how intelligent are you?” but “how are you intelligent?”

I hope they will remember to focus on their areas of brilliance and not to worry about the rest.

9. I wish they knew people who talk down to you are never worth looking up to.

Giving advice to children may work, but never criticism.

10. I wish they knew that dishonesty is thinking short-term while integrity has long term benefits.

In a long term it will pay out for them to achieve a reputation of trustworthy friends and colleages.

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11. I wish they knew the secret to making friends and forming long term relationships is knowing that everyone wants to be appreciated and understood.

If you give love and understanding, you will receive love and understanding.

12. I wish they knew that most of the things you fear in life usually never happen.

Sometimes we are irrational and fear things that are very unlikely. Fear should never hold us back from going after what we really want.

13. I wish they knew that failure is underestimated and under-appreciated.

My best advice to children is: Don’t be afraid of messing up while you find out what you’re good at. In the words of Miss Frizzle of the TV show “Magic Schoolbus”: “Make mistakes, take chances, get messy!”

14. I wish they knew that there is pain in the world because of choices.

Bad choices are the plague of humanity but the ability to choose is the cornerstone of free will. This freedom is what allows us to reach places the human mind has never been to before.

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15. I wish they knew how to live each day to the fullest, not caring if someone else thinks they’re crazy.

I hope in the end they have no regrets because they lived, they loved, they danced. They embraced every opportunity for change, every chance to make life as rich and full as it can be.

16. I wish they knew that even the good they do will be badly spoken of by someone.

I hope they never allow the opinion of someone who doesn’t matter to change their opinion of what matters.

17. I wish they knew what love can do.

Love doesn’t only feel good. It can change their whole world.

18. I wish they knew that God is that voice in your heart that tells you what’s right.

He’s the reassuring hunch that tells you in the end you’re going to be ok.

19. I wish they knew that the best investment I’ve ever made was in them.

I would never take back any sacrifice made for my children because I see that it has brought me rewards that can’t be compared to anything else.

20. I wish they knew that even when I yelled at them they were always loved unconditionally and the most precious thing in my life.

Because mothers love their kids unconditionally.

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Last Updated on September 17, 2019

10 Simple Ways To Always Think Positive Thoughts

10 Simple Ways To Always Think Positive Thoughts

Positive thinking can lead to a lot of positive change in your life. Developing an optimistic outlook can be good for both your physical and mental health.

But sometimes, certain situations arise in life that makes it hard to keep a positive outlook. Take steps to make positive thinking become more like your second nature and you’ll reap the biggest benefits.

Here are 10 ways to make thinking positive thoughts easy:

1. Spend Time with Positive People

If you surround yourself with constant complainers, their negativity is likely to rub off on you.

Spend time with positive friends and family members to increase the likelihood that their positive thinking habits will become yours too. It’s hard to be negative when everyone around you is so positive.

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2. Take Responsibility for Your Behavior

When you encounter problems and difficulties in life, don’t play the role of the victim. Acknowledge your role in the situation and take responsibility for your behavior.

Accepting responsibility can help you learn from mistakes and prevent you from blaming others unfairly.

3. Contribute to the Community

One of the best ways to feel good about what you have, is to focus on what you have to give.

Volunteer in some manner and give back to the community. Helping others can give you a new outlook on the world and can assist you with positive thinking.

4. Read Positive and Inspirational Materials

Spend time each day reading something that encourages positive thinking. Read the Bible, spiritual material, or inspirational quotes to help you focus on what’s important to you in life. It can be a great way to start and end your day.

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5. Recognize and Replace Negative Thoughts

You won’t be successful at positive thinking if you’re still plagued by frequent negative thoughts. Learn to recognize and replace thoughts that are overly negative. Often, thoughts that include words like “always” and “never” signal that they aren’t true.

If you find yourself thinking something such as, “I always mess everything up,” replace it with something more realistic such as, “Sometimes I make mistakes but I learn from them.”

There’s no need to make your thoughts unrealistically positive, but instead, make them more realistic.

6. Establish and Work Toward Goals

It’s easier to be positive about problems and setbacks when you have goals that you’re working toward. Goals will give you motivation to overcome those obstacles when you encounter problems along the way. Without clear goals, it’s harder to make decisions and gauge your progress.

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Learn to set SMART goals to help you achieve more.

7. Consider the Consequences of Negativity

Spend some time thinking about the consequences of negative thinking. Often, it can become a self-fulfilling prophecy.

For example, a person who thinks, “I probably won’t get this job interview,” may put less effort into the interview. As a result, he may decrease his chances of getting the job.

Create a list of all the ways negative thinking impacts your life. It likely influences your behavior, your relationships, and your feelings. Then, create a list of the ways in which positive thinking could be beneficial.

8. Offer Compliments to Others

Look for reasons to compliment others. Be genuine in your praise and compliments, but offer it frequently. This will help you look for the good in other people.

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9. Create a Daily Gratitude List

If you start keeping a daily gratitude list, you’ll start noticing exactly how much you have to be thankful for. This can help you focus on the positive in your life instead of thinking about all the bad things that have happened in the day.

Getting in the habit of showing an attitude of gratitude makes positive thinking more of a habit. Here’re 40 Simple Ways To Practice Gratitude.

10. Practice Self-Care

Take good care of yourself and you’ll be more equipped to think positively.

Get plenty of rest and exercise and practice managing your stress well. Taking care of your physical and mental health will provide you with more energy to focus on positive thinking.

Learn about these 30 Self-Care Habits for a Strong and Healthy Mind, Body and Spirit.

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