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A Bucket List of Things To Be Proud Of

A Bucket List of Things To Be Proud Of

Do you want to lift your self-esteem from a desperate state to a strong, feel-good-oozing confidence? If yes, then you need to start feeding your ego with things to be proud of. These are some secrets to boosting self-confidence: first, know what you want and second, know what you have accomplished so far. Regardless whether it is an ultimate dream to go to the moon, or a simple day-to-day act of smiling, having things you can be proud of can bring a better perspective on how you look at yourself.

Oftentimes, it is not because we are losers and have not achieved anything in our life that we are not proud of our accomplishments, but rather we take for granted the things that we think are ordinary and forget the value of the things we may already have accomplished. You need to start looking around and thinking about the things you can be proud of in the different dimensions of your life. A bucket list is a good way to start committing yourself to goals and start reaping the rewards of your unsung achievements!

I have collected a bucket list of things to be proud of by digging through my own articles about self-confidence, recalling my readers’ past conversations and collecting a whole gamut of ideas from experts in positive psychology. Check them out, pick ones that fit you, or copy ideas and customize them for your own needs.

Be Proud of Your Attitude

1. Approach life joyfully regardless of what it shows you because this makes you different from others.

2. Feel open and friendly toward those with whom you interact because this makes you approachable and likable.

3. Approach something new with confidence because even if it becomes a difficult task, it also makes you a good model of patience.

Be Proud of Life Lessons Learned

4. Face failures, take responsibility and persevere because survivors achieve more goals.

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5. Assert your personal need to pamper yourself because that recharges your body and spirit and makes you a better person.

6. Take quiet time to reflect and be still because that gives you higher self-awareness and allows you to understand others better as well.

7. Say no to bullying in your environment, be it at school, at work or in the neighborhood, because you can be starting a movement in a community where people currently live in fear.

8. Get recognized for your work well done because you deserve it.

Be Proud of Your Accomplishments

9. Finish a relevant course and do not compare your achievement with another person because that proves you are special.

10. Find a kind of work that will be able to support your family because you are contributing to the smallest unit of society.

11. Have the courage to take risk, and change or explore jobs that will make you happy because only then will you make a meaningful existence.

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Be Proud of Your Financial Decisions

12. Save a significant amount of money for future needs because it takes discipline to do so.

13. Have minimal and manageable credit because this is a sign of a healthy and simple lifestyle.

14. Spend only what you can afford and not beyond your means because it is stupid to be rich with liabilities.

15. Buy a property that you can truly call your own and leave it as a legacy to your family.

16. Invest intelligently in stocks or business by following the lessons of those who came before us.

Be Proud of Your Leisure Activities and Hobbies

17. Write a helpful post on Facebook or a blog because nowadays social networks and blogs are full of rubbish and waste time.

18. Travel to your dream destinations, learn cultures and understand peoples.

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Be Proud of Your Relationships and Compassion for Others

19. Find your soul mate and partner forever because this is one of the keys to understanding eternal bliss.

20. Bear the differences between you and your life partner because no two individuals are the same.

21. Spend quality time with your family because they need it from you.

22. Truly listen to what someone else is saying to you to be able to really understand them because it is a rarity to find someone doing so.

23. Live compassion towards others—even enemies or critics—by respecting other people and their opinions without compromising your stance because this separates humans from animals.

24. Say, “I love you,” to your loved ones and mean it because doing so is like seeing what your heart is occupied with.

25. Go out of your way to make a call or visit someone you care about because sometimes there isn’t a next time.

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26. Have kids with your life partner because by doing so you become a co-creator of life.

27. Contribute to assist disaster survivors because one person’s help goes a long way.

28. Contribute to a charity regularly because it brings you closer to real happiness.

Be Proud of Your Physical Achievements

29. Run a race because it tests your physical endurance and prepares you for any other life trial.

30. Keep your body fit and it can make you look 10 years younger because everyone deserves to be beautiful.

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The Gentle Art of Saying No

The Gentle Art of Saying No

No!

It’s a simple fact that you can never be productive if you take on too many commitments — you simply spread yourself too thin and will not be able to get anything done, at least not well or on time.

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But requests for your time are coming in all the time — through phone, email, IM or in person. To stay productive, and minimize stress, you have to learn the Gentle Art of Saying No — an art that many people have problems with.

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What’s so hard about saying no? Well, to start with, it can hurt, anger or disappoint the person you’re saying “no” to, and that’s not usually a fun task. Second, if you hope to work with that person in the future, you’ll want to continue to have a good relationship with that person, and saying “no” in the wrong way can jeopardize that.

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But it doesn’t have to be difficult or hard on your relationship. Here are the Top 10 tips for learning the Gentle Art of Saying No:

  1. Value your time. Know your commitments, and how valuable your precious time is. Then, when someone asks you to dedicate some of your time to a new commitment, you’ll know that you simply cannot do it. And tell them that: “I just can’t right now … my plate is overloaded as it is.”
  2. Know your priorities. Even if you do have some extra time (which for many of us is rare), is this new commitment really the way you want to spend that time? For myself, I know that more commitments means less time with my wife and kids, who are more important to me than anything.
  3. Practice saying no. Practice makes perfect. Saying “no” as often as you can is a great way to get better at it and more comfortable with saying the word. And sometimes, repeating the word is the only way to get a message through to extremely persistent people. When they keep insisting, just keep saying no. Eventually, they’ll get the message.
  4. Don’t apologize. A common way to start out is “I’m sorry but …” as people think that it sounds more polite. While politeness is important, apologizing just makes it sound weaker. You need to be firm, and unapologetic about guarding your time.
  5. Stop being nice. Again, it’s important to be polite, but being nice by saying yes all the time only hurts you. When you make it easy for people to grab your time (or money), they will continue to do it. But if you erect a wall, they will look for easier targets. Show them that your time is well guarded by being firm and turning down as many requests (that are not on your top priority list) as possible.
  6. Say no to your boss. Sometimes we feel that we have to say yes to our boss — they’re our boss, right? And if we say “no” then we look like we can’t handle the work — at least, that’s the common reasoning. But in fact, it’s the opposite — explain to your boss that by taking on too many commitments, you are weakening your productivity and jeopardizing your existing commitments. If your boss insists that you take on the project, go over your project or task list and ask him/her to re-prioritize, explaining that there’s only so much you can take on at one time.
  7. Pre-empting. It’s often much easier to pre-empt requests than to say “no” to them after the request has been made. If you know that requests are likely to be made, perhaps in a meeting, just say to everyone as soon as you come into the meeting, “Look guys, just to let you know, my week is booked full with some urgent projects and I won’t be able to take on any new requests.”
  8. Get back to you. Instead of providing an answer then and there, it’s often better to tell the person you’ll give their request some thought and get back to them. This will allow you to give it some consideration, and check your commitments and priorities. Then, if you can’t take on the request, simply tell them: “After giving this some thought, and checking my commitments, I won’t be able to accommodate the request at this time.” At least you gave it some consideration.
  9. Maybe later. If this is an option that you’d like to keep open, instead of just shutting the door on the person, it’s often better to just say, “This sounds like an interesting opportunity, but I just don’t have the time at the moment. Perhaps you could check back with me in [give a time frame].” Next time, when they check back with you, you might have some free time on your hands.
  10. It’s not you, it’s me. This classic dating rejection can work in other situations. Don’t be insincere about it, though. Often the person or project is a good one, but it’s just not right for you, at least not at this time. Simply say so — you can compliment the idea, the project, the person, the organization … but say that it’s not the right fit, or it’s not what you’re looking for at this time. Only say this if it’s true — people can sense insincerity.

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