Effectively Stop Complaining in 7 Easy Steps

Effectively Stop Complaining in 7 Easy Steps

Life is stressful, and complaining may be considered by many as an extension of being absolutely normal. However, complaining affects our brains and our physical health negatively. A sense of sadness or melancholy is increased, along with real dissatisfaction with our daily lives.

Negative stress can also exacerbate chronic health problems, such as diabetes or asthma. Other physical complaints may include increased headaches, joint pain, and depression. One way to combat these symptoms is through learning how to stop useless complaining.


    1. Nourish A Positive Attitude

    Change the way you think. Of course, this is far easier said than done, but it is quite possible. Cultivate a positive spin on how you perceive the problem. For example, it is easy to stress over having the perfect child, job, or date. Accept that life is just plain messy. No one and no situation is or can be ‘perfect.’ Accept the situation for what it is and move forward. Keep the pro side heavily weighed against the negatives. When you inevitably experience set-backs, move forward and remember that everyone has them.


    2. Learn To Adapt

    The only sure thing about life is that nothing stays the same. Change is coming whether it’s tomorrow, next month, or next year. Some life changes are significantly sad. Allow a period of grieving. Sometimes, setting a daily time to be sad about the change can help. Acceptance of a situation helps you to adapt positively to life’s changes. Take up the challenge of seeing the positive in a situation, even if it is a small good. Think of the experience as an opportunity rather than an untenable obstacle.

    3. Be More Mindful


      The past can never be changed and worry about the future is futile; complaining about either is a pointless exercise. Rather, move in the present time and cope only with the present situation as it unfolds. Recognize negative thoughts and replace them with a positive spin. Rather than, “Oh, not the alarm again” think of all that can be accomplished in a bright, new day. While it may sound cliché, learn to graciously accept all that life has to offer–the good and the bad. Even bad circumstances will change, and can teach you more mindful attitudes, such as patience.

      4. Be Assertive



        Giving up the bad habit of complaining does not mean allowing yourself to become someone else’s doormat. Assertiveness is the way to tell others what your needs are and how these can be met. Convey confidence through something as simple as posture. Stand up straight, have a firm handshake, and always look people in the eye. Enunciate and speak clearly, you want people to understand your point. Avoid rambling, which may lead to awkward and unproductive pauses. Be firm and express what you want clearly. Don’t leave your meaning to guess work.


          5. Be Less Judgmental


            This includes yourself. Everyone makes mistakes and being critical leads to complaining. Should of, would of, and could of are phrases that’s better left out of your vocabulary. Let go of control. It is simply impossible to be in control of every situation, sometimes it is best to lower the stress and simply roll with the consequences. List your strengths to build confidence and, on a better day, list your weaknesses and how to downplay them. Compliment yourself and others. Acknowledge a job well done, or a nicely fitting suit or dress.


            6. Be Responsible


              Own your mistakes, but never the mistakes of others. The first step to being responsible is self-respect. Begin by thinking highly of yourself and your decision-making process. There is no reason not to. Keep people in your life who respect you, and fail miserably at taking advantage of you. Eject chronic complainers. Let them carry their complaints elsewhere. Through garnering people in your life that like and respect you, you will naturally reciprocate the respect.

              7. Keep Moving Forward


                Absolutely refuse to allow life’s obstacles to keep you from moving onward. Sure, there are people and situations that will annoy you. This is no excuse to dwell on the negativity. Remember, “this too shall pass.” The thing that is creating a problem cannot last forever. Most problems are temporary and fleeting. Understanding this is the key to moving forward. Take note of self-doubt and then release these thoughts. Spending time in self-doubt is ultimately a waste. Make your decision and follow through.



                  As you follow these steps and lessen the habit of complaining, you will find yourself leading a more confident lifestyle. Stop complaining about things beyond your control. Move forward with self-assurance and confidence. Above everything else, be gentle with yourself.

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                  Last Updated on August 20, 2018

                  60 Things To Be Thankful For In Life

                  60 Things To Be Thankful For In Life

                  Sometimes it’s easier to focus on what we don’t have, rather than what we do have. It’s important to take time out and remember all of the things to be thankful for that many of us take for granted.

                    Here you’ll find 60 very solid things to be thankful for in your everyday life. These are great reminders for you to treasure everything you have.

                    1. Good Health

                    Even if you’re health isn’t great, it could be worse and you likely still have some working parts to be thankful for.

                    2. Money in the Bank

                    Having just a few coins makes you richer than most people on Earth.

                    3. Good Friends

                    Often, it’s the quality of friendships, not the quantity.

                    4. Freedom of Religion

                    Being able to worship whomever and however you want is something many people don’t ever experience.

                    5. Your Parents

                    Even if they’re dysfunctional, they gave you life.

                    6. Weekends

                    There’s something magical about weekends.

                    7.Having a Partner

                    Being in a romantic relationship can teach you so much about the world and yourself.

                    8. Pets

                    Pets offer one of the best examples of unconditional love.

                    9. Learning from Mistakes

                    If we never made mistakes, we wouldn’t learn much so it is one of those things we should be thankful for.

                    10. Opportunity to Get an Education

                    The opportunity to attend school is something many people don’t have.


                    11. Having a Home

                    Whether you live in an apartment, a mansion, or a tent, having a place to call home is something to be thankful for.

                    12. An Ability to Read

                    If you’re reading this right now, you have a lot to be thankful for.

                    13. Breathing Fresh Air

                    Being able to step outside to breathe in fresh air is a good reminder how many little things we should be thankful for.

                    14. A Bed to Sleep

                    A bed is one of those things that’s easy to take for granted, until you don’t have one.

                    15. Laughter

                    Without laughter, the world would be a sad place.

                    16. Safety and Security

                    Being able to wake up without immense fear frees us up to really live life.

                    17. Cars

                    Without cars, it would take a lot longer to get our activities done.

                    18. Sunshine

                    The sun’s warmth can brighten any day.

                    19. Time

                    Although we often don’t think there’s enough of it, time is something we shouldn’t take for granted.

                    20. Clean Water

                    Many people on earth lack access to clean water.

                    21. Cell Phones

                    Cell phones make talking to loved ones easy.

                    22. Love

                    The world sure would be a different place if we lacked the ability to love.

                    23. Books

                    Books provide an opportunity to enter another world all from the comfort of your own home.


                    24. Kindness of Strangers

                    Never take the kindness of a stranger for granted.

                    25. Campfires

                    The simplicity of a campfire creates lifelong memories.

                    26. Pain

                    Without pain, it would be difficulty to appreciate life’s joys.

                    27. Art

                    The world would be less beautiful if art didn’t exist.

                    28. Holidays

                    Any reason to celebrate is something we should be thankful for.

                    29. Freedom of Speech

                    Being able to express your thoughts and feelings freely should never be taken for granted.

                    30. Rainbows

                    The beauty of a rainbow is unmatched.

                    31. Tears

                    Sometimes when there are no words to say, tears express how we feel for us.

                    32. Waking up Today

                    Simply waking up today means you have things to be thankful for.

                    33. Indoor Plumbing

                    Indoor plumbing not only provides convenience, it spares us from disease.

                    34. Wisdom that Comes with Age

                    Thankfully, we grow smarter over time.

                    35. Mountains

                    Mountains provide us with beauty and recreation.

                    36. Eyesight

                    Being able to see allows us to view the world’s beauty.


                    37. Grocery Stores

                    Grocery stores mean we don’t have to spend all of our time getting our own food.

                    38. Sunsets

                    Sunsets are a reminder that we should enjoy the simple things in life.

                    39. Entertainment

                    Entertainment gives us a way to relax and enjoy life.

                    40. Your Mind

                    Being able to think, remember, and solve problems sure makes life easier.

                    41. Employment

                    Even if you don’t like your job, being employed means someone thought you were special enough to hire.

                    42. Diversity

                    The world would be a boring place without diversity.

                    43. Moon and Stars

                    The moon and stars encourage us to dream.

                    44. Electricity

                    Electricity makes most of our chores efficient.

                    45. Air Conditioning

                    Staying cool on a hot day is something people wouldn’t have dreamed about in past centuries.

                    46. Hearing

                    Being able to hear your loved one’s voice is something that not everyone gets to do.

                    47. Children

                    Watching children laugh, grow, and dream can keep things in perspective.

                    48. Ability to Learn

                    The ability to learn new things means we have endless potential.

                    49. People Willing to Teach

                    Whether it’s your grandmother teaching you to knit or your plumber showing you how to prevent future problems, be grateful that others are willing to use their time and talents to teach you something new.


                    50. Oceans

                    The sea creatures in the ocean almost seem too mystical to be real.

                    51. Modern Medicine

                    Without advances in modern medicine, many of us wouldn’t be alive.

                    52. Music

                    Music brings out new emotions.

                    53. Entrepreneurs

                    Some of life’s best inventions resulted from an entrepreneur who was willing to take a risk.

                    54. Warm Clothing

                    On a cold day, there’s nothing more important than warm clothing.

                    55. Freedom to Vote

                    Being able to have a say in the laws should never be taken for granted.

                    56. An Internet Connection

                    It’s hard to believe how easy it is to take the internet for granted, seeing how none of us had just a couple of decades ago.

                    57. Challenges

                    Without challenges in life, we wouldn’t be the people we are now.

                    58. Hiking Trails

                    Hiking trails give us the chance to enjoy mother’s nature beauty.

                    59. Vaccines

                    Many of us wouldn’t be alive without today’s vaccinations.

                    60. Armed Forces

                    Our lives would likely be very different if we didn’t have protection from the armed forces.

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