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20 Things I Wish My Children Knew

20 Things I Wish My Children Knew

While thinking about what matters to me and what advice to give my children if it was the last thing I could tell them, I realized that there are 20 things I wish my children knew.

1. I wish they knew that though I constantly tell them to keep trying, there will be times when they will have to quit!

I hope they will learn the art of knowing when to hold on and when to quit and start something new.

2.I wish they knew that if you don’t step out of your comfort zone you will never realize how great you could be.

Sometimes my children will have to try something new and dare something that scares them in order to find their inner strength.

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3. I wish they knew that happiness is a choice and not something that you search for like your car keys.

First they have to find what makes them happy and then they can go ahead and pursue their goals.

4. I wish they knew that you can’t wait for life to happen.

Life only happens when you know what you want and when you’re working hard to make it happen.

5. I wish they knew that if they make their own decisions they will get the credit when things go right and have no one for the blame when things go wrong.

If my children make their own decisions, they won’t live with regret wondering what could have been.

6. I wish they knew that investing in things trumps short-term enjoyment.

Sometimes they will have to put their temporary desires aside in order to achieve their long-term goals.

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7. I wish they knew the importance of taking some time for yourself.

When you take care of yourself there will be more of you to share with others.

8. I wish they knew the question of intelligence should never be “how intelligent are you?” but “how are you intelligent?”

I hope they will remember to focus on their areas of brilliance and not to worry about the rest.

9. I wish they knew people who talk down to you are never worth looking up to.

Giving advice to children may work, but never criticism.

10. I wish they knew that dishonesty is thinking short-term while integrity has long term benefits.

In a long term it will pay out for them to achieve a reputation of trustworthy friends and colleages.

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11. I wish they knew the secret to making friends and forming long term relationships is knowing that everyone wants to be appreciated and understood.

If you give love and understanding, you will receive love and understanding.

12. I wish they knew that most of the things you fear in life usually never happen.

Sometimes we are irrational and fear things that are very unlikely. Fear should never hold us back from going after what we really want.

13. I wish they knew that failure is underestimated and under-appreciated.

My best advice to children is: Don’t be afraid of messing up while you find out what you’re good at. In the words of Miss Frizzle of the TV show “Magic Schoolbus”: “Make mistakes, take chances, get messy!”

14. I wish they knew that there is pain in the world because of choices.

Bad choices are the plague of humanity but the ability to choose is the cornerstone of free will. This freedom is what allows us to reach places the human mind has never been to before.

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15. I wish they knew how to live each day to the fullest, not caring if someone else thinks they’re crazy.

I hope in the end they have no regrets because they lived, they loved, they danced. They embraced every opportunity for change, every chance to make life as rich and full as it can be.

16. I wish they knew that even the good they do will be badly spoken of by someone.

I hope they never allow the opinion of someone who doesn’t matter to change their opinion of what matters.

17. I wish they knew what love can do.

Love doesn’t only feel good. It can change their whole world.

18. I wish they knew that God is that voice in your heart that tells you what’s right.

He’s the reassuring hunch that tells you in the end you’re going to be ok.

19. I wish they knew that the best investment I’ve ever made was in them.

I would never take back any sacrifice made for my children because I see that it has brought me rewards that can’t be compared to anything else.

20. I wish they knew that even when I yelled at them they were always loved unconditionally and the most precious thing in my life.

Because mothers love their kids unconditionally.

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Last Updated on September 28, 2020

How To Study Effectively: 7 Simple Tips

How To Study Effectively: 7 Simple Tips

The brain is a tangled web of information. We don’t remember single facts, but instead we interlink everything by association. Anytime we experience a new event, our brains tie the sights, smells, sounds and our own impressions together into a new relationship.

Our brain remembers things by repetition, association, visual imagery, and all five senses. By knowing a bit about how the brain works, we can become better learners, absorbing new information faster than ever.

Here are some study tips to help get you started:

1. Use Flashcards

Our brains create engrained memories through repetition. The more times we hear, see, or repeat something to ourselves, the more likely we are to remember it.

Flashcards can help you learn new subjects quickly and efficiently. Flashcards allow you to study anywhere at any time. Their portable nature lends them to quick study sessions on the bus, in traffic, at lunch, or in the doctor’s office. You can always whip out your flashcards for a quick 2 to 3 minute study session.

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To create effective flashcards, you need to put one point on each flashcard. Don’t load up the entire card with information. That’s just overload. Instead, you should dedicate one concept to each card.

One of the best ways to make flashcards is to put 1 question on the front and one answer on the back. This way, you can repeatedly quiz yourself into you have mastered any topic of your choice.

Commit to reading through your flash cards at least 3 times a day and you will be amazed at how quickly you pick up new information.

As Tony Robbins says,

“Repetition is the mother of skill”.

2. Create the Right Environment

Often times, where you study can be just as important as how you study. For an optimum learning environment, you’ll want to find a nice spot that is fairly peaceful. Some people can’t stand a deafening silence, but you certainly don’t want to study near constant distractions.

Find a spot that you can call your own, with plenty of room to spread out your stuff. Go there each time you study and you will find yourself adapting to a productive study schedule. When you study in the same place each time, you become more productive in that spot because you associate it with studying.

3. Use Acronyms to Remember Information

In your quest for knowledge, you may have once heard of an odd term called “mnemonics”. However, even if you haven’t heard of this word, you have certainly heard of its many applications. One of the most popular mnemonic examples is “Every Good Boy Does Fine”. This is an acronym used to help musicians and students to remember the notes on a treble clef stave.

An acronym is simply an abbreviation formed using the intial letters of a word. These types of memory aids can help you to learn large quantities of information in a short period of time.

4. Listen to Music

Research has long shown that certain types of music help you to recall information. Information learned while listening to a particular song can often be remembered simply by “playing” the songs mentally in your head.

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5. Rewrite Your Notes

This can be done by hand or on the computer. However, you should keep in mind that writing by hand can often stimulate more neural activity than when writing on the computer.

Everyone should study their notes at home but often times, simply re-reading them is too passive. Re-reading your notes can cause you to become disengaged and distracted.

To get the most out of your study time, make sure that it is active. Rewriting your notes turns a passive study time into an active and engaging learning tool. You can begin using this technique by buying two notebooks for each of your classes. Dedicate one of the notebooks for making notes during each class. Dedicate the other notebook to rewriting your notes outside of class.

6. Engage Your Emotions

Emotions play a very important part in your memory. Think about it. The last time you went to a party, which people did you remember? The lady who made you laugh, the man who hurt your feelings, and the kid who went screaming through the halls are the ones you will remember. They are the ones who had an emotional impact.

Fortunately, you can use the power of emotion in your own study sessions. Enhance your memory by using your five senses. Don’t just memorize facts. Don’t just see and hear the words in your mind. Create a vivid visual picture of what you are trying to learn.

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For example, if you are trying to learn the many parts of a human cell, begin physically rotating the cell in your minds eye. Imagine what each part might feel like. Begin to take the cell apart piece by piece and then reconstruct it. Paint the human cell with vivid colors. Enlarge the cell in your mind’s eye so that it is now six feet tall and putting on your own personal comedy show. This visual and emotional mind play will help deeply encode information into your memory.

7. Make Associations

One of the best ways to learn new things is to relate what you want to learn with something you already know. This is known as association, and it is the mental glue that drives your brain.

Have you ever listened to a song and been flooded by memories that were connected to it? Have you ever seen an old friend that triggered memories from childhood? This is the power of association.

To maximize our mental powers, we must constantly be looking for ways to relate new information with old ideas and concepts that we are already familiar with.

You can do this with the use of mindmapping. A mind map is used to diagram words, pictures, thoughts, and ideas into a an interconnected web of information. This simple practice will help you to connect everything you learn into a global network of knowledge that can be pulled from at any moment.

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Learn more about mindmapping here: How to Mind Map to Visualize Your Thoughts (With Mind Map Examples)

Featured photo credit: Alissa De Leva via unsplash.com

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