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Effectively Stop Complaining in 7 Easy Steps

Effectively Stop Complaining in 7 Easy Steps

Life is stressful, and complaining may be considered by many as an extension of being absolutely normal. However, complaining affects our brains and our physical health negatively. A sense of sadness or melancholy is increased, along with real dissatisfaction with our daily lives.

Negative stress can also exacerbate chronic health problems, such as diabetes or asthma. Other physical complaints may include increased headaches, joint pain, and depression. One way to combat these symptoms is through learning how to stop useless complaining.

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    1. Nourish A Positive Attitude

    Change the way you think. Of course, this is far easier said than done, but it is quite possible. Cultivate a positive spin on how you perceive the problem. For example, it is easy to stress over having the perfect child, job, or date. Accept that life is just plain messy. No one and no situation is or can be ‘perfect.’ Accept the situation for what it is and move forward. Keep the pro side heavily weighed against the negatives. When you inevitably experience set-backs, move forward and remember that everyone has them.

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    2. Learn To Adapt

    The only sure thing about life is that nothing stays the same. Change is coming whether it’s tomorrow, next month, or next year. Some life changes are significantly sad. Allow a period of grieving. Sometimes, setting a daily time to be sad about the change can help. Acceptance of a situation helps you to adapt positively to life’s changes. Take up the challenge of seeing the positive in a situation, even if it is a small good. Think of the experience as an opportunity rather than an untenable obstacle.

    3. Be More Mindful

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      The past can never be changed and worry about the future is futile; complaining about either is a pointless exercise. Rather, move in the present time and cope only with the present situation as it unfolds. Recognize negative thoughts and replace them with a positive spin. Rather than, “Oh, not the alarm again” think of all that can be accomplished in a bright, new day. While it may sound cliché, learn to graciously accept all that life has to offer–the good and the bad. Even bad circumstances will change, and can teach you more mindful attitudes, such as patience.

      4. Be Assertive

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        Giving up the bad habit of complaining does not mean allowing yourself to become someone else’s doormat. Assertiveness is the way to tell others what your needs are and how these can be met. Convey confidence through something as simple as posture. Stand up straight, have a firm handshake, and always look people in the eye. Enunciate and speak clearly, you want people to understand your point. Avoid rambling, which may lead to awkward and unproductive pauses. Be firm and express what you want clearly. Don’t leave your meaning to guess work.

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          5. Be Less Judgmental

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            This includes yourself. Everyone makes mistakes and being critical leads to complaining. Should of, would of, and could of are phrases that’s better left out of your vocabulary. Let go of control. It is simply impossible to be in control of every situation, sometimes it is best to lower the stress and simply roll with the consequences. List your strengths to build confidence and, on a better day, list your weaknesses and how to downplay them. Compliment yourself and others. Acknowledge a job well done, or a nicely fitting suit or dress.

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            6. Be Responsible

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              Own your mistakes, but never the mistakes of others. The first step to being responsible is self-respect. Begin by thinking highly of yourself and your decision-making process. There is no reason not to. Keep people in your life who respect you, and fail miserably at taking advantage of you. Eject chronic complainers. Let them carry their complaints elsewhere. Through garnering people in your life that like and respect you, you will naturally reciprocate the respect.

              7. Keep Moving Forward

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                Absolutely refuse to allow life’s obstacles to keep you from moving onward. Sure, there are people and situations that will annoy you. This is no excuse to dwell on the negativity. Remember, “this too shall pass.” The thing that is creating a problem cannot last forever. Most problems are temporary and fleeting. Understanding this is the key to moving forward. Take note of self-doubt and then release these thoughts. Spending time in self-doubt is ultimately a waste. Make your decision and follow through.

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                  As you follow these steps and lessen the habit of complaining, you will find yourself leading a more confident lifestyle. Stop complaining about things beyond your control. Move forward with self-assurance and confidence. Above everything else, be gentle with yourself.

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                  Last Updated on October 18, 2018

                  50+ Best Motivational Quotes To Prepare You For Any Challenges In Life

                  50+ Best Motivational Quotes To Prepare You For Any Challenges In Life

                  Life is filled with highs and lows —happiness and struggles that will test your resilience and integrity, push you to overcome challenges and leave you with lessons that will make you even stronger on your way up.

                  It’s the way you feel and think about yourself, including your expectations and beliefs about what is possible to you, greatly determines everything that happens to you.

                  It all starts with your thoughts. When you change your thoughts, you transform the quality of your life. (Right, Nancy’s story is a typical example!)

                  Below is a list of the best motivational quotes to inspire you to start your day with a blast:

                  Quotes for self-assurance

                  1. Don’t downgrade your dream just to fit your reality, upgrade your conviction to match your destiny.

                    2. You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem and smarter than you think.

                      3. You are confined only by the walls you build yourself.

                        4. The man who has confidence in himself gains the confidence of others

                          5. You attract what you are, not what you want. If you want great, then be great.

                            6. It’s not who you are that holds you behind, it’s who you think your are not.

                              Quotes about positivity

                              7. Stop being afraid of what could go wrong and think of what could go right.

                                8. You should never regret anything in life. If it’s good, it’s wonderful. If it’s bad, it is experience.

                                  9. Falling down is an accident, staying down is a choice.

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                                    10. If you have the power to make someone happy, do it. The world needs more of that.

                                      11. Always believe that something wonderful is about to happen.

                                        12. Don’t be afraid to give up the good and go for great.

                                          13. Remember that life’s greatest lessons are usually learned from worst times and from the worst mistakes.

                                            Quotes for work and success

                                            14. Don’t talk, just act. Don’t say, just show. Don’t promise, just prove.

                                              15. Never stop doing great just because someone doesn’t give you credit.

                                                16. Discipline is doing what needs to be done, even if you don’t want to.

                                                  17. Work while they sleep. Learn while they party. Save while they spend. Live like they dream.

                                                    18. The key to success is to focus our conscious mind on things we desire, not things we fear.

                                                      19. Never apologize for having high standards, people who really want to be in your life will rise to meet them.

                                                        20. If it doesn’t challenge you, it won’t change you.

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                                                          21. Never give up on a dream just because of the time it will take to accomplish it, time will pass anyway.

                                                            22. Don’t fear failure. Fear being in the exact same place next year as you are today.

                                                              23. A hill is just another opportunity to leave your competition behind.

                                                                24. Don’t quit. You’re already in pain. You’re already hurt. Get a reward from it.

                                                                  25. Hustle until you no longer need to introduce yourself.

                                                                    26. You didn’t come this far only to come this far.

                                                                      27. Be selective in your battles for sometimes peace is better than being right.

                                                                        28 If we keep doing what we are doing, we’re going to keep getting what we’re getting.

                                                                          29. You will never know your limits until you push yourself to them.

                                                                            30. Do what you have to do until you can do what you want to do.

                                                                              31. The man on top of the mountain didn’t fall there.

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                                                                                32. If your dreams don’t scare you, they are not big enough.

                                                                                  33. If you can’t handle stress, you won’t manage success.

                                                                                    34. Don’t be pushed by your problems, be led by your dreams.

                                                                                      35. Don’t mistake silence for weakness. Smart people don’t plan big moves out loud.

                                                                                        36. Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication.

                                                                                          37. Obsessed is the word the lazy use to describe dedicated.

                                                                                            38. You become who you spend your time with.

                                                                                              39. Be stubborn about your goals and flexible about your methods.

                                                                                                40. Hard work beats talent when talent doesn’t work hard.

                                                                                                  41. If you don’t build your dreams, someone else will hire you to build theirs.

                                                                                                    42. Between stimulus and response is our greatest power –the freedom to choose.

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                                                                                                      43. What comes easy won’t last, what lasts won’t come easy.

                                                                                                        44. Don’t limit your challenges, challenge your limits.

                                                                                                          45. Work until your idols become your rivals.

                                                                                                            Quotes about money

                                                                                                            46. Formal education will make you a living. Self-education will make you a fortune.

                                                                                                              47. I create new enemies every day, it’s called business.

                                                                                                                48. When you have a Million Dollar vision, don’t surround yourself with 1 cent minds.

                                                                                                                  49. You can’t get rich thinking poor.

                                                                                                                    50. Doing what is comfortable is rarely profitable.

                                                                                                                      51. If you can count your money, work harder.

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