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6 Reasons Why Pain From The Past Is A Gift For You Today

6 Reasons Why Pain From The Past Is A Gift For You Today

Pain is a gift from the Universe. It is a message that we do something wrong and we have to change — our habits, thoughts, actions, emotions or words. It is a time to stop, to take a look at yourself, at your life and go through your values.

Anything in our life is a lesson to make us a better person. No matter pain, joy or success — it teaches us something. The same situation can repeat over and over again till we understand what has been said to us. What we have to learn.

What is pain? What does cause the pain?

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Emotional pain comes when we lose something. No matter what — work, friend, house. It is painful. Because it is not as we wanted, it doesn’t match with our desires and will. Universe has a higher plan, which sometimes is different from ours. Pain is our anger and despair. We can’t accept the change and we want to live in past. It is the attachment and illusion what causes the pain.

Physical pain causes discomfort, accident or if we don’t notice the emotional pain, they become as a physical pain which is hard not to notice. Everything starts in our emotions — pain or happiness.

1. Pain makes you to stop and value your life.

Imagine, you are in rush, you are not being careful even you know what consequences could be. You fall and you hurt yourself. You keep rushing — 3 times, 10 times or hundred of times till you get it. You have to be careful. The same works in invisible world. When people live in rush with never-ending duties, the Universe has to stop, to make you to over think values and your being alive.

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2. Pain makes you stronger and grow within.

It takes a lot of strength to look at the pain from other perspective, but once you are able to do so, you get a lot of understanding, meaning and opportunity to grow within, not to destroy yourself. Our life is how we react on it. Learn to say thank you for what you have or had, not to cry for what you don’t have. Have faith that there is coming something better for you. Be ready for that.

3. Pain is an opportunity to become a better person.

Once you realize that everything on Earth is temporary. You own nothing; any situation, person or thing is given for a time so you can learn from it. You become free. You take everything as a gift, one time opportunity and step by step learn to live here and now and take the best out of it.

4. You learn to understand others.

The higher purpose of our life is to understand ourselves, others and whole Universe. It gives you wisdom, peace and deep inner joy of living. When you truly can express compassion to other, when you can imagine how they feel, you give and share a lot of Light in your life. Just to be next to the person in needs and love.

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5. Pain teaches you to forgive and ask forgiveness.

If you really want to be free and live without resentment, you have to forgive and ask forgiveness. It teaches you to be humble. Forgiveness is a strong message to the Universe; it is one step closer to Love.

6. Pain prepares you for something better in the future and teaches you to appreciate anything in past.

You have to lose to get something in return. If you don’t know how to lose, you can’t learn to win, to succeed. To receive you have to learn to appreciate what you have and share it.

Take pain as a blessing, even it is hurtful. Take your time to cry out, to live the pain, don’t turn the back on it and pretend that it isn’t there. When you renew peace and faith in your heart, take a look at the situation, the pain, and grow. Become stronger and keep living one more step closer to love and your true being.

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Featured photo credit: Because of You/José Luis Mieza via flickr.com

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Last Updated on September 17, 2018

7 Signs of an Unhappy Relationship That Makes You Feel Stuck

7 Signs of an Unhappy Relationship That Makes You Feel Stuck

Relationships are complicated and when you’re unhappy, it can be difficult to tell what’s causing it and what needs to change.

Sometimes it’s as easy as opening up to your partner about your problems, while other times it may be necessary to switch partners or roll solo to get your mind straight.

When you’re in the thick of things, it can be difficult to tell if you’re unhappy in your relationship or just unhappy in general (in which case, a relationship may be just the cure you need).

Here’re signs of an unhappy relationship that is possibly making you feel stuck:

1. You’re depressed about your home life.

No matter what you do in life, you’re going to have good and bad days. Your relationship is no different.

However, no matter what you’re going through at home, you have to feel comfortable in your own home.

If you constantly dread going home because your significant other is there, there’s a problem. Maybe it’s something you already know about, everyone has an argument or just needs some alone time.

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When that yearning to be alone becomes an insatiable obsession over the course of months and years, it’s time to realize you’re not the exception to the rule.

You’re unhappy in your relationship, and you need to take a look in the mirror and do whatever it takes to make yourself smile.

2. You aren’t comfortable being yourself.

Remember all those things you discovered about yourself when you first got together? The way your partner made you feel when you met that made you fall in love with him or her in the first place.

If they don’t make you feel that way anymore, it’s not the end of the world. If your partner makes you uncomfortable about being you, then her or she is only dragging you down. It’s up to you to decide how to handle that.

You need to be comfortable with who you are. This means being comfortable in your skin and with the way you walk, talk, look, breath, move, and all the other things that make you uniquely you.

If the person who supposedly loves you doesn’t make you feel good about yourself, know that you can do better. They’re not even one in a billion.

3. You can’t stop snooping.

Mutual trust is necessary in any relationship. The only way to get that trust is with respect.

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I can find you anywhere online, no matter how private and secure you think you are. The odds of you having a password I can’t crack are slim. If we’ve met in person, I could install a remote key logger on your device without even touching it.

Finding your information online hardly takes a clandestine organization. Any idiot with a Wi-Fi-enabled device can cyberstalk you. I’m just the only idiot in the village admitting it.

So now that we know everyone snoops, it’s time to address your personal habits. Governments snoop because they don’t trust us. If you’re snooping on your partner, it’s because you don’t trust them.

It’s ok to have doubts, and it’s perfectly normal to look into anything that looks weird, but keep in mind that data collection is only half of an investigation.

If you find yourself constantly snooping and questioning everything, clearly there’s a trust issue and the relationship likely needs to end.

4. You’re afraid of commitment.

If you’ve been dating longer than a year and you aren’t engaged, it’s never going to happen.

Commitment is important. People will come up with a million ways to describe why they can’t be committed.

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No matter who you are if you like it, you need to put a ring on it. Find an engagement ring, stick a gemstone in it and marry the person. If you’re not legally able to get married or you don’t believe in it for one reason or another, have a child (or adopt one, however you’re able to) or treat your partner’s family like your own. It’s a huge financial and mental commitment.

If you’re not ready for one or the other after some time, don’t waste anymore of your precious life on the relationship.

Your relationship should be something that propels you forward. If it’s not going anywhere, make it an open relationship and call it what it is—dating multiple people.

5. You imagine a happier life without your partner.

If all you’re doing is imagining a happier life without your partner, it’s a sign that you’re in the wrong relationship. You’re unhappy and you need to get out.

Your partner should be included in your dreams. There’s nothing wrong with wanting a future with someone.

Try to remember what you dreamed of before you got your heart broken by the realities of life, love and the pursuit of human success.

Remember when you would crush on that cute kid in class? You would secretly imagine marrying him or her and going on an adventure—that’s the way life should be.

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If you’re not at least imagining adventures together, then why are you in that relationship?

6. You resent, rather than love your partner.

When a relationship starts to crumble, you begin to resent your partner for all the things you once loved about him or her.

When you’ve reached this point, your partner has reached at least No. 2 on this list. From your partner’s perspective, your unhappiness with them is picked up as bashing them for being who they are.

If you’re both unhappy in the relationship, it’s better if it ends as quickly and painlessly as possible.

7. You chase past feelings.

It’s okay to reminisce about the past, but if all you do is wish things were like they used to be, it’s a sign you’re not on the right path.

You’re unhappy and, at the very least, you need to have an open dialogue about it. This isn’t necessarily a sign that the relationship should end, but it definitely needs a spark.

When you talk to your partner candidly about what it is you’re looking for, you never know how they’ll react. The risk alone is worth it, good or bad.

Final thoughts

If you’re feeling stuck in your current relationship, it’s time to reflect about it with your partner. Don’t ignore these signs of an unhappy relationship as they will slowly go worse and harm both you and your partner in long-term.

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