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6 Reasons Why Pain From The Past Is A Gift For You Today

6 Reasons Why Pain From The Past Is A Gift For You Today

Pain is a gift from the Universe. It is a message that we do something wrong and we have to change — our habits, thoughts, actions, emotions or words. It is a time to stop, to take a look at yourself, at your life and go through your values.

Anything in our life is a lesson to make us a better person. No matter pain, joy or success — it teaches us something. The same situation can repeat over and over again till we understand what has been said to us. What we have to learn.

What is pain? What does cause the pain?

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Emotional pain comes when we lose something. No matter what — work, friend, house. It is painful. Because it is not as we wanted, it doesn’t match with our desires and will. Universe has a higher plan, which sometimes is different from ours. Pain is our anger and despair. We can’t accept the change and we want to live in past. It is the attachment and illusion what causes the pain.

Physical pain causes discomfort, accident or if we don’t notice the emotional pain, they become as a physical pain which is hard not to notice. Everything starts in our emotions — pain or happiness.

1. Pain makes you to stop and value your life.

Imagine, you are in rush, you are not being careful even you know what consequences could be. You fall and you hurt yourself. You keep rushing — 3 times, 10 times or hundred of times till you get it. You have to be careful. The same works in invisible world. When people live in rush with never-ending duties, the Universe has to stop, to make you to over think values and your being alive.

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2. Pain makes you stronger and grow within.

It takes a lot of strength to look at the pain from other perspective, but once you are able to do so, you get a lot of understanding, meaning and opportunity to grow within, not to destroy yourself. Our life is how we react on it. Learn to say thank you for what you have or had, not to cry for what you don’t have. Have faith that there is coming something better for you. Be ready for that.

3. Pain is an opportunity to become a better person.

Once you realize that everything on Earth is temporary. You own nothing; any situation, person or thing is given for a time so you can learn from it. You become free. You take everything as a gift, one time opportunity and step by step learn to live here and now and take the best out of it.

4. You learn to understand others.

The higher purpose of our life is to understand ourselves, others and whole Universe. It gives you wisdom, peace and deep inner joy of living. When you truly can express compassion to other, when you can imagine how they feel, you give and share a lot of Light in your life. Just to be next to the person in needs and love.

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5. Pain teaches you to forgive and ask forgiveness.

If you really want to be free and live without resentment, you have to forgive and ask forgiveness. It teaches you to be humble. Forgiveness is a strong message to the Universe; it is one step closer to Love.

6. Pain prepares you for something better in the future and teaches you to appreciate anything in past.

You have to lose to get something in return. If you don’t know how to lose, you can’t learn to win, to succeed. To receive you have to learn to appreciate what you have and share it.

Take pain as a blessing, even it is hurtful. Take your time to cry out, to live the pain, don’t turn the back on it and pretend that it isn’t there. When you renew peace and faith in your heart, take a look at the situation, the pain, and grow. Become stronger and keep living one more step closer to love and your true being.

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Featured photo credit: Because of You/José Luis Mieza via flickr.com

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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