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5 Reasons to Place Your Marriage as Top Priority

5 Reasons to Place Your Marriage as Top Priority

During the 21st century, it seems like we are constantly busy running around working, taking care of the children, and paying the bills. Most of us (and our spouses) have a 9-5 job and our job continues when we come home. After a long day of work, we go home, cook dinner, take care of the house, and raise our children. It seems like there is no time to develop your marriage. With today’s society, placing your marriage as top priority has never been more important. You are busy working and taking care of your family. When do you take the time to develop your marriage and the relationship you have with your spouse? We continue living our life that is hectic, stressful, unsatisfying, and unfulfilling. The first and greatest commandment is LOVE. It seems like we are not giving enough love to our spouse. We are so busy with work and day-to-day stress that we place our marriage as last priority.

I don’t want you to wake up one day and realize that you should have invested more in your marriage. I want you to realize the importance of placing your marriage as top priority TODAY and take action!

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5 reasons why you NEED to place your marriage as top priority

  1. Commitment. You have made a commitment in your vows that you will be with your spouse through thick and through thin. Words are just words if we can’t show our love through our actions. It’s easy to say one thing and do the complete opposite. Your vows were taken seriously on your wedding day. What happened? The  commitment to living out your vows on a daily basis will help you place your marriage as top priority.
  2. Your children will be affected. Not only are you experiencing your marriage but so are your children. You are their role models. If you continue to argue or fight in front of your children, this will affect them. You may not see the consequences of your arguing now, but your children will be affected when they become teenagers and look for attention outside of the house.  Be a positive role model for your children as a parent and also as a united front for your marriage.
  3. United front. No matter what comes your way, you’ll know that you can rely on your spouse to support and love you. When you don’t place  your marriage as top priority, you’ll have to experience life’s challenges by yourself. Your spouse should be the one that you can bounce around ideas with and help you make the right decisions. When the two of you are working as a team, not only will you be able to get through the difficulties of life, but your marriage will deepen as a result.
  4. Decrease the possibility of infidelity. When you and your spouse have a strong, committed, and healthy relationship, you won’t have to look outside of the marriage to fulfill your needs. When you place your marriage as top priority, you will constantly be thinking, “What is best for my marriage?” Your mind won’t be wondering around and checking out other people to fulfill your needs. The two of you are fulfilled in your marriage because you have created a strong foundation and have placed your marriage as top priority.
  5. Future. What will happen when your kids grow up and have a family of their own? You’ll be spending your time with your spouse. If you haven’t placed your marriage as top priority then how you can possibly stand to be with each other when your children grow up? If you’ve invested so much emotional energy into your children instead of your spouse, what will happen when your children grow up?  People who don’t have a strong and healthy relationship with their spouse tend to invest a lot into their children. When the children grow up and have their own family, the couple is left to be with each other. This is precisely why it’s so important to place your marriage as top priority.

I understand that life can get in the way and resentment can build a big wall in between you and your spouse. Realize that you will never be able to have an open and loving relationship with your spouse if you continue to allow this wall to grow. If you have martial issues, it would be wise to seek professional help in order to chip away slowly the big wall of resentment, stress, and pain that has developed throughout the years.

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No matter where you are in your marriage, know that you still have time to strengthen and develop your relationship. It all starts with placing your marriage as top priority!

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On a final note, What are you most grateful for in your marriage? 

Until next time, Live with PASSION!

-Tiffany

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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