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7 Simple Ways to Attract People to You

7 Simple Ways to Attract People to You

We have within us the power to be like the magnet whose pull is irresistible.

“The Law of Attraction is this: You don’t attract what you want. You attract WHAT YOU ARE.” -Dr. Wayne Dyer

1. Love yourself

Be honest with yourself first. If you are pretending to be someone else, your relationships will only last so long because that is not the true image of who you really are. Force yourself to think about what you like about yourself. Nobody is perfect and we all make mistakes, but when you focus on your positives, you will begin to appreciate yourself more. Positivity brings a desire to be your best–to eat right, to exercise, to look good. As you begin to be at ease with your true self, you will become more accepting of your flaws.

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You will be like a child who loves herself unconditionally. Only then will you be able to love others the same way. And, in return, you will attract people into your life who will love you just the way you are. What you give out is what you will receive.

2. Accomplish with discipline

You will value yourself more if you have a purpose to live for. Define your ultimate goal in life. Break it into realistic interim goals. To accomplish them you have to discipline your mind. You have to first believe in yourself. Do not run away from the challenges that will come your way in the form of distractions or self-limiting assumptions, but face them courageously. Stay positive.

Look at each goal as the bullseye that you have to aim at with a one-point focus. If you miss, your strategy needs perfecting. Get up again and with double the passion, aim from a better angle–and win!

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Your self respect and confidence will increase with every struggle that you overcome, every win you achieve. You will always be a crowd puller where positive people will come to you for inspiration.

3. Be down to earth

Do not brag or show others down because you gain success. Whatever you have done is for your own self esteem. Arrogance makes you complacent. Be grounded with the knowledge that there is another level of goal to accomplish.

Being down to earth also makes you open yourself to listening to the points of view of other people. They may know something that you don’t. This creates mutual respect, which strengthens bonds.

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4. Exude warmth

Stand strong for your family and friends emotionally, financially or just by doing small things to help them in any way. Be sensitive to their feelings. Understand where they are coming from. When you are at peace within yourself, it is easier to let go of any bitterness that you may have carried in the past. This forms a deep emotional connection and gives a powerful sense of security. The warmth of love and happiness that you will now share will never make you lonely in life.

5. Live with zest

There is a time and place for all things in life. Show enthusiasm in the latest technology, what’s in fashion, how things function, learning a new skill. Go out dancing, or participate in any fun activity that you prefer. Once in a while go on an adventure trip. Explore new places. This will not only broaden your horizons but also you will attract other vibrant and happy people who have great zest for life.

6. Have a good sense of humor

Humor is contagious. So whether you are witty, sharing jokes or just laughing you will always be surrounded by people. And laughing together can form intimate, happy relationships that last.

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7. Be selfless

In the broader sense, when your vision expands from focus on you and yours to contributing selflessly to benefit others, you will always have supportive followers.

It’s the goodness of your heart and inner strength of your unique personality that draws people to you and makes them stay.

Featured photo credit: two young friends holding a skateboard and sending a kisses . Summer style pictures. via shutterstock.com

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Last Updated on February 19, 2020

15 Positive Thinking Books You Need for a Happy Life

15 Positive Thinking Books You Need for a Happy Life

Books give us the opportunity to live vicariously through the lives of people with greater wisdom than ourselves. They stimulate our brains and help us not only solve the problems we struggle with, but also motivate and inspire us with new ideas.

One of the great things about people who think positively and live happy lives is that they love to help others do the same. There are countless positive-thinking books and these 15 are a great way to help you start living a happy life.

1. Man’s Search For Meaning by Victor E. Frankl

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    This book goes through the horrific struggle of Viktor Frankl who survived holocaust concentration camps. The only thing that kept him going was his idea that everything, even the worst of human suffering, had to have meaning. If you’re struggling through anything in your life, I guarantee the words of Viktor will give you courage to press on and find happiness.

    2. Tuesdays with Morrie by Mitch Albom

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      What is life’s greatest lesson? Morrie, a retired professor with a fatal disease, opts to use his predicament to share that message as opposed to just giving up and dying. Following the last few months of Morrie’s life will help you realize what is truly important in life.

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      3. The Last Lecture by Randy Pausch

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        Similar to Tuesdays with Morrie, Randy is a college professor who finds he has a fatal disease with only a few months to live. It is customary for professors at his university (Carnegie Mellon) to give a final lecture with the basis of ‘what wisdom would you impart to a large group of people if it was your last chance?’ Randy stays incredibly positive throughout and even keeps the lecture humorous and entertaining. Amidst it all, his wisdom is a powerful reminder about how to live a happy, full life.

        4. Earning Freedom by Michael Santos

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          Michael Santos was sentenced to 45 years is prison for selling drugs. During his term he fought hard to earn a masters degree and half of a doctorate (halted by the warden) while writing numerous books educating students about the criminal justice system. This book provides a fascinating window into his entire sentence (released in 2012) and how a positive attitude and strong work ethic got him through it. If he found happiness in prison through positive thinking, we can do it anywhere.

          If you don’t have the attention span to finish a long book, the following quick reads are shorter but just as powerful.

          5. The Little Engine That Could by Watty Piper

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            This book has shaped childrens’ minds for years. It illustrates the undeniable fact that when you think positively and believe in yourself, you can accomplish extraordinary things.

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            6. The Giving Tree by Shel Silverstein

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              Happiness is found in giving. What does it mean to love someone? What would you sacrifice for someone you love? This children’s book teaches a valuable lesson about unconditional love and what it truly means to be happy.

              7. The Dash by Linda Ellis and Mac Anderson

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                “When your life is over, everything you did will be represented by a single dash between two dates—what will that dash mean for the people you have known and loved?” (Linda Ellis) We don’t choose a lot of things about our life – parents, birthplace, etc. – but we can choose what that dash between those two dates means. This short book will give you a great perspective on making your life worthwhile.

                8. As a Man Thinketh by James Allen

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                  “The outer conditions of a person’s life will always be found to be harmoniously related to his inner state… Men do not attract that which they want, but that which they are.” (James Allen) This book might be short, but it is jam-packed with statements that will make you stop and think. We truly become what we think we are. Negative thoughts affect us more than we know. Positive thinking = happy life.

                  9. A Million Miles in a Thousand Years by Donald  Miller

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                    You are the author of your story. No matter how boring or dull your life has been, you can always turn it around. Donald was in a rut in his life. He had no desire to get out of bed and found himself questioning the meaning of life. Eventually he realized he wasn’t a slave to a pre-written script. He used that mindset to turn around his thoughts, actions, and life. When the closing credits roll on the story of your life, what will people say? Never forget that you have the power to push your limits and live an interesting, happy life.

                    10. The Traveler’s Gift by Andy Andrews

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                      The Traveler’s Gift is a fictional story about a man who is overwhelmed with life and finds himself thrown into numerous true events from history – including Abraham Lincoln’s Gettysburg Address. He interacts and learns important life lessons from seven different experiences. The book is full of ways to think more positively and find more success in life.

                      11. David and Goliath by Malcolm Gladwell

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                        Malcolm Gladwell motivates you to challenge your preconceptions of underdogs and misfits in this thought-provoking book. When you break down the facts in the story of David and Goliath from the Bible, you find that David really wasn’t an underdog at all – he was the one with the advantage. This book outlines story after story after story of people who were at a disadvantage and learned to find the strength in their weakness.

                        12. How Will You Measure Your Life by Clayton M. Christensen

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                          How would you feel if you got to the end of your life only to realize you had been measuring success wrong? Clayton provides a mass amount of wisdom and advice on how to live a life you won’t regret.

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                          13. Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff by Richard Carlson

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                            The small things we worry about every day may not seem like a big deal, but they wear us down slowly and stop us from living up to our full potential. Learn how to get rid of those worries and negative thoughts and live a happier life.

                            14. Mere Christianity by C.S. Lewis

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                              C.S. Lewis, who used to be an Atheist, explains how he came to find meaning in life through Christianity. He breaks down all the reasons we doubt and falter in life and how living the principles of Christianity fixes our weaknesses. Lewis is famous for his deep, thought-provoking quotes and this book is no exception.

                              15. Bushido: The Way of the Samurai by Tsunetomo Yamamoto

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                                Bushido is based on the Hagakure, a document that served as the basis for samurai warrior behavior. The document’s purpose was to shape the mind and the spirit of the samurai warrior.

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