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20 Things I Wish My Children Knew

20 Things I Wish My Children Knew

While thinking about what matters to me and what advice to give my children if it was the last thing I could tell them, I realized that there are 20 things I wish my children knew.

1. I wish they knew that though I constantly tell them to keep trying, there will be times when they will have to quit!

I hope they will learn the art of knowing when to hold on and when to quit and start something new.

2.I wish they knew that if you don’t step out of your comfort zone you will never realize how great you could be.

Sometimes my children will have to try something new and dare something that scares them in order to find their inner strength.

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3. I wish they knew that happiness is a choice and not something that you search for like your car keys.

First they have to find what makes them happy and then they can go ahead and pursue their goals.

4. I wish they knew that you can’t wait for life to happen.

Life only happens when you know what you want and when you’re working hard to make it happen.

5. I wish they knew that if they make their own decisions they will get the credit when things go right and have no one for the blame when things go wrong.

If my children make their own decisions, they won’t live with regret wondering what could have been.

6. I wish they knew that investing in things trumps short-term enjoyment.

Sometimes they will have to put their temporary desires aside in order to achieve their long-term goals.

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7. I wish they knew the importance of taking some time for yourself.

When you take care of yourself there will be more of you to share with others.

8. I wish they knew the question of intelligence should never be “how intelligent are you?” but “how are you intelligent?”

I hope they will remember to focus on their areas of brilliance and not to worry about the rest.

9. I wish they knew people who talk down to you are never worth looking up to.

Giving advice to children may work, but never criticism.

10. I wish they knew that dishonesty is thinking short-term while integrity has long term benefits.

In a long term it will pay out for them to achieve a reputation of trustworthy friends and colleages.

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11. I wish they knew the secret to making friends and forming long term relationships is knowing that everyone wants to be appreciated and understood.

If you give love and understanding, you will receive love and understanding.

12. I wish they knew that most of the things you fear in life usually never happen.

Sometimes we are irrational and fear things that are very unlikely. Fear should never hold us back from going after what we really want.

13. I wish they knew that failure is underestimated and under-appreciated.

My best advice to children is: Don’t be afraid of messing up while you find out what you’re good at. In the words of Miss Frizzle of the TV show “Magic Schoolbus”: “Make mistakes, take chances, get messy!”

14. I wish they knew that there is pain in the world because of choices.

Bad choices are the plague of humanity but the ability to choose is the cornerstone of free will. This freedom is what allows us to reach places the human mind has never been to before.

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15. I wish they knew how to live each day to the fullest, not caring if someone else thinks they’re crazy.

I hope in the end they have no regrets because they lived, they loved, they danced. They embraced every opportunity for change, every chance to make life as rich and full as it can be.

16. I wish they knew that even the good they do will be badly spoken of by someone.

I hope they never allow the opinion of someone who doesn’t matter to change their opinion of what matters.

17. I wish they knew what love can do.

Love doesn’t only feel good. It can change their whole world.

18. I wish they knew that God is that voice in your heart that tells you what’s right.

He’s the reassuring hunch that tells you in the end you’re going to be ok.

19. I wish they knew that the best investment I’ve ever made was in them.

I would never take back any sacrifice made for my children because I see that it has brought me rewards that can’t be compared to anything else.

20. I wish they knew that even when I yelled at them they were always loved unconditionally and the most precious thing in my life.

Because mothers love their kids unconditionally.

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Last Updated on July 18, 2019

What Makes People Happy? 20 Secrets of “Always Happy” People

What Makes People Happy? 20 Secrets of “Always Happy” People

Some people just seem to float through life with a relentless sense of happiness – through the toughest of times, they’re unfazed and aloof, stopping to smell the roses and drinking out of a glass half full.

They may not have much to be happy about, but the simplicity behind that fact itself may make them happy.

It’s all a matter of perspective, conscious effort and self-awareness. Listed below are a number of reasons why some people are always happy.

1. They Manage Their Expectations

They’re not crushed when they don’t get what they want – or misled into expecting to get the most out of every situation. They approach every situation pragmatically, hoping for the best but being prepared for the worst.

2. They Don’t Set Unrealistic Standards

Similar to the last point, they don’t live their lives in a constant pursuit towards impossible visions of perfection, only to always find themselves falling short of what they want.

3. They Don’t Take Anything for Granted

Happiness rests with feeling fulfilled – those who fail to stop and appreciate what they have every now and again will never experience true fulfillment.

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4. They’re Not Materialistic

There are arguing viewpoints on whether or not money can really buy happiness; if it can, then we know from experience that we can never be satisfied because there will always be something newer or better that we want. Who has ever had enough money?

5. They Don’t Dwell

They don’t sweat the small things or waste time worrying about things that don’t really matter at the end of the day. They don’t let negative thoughts latch onto them and drain them or distract them. Life’s too short to worry.

6. They Care About Themselves First

They’re independent, care for themselves and understand that they must put their needs first in order to accommodate the needs of others.

They indulge, aim to get what they want, make time for themselves and are extremely self-reliant.

7. They Enjoy the Little Things

They stop to smell the roses. They’re accustomed to find serenity when it’s available, to welcome entertainment or a stimulating discussion with a stranger when it crosses their path. They don’t overlook the small things in life that can be just as important.

8. They Can Adapt

They’re not afraid of change and they work to make the most out of new circumstances, good or bad. They thrive under pressure, are not overwhelmed easily and always embrace a change of pace.

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9. They Experiment

They try new things, experience new flavors and never shy away from something they have yet to experience. They never order twice from the same menu.

10. They Take Their Time

They don’t unnecessarily rush through life. They work on their own schedule to the extent that they can and maneuver through life at their own relaxing pace.

11. They Employ Different Perspectives

They’re not stuck in one perspective; a loss can result in a new opportunity, hitting rock bottom can mean that there’s no where to go but up.

12. They Seek to Learn

Their constant pursuit of knowledge keeps them inspired and interested in life. They cherish information and are on a life-long quest to learn as much as they can.

13. They Always Have a Plan

They don’t find themselves drifting without purpose. When something doesn’t go as planned, they have a plan for every letter in the alphabet to fall back on.

14. They Give Respect to Get It

They are respectful and, in turn, are seen as respectable; the respect they exude earns them the respect they deserve.

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15. They Consider Every Opportunity

They always have their eyes open for a new road, a new avenue worth exploring. They know how to recognize opportune moments and pounce on them to make the most of every situation. Success is inevitable for them.

16. They Always Seek to Improve

Perpetual self-improvement is the key towards their ongoing thirst for success. Whatever it is they do, they take pride in getting better and better, from social interactions to mundane tasks. Their pursuit at being the best eventually materializes.

17. They Don’t Take Life Too Seriously

They’re not ones to get offended easily over-analyze or complicate matters. They laugh at their own faults and misfortunes.

18. They Live in the Moment

They don’t live for tomorrow or dwell on what may have happened yesterday. Every day is a new opportunity, a new chapter. They live in the now, and in doing so, get the most out of every moment.

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19. They Say Yes

Much more often than they say no. They don’t have to be badgered to go out, don’t shy away from new opportunities or anything that may seem inconvenient.

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20. They’re Self-Aware

Most important, they’re wholly aware of themselves. They self-reflect and are conscious of their states of mind. If somethings bothering them, they fix it.

We’re all susceptible to feeling down every now and again, but we are all equipped with the necessary solutions that just have to be discovered.

Lack of confidence, inability to feel fulfilled, and susceptibility to stress are all matters that can be controlled through the way we handle our lives and perceive our circumstances.

Learn about How Self-Reflection Gives You a Happier and More Successful Life.

Final Thoughts

The main philosophy employed by the happiest includes the idea that life’s simply too short: life’s too short to let things get you down, to take things for granted, to pursue absolute and unrealistic perfection.

For some, employing these characteristics is a second nature – they do it without knowing. For others, a conscious effort must be put forth every now and again. Self-Awareness is key.

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