Advertising
Advertising

7 Reminders of What Does Matter In Your Life

7 Reminders of What Does Matter In Your Life

Have you taken your focus off what really matters in life? It’s not all about material wealth or the guy, the girl, the house and the car. Rather, it’s about you, and once you begin to focus on what truly matters, you can change the lives of others. As I personally walk you through a reminder of what does matter, embrace it and seek to implement the advice as though your life depends on it, because it does. As simple as each reminder may appear, you will find great wisdom.

1. Make every moment matter.

Don’t hesitate to live every moment out of your life in the best way you can because living is once, chances are rare and nothing is certain. ~ Blaze Olamiday

Too often, we are stuck feeling bitter about the past or thinking about what might happen in the future. We are either holding regrets or worrying. The truth is, there is only now. You can only live in this moment — that’s why you need to make this moment count. What’s happened has passed and what is going to happen depends on what you do right now. Make every moment matter.

Advertising

2. Be happy now. Because happiness is not a destination.

Learn to enjoy every minute of your life. Be happy now. Don’t wait for something outside of yourself to make you happy in the future. Think how really precious is the time you have to spend, whether it’s at work or with your family. Every minute should be enjoyed and savored. ~ Earl Nightingale

Just like living for the moment, be as happy as you can when you can. Realize that you don’t have to be happy when you have attained something. Happiness is something that you choose, a mental state that attracts more things to be happy about!

3. Find your authenticity by searching your soul for who you really are.

Be yourself—everyone else is already taken. ~ Oscar Wilde

Who are you? What do you really stand for? It’s up to you to discover your authentic self. Only then will you be free. Free to be brave, to blaze your own trail and say what you feel without conforming to the ideas of others. Look to your values: they will show you what you stand for.

4. Love deeply, give & share with others.

Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage. ~ Lao Tzu

Begin by loving yourself. Only when you know your true worth can you truly love anyone else. Practice self love daily. Treat yourself to nice things. Look in the mirror and say good things about yourself. It may feel a little weird at first, but you will get used to it. Self love allows you to love others.

Advertising

5. Live your purpose. Shine bright like a star.

The purpose of life is a life of purpose. ~ Robert Byrne

You have a calling, and your job is to find out what that calling is. Search for your purpose in life as though your life depends on it, because it does. Your purpose will give you meaning and the confidence to reach your dreams, so you can truly shine bright!

6. Your experiences are what matter the most.

The purpose of life is to live it, to taste experience to the utmost, to reach out eagerly and without fear for newer and richer experience. ~ Eleanor Roosevelt

Your experiences in life truly do matter. What are the experiences you create for yourself? Make time to experience wonderful situations that light you up. You are here for the ultimate experience of life, so make it count.

7. Values are everything.

Your beliefs become your thoughts, Your thoughts become your words, Your words become your actions, Your actions become your habits, Your habits become your values, Your values become your destiny. ~ Mahatma Gandhi

What are your values? Identify them and follow them every day. Not only will they allow you to make the right decisions, but out of your values comes authenticity and confidence to shine and be who you are with integrity. You can be true to yourself and true to others. Values are everything.

Advertising

More by this author

Diana Reid

CEO - Moxie House Ltd

10 Things People Do Differently To Make Their Life Happier 15 Things Happy People Don’t Do What To Do As You Get More Stressful When Chasing Your Dreams Top 8 Reasons Why You SHOULD Get Angry If You’re Trying To Discover Life Purpose – Read This

Trending in Communication

1 What Is Your Destiny in Life? How to Mindfully Achieve Your Purpose 2 7 Signs of an Unhappy Relationship That Makes You Feel Stuck 3 10 Things You Can Do Now to Change Your Life Forever 4 Meditation Can Change Your Life: The Power of Mindfulness 5 Understand Your Love Style & Learn to Love: Co Dependent Relationship

Read Next

Advertising
Advertising

Last Updated on September 17, 2018

7 Signs of an Unhappy Relationship That Makes You Feel Stuck

7 Signs of an Unhappy Relationship That Makes You Feel Stuck

Relationships are complicated and when you’re unhappy, it can be difficult to tell what’s causing it and what needs to change.

Sometimes it’s as easy as opening up to your partner about your problems, while other times it may be necessary to switch partners or roll solo to get your mind straight.

When you’re in the thick of things, it can be difficult to tell if you’re unhappy in your relationship or just unhappy in general (in which case, a relationship may be just the cure you need).

Here’re signs of an unhappy relationship that is possibly making you feel stuck:

1. You’re depressed about your home life.

No matter what you do in life, you’re going to have good and bad days. Your relationship is no different.

However, no matter what you’re going through at home, you have to feel comfortable in your own home.

If you constantly dread going home because your significant other is there, there’s a problem. Maybe it’s something you already know about, everyone has an argument or just needs some alone time.

Advertising

When that yearning to be alone becomes an insatiable obsession over the course of months and years, it’s time to realize you’re not the exception to the rule.

You’re unhappy in your relationship, and you need to take a look in the mirror and do whatever it takes to make yourself smile.

2. You aren’t comfortable being yourself.

Remember all those things you discovered about yourself when you first got together? The way your partner made you feel when you met that made you fall in love with him or her in the first place.

If they don’t make you feel that way anymore, it’s not the end of the world. If your partner makes you uncomfortable about being you, then her or she is only dragging you down. It’s up to you to decide how to handle that.

You need to be comfortable with who you are. This means being comfortable in your skin and with the way you walk, talk, look, breath, move, and all the other things that make you uniquely you.

If the person who supposedly loves you doesn’t make you feel good about yourself, know that you can do better. They’re not even one in a billion.

3. You can’t stop snooping.

Mutual trust is necessary in any relationship. The only way to get that trust is with respect.

Advertising

I can find you anywhere online, no matter how private and secure you think you are. The odds of you having a password I can’t crack are slim. If we’ve met in person, I could install a remote key logger on your device without even touching it.

Finding your information online hardly takes a clandestine organization. Any idiot with a Wi-Fi-enabled device can cyberstalk you. I’m just the only idiot in the village admitting it.

So now that we know everyone snoops, it’s time to address your personal habits. Governments snoop because they don’t trust us. If you’re snooping on your partner, it’s because you don’t trust them.

It’s ok to have doubts, and it’s perfectly normal to look into anything that looks weird, but keep in mind that data collection is only half of an investigation.

If you find yourself constantly snooping and questioning everything, clearly there’s a trust issue and the relationship likely needs to end.

4. You’re afraid of commitment.

If you’ve been dating longer than a year and you aren’t engaged, it’s never going to happen.

Commitment is important. People will come up with a million ways to describe why they can’t be committed.

Advertising

No matter who you are if you like it, you need to put a ring on it. Find an engagement ring, stick a gemstone in it and marry the person. If you’re not legally able to get married or you don’t believe in it for one reason or another, have a child (or adopt one, however you’re able to) or treat your partner’s family like your own. It’s a huge financial and mental commitment.

If you’re not ready for one or the other after some time, don’t waste anymore of your precious life on the relationship.

Your relationship should be something that propels you forward. If it’s not going anywhere, make it an open relationship and call it what it is—dating multiple people.

5. You imagine a happier life without your partner.

If all you’re doing is imagining a happier life without your partner, it’s a sign that you’re in the wrong relationship. You’re unhappy and you need to get out.

Your partner should be included in your dreams. There’s nothing wrong with wanting a future with someone.

Try to remember what you dreamed of before you got your heart broken by the realities of life, love and the pursuit of human success.

Remember when you would crush on that cute kid in class? You would secretly imagine marrying him or her and going on an adventure—that’s the way life should be.

Advertising

If you’re not at least imagining adventures together, then why are you in that relationship?

6. You resent, rather than love your partner.

When a relationship starts to crumble, you begin to resent your partner for all the things you once loved about him or her.

When you’ve reached this point, your partner has reached at least No. 2 on this list. From your partner’s perspective, your unhappiness with them is picked up as bashing them for being who they are.

If you’re both unhappy in the relationship, it’s better if it ends as quickly and painlessly as possible.

7. You chase past feelings.

It’s okay to reminisce about the past, but if all you do is wish things were like they used to be, it’s a sign you’re not on the right path.

You’re unhappy and, at the very least, you need to have an open dialogue about it. This isn’t necessarily a sign that the relationship should end, but it definitely needs a spark.

When you talk to your partner candidly about what it is you’re looking for, you never know how they’ll react. The risk alone is worth it, good or bad.

Final thoughts

If you’re feeling stuck in your current relationship, it’s time to reflect about it with your partner. Don’t ignore these signs of an unhappy relationship as they will slowly go worse and harm both you and your partner in long-term.

Featured photo credit: josh peterson via unsplash.com

Read Next