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8 Reasons Why You Should Fail As Much As You Can

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8 Reasons Why You Should Fail As Much As You Can

What’s the first thing that crosses your mind when you hear the word “failure”? A long list of negative adjectives? That’s because the society we live in views failures with such a negative perspective that suggesting it as a good thing seems strange. We curse ourselves for our failures and whine over our mistakes, but how many times we think of failures as opportunities to learn?

Nobody is born perfect. As humans, we are destined to make mistakes – there is no big deal in it. But what matters is, kicking yourself over your mistakes and learning from them. We can’t learn to walk without falling, can we? But every time you fall, pick yourself up, dust off your butt, and give it another try – that’s what successful people do!

As Zig Ziglar put it, “Failure is an event, not a person.”  There is nothing wrong with you. If you have failed, it’s just an indication that your approach was wrong and you can do better in the future. If you are afraid of failing, you won’t ever get the positive inspiration and drive your need to succeed in life.

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Let’s have a look at some of the many reasons why failure is a good thing:

1. You Will Analyze Your True Potential

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    You will never know what you are really capable of unless you fail. When you fail to achieve your goals, you will put in more efforts to get what you want. And this will make you observe what you can really do and how you can unleash your true potential. Your failed attempts help you pinpoint your mistakes. You just have to take the right approach to make the most of your failures, observe your mistakes, and do your best to avoid them in future. That’s what winners do!

    2. You Will Learn to Find Alternatives

    Failures give you an opportunity to realize alternative ways to acquire your goals. We just need the right vision and positive mindset. Failures are there to tell you that you have been following the wrong path and your strategy was flawed. Learning from failures is probably the best way to broaden your perspective. We learn to view things from a positive and better perspective. Making mistakes is not bad, but repeating the same mistakes is. And if you have learned to take failures as opportunities, you will never repeat your mistakes.

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    3. You Will Get Another Chance To Succeed

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      People who give up after failing don’t succeed in life. It’s just another chance after all, and you should consider yourself lucky to get it — nature does not give everyone second chances. Your failures can guide you in the best way about the right approach you should follow to get what you want. Plus, once you fail, you know what mistakes to avoid, and that’s an added advantage.

      4. You Will Learn And Grow

      We can’t learn and grow without mistakes — we are humans after all, not robots. A bird learns to fly after falling a million times — but it never gives up. And that’s the right approach we all should follow. Failing once does not mean you will fail every time. It’s the best way to explore your abilities and learn to make the most of viable opportunities.

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      5. You Will Learn Who Your “Real Friends” Are

        Our failures tell us who our real friends are when we are disappointed and need to be comforted. Only your real friends will motivate you and make you feel better. Most of the times we don’t analyze that people who we consider our friends are not really sincere to us. But if someone motivates you and helps you in your time of need, he can be counted on.

        6. You Will Stay Away From Arrogance

        Success often makes people proud and arrogant. But failures know how it feels when your efforts end in vain and you don’t succeed. They know how criticism and negative feedback from people can demoralize you. Failures teach you to be humble even after getting all the success in the world.

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        7. You Will Uncover Your Passions

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          To be successful, you need to know what your passions are. And failures can help you analyze your capabilities and interests. Every person has his/her own strengths and weaknesses and failures can help you understand who you really are and what you want to do in life!

          8. You Will Find The Right Direction!

          You need something to push you and motivate you to give your best show, and failures can really do it. The key is to learn from your mistakes. There is nothing to feel embarrassed about failures. Everyone fails, it’s a part of growing and learning. But those who fail can explore and learn more than others. All great inventions are a result of a series of failed attempts. Einstein did not arrive at the theory of relativity in the first go.

          History is full of remarkable stories of successful people who failed but never gave up! Never let your failures bring you down, use them as keys to success. There’s always something you can learn from your and others mistakes. Don’t waste the most important time of your life crying about your failures. You just need to learn to recover quickly from your failures and try again. Hope the above mentioned reasons gave you a good ground to believe that failures are an integral part of success. The next time you fail, take it as an opportunity to learn and grow.

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          Good luck!

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          10 Proven Ways to Judge a Person’s Character

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          10 Proven Ways to Judge a Person’s Character

          We all fall into the trap of judging a person’s character by their appearance. How wrong we are! All too often, the real character of the person only appears when some negative event hits them or you. Then you may see a toxic person emerging from the ruins and it is often a shock.

          A truly frightening example is revealed in the book by O’Toole in Bowman called Dangerous Instincts: How Gut Instincts Betray Us. A perfectly respectable, charming, well dressed neighbor was found to have installed a torture chamber in his garage where he was systematically abusing kidnapped women. This is an extreme example, but it does show how we can be totally deceived by a person’s physical appearance, manners and behavior.

          So, what can you do? You want to be able to assess personal qualities when you come into contact with colleagues, fresh acquaintances and new friends who might even become lifelong partners. You want to know if they are:

          • honest
          • reliable
          • competent
          • kind and compassionate
          • capable of taking the blame
          • able to persevere
          • modest and humble
          • pacific and can control anger.

          The secret is to reserve judgment and take your time. Observe them in certain situations; look at how they react. Listen to them talking, joking, laughing, explaining, complaining, blaming, praising, ranting, and preaching. Only then will you be able to judge their character. This is not foolproof, but if you follow the 10 ways below, you have a pretty good chance of not ending up in an abusive relationship.

          1. Is anger a frequent occurrence?

          All too often, angry reactions which may seem to be excessive are a sign that there are underlying issues. Do not think that every person who just snaps and throws his/her weight around mentally and physically is just reacting normally. Everyone has an occasional angry outburst when driving or when things go pear-shaped.

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          But if this is almost a daily occurrence, then you need to discover why and maybe avoid that person. Too often, anger will escalate to violent and aggressive behavior. You do not want to be near someone who thinks violence can solve personal or global problems.

          2. Can you witness acts of kindness?

          How often do you see this person being kind and considerate? Do they give money to beggars, donate to charity, do voluntary work or in some simple way show that they are willing to share the planet with about 7 billion other people?

          I was shocked when a guest of mine never showed any kindness to the weak and disadvantaged people in our town. She was ostensibly a religious person, but I began to doubt the sincerity of her beliefs.

          “The best index to a person’s character is how he treats people who can’t do him any good, and how he treats people who can’t fight back.”

          Abigail Van Buren

          3. How does this person take the blame?

          Maybe you know that s/he is responsible for a screw-up in the office or even in not turning up on time for a date. Look at their reaction. If they start blaming other colleagues or the traffic, well, this is an indication that they are not willing to take responsibility for their mistakes.

          4. Don’t use Facebook as an indicator.

          You will be relieved to know that graphology (the study of that forgotten skill of handwriting) is no longer considered a reliable test of a person’s character. Neither is Facebook stalking, fortunately. A study showed that Facebook use of foul language, sexual innuendo and gossip were not reliable indicators of a candidate’s character or future performance in the workplace.

          5. Read their emails.

          Now a much better idea is to read the person’s emails. Studies show that the use of the following can indicate certain personality traits:

          • Too many exclamation points may reveal a sunny disposition
          • Frequent errors may indicate apathy
          • Use of smileys is the only way a person can smile at you
          • Use of the third person may reveal a certain formality
          • Too many question marks can show anger
          • Overuse of capital letters is regarded as shouting. They are a definite no-no in netiquette, yet a surprising number of  people still use them.

          6. Watch out for the show offs.

          Listen to people as they talk. How often do they mention their achievements, promotions, awards and successes? If this happens a lot, it is a sure indication that this person has an over-inflated view of his/her achievements. They are unlikely to be modest or show humility. What a pity!  Another person to avoid.

          7. Look for evidence of perseverance.

          A powerful indicator of grit and tenacity is when a person persists and never gives up when they really want to achieve a life goal. Look for evidence of them keeping going in spite of enormous difficulties.

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          Great achievements by scientists and inventors all bear the hallmark of perseverance. We only have to think of Einstein, Edison (who failed thousands of times) and Nelson Mandela to get inspiration. The US Department of Education is in no doubt about how grit, tenacity and perseverance will be key success factors for youth in the 21st century.

          8. Their empathy score is high.

          Listen to how they talk about the less fortunate members of our society such as the poor, immigrants and the disabled. Do you notice that they talk in a compassionate way about these people? The fact that they even mention them is a strong indicator of empathy.

          People with zero empathy will never talk about the disadvantaged. They will rarely ask you a question about a difficult time or relationship. They will usually steer the conversation back to themselves. These people have zero empathy and in extreme cases, they are psychopaths who never show any feelings towards their victims.

          9. Learn how to be socially interactive.

          We are social animals and this is what makes us so uniquely human. If a person is isolated or a loner, this may be a negative indicator of their character. You want to meet a person who knows about trust, honesty and loyalty. The only way to practice these great qualities is to actually interact socially. The great advantage is that you can share problems and celebrate success and joy together.

          “One can acquire everything in solitude, except character.”

          Stendhal

           10. Avoid toxic people.

          These people are trying to control others and often are failing to come to terms with their own failures. Typical behavior and conversations may concern:

          • Envy or jealousy
          • Criticism of partners, colleagues and friends
          • Complaining about their own lack of success
          • Blaming others for their own bad luck or failure
          • Obsession with themselves and their problems

          Listen to these people talk and you will quickly discover that you need to avoid them at all costs because their negativity will drag you down. In addition, as much as you would like to help them, you are not qualified to do so.

          Now, having looked at some of the best ways to judge a person, what about yourself? How do others see you? Why not take Dr. Phil’s quiz and find out. Can you bear it?

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