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7 Reminders of What Does Matter In Your Life

7 Reminders of What Does Matter In Your Life

Have you taken your focus off what really matters in life? It’s not all about material wealth or the guy, the girl, the house and the car. Rather, it’s about you, and once you begin to focus on what truly matters, you can change the lives of others. As I personally walk you through a reminder of what does matter, embrace it and seek to implement the advice as though your life depends on it, because it does. As simple as each reminder may appear, you will find great wisdom.

1. Make every moment matter.

Don’t hesitate to live every moment out of your life in the best way you can because living is once, chances are rare and nothing is certain. ~ Blaze Olamiday

Too often, we are stuck feeling bitter about the past or thinking about what might happen in the future. We are either holding regrets or worrying. The truth is, there is only now. You can only live in this moment — that’s why you need to make this moment count. What’s happened has passed and what is going to happen depends on what you do right now. Make every moment matter.

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2. Be happy now. Because happiness is not a destination.

Learn to enjoy every minute of your life. Be happy now. Don’t wait for something outside of yourself to make you happy in the future. Think how really precious is the time you have to spend, whether it’s at work or with your family. Every minute should be enjoyed and savored. ~ Earl Nightingale

Just like living for the moment, be as happy as you can when you can. Realize that you don’t have to be happy when you have attained something. Happiness is something that you choose, a mental state that attracts more things to be happy about!

3. Find your authenticity by searching your soul for who you really are.

Be yourself—everyone else is already taken. ~ Oscar Wilde

Who are you? What do you really stand for? It’s up to you to discover your authentic self. Only then will you be free. Free to be brave, to blaze your own trail and say what you feel without conforming to the ideas of others. Look to your values: they will show you what you stand for.

4. Love deeply, give & share with others.

Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage. ~ Lao Tzu

Begin by loving yourself. Only when you know your true worth can you truly love anyone else. Practice self love daily. Treat yourself to nice things. Look in the mirror and say good things about yourself. It may feel a little weird at first, but you will get used to it. Self love allows you to love others.

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5. Live your purpose. Shine bright like a star.

The purpose of life is a life of purpose. ~ Robert Byrne

You have a calling, and your job is to find out what that calling is. Search for your purpose in life as though your life depends on it, because it does. Your purpose will give you meaning and the confidence to reach your dreams, so you can truly shine bright!

6. Your experiences are what matter the most.

The purpose of life is to live it, to taste experience to the utmost, to reach out eagerly and without fear for newer and richer experience. ~ Eleanor Roosevelt

Your experiences in life truly do matter. What are the experiences you create for yourself? Make time to experience wonderful situations that light you up. You are here for the ultimate experience of life, so make it count.

7. Values are everything.

Your beliefs become your thoughts, Your thoughts become your words, Your words become your actions, Your actions become your habits, Your habits become your values, Your values become your destiny. ~ Mahatma Gandhi

What are your values? Identify them and follow them every day. Not only will they allow you to make the right decisions, but out of your values comes authenticity and confidence to shine and be who you are with integrity. You can be true to yourself and true to others. Values are everything.

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Last Updated on August 6, 2020

6 Reasons Why You Should Think Before You Speak

6 Reasons Why You Should Think Before You Speak

We’ve all done it. That moment when a series of words slithers from your mouth and the instant regret manifests through blushing and profuse apologies. If you could just think before you speak! It doesn’t have to be like this, and with a bit of practice, it’s actually quite easy to prevent.

“Think twice before you speak, because your words and influence will plant the seed of either success or failure in the mind of another.” – Napolean Hill

Are we speaking the same language?

My mum recently left me a note thanking me for looking after her dog. She’d signed it with “LOL.” In my world, this means “laugh out loud,” and in her world it means “lots of love.” My kids tell me things are “sick” when they’re good, and ”manck” when they’re bad (when I say “bad,” I don’t mean good!). It’s amazing that we manage to communicate at all.

When speaking, we tend to color our language with words and phrases that have become personal to us, things we’ve picked up from our friends, families and even memes from the internet. These colloquialisms become normal, and we expect the listener (or reader) to understand “what we mean.” If you really want the listener to understand your meaning, try to use words and phrases that they might use.

Am I being lazy?

When you’ve been in a relationship for a while, a strange metamorphosis takes place. People tend to become lazier in the way that they communicate with each other, with less thought for the feelings of their partner. There’s no malice intended; we just reach a “comfort zone” and know that our partners “know what we mean.”

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Here’s an exchange from Psychology Today to demonstrate what I mean:

Early in the relationship:

“Honey, I don’t want you to take this wrong, but I’m noticing that your hair is getting a little thin on top. I know guys are sensitive about losing their hair, but I don’t want someone else to embarrass you without your expecting it.”

When the relationship is established:

“Did you know that you’re losing a lot of hair on the back of your head? You’re combing it funny and it doesn’t help. Wear a baseball cap or something if you feel weird about it. Lots of guys get thin on top. It’s no big deal.”

It’s pretty clear which of these statements is more empathetic and more likely to be received well. Recognizing when we do this can be tricky, but with a little practice it becomes easy.

Have I actually got anything to say?

When I was a kid, my gran used to say to me that if I didn’t have anything good to say, I shouldn’t say anything at all. My gran couldn’t stand gossip, so this makes total sense, but you can take this statement a little further and modify it: “If you don’t have anything to say, then don’t say anything at all.”

A lot of the time, people speak to fill “uncomfortable silences,” or because they believe that saying something, anything, is better than staying quiet. It can even be a cause of anxiety for some people.

When somebody else is speaking, listen. Don’t wait to speak. Listen. Actually hear what that person is saying, think about it, and respond if necessary.

Am I painting an accurate picture?

One of the most common forms of miscommunication is the lack of a “referential index,” a type of generalization that fails to refer to specific nouns. As an example, look at these two simple phrases: “Can you pass me that?” and “Pass me that thing over there!”. How often have you said something similar?

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How is the listener supposed to know what you mean? The person that you’re talking to will start to fill in the gaps with something that may very well be completely different to what you mean. You’re thinking “pass me the salt,” but you get passed the pepper. This can be infuriating for the listener, and more importantly, can create a lack of understanding and ultimately produce conflict.

Before you speak, try to label people, places and objects in a way that it is easy for any listeners to understand.

What words am I using?

It’s well known that our use of nouns and verbs (or lack of them) gives an insight into where we grew up, our education, our thoughts and our feelings.

Less well known is that the use of pronouns offers a critical insight into how we emotionally code our sentences. James Pennebaker’s research in the 1990’s concluded that function words are important keys to someone’s psychological state and reveal much more than content words do.

Starting a sentence with “I think…” demonstrates self-focus rather than empathy with the speaker, whereas asking the speaker to elaborate or quantify what they’re saying clearly shows that you’re listening and have respect even if you disagree.

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Is the map really the territory?

Before speaking, we sometimes construct a scenario that makes us act in a way that isn’t necessarily reflective of the actual situation.

A while ago, John promised to help me out in a big way with a project that I was working on. After an initial meeting and some big promises, we put together a plan and set off on its execution. A week or so went by, and I tried to get a hold of John to see how things were going. After voice mails and emails with no reply and general silence, I tried again a week later and still got no response.

I was frustrated and started to get more than a bit vexed. The project obviously meant more to me than it did to him, and I started to construct all manner of crazy scenarios. I finally got through to John and immediately started a mild rant about making promises you can’t keep. He stopped me in my tracks with the news that his brother had died. If I’d have just thought before I spoke…

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