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8 Reasons Why You Should Fail As Much As You Can

8 Reasons Why You Should Fail As Much As You Can

What’s the first thing that crosses your mind when you hear the word “failure”? A long list of negative adjectives? That’s because the society we live in views failures with such a negative perspective that suggesting it as a good thing seems strange. We curse ourselves for our failures and whine over our mistakes, but how many times we think of failures as opportunities to learn?

Nobody is born perfect. As humans, we are destined to make mistakes – there is no big deal in it. But what matters is, kicking yourself over your mistakes and learning from them. We can’t learn to walk without falling, can we? But every time you fall, pick yourself up, dust off your butt, and give it another try – that’s what successful people do!

As Zig Ziglar put it, “Failure is an event, not a person.”  There is nothing wrong with you. If you have failed, it’s just an indication that your approach was wrong and you can do better in the future. If you are afraid of failing, you won’t ever get the positive inspiration and drive your need to succeed in life.

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Let’s have a look at some of the many reasons why failure is a good thing:

1. You Will Analyze Your True Potential

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    You will never know what you are really capable of unless you fail. When you fail to achieve your goals, you will put in more efforts to get what you want. And this will make you observe what you can really do and how you can unleash your true potential. Your failed attempts help you pinpoint your mistakes. You just have to take the right approach to make the most of your failures, observe your mistakes, and do your best to avoid them in future. That’s what winners do!

    2. You Will Learn to Find Alternatives

    Failures give you an opportunity to realize alternative ways to acquire your goals. We just need the right vision and positive mindset. Failures are there to tell you that you have been following the wrong path and your strategy was flawed. Learning from failures is probably the best way to broaden your perspective. We learn to view things from a positive and better perspective. Making mistakes is not bad, but repeating the same mistakes is. And if you have learned to take failures as opportunities, you will never repeat your mistakes.

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    3. You Will Get Another Chance To Succeed

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      People who give up after failing don’t succeed in life. It’s just another chance after all, and you should consider yourself lucky to get it — nature does not give everyone second chances. Your failures can guide you in the best way about the right approach you should follow to get what you want. Plus, once you fail, you know what mistakes to avoid, and that’s an added advantage.

      4. You Will Learn And Grow

      We can’t learn and grow without mistakes — we are humans after all, not robots. A bird learns to fly after falling a million times — but it never gives up. And that’s the right approach we all should follow. Failing once does not mean you will fail every time. It’s the best way to explore your abilities and learn to make the most of viable opportunities.

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      5. You Will Learn Who Your “Real Friends” Are

        Our failures tell us who our real friends are when we are disappointed and need to be comforted. Only your real friends will motivate you and make you feel better. Most of the times we don’t analyze that people who we consider our friends are not really sincere to us. But if someone motivates you and helps you in your time of need, he can be counted on.

        6. You Will Stay Away From Arrogance

        Success often makes people proud and arrogant. But failures know how it feels when your efforts end in vain and you don’t succeed. They know how criticism and negative feedback from people can demoralize you. Failures teach you to be humble even after getting all the success in the world.

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        7. You Will Uncover Your Passions

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          To be successful, you need to know what your passions are. And failures can help you analyze your capabilities and interests. Every person has his/her own strengths and weaknesses and failures can help you understand who you really are and what you want to do in life!

          8. You Will Find The Right Direction!

          You need something to push you and motivate you to give your best show, and failures can really do it. The key is to learn from your mistakes. There is nothing to feel embarrassed about failures. Everyone fails, it’s a part of growing and learning. But those who fail can explore and learn more than others. All great inventions are a result of a series of failed attempts. Einstein did not arrive at the theory of relativity in the first go.

          History is full of remarkable stories of successful people who failed but never gave up! Never let your failures bring you down, use them as keys to success. There’s always something you can learn from your and others mistakes. Don’t waste the most important time of your life crying about your failures. You just need to learn to recover quickly from your failures and try again. Hope the above mentioned reasons gave you a good ground to believe that failures are an integral part of success. The next time you fail, take it as an opportunity to learn and grow.

          Good luck!

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          7 Ways To Have More Confident Body Language

          7 Ways To Have More Confident Body Language

          The popular idiomatic saying that “actions speak louder than words” has been around for centuries, but even to this day, most people struggle with at least one area of nonverbal communication. Consequently, many of us aspire to have more confident body language but don’t have the knowledge and tools necessary to change what are largely unconscious behaviors.

          Given that others’ perceptions of our competence and confidence are predominantly influenced by what we do with our faces and bodies, it’s important to develop greater self-awareness and consciously practice better posture, stance, eye contact, facial expressions, hand movements, and other aspects of body language.

          Posture

          First things first: how is your posture? Let’s start with a quick self-assessment of your body.

          • Are your shoulders slumped over or rolled back in an upright posture?
          • When you stand up, do you evenly distribute your weight or lean excessively to one side?
          • Does your natural stance place your feet relatively shoulder-width apart or are your feet and legs close together in a closed-off position?
          • When you sit, does your lower back protrude out in a slumped position or maintain a straight, spine-friendly posture in your seat?

          All of these are important considerations to make when evaluating and improving your posture and stance, which will lead to more confident body language over time. If you routinely struggle with maintaining good posture, consider buying a posture trainer/corrector, consulting a chiropractor or physical therapist, stretching daily, and strengthening both your core and back muscles.

          Facial Expressions

          Are you prone to any of the following in personal or professional settings?

          • Bruxism (tight, clenched jaw or grinding teeth)
          • Frowning and/or furrowing brows
          • Avoiding direct eye contact and/or staring at the ground

          If you answered “yes” to any of these, then let’s start by examining various ways in which you can project confident body language through your facial expressions.

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          1. Understand How Others Perceive Your Facial Expressions

          A December 2020 study by UC Berkeley and Google researchers utilized a deep neural network to analyze facial expressions in six million YouTube clips representing people from over 140 countries. The study found that, despite socio-cultural differences, people around the world tended to use about 70% of the same facial expressions in response to different emotional stimuli and situations.[1]

          The study’s researchers also published a fascinating interactive map to demonstrate how their machine learning technology assessed various facial expressions and determined subtle differences in emotional responses.

          This study highlights the social importance of facial expressions because whether or not we’re consciously aware of them—by gazing into a mirror or your screen on a video conferencing platform—how we present our faces to others can have tremendous impacts on their perceptions of us, our confidence, and our emotional states. This awareness is the essential first step towards

          2. Relax Your Face

          New research on bruxism and facial tension found the stresses and anxieties of Covid-19 lockdowns led to considerable increases in orofacial pain, jaw-clenching, and teeth grinding, particularly among women.[2]

          The National Institute of Dental and Craniofacial Research estimates that more than 10 million Americans alone have temporomandibular joint dysfunction (TMJ syndrome), and facial tension can lead to other complications such as insomnia, wrinkles, dry skin, and dark, puffy bags under your eyes.[3])

          To avoid these unpleasant outcomes, start practicing progressive muscle relaxation techniques and taking breaks more frequently throughout the day to moderate facial tension.[4] You should also try out some biofeedback techniques to enhance your awareness of involuntary bodily processes like facial tension and achieve more confident body language as a result.[5]

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          3. Improve Your Eye Contact

          Did you know there’s an entire subfield of kinesic communication research dedicated to eye movements and behaviors called oculesics?[6] It refers to various communication behaviors including direct eye contact, averting one’s gaze, pupil dilation/constriction, and even frequency of blinking. All of these qualities can shape how other people perceive you, which means that eye contact is yet another area of nonverbal body language that we should be more mindful of in social interactions.

          The ideal type (direct/indirect) and duration of eye contact depends on a variety of factors, such as cultural setting, differences in power/authority/age between the parties involved, and communication context. Research has shown that differences in the effects of eye contact are particularly prominent when comparing East Asian and Western European/North American cultures.[7]

          To improve your eye contact with others, strive to maintain consistent contact for at least 3 to 4 seconds at a time, consciously consider where you’re looking while listening to someone else, and practice eye contact as much as possible (as strange as this may seem in the beginning, it’s the best way to improve).

          3. Smile More

          There are many benefits to smiling and laughing, and when it comes to working on more confident body language, this is an area that should be fun, low-stakes, and relatively stress-free.

          Smiling is associated with the “happiness chemical” dopamine and the mood-stabilizing hormone, serotonin. Many empirical studies have shown that smiling generally leads to positive outcomes for the person smiling, and further research has shown that smiling can influence listeners’ perceptions of our confidence and trustworthiness as well.

          4. Hand Gestures

          Similar to facial expressions and posture, what you do with your hands while speaking or listening in a conversation can significantly influence others’ perceptions of you in positive or negative ways.

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          It’s undoubtedly challenging to consciously account for all of your nonverbal signals while simultaneously trying to stay engaged with the verbal part of the discussion, but putting in the effort to develop more bodily awareness now will make it much easier to unconsciously project more confident body language later on.

          5. Enhance Your Handshake

          In the article, “An Anthropology of the Handshake,” University of Copenhagen social anthropology professor Bjarke Oxlund assessed the future of handshaking in wake of the Covid-19 pandemic:[8]

          “Handshakes not only vary in function and meaning but do so according to social context, situation and scale. . . a public discussion should ensue on the advantages and disadvantages of holding on to the tradition of shaking hands as the conventional gesture of greeting and leave-taking in a variety of circumstances.”

          It’s too early to determine some of the ways in which Covid-19 has permanently changed our social norms and professional etiquette standards, but it’s reasonable to assume that handshaking may retain its importance in American society even after this pandemic. To practice more confident body language in the meantime, the video on the science of the perfect handshake below explains what you need to know.

          6. Complement Your Verbals With Hand Gestures

          As you know by now, confident communication involves so much more than simply smiling more or sounding like you know what you’re talking about. What you do with your hands can be particularly influential in how others perceive you, whether you’re fidgeting with an object, clenching your fists, hiding your hands in your pockets, or calmly gesturing to emphasize important points you’re discussing.

          Social psychology researchers have found that “iconic gestures”—hand movements that appear to be meaningfully related to the speaker’s verbal content—can have profound impacts on listeners’ information retention. In other words, people are more likely to engage with you and remember more of what you said when you speak with complementary hand gestures instead of just your voice.[9]

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          Further research on hand gestures has shown that even your choice of the left or right hand for gesturing can influence your ability to clearly convey information to listeners, which supports the notion that more confident body language is readily achievable through greater self-awareness and deliberate nonverbal actions.[10]

          Final Takeaways

          Developing better posture, enhancing your facial expressiveness, and practicing hand gestures can vastly improve your communication with other people. At first, it will be challenging to consciously practice nonverbal behaviors that many of us are accustomed to performing daily without thinking about them.

          If you ever feel discouraged, however, remember that there’s no downside to consistently putting in just a little more time and effort to increase your bodily awareness. With the tips and strategies above, you’ll be well on your way to embracing more confident body language and amplifying others’ perceptions of you in no time.

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