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7 Simple Ways to Attract People to You

7 Simple Ways to Attract People to You

We have within us the power to be like the magnet whose pull is irresistible.

“The Law of Attraction is this: You don’t attract what you want. You attract WHAT YOU ARE.” -Dr. Wayne Dyer

1. Love yourself

Be honest with yourself first. If you are pretending to be someone else, your relationships will only last so long because that is not the true image of who you really are. Force yourself to think about what you like about yourself. Nobody is perfect and we all make mistakes, but when you focus on your positives, you will begin to appreciate yourself more. Positivity brings a desire to be your best–to eat right, to exercise, to look good. As you begin to be at ease with your true self, you will become more accepting of your flaws.

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You will be like a child who loves herself unconditionally. Only then will you be able to love others the same way. And, in return, you will attract people into your life who will love you just the way you are. What you give out is what you will receive.

2. Accomplish with discipline

You will value yourself more if you have a purpose to live for. Define your ultimate goal in life. Break it into realistic interim goals. To accomplish them you have to discipline your mind. You have to first believe in yourself. Do not run away from the challenges that will come your way in the form of distractions or self-limiting assumptions, but face them courageously. Stay positive.

Look at each goal as the bullseye that you have to aim at with a one-point focus. If you miss, your strategy needs perfecting. Get up again and with double the passion, aim from a better angle–and win!

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Your self respect and confidence will increase with every struggle that you overcome, every win you achieve. You will always be a crowd puller where positive people will come to you for inspiration.

3. Be down to earth

Do not brag or show others down because you gain success. Whatever you have done is for your own self esteem. Arrogance makes you complacent. Be grounded with the knowledge that there is another level of goal to accomplish.

Being down to earth also makes you open yourself to listening to the points of view of other people. They may know something that you don’t. This creates mutual respect, which strengthens bonds.

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4. Exude warmth

Stand strong for your family and friends emotionally, financially or just by doing small things to help them in any way. Be sensitive to their feelings. Understand where they are coming from. When you are at peace within yourself, it is easier to let go of any bitterness that you may have carried in the past. This forms a deep emotional connection and gives a powerful sense of security. The warmth of love and happiness that you will now share will never make you lonely in life.

5. Live with zest

There is a time and place for all things in life. Show enthusiasm in the latest technology, what’s in fashion, how things function, learning a new skill. Go out dancing, or participate in any fun activity that you prefer. Once in a while go on an adventure trip. Explore new places. This will not only broaden your horizons but also you will attract other vibrant and happy people who have great zest for life.

6. Have a good sense of humor

Humor is contagious. So whether you are witty, sharing jokes or just laughing you will always be surrounded by people. And laughing together can form intimate, happy relationships that last.

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7. Be selfless

In the broader sense, when your vision expands from focus on you and yours to contributing selflessly to benefit others, you will always have supportive followers.

It’s the goodness of your heart and inner strength of your unique personality that draws people to you and makes them stay.

Featured photo credit: two young friends holding a skateboard and sending a kisses . Summer style pictures. via shutterstock.com

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Last Updated on November 15, 2018

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

What do you think it takes to achieve your goals? Hard work? Lots of actions? While these are paramount to becoming successful in reaching our goals, neither of these are possible without a positive mindset.

As humans, we naturally tend to lean towards a negative outlook when it comes to our hopes and dreams. We are prone to believing that we have limitations either from within ourselves or from external forces keeping us from truly getting to where we want to be in life. Our tendency to think that we’ll “believe it when we see it” suggests that our mindsets are focused on our goals not really being attainable until they’ve been achieved. The problem with this is that this common mindset fuels our limiting beliefs and shows a lack of faith in ourselves.

The Success Mindset

Success in achieving our goals comes down to a ‘success mindset’. Successful mindsets are those focused on victory, based on positive mental attitudes, empowering inclinations and good habits. Acquiring a success mindset is the sure-fire way to dramatically increase your chance to achieve your goals.

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The idea that achieving our goals comes down to our habits and actions is actually a typical type of mindset that misses a crucial point; that our mindset is, in fact, the determiner of our energy and what actions we take. A negative mindset will tend to create negative actions and similarly if we have a mindset that will only set into action once we see ‘proof’ that our goals are achievable, then the road will be much longer and arduous. This is why, instead of thinking “I’ll believe it when I see it”, a success mindset will think “I’ll see it when I believe it.”

The Placebo Effect and What It Shows Us About The Power of Mindset

The placebo effect is a perfect example of how mindset really can be powerful. In scientific trials, a group of participants were told they received medication that will heal an ailment but were actually given a sugar pill that does nothing (the placebo). Yet after the trial the participants believed it’s had a positive effect – sometimes even cured their ailment even though nothing has changed. This is the power of mindset.

How do we apply this to our goals? Well, when we set goals and dreams how often do we really believe they’ll come to fruition? Have absolute faith that they can be achieved? Have a complete unwavering expectation? Most of us don’t because we hold on to negative mindsets and limiting beliefs about ourselves that stop us from fully believing we are capable or that it’s at all possible. We tend to listen to the opinions of others despite them misaligning with our own or bow to societal pressures that make us believe we should think and act a certain way. There are many reasons why we possess these types of mindsets but a success mindset can be achieved.

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How To Create a Success Mindset

People with success mindsets have a particular way of perceiving things. They have positive outlooks and are able to put faith fully in their ability to succeed. With that in mind, here are a few ways that can turn a negative mindset into a successful one.

1. A Success Mindset Comes From a Growth Mindset

How does a mindset even manifest itself? It comes from the way you talk to yourself in the privacy of your own head. Realising this will go a long way towards noticing how you speak to yourself and others around you. If it’s mainly negative language you use when you talk about your goals and aspirations then this is an example of a fixed mindset.

A negative mindset brings with it a huge number of limiting beliefs. It creates a fixed mindset – one that can’t see beyond it’s own limitations. A growth mindset sees these limitations and looks beyond them – it finds ways to overcome obstacles and believes that this will result in success. When you think of your goal, a fixed mindset may think “what if I fail?” A growth mindset would look at the same goal and think “failures happen but that doesn’t mean I won’t be successful.”

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There’s a lot of power in changing your perspective.

2. Look For The Successes

It’s really important to get your mind focused on positive aspects of your goal. Finding inspiration through others can be really uplifting and keep you on track with developing your success mindset; reinforcing your belief that your dreams can be achieved. Find people that you can talk with about how they achieved their goals and seek out and surround yourself with positive people. This is crucial if you’re learning to develop a positive mindset.

3. Eliminate Negativity

You can come up against a lot of negativity sometimes either through other people or within yourself. Understanding that other people’s negative opinions are created through their own fears and limiting beliefs will go a long way in sustaining your success mindset. But for a lot of us, negative chatter can come from within and these usually manifest as negative words such as can’t, won’t, shouldn’t. Sometimes, when we think of how we’re going to achieve our goals, statements in our minds come out as negative absolutes: ‘It never works out for me’ or ‘I always fail.’

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When you notice these coming up you need to turn them around with ‘It always works out for me!’ and ‘I never fail!’ The trick is to believe it no matter what’s happened in the past. Remember that every new day is a clean slate and for you to adjust your mindset.

4. Create a Vision

Envisioning your end goal and seeing it in your mind is an important trait of a success mindset. Allowing ourselves to imagine our success creates a powerful excitement that shouldn’t be underestimated. When our brain becomes excited at the thought of achieving our goals, we become more committed, work harder towards achieving it and more likely to do whatever it takes to make it happen.

If this involves creating a vision board that you can look at to remind yourself every day then go for it. Small techniques like this go a long way in sustaining your success mindset and shouldn’t be dismissed.

An Inspirational Story…

For centuries experts said that running a mile in under 4 minutes was humanly impossible. On the 6th May 1954, Rodger Bannister did just that. As part of his training, Bannister relentlessly visualised the achievement, believing he could accomplish what everyone said wasn’t possible…and he did it.

What’s more amazing is that, as soon as Bannister achieved the 4-minute mile, more and more people also achieved it. How was this possible after so many years of no one achieving it? Because in people’s minds it was suddenly possible – once people knew that it was achievable it created a mindset of success and now, after over fifty years since Bannister did the ‘impossible’, his record has been lowered by 17 seconds – the power of the success mindset!

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