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6 Questions You Should Ask Yourself Before Moving On To A New Relationship

6 Questions You Should Ask Yourself Before Moving On To A New Relationship

Once you’ve made the transition from taken to single, it’s hard to transition back to a relationship. Sometimes, you’re stuck in your single ways. Other times, you’re still hung up on your ex. Whatever the reason, it can be hard to know if you’re ready to take the leap and start a new relationship. Lucky for you, we’re here to help! Check out the following six things that indicate your readiness to move on to a new relationship. If you answer yes to all of the following questions, you’re ready!

1. Are you comfortable with yourself?

If you’re happy with where you are in your life, then it’s a sign that you’re ready to let someone else into your life. It’s hard to let another person love you if you can’t love yourself first, so make sure you’re happy with everything else in your life. If you’re thinking of making a big change, like moving to a new city or switching careers, it might be best to wait until everything has settled down before taking the plunge.

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2. Are you satisfied with being single?

Singleness scares some people, and that’s fine. It can definitely be scary to not have the comfort of a significant other. That being said, you’ve got to be comfortable with yourself before you can be comfortable with someone else. Additionally, you shouldn’t begin a new relationship until you’ve gotten your singleness out of your system. Make sure you’re totally comfortable with yourself and that you’re ready to move on to a new chapter.

3. Are you prepared to communicate?

Communication is key in relationships. After all, your partner can’t read your mind, so make sure that you understand the importance of communication. Talking things out and getting on the same page is vital. Try this out by practicing good communication with your friends, family members, and coworkers. If you can communicate effectively with them, chances are you’ll be able to do so with your new beau or lady friend.

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4. Have you stopped visiting your ex’s Facebook page?

We’ve all been there, trust me. But making visit after visit to your ex’s profile will only make you feel more lonely, and it’s a sign that you’re not ready to move on to a new romantic relationship. Let your ex go, and soon you’ll feel ready to get back out there and meet someone new. Another tip: don’t get into a new relationship unless you think you’re ready to be with someone who isn’t your ex. Just because things are different, that doesn’t mean they shouldn’t be just as good — and probably even better!

5. Can you let the little things go?

Getting hung up on every little thing that bothers you is a recipe for failure. Everyone has slightly irritating habits. Don’t let these get in the way of forming a new relationship. Try to find something positive in the little things, or learn to simply ignore them. Truth be told, you probably have annoying quirks, too, and your partner tolerates those. Return the favor and practice patience and understanding.

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6. Do you want to date, rather than feel like you should date?

It’s an all too common problem: everyone around you is dating or in a serious relationship, and you’re feeling like the odd one out. Start a new relationship if and only if you want to…not just because it’s what everyone else is doing. Jumping on the bandwagon like that will just lead to disaster for your relationship, and whomever you’re dating deserves more than that. So take your time and don’t worry about what others are doing. Your time will come, and then you’ll be ready to dive headfirst into the world of dating once again.

Featured photo credit: Lotus Carroll via flickr.com

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Last Updated on July 16, 2019

7 Ways to Get Rid of Negative Energy and Become Positive

7 Ways to Get Rid of Negative Energy and Become Positive

Negativity affects ourselves and everyone around us. It limits our potential to become something great and live a fulfilling, purposeful life. Negativity has a tangible effect on our health, too. Research has shown that people who cultivate negative energy experience more stress, more sickness, and less opportunity over the course of their lives than those who choose to live positively.

When we make a decision to become positive, and follow that decision up with action, we will begin to encounter situations and people that are also positive. The negative energy gets edged out by all positive experiences. It’s a snowball effect.

Although negative and positive thoughts will always exist, the key to becoming positive is to limit the amount of negativity that we experience by filling ourselves up with more positivity.

Here are some ways to get rid of negativity and become more positive.

1. Become Grateful for Everything

When life is all about us, it’s easy to believe that we deserve what we have. An attitude of entitlement puts us at the center of the universe and sets up the unrealistic expectation that others should cater to us, our needs, and our wants. This vain state of existence is a surefire way to set yourself up for an unfulfilled life of negativity.

People living in this sort of entitlement are “energy suckers”–they are always searching for what they can get out of a situation. People that don’t appreciate the nuances of their lives live in a constant state of lacking. And it’s really difficult to live a positive life this way.

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When we begin to be grateful and appreciate everything in our lives–from the small struggles that make us better, to the car that gets us from A to B every day–we shift our attitude from one of selfishness, to one of appreciation. This appreciation gets noticed by others, and a positive harmony begins to form in our relationships.

We begin to receive more of that which we are grateful for, because we’ve opened ourselves up to the idea of receiving, instead of taking. This will make your life more fulfilling, and more positive.

2. Laugh More, Especially at Yourself

Life gets busy, our schedules fill up, we get into relationships, and work can feel task oriented and routine-driven at times. Being human can feel more like being a robot. But having this work-driven, serious attitude often results in negative and performance oriented thinking.

Becoming positive means taking life less seriously and letting yourself off the hook. This is the only life that you get to live, why not lighten up your mood?

Laughter helps us become positive by lightening our mood and reminding us not to take life so seriously. Are you sensitive to light sarcasm? Do you have trouble laughing at jokes? Usually, people who are stressed out and overly serious get most offended by sarcasm because their life is all work and no play.

If we can learn to laugh at ourselves and our mistakes, life will become more of an experiment in finding out what makes us happy. And finding happiness means finding positivity.

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3. Help Others

Negativity goes hand in hand with selfishness. People that live only for themselves have no higher purpose in their lives. If the whole point of this world is only to take care of yourself and no one else, the road to a long-term fulfillment and purpose is going to be a long one.

Positivity accompanies purpose. The most basic way to create purpose and positivity in your life is to begin doing things for others. Start small; open the door for the person in front of you at Starbucks or ask someone how their day was before telling them about yours.

Helping others will give you an intangible sense of value that will translate into positivity. And people might just appreciate you in the process.

4. Change Your Thinking

We can either be our best coach or our best enemy. Change starts from within. If you want to become more positive, change the wording of your thoughts. We are the hardest on ourselves, and a stream of negative self talk is corrosive to a positive life.

The next time you have a negative thought, write it down and rephrase it with a positive spin. For example, change a thought like, “I can’t believe I did so horribly on the test–I suck.” to “I didn’t do as well as I hoped to on this test. But I know I’m capable and I’ll do better next time.”

Changing our self-talk is powerful.

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5. Surround Yourself with Positive People

We become most like the people that we surround ourselves with. If our friend group is full of negative energy-suckers and drama queens, we will emulate that behavior and become like them. It is very difficult to become more positive when the people around us don’t support or demonstrate positive behavior.

As you become more positive, you’ll find that your existing friends will either appreciate the new you or they will become resistant to your positive changes. This is a natural response.

Change is scary; but cutting out the negative people in your life is a huge step to becoming more positive. Positive people reflect and bounce their perspectives onto one another. Positivity is a step-by-step process when you do it solo, but a positive group of friends can be an escalator.

6. Get into Action

Negative thoughts can be overwhelming and challenging to navigate. Negativity is usually accompanied by a “freak-out” response, especially when tied to relationships, people and to worrying about the future. This is debilitating to becoming positive and usually snowballs into more worry, more stress and more freak-outs.

Turn the negative stress into positive action. The next time you’re in one of these situations, walk away and take a break. With your eyes closed, take a few deep breaths. Once you’re calm, approach the situation or problem with a pen and pad of paper. Write out four or five actions or solutions to begin solving the problem.

Taking yourself out of the emotionally charged negative by moving into the action-oriented positive will help you solve more problems rationally and live in positivity

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7. Take Full Responsibility, Stop Being the Victim

You are responsible for your thoughts.

People that consistently believe that things happen to them handicap themselves to a victim mentality. This is a subtle and deceptive negative thought pattern. Phrases like “I have to work” or “I can’t believe he did that to me” are indicators of a victim mentality. Blaming circumstances and blaming others only handicaps our decision to change something negative into something positive.

Taking full responsibility for your life, your thoughts and your actions is one of the biggest steps in creating a more positive life. We have unlimited potential within to create our own reality, change our life, and change our thoughts. When we begin to really internalize this, we discover that no one can make us feel or do anything. We choose our emotional and behavioral response to people and circumstances.

Make positive choices in favor of yourself.

“Watch your thoughts; they become words. Watch your words; they become actions. Watch your actions; they become habit. Watch your habits; they become character. Watch your character; it becomes your destiny” ― Lao Tzu

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