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7 Reminders of What Does Matter In Your Life

7 Reminders of What Does Matter In Your Life

Have you taken your focus off what really matters in life? It’s not all about material wealth or the guy, the girl, the house and the car. Rather, it’s about you, and once you begin to focus on what truly matters, you can change the lives of others. As I personally walk you through a reminder of what does matter, embrace it and seek to implement the advice as though your life depends on it, because it does. As simple as each reminder may appear, you will find great wisdom.

1. Make every moment matter.

Don’t hesitate to live every moment out of your life in the best way you can because living is once, chances are rare and nothing is certain. ~ Blaze Olamiday

Too often, we are stuck feeling bitter about the past or thinking about what might happen in the future. We are either holding regrets or worrying. The truth is, there is only now. You can only live in this moment — that’s why you need to make this moment count. What’s happened has passed and what is going to happen depends on what you do right now. Make every moment matter.

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2. Be happy now. Because happiness is not a destination.

Learn to enjoy every minute of your life. Be happy now. Don’t wait for something outside of yourself to make you happy in the future. Think how really precious is the time you have to spend, whether it’s at work or with your family. Every minute should be enjoyed and savored. ~ Earl Nightingale

Just like living for the moment, be as happy as you can when you can. Realize that you don’t have to be happy when you have attained something. Happiness is something that you choose, a mental state that attracts more things to be happy about!

3. Find your authenticity by searching your soul for who you really are.

Be yourself—everyone else is already taken. ~ Oscar Wilde

Who are you? What do you really stand for? It’s up to you to discover your authentic self. Only then will you be free. Free to be brave, to blaze your own trail and say what you feel without conforming to the ideas of others. Look to your values: they will show you what you stand for.

4. Love deeply, give & share with others.

Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage. ~ Lao Tzu

Begin by loving yourself. Only when you know your true worth can you truly love anyone else. Practice self love daily. Treat yourself to nice things. Look in the mirror and say good things about yourself. It may feel a little weird at first, but you will get used to it. Self love allows you to love others.

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5. Live your purpose. Shine bright like a star.

The purpose of life is a life of purpose. ~ Robert Byrne

You have a calling, and your job is to find out what that calling is. Search for your purpose in life as though your life depends on it, because it does. Your purpose will give you meaning and the confidence to reach your dreams, so you can truly shine bright!

6. Your experiences are what matter the most.

The purpose of life is to live it, to taste experience to the utmost, to reach out eagerly and without fear for newer and richer experience. ~ Eleanor Roosevelt

Your experiences in life truly do matter. What are the experiences you create for yourself? Make time to experience wonderful situations that light you up. You are here for the ultimate experience of life, so make it count.

7. Values are everything.

Your beliefs become your thoughts, Your thoughts become your words, Your words become your actions, Your actions become your habits, Your habits become your values, Your values become your destiny. ~ Mahatma Gandhi

What are your values? Identify them and follow them every day. Not only will they allow you to make the right decisions, but out of your values comes authenticity and confidence to shine and be who you are with integrity. You can be true to yourself and true to others. Values are everything.

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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