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20 Things I Wish My Children Knew

20 Things I Wish My Children Knew

While thinking about what matters to me and what advice to give my children if it was the last thing I could tell them, I realized that there are 20 things I wish my children knew.

1. I wish they knew that though I constantly tell them to keep trying, there will be times when they will have to quit!

I hope they will learn the art of knowing when to hold on and when to quit and start something new.

2.I wish they knew that if you don’t step out of your comfort zone you will never realize how great you could be.

Sometimes my children will have to try something new and dare something that scares them in order to find their inner strength.

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3. I wish they knew that happiness is a choice and not something that you search for like your car keys.

First they have to find what makes them happy and then they can go ahead and pursue their goals.

4. I wish they knew that you can’t wait for life to happen.

Life only happens when you know what you want and when you’re working hard to make it happen.

5. I wish they knew that if they make their own decisions they will get the credit when things go right and have no one for the blame when things go wrong.

If my children make their own decisions, they won’t live with regret wondering what could have been.

6. I wish they knew that investing in things trumps short-term enjoyment.

Sometimes they will have to put their temporary desires aside in order to achieve their long-term goals.

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7. I wish they knew the importance of taking some time for yourself.

When you take care of yourself there will be more of you to share with others.

8. I wish they knew the question of intelligence should never be “how intelligent are you?” but “how are you intelligent?”

I hope they will remember to focus on their areas of brilliance and not to worry about the rest.

9. I wish they knew people who talk down to you are never worth looking up to.

Giving advice to children may work, but never criticism.

10. I wish they knew that dishonesty is thinking short-term while integrity has long term benefits.

In a long term it will pay out for them to achieve a reputation of trustworthy friends and colleages.

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11. I wish they knew the secret to making friends and forming long term relationships is knowing that everyone wants to be appreciated and understood.

If you give love and understanding, you will receive love and understanding.

12. I wish they knew that most of the things you fear in life usually never happen.

Sometimes we are irrational and fear things that are very unlikely. Fear should never hold us back from going after what we really want.

13. I wish they knew that failure is underestimated and under-appreciated.

My best advice to children is: Don’t be afraid of messing up while you find out what you’re good at. In the words of Miss Frizzle of the TV show “Magic Schoolbus”: “Make mistakes, take chances, get messy!”

14. I wish they knew that there is pain in the world because of choices.

Bad choices are the plague of humanity but the ability to choose is the cornerstone of free will. This freedom is what allows us to reach places the human mind has never been to before.

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15. I wish they knew how to live each day to the fullest, not caring if someone else thinks they’re crazy.

I hope in the end they have no regrets because they lived, they loved, they danced. They embraced every opportunity for change, every chance to make life as rich and full as it can be.

16. I wish they knew that even the good they do will be badly spoken of by someone.

I hope they never allow the opinion of someone who doesn’t matter to change their opinion of what matters.

17. I wish they knew what love can do.

Love doesn’t only feel good. It can change their whole world.

18. I wish they knew that God is that voice in your heart that tells you what’s right.

He’s the reassuring hunch that tells you in the end you’re going to be ok.

19. I wish they knew that the best investment I’ve ever made was in them.

I would never take back any sacrifice made for my children because I see that it has brought me rewards that can’t be compared to anything else.

20. I wish they knew that even when I yelled at them they were always loved unconditionally and the most precious thing in my life.

Because mothers love their kids unconditionally.

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Last Updated on November 15, 2018

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

What do you think it takes to achieve your goals? Hard work? Lots of actions? While these are paramount to becoming successful in reaching our goals, neither of these are possible without a positive mindset.

As humans, we naturally tend to lean towards a negative outlook when it comes to our hopes and dreams. We are prone to believing that we have limitations either from within ourselves or from external forces keeping us from truly getting to where we want to be in life. Our tendency to think that we’ll “believe it when we see it” suggests that our mindsets are focused on our goals not really being attainable until they’ve been achieved. The problem with this is that this common mindset fuels our limiting beliefs and shows a lack of faith in ourselves.

The Success Mindset

Success in achieving our goals comes down to a ‘success mindset’. Successful mindsets are those focused on victory, based on positive mental attitudes, empowering inclinations and good habits. Acquiring a success mindset is the sure-fire way to dramatically increase your chance to achieve your goals.

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The idea that achieving our goals comes down to our habits and actions is actually a typical type of mindset that misses a crucial point; that our mindset is, in fact, the determiner of our energy and what actions we take. A negative mindset will tend to create negative actions and similarly if we have a mindset that will only set into action once we see ‘proof’ that our goals are achievable, then the road will be much longer and arduous. This is why, instead of thinking “I’ll believe it when I see it”, a success mindset will think “I’ll see it when I believe it.”

The Placebo Effect and What It Shows Us About The Power of Mindset

The placebo effect is a perfect example of how mindset really can be powerful. In scientific trials, a group of participants were told they received medication that will heal an ailment but were actually given a sugar pill that does nothing (the placebo). Yet after the trial the participants believed it’s had a positive effect – sometimes even cured their ailment even though nothing has changed. This is the power of mindset.

How do we apply this to our goals? Well, when we set goals and dreams how often do we really believe they’ll come to fruition? Have absolute faith that they can be achieved? Have a complete unwavering expectation? Most of us don’t because we hold on to negative mindsets and limiting beliefs about ourselves that stop us from fully believing we are capable or that it’s at all possible. We tend to listen to the opinions of others despite them misaligning with our own or bow to societal pressures that make us believe we should think and act a certain way. There are many reasons why we possess these types of mindsets but a success mindset can be achieved.

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How To Create a Success Mindset

People with success mindsets have a particular way of perceiving things. They have positive outlooks and are able to put faith fully in their ability to succeed. With that in mind, here are a few ways that can turn a negative mindset into a successful one.

1. A Success Mindset Comes From a Growth Mindset

How does a mindset even manifest itself? It comes from the way you talk to yourself in the privacy of your own head. Realising this will go a long way towards noticing how you speak to yourself and others around you. If it’s mainly negative language you use when you talk about your goals and aspirations then this is an example of a fixed mindset.

A negative mindset brings with it a huge number of limiting beliefs. It creates a fixed mindset – one that can’t see beyond it’s own limitations. A growth mindset sees these limitations and looks beyond them – it finds ways to overcome obstacles and believes that this will result in success. When you think of your goal, a fixed mindset may think “what if I fail?” A growth mindset would look at the same goal and think “failures happen but that doesn’t mean I won’t be successful.”

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There’s a lot of power in changing your perspective.

2. Look For The Successes

It’s really important to get your mind focused on positive aspects of your goal. Finding inspiration through others can be really uplifting and keep you on track with developing your success mindset; reinforcing your belief that your dreams can be achieved. Find people that you can talk with about how they achieved their goals and seek out and surround yourself with positive people. This is crucial if you’re learning to develop a positive mindset.

3. Eliminate Negativity

You can come up against a lot of negativity sometimes either through other people or within yourself. Understanding that other people’s negative opinions are created through their own fears and limiting beliefs will go a long way in sustaining your success mindset. But for a lot of us, negative chatter can come from within and these usually manifest as negative words such as can’t, won’t, shouldn’t. Sometimes, when we think of how we’re going to achieve our goals, statements in our minds come out as negative absolutes: ‘It never works out for me’ or ‘I always fail.’

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When you notice these coming up you need to turn them around with ‘It always works out for me!’ and ‘I never fail!’ The trick is to believe it no matter what’s happened in the past. Remember that every new day is a clean slate and for you to adjust your mindset.

4. Create a Vision

Envisioning your end goal and seeing it in your mind is an important trait of a success mindset. Allowing ourselves to imagine our success creates a powerful excitement that shouldn’t be underestimated. When our brain becomes excited at the thought of achieving our goals, we become more committed, work harder towards achieving it and more likely to do whatever it takes to make it happen.

If this involves creating a vision board that you can look at to remind yourself every day then go for it. Small techniques like this go a long way in sustaining your success mindset and shouldn’t be dismissed.

An Inspirational Story…

For centuries experts said that running a mile in under 4 minutes was humanly impossible. On the 6th May 1954, Rodger Bannister did just that. As part of his training, Bannister relentlessly visualised the achievement, believing he could accomplish what everyone said wasn’t possible…and he did it.

What’s more amazing is that, as soon as Bannister achieved the 4-minute mile, more and more people also achieved it. How was this possible after so many years of no one achieving it? Because in people’s minds it was suddenly possible – once people knew that it was achievable it created a mindset of success and now, after over fifty years since Bannister did the ‘impossible’, his record has been lowered by 17 seconds – the power of the success mindset!

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