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7 Simple Ways to Attract People to You

7 Simple Ways to Attract People to You

We have within us the power to be like the magnet whose pull is irresistible.

“The Law of Attraction is this: You don’t attract what you want. You attract WHAT YOU ARE.” -Dr. Wayne Dyer

1. Love yourself

Be honest with yourself first. If you are pretending to be someone else, your relationships will only last so long because that is not the true image of who you really are. Force yourself to think about what you like about yourself. Nobody is perfect and we all make mistakes, but when you focus on your positives, you will begin to appreciate yourself more. Positivity brings a desire to be your best–to eat right, to exercise, to look good. As you begin to be at ease with your true self, you will become more accepting of your flaws.

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You will be like a child who loves herself unconditionally. Only then will you be able to love others the same way. And, in return, you will attract people into your life who will love you just the way you are. What you give out is what you will receive.

2. Accomplish with discipline

You will value yourself more if you have a purpose to live for. Define your ultimate goal in life. Break it into realistic interim goals. To accomplish them you have to discipline your mind. You have to first believe in yourself. Do not run away from the challenges that will come your way in the form of distractions or self-limiting assumptions, but face them courageously. Stay positive.

Look at each goal as the bullseye that you have to aim at with a one-point focus. If you miss, your strategy needs perfecting. Get up again and with double the passion, aim from a better angle–and win!

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Your self respect and confidence will increase with every struggle that you overcome, every win you achieve. You will always be a crowd puller where positive people will come to you for inspiration.

3. Be down to earth

Do not brag or show others down because you gain success. Whatever you have done is for your own self esteem. Arrogance makes you complacent. Be grounded with the knowledge that there is another level of goal to accomplish.

Being down to earth also makes you open yourself to listening to the points of view of other people. They may know something that you don’t. This creates mutual respect, which strengthens bonds.

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4. Exude warmth

Stand strong for your family and friends emotionally, financially or just by doing small things to help them in any way. Be sensitive to their feelings. Understand where they are coming from. When you are at peace within yourself, it is easier to let go of any bitterness that you may have carried in the past. This forms a deep emotional connection and gives a powerful sense of security. The warmth of love and happiness that you will now share will never make you lonely in life.

5. Live with zest

There is a time and place for all things in life. Show enthusiasm in the latest technology, what’s in fashion, how things function, learning a new skill. Go out dancing, or participate in any fun activity that you prefer. Once in a while go on an adventure trip. Explore new places. This will not only broaden your horizons but also you will attract other vibrant and happy people who have great zest for life.

6. Have a good sense of humor

Humor is contagious. So whether you are witty, sharing jokes or just laughing you will always be surrounded by people. And laughing together can form intimate, happy relationships that last.

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7. Be selfless

In the broader sense, when your vision expands from focus on you and yours to contributing selflessly to benefit others, you will always have supportive followers.

It’s the goodness of your heart and inner strength of your unique personality that draws people to you and makes them stay.

Featured photo credit: two young friends holding a skateboard and sending a kisses . Summer style pictures. via shutterstock.com

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Last Updated on July 16, 2019

7 Ways to Get Rid of Negative Energy and Become Positive

7 Ways to Get Rid of Negative Energy and Become Positive

Negativity affects ourselves and everyone around us. It limits our potential to become something great and live a fulfilling, purposeful life. Negativity has a tangible effect on our health, too. Research has shown that people who cultivate negative energy experience more stress, more sickness, and less opportunity over the course of their lives than those who choose to live positively.

When we make a decision to become positive, and follow that decision up with action, we will begin to encounter situations and people that are also positive. The negative energy gets edged out by all positive experiences. It’s a snowball effect.

Although negative and positive thoughts will always exist, the key to becoming positive is to limit the amount of negativity that we experience by filling ourselves up with more positivity.

Here are some ways to get rid of negativity and become more positive.

1. Become Grateful for Everything

When life is all about us, it’s easy to believe that we deserve what we have. An attitude of entitlement puts us at the center of the universe and sets up the unrealistic expectation that others should cater to us, our needs, and our wants. This vain state of existence is a surefire way to set yourself up for an unfulfilled life of negativity.

People living in this sort of entitlement are “energy suckers”–they are always searching for what they can get out of a situation. People that don’t appreciate the nuances of their lives live in a constant state of lacking. And it’s really difficult to live a positive life this way.

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When we begin to be grateful and appreciate everything in our lives–from the small struggles that make us better, to the car that gets us from A to B every day–we shift our attitude from one of selfishness, to one of appreciation. This appreciation gets noticed by others, and a positive harmony begins to form in our relationships.

We begin to receive more of that which we are grateful for, because we’ve opened ourselves up to the idea of receiving, instead of taking. This will make your life more fulfilling, and more positive.

2. Laugh More, Especially at Yourself

Life gets busy, our schedules fill up, we get into relationships, and work can feel task oriented and routine-driven at times. Being human can feel more like being a robot. But having this work-driven, serious attitude often results in negative and performance oriented thinking.

Becoming positive means taking life less seriously and letting yourself off the hook. This is the only life that you get to live, why not lighten up your mood?

Laughter helps us become positive by lightening our mood and reminding us not to take life so seriously. Are you sensitive to light sarcasm? Do you have trouble laughing at jokes? Usually, people who are stressed out and overly serious get most offended by sarcasm because their life is all work and no play.

If we can learn to laugh at ourselves and our mistakes, life will become more of an experiment in finding out what makes us happy. And finding happiness means finding positivity.

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3. Help Others

Negativity goes hand in hand with selfishness. People that live only for themselves have no higher purpose in their lives. If the whole point of this world is only to take care of yourself and no one else, the road to a long-term fulfillment and purpose is going to be a long one.

Positivity accompanies purpose. The most basic way to create purpose and positivity in your life is to begin doing things for others. Start small; open the door for the person in front of you at Starbucks or ask someone how their day was before telling them about yours.

Helping others will give you an intangible sense of value that will translate into positivity. And people might just appreciate you in the process.

4. Change Your Thinking

We can either be our best coach or our best enemy. Change starts from within. If you want to become more positive, change the wording of your thoughts. We are the hardest on ourselves, and a stream of negative self talk is corrosive to a positive life.

The next time you have a negative thought, write it down and rephrase it with a positive spin. For example, change a thought like, “I can’t believe I did so horribly on the test–I suck.” to “I didn’t do as well as I hoped to on this test. But I know I’m capable and I’ll do better next time.”

Changing our self-talk is powerful.

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5. Surround Yourself with Positive People

We become most like the people that we surround ourselves with. If our friend group is full of negative energy-suckers and drama queens, we will emulate that behavior and become like them. It is very difficult to become more positive when the people around us don’t support or demonstrate positive behavior.

As you become more positive, you’ll find that your existing friends will either appreciate the new you or they will become resistant to your positive changes. This is a natural response.

Change is scary; but cutting out the negative people in your life is a huge step to becoming more positive. Positive people reflect and bounce their perspectives onto one another. Positivity is a step-by-step process when you do it solo, but a positive group of friends can be an escalator.

6. Get into Action

Negative thoughts can be overwhelming and challenging to navigate. Negativity is usually accompanied by a “freak-out” response, especially when tied to relationships, people and to worrying about the future. This is debilitating to becoming positive and usually snowballs into more worry, more stress and more freak-outs.

Turn the negative stress into positive action. The next time you’re in one of these situations, walk away and take a break. With your eyes closed, take a few deep breaths. Once you’re calm, approach the situation or problem with a pen and pad of paper. Write out four or five actions or solutions to begin solving the problem.

Taking yourself out of the emotionally charged negative by moving into the action-oriented positive will help you solve more problems rationally and live in positivity

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7. Take Full Responsibility, Stop Being the Victim

You are responsible for your thoughts.

People that consistently believe that things happen to them handicap themselves to a victim mentality. This is a subtle and deceptive negative thought pattern. Phrases like “I have to work” or “I can’t believe he did that to me” are indicators of a victim mentality. Blaming circumstances and blaming others only handicaps our decision to change something negative into something positive.

Taking full responsibility for your life, your thoughts and your actions is one of the biggest steps in creating a more positive life. We have unlimited potential within to create our own reality, change our life, and change our thoughts. When we begin to really internalize this, we discover that no one can make us feel or do anything. We choose our emotional and behavioral response to people and circumstances.

Make positive choices in favor of yourself.

“Watch your thoughts; they become words. Watch your words; they become actions. Watch your actions; they become habit. Watch your habits; they become character. Watch your character; it becomes your destiny” ― Lao Tzu

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