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8 Reasons Why You Should Fail As Much As You Can

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8 Reasons Why You Should Fail As Much As You Can

What’s the first thing that crosses your mind when you hear the word “failure”? A long list of negative adjectives? That’s because the society we live in views failures with such a negative perspective that suggesting it as a good thing seems strange. We curse ourselves for our failures and whine over our mistakes, but how many times we think of failures as opportunities to learn?

Nobody is born perfect. As humans, we are destined to make mistakes – there is no big deal in it. But what matters is, kicking yourself over your mistakes and learning from them. We can’t learn to walk without falling, can we? But every time you fall, pick yourself up, dust off your butt, and give it another try – that’s what successful people do!

As Zig Ziglar put it, “Failure is an event, not a person.”  There is nothing wrong with you. If you have failed, it’s just an indication that your approach was wrong and you can do better in the future. If you are afraid of failing, you won’t ever get the positive inspiration and drive your need to succeed in life.

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Let’s have a look at some of the many reasons why failure is a good thing:

1. You Will Analyze Your True Potential

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    You will never know what you are really capable of unless you fail. When you fail to achieve your goals, you will put in more efforts to get what you want. And this will make you observe what you can really do and how you can unleash your true potential. Your failed attempts help you pinpoint your mistakes. You just have to take the right approach to make the most of your failures, observe your mistakes, and do your best to avoid them in future. That’s what winners do!

    2. You Will Learn to Find Alternatives

    Failures give you an opportunity to realize alternative ways to acquire your goals. We just need the right vision and positive mindset. Failures are there to tell you that you have been following the wrong path and your strategy was flawed. Learning from failures is probably the best way to broaden your perspective. We learn to view things from a positive and better perspective. Making mistakes is not bad, but repeating the same mistakes is. And if you have learned to take failures as opportunities, you will never repeat your mistakes.

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    3. You Will Get Another Chance To Succeed

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      People who give up after failing don’t succeed in life. It’s just another chance after all, and you should consider yourself lucky to get it — nature does not give everyone second chances. Your failures can guide you in the best way about the right approach you should follow to get what you want. Plus, once you fail, you know what mistakes to avoid, and that’s an added advantage.

      4. You Will Learn And Grow

      We can’t learn and grow without mistakes — we are humans after all, not robots. A bird learns to fly after falling a million times — but it never gives up. And that’s the right approach we all should follow. Failing once does not mean you will fail every time. It’s the best way to explore your abilities and learn to make the most of viable opportunities.

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      5. You Will Learn Who Your “Real Friends” Are

        Our failures tell us who our real friends are when we are disappointed and need to be comforted. Only your real friends will motivate you and make you feel better. Most of the times we don’t analyze that people who we consider our friends are not really sincere to us. But if someone motivates you and helps you in your time of need, he can be counted on.

        6. You Will Stay Away From Arrogance

        Success often makes people proud and arrogant. But failures know how it feels when your efforts end in vain and you don’t succeed. They know how criticism and negative feedback from people can demoralize you. Failures teach you to be humble even after getting all the success in the world.

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        7. You Will Uncover Your Passions

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          To be successful, you need to know what your passions are. And failures can help you analyze your capabilities and interests. Every person has his/her own strengths and weaknesses and failures can help you understand who you really are and what you want to do in life!

          8. You Will Find The Right Direction!

          You need something to push you and motivate you to give your best show, and failures can really do it. The key is to learn from your mistakes. There is nothing to feel embarrassed about failures. Everyone fails, it’s a part of growing and learning. But those who fail can explore and learn more than others. All great inventions are a result of a series of failed attempts. Einstein did not arrive at the theory of relativity in the first go.

          History is full of remarkable stories of successful people who failed but never gave up! Never let your failures bring you down, use them as keys to success. There’s always something you can learn from your and others mistakes. Don’t waste the most important time of your life crying about your failures. You just need to learn to recover quickly from your failures and try again. Hope the above mentioned reasons gave you a good ground to believe that failures are an integral part of success. The next time you fail, take it as an opportunity to learn and grow.

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          Good luck!

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          How to Overcome the Fear of Public Speaking (A Step-by-Step Guide)

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          How to Overcome the Fear of Public Speaking (A Step-by-Step Guide)

          You’re standing behind the curtain, just about to make your way on stage to face the many faces half-shrouded in darkness in front of you. As you move towards the spotlight, your body starts to feel heavier with each step. A familiar thump echoes throughout your body – your heartbeat has gone off the charts.

          Don’t worry, you’re not the only one with glossophobia(also known as speech anxiety or the fear of speaking to large crowds). Sometimes, the anxiety happens long before you even stand on stage.

          Your body’s defence mechanism responds by causing a part of your brain to release adrenaline into your blood – the same chemical that gets released as if you were being chased by a lion.

          Here’s a step-by-step guide to help you overcome your fear of public speaking:

          1. Prepare yourself mentally and physically

          According to experts, we’re built to display anxiety and to recognize it in others. If your body and mind are anxious, your audience will notice. Hence, it’s important to prepare yourself before the big show so that you arrive on stage confident, collected and ready.

          “Your outside world is a reflection of your inside world. What goes on in the inside, shows on the outside.” – Bob Proctor

          Exercising lightly before a presentation helps get your blood circulating and sends oxygen to the brain. Mental exercises, on the other hand, can help calm the mind and nerves. Here are some useful ways to calm your racing heart when you start to feel the butterflies in your stomach:

          Warming up

          If you’re nervous, chances are your body will feel the same way. Your body gets tense, your muscles feel tight or you’re breaking in cold sweat. The audience will notice you are nervous.

          If you observe that this is exactly what is happening to you minutes before a speech, do a couple of stretches to loosen and relax your body. It’s better to warm up before every speech as it helps to increase the functional potential of the body as a whole. Not only that, it increases muscle efficiency, improves reaction time and your movements.

          Here are some exercises to loosen up your body before show time:

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          1. Neck and shoulder rolls – This helps relieve upper body muscle tension and pressure as the rolls focus on rotating the head and shoulders, loosening the muscle. Stress and anxiety can make us rigid within this area which can make you feel agitated, especially when standing.
          2. Arm stretches – We often use this part of our muscles during a speech or presentation through our hand gestures and movements. Stretching these muscles can reduce arm fatigue, loosen you up and improve your body language range.
          3. Waist twists – Place your hands on your hips and rotate your waist in a circular motion. This exercise focuses on loosening the abdominal and lower back regions which is essential as it can cause discomfort and pain, further amplifying any anxieties you may experience.

          Stay hydrated

          Ever felt parched seconds before speaking? And then coming up on stage sounding raspy and scratchy in front of the audience? This happens because the adrenaline from stage fright causes your mouth to feel dried out.

          To prevent all that, it’s essential we stay adequately hydrated before a speech. A sip of water will do the trick. However, do drink in moderation so that you won’t need to go to the bathroom constantly.

          Try to avoid sugary beverages and caffeine, since it’s a diuretic – meaning you’ll feel thirstier. It will also amplify your anxiety which prevents you from speaking smoothly.

          Meditate

          Meditation is well-known as a powerful tool to calm the mind. ABC’s Dan Harris, co-anchor of Nightline and Good Morning America weekend and author of the book titled10% Happier , recommends that meditation can help individuals to feel significantly calmer, faster.

          Meditation is like a workout for your mind. It gives you the strength and focus to filter out the negativity and distractions with words of encouragement, confidence and strength.

          Mindfulness meditation, in particular, is a popular method to calm yourself before going up on the big stage. The practice involves sitting comfortably, focusing on your breathing and then bringing your mind’s attention to the present without drifting into concerns about the past or future – which likely includes floundering on stage.

          Here’s a nice example of guided meditation before public speaking:

          2. Focus on your goal

          One thing people with a fear of public speaking have in common is focusing too much on themselves and the possibility of failure.

          Do I look funny? What if I can’t remember what to say? Do I look stupid? Will people listen to me? Does anyone care about what I’m talking about?’

          Instead of thinking this way, shift your attention to your one true purpose – contributing something of value to your audience.

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          Decide on the progress you’d like your audience to make after your presentation. Notice their movements and expressions to adapt your speech to ensure that they are having a good time to leave the room as better people.

          If your own focus isn’t beneficial and what it should be when you’re speaking, then shift it to what does. This is also key to establishing trust during your presentation as the audience can clearly see that you have their interests at heart.[1]

          3. Convert negativity to positivity

          There are two sides constantly battling inside of us – one is filled with strength and courage while the other is doubt and insecurities. Which one will you feed?

          ‘What if I mess up this speech? What if I’m not funny enough? What if I forget what to say?’

          It’s no wonder why many of us are uncomfortable giving a presentation. All we do is bring ourselves down before we got a chance to prove ourselves. This is also known as a self-fulfilling prophecy – a belief that comes true because we are acting as if it already is. If you think you’re incompetent, then it will eventually become true.

          Motivational coaches tout that positive mantras and affirmations tend to boost your confidents for the moments that matter most. Say to yourself: “I’ll ace this speech and I can do it!”

          Take advantage of your adrenaline rush to encourage positive outcome rather than thinking of the negative ‘what ifs’.

          Here’s a video of Psychologist Kelly McGonigal who encourages her audience to turn stress into something positive as well as provide methods on how to cope with it:

          4. Understand your content

          Knowing your content at your fingertips helps reduce your anxiety because there is one less thing to worry about. One way to get there is to practice numerous times before your actual speech.

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          However, memorizing your script word-for-word is not encouraged. You can end up freezing should you forget something. You’ll also risk sounding unnatural and less approachable.

          “No amount of reading or memorizing will make you successful in life. It is the understanding and the application of wise thought that counts.” – Bob Proctor

          Many people unconsciously make the mistake of reading from their slides or memorizing their script word-for-word without understanding their content – a definite way to stress themselves out.

          Understanding your speech flow and content makes it easier for you to convert ideas and concepts into your own words which you can then clearly explain to others in a conversational manner. Designing your slides to include text prompts is also an easy hack to ensure you get to quickly recall your flow when your mind goes blank.[2]

          One way to understand is to memorize the over-arching concepts or ideas in your pitch. It helps you speak more naturally and let your personality shine through. It’s almost like taking your audience on a journey with a few key milestones.

          5. Practice makes perfect

          Like most people, many of us are not naturally attuned to public speaking. Rarely do individuals walk up to a large audience and present flawlessly without any research and preparation.

          In fact, some of the top presenters make it look easy during showtime because they have spent countless hours behind-the-scenes in deep practice. Even great speakers like the late John F. Kennedy would spend months preparing his speech beforehand.

          Public speaking, like any other skill, requires practice – whether it be practicing your speech countless of times in front of a mirror or making notes. As the saying goes, practice makes perfect!

          6. Be authentic

          There’s nothing wrong with feeling stressed before going up to speak in front of an audience.

          Many people fear public speaking because they fear others will judge them for showing their true, vulnerable self. However, vulnerability can sometimes help you come across as more authentic and relatable as a speaker.

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          Drop the pretence of trying to act or speak like someone else and you’ll find that it’s worth the risk. You become more genuine, flexible and spontaneous, which makes it easier to handle unpredictable situations – whether it’s getting tough questions from the crowd or experiencing an unexpected technical difficulty.

          To find out your authentic style of speaking is easy. Just pick a topic or issue you are passionate about and discuss this like you normally would with a close family or friend. It is like having a conversation with someone in a personal one-to-one setting. A great way to do this on stage is to select a random audience member(with a hopefully calming face) and speak to a single person at a time during your speech. You’ll find that it’s easier trying to connect to one person at a time than a whole room.

          With that said, being comfortable enough to be yourself in front of others may take a little time and some experience, depending how comfortable you are with being yourself in front of others. But once you embrace it, stage fright will not be as intimidating as you initially thought.

          Presenters like Barack Obama are a prime example of a genuine and passionate speaker:

          7. Post speech evaluation

          Last but not the least, if you’ve done public speaking and have been scarred from a bad experience, try seeing it as a lesson learned to improve yourself as a speaker.

          Don’t beat yourself up after a presentation

          We are the hardest on ourselves and it’s good to be. But when you finish delivering your speech or presentation, give yourself some recognition and a pat on the back.

          You managed to finish whatever you had to do and did not give up. You did not let your fears and insecurities get to you. Take a little more pride in your work and believe in yourself.

          Improve your next speech

          As mentioned before, practice does make perfect. If you want to improve your public speaking skills, try asking someone to film you during a speech or presentation. Afterwards, watch and observe what you can do to improve yourself next time.

          Here are some questions you can ask yourself after every speech:

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          • How did I do?
          • Are there any areas for improvement?
          • Did I sound or look stressed?
          • Did I stumble on my words? Why?
          • Was I saying “um” too often?
          • How was the flow of the speech?

          Write everything you observed down and keep practicing and improving. In time, you’ll be able to better manage your fears of public speaking and appear more confident when it counts.

          If you want even more tips about public speaking or delivering a great presentation, check out these articles too:

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