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5 Reasons to Place Your Marriage as Top Priority

5 Reasons to Place Your Marriage as Top Priority

During the 21st century, it seems like we are constantly busy running around working, taking care of the children, and paying the bills. Most of us (and our spouses) have a 9-5 job and our job continues when we come home. After a long day of work, we go home, cook dinner, take care of the house, and raise our children. It seems like there is no time to develop your marriage. With today’s society, placing your marriage as top priority has never been more important. You are busy working and taking care of your family. When do you take the time to develop your marriage and the relationship you have with your spouse? We continue living our life that is hectic, stressful, unsatisfying, and unfulfilling. The first and greatest commandment is LOVE. It seems like we are not giving enough love to our spouse. We are so busy with work and day-to-day stress that we place our marriage as last priority.

I don’t want you to wake up one day and realize that you should have invested more in your marriage. I want you to realize the importance of placing your marriage as top priority TODAY and take action!

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5 reasons why you NEED to place your marriage as top priority

  1. Commitment. You have made a commitment in your vows that you will be with your spouse through thick and through thin. Words are just words if we can’t show our love through our actions. It’s easy to say one thing and do the complete opposite. Your vows were taken seriously on your wedding day. What happened? The  commitment to living out your vows on a daily basis will help you place your marriage as top priority.
  2. Your children will be affected. Not only are you experiencing your marriage but so are your children. You are their role models. If you continue to argue or fight in front of your children, this will affect them. You may not see the consequences of your arguing now, but your children will be affected when they become teenagers and look for attention outside of the house.  Be a positive role model for your children as a parent and also as a united front for your marriage.
  3. United front. No matter what comes your way, you’ll know that you can rely on your spouse to support and love you. When you don’t place  your marriage as top priority, you’ll have to experience life’s challenges by yourself. Your spouse should be the one that you can bounce around ideas with and help you make the right decisions. When the two of you are working as a team, not only will you be able to get through the difficulties of life, but your marriage will deepen as a result.
  4. Decrease the possibility of infidelity. When you and your spouse have a strong, committed, and healthy relationship, you won’t have to look outside of the marriage to fulfill your needs. When you place your marriage as top priority, you will constantly be thinking, “What is best for my marriage?” Your mind won’t be wondering around and checking out other people to fulfill your needs. The two of you are fulfilled in your marriage because you have created a strong foundation and have placed your marriage as top priority.
  5. Future. What will happen when your kids grow up and have a family of their own? You’ll be spending your time with your spouse. If you haven’t placed your marriage as top priority then how you can possibly stand to be with each other when your children grow up? If you’ve invested so much emotional energy into your children instead of your spouse, what will happen when your children grow up?  People who don’t have a strong and healthy relationship with their spouse tend to invest a lot into their children. When the children grow up and have their own family, the couple is left to be with each other. This is precisely why it’s so important to place your marriage as top priority.

I understand that life can get in the way and resentment can build a big wall in between you and your spouse. Realize that you will never be able to have an open and loving relationship with your spouse if you continue to allow this wall to grow. If you have martial issues, it would be wise to seek professional help in order to chip away slowly the big wall of resentment, stress, and pain that has developed throughout the years.

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No matter where you are in your marriage, know that you still have time to strengthen and develop your relationship. It all starts with placing your marriage as top priority!

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On a final note, What are you most grateful for in your marriage? 

Until next time, Live with PASSION!

-Tiffany

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Last Updated on May 17, 2019

This Is What Happens When You Move Out Of the Comfort Zone

This Is What Happens When You Move Out Of the Comfort Zone

The pursuit of worthwhile goals is a part of what makes life enjoyable. Being able to set a goal, then see yourself progress towards achieving that goal is an amazing feeling.

But do you know the biggest obstacle for most people trying to achieve their goals, the silent dream killer that stops people before they ever even get started? That obstacle is the comfort zone, and getting stuck there is bound to derail any efforts you make towards achieving the goals you’ve set for yourself.

If you want to achieve those goals, you’ll have to break free from your comfort zone. Let’s take a look at how your life will change once you build up the courage to leave your comfort zone.

What Is the Comfort Zone?

The comfort zone is defined as “a behavioural state within which a person operates in an anxiety-neutral condition, using a limited set of behaviours to deliver a steady level of performance.”

What stands out to me the most about that definition is the last part: “using a limited set of behaviours to deliver a steady level of performance.” How many successful people do you know who deliver a steady level of performance?

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The goal in life is to continually challenge yourself, and continually improve yourself. And in order to do that, you have move out of your comfort zone. But once you do, your life will start to change in ways you could never have imagined. I know because it’s happening right now in my own life.

Here’s what I’ve learned.

1. You will be scared

Leaving your comfort zone isn’t easy. In fact, in can be downright terrifying at times, and that’s okay. It’s perfectly normal to feel a little trepidation when you’re embarking on a journey that forces you to try new things.

So don’t freak out or get overwhelmed when you feel yourself getting a little scared. It’s perfectly normal and all part of the process. What’s important is that you don’t let that fear hold you back. You must continue to take action in the face of fear.

That’s what separates winners from losers.

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2. You will fail

Stepping out of your comfort zone means you’re moving into uncharted territory. You’re trying things that you’ve never tried before, and learning things you’ve never learned before.

That steep learning curve means you’re not going to get everything right the first time, and you will eventually fail when you move out of your comfort zone. But as long as the failures aren’t catastrophic, it can actually be a good thing to fail because …

3. You will learn

Failure is the best teacher. I’ve learned more from each one of my failures than I have from each one of my successes. When you fail small, and fail often, you rapidly increase the rate at which you learn new insights and skills. And that new knowledge, if applied correctly, will eventually lead to your success.

4. You will see yourself in a different way

Once you move out of your comfort zone, you immediately prove to yourself that you’re capable of achieving more than you thought was possible. And that will change the way you see yourself.

Moving forward, you’ll have more confidence in yourself whenever you step out of your comfort zone, and that increased confidence will make it more likely that you continue to step outside your comfort zone. And each time you do, you’ll prove to yourself again and again what you’re really capable of.

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5. Your peers will see you in a different way

Whether we want to admit or not, people judge other people. And right now, people view you in a certain way, and they have a certain idea of what you’re capable of. That’s because they’ve become accustomed to seeing you operate in your comfort zone.

But once you move out of your comfort zone, you’ll prove to other people, as well, that you’re capable of much more than you’ve shown in the past.

The increased confidence other people place in you will bring about more opportunities than ever before.

6. Your comfort zone will expand

The good thing about the comfort zone is that it’s flexible and malleable. With each action you take outside of your comfort zone, it expands. And once you master that new skill or action, it eventually becomes part of your comfort zone.

This is great news for you because it means that you can constantly increase and improve upon the behaviors that you’re comfortable with. And the more tools and skills you have at your disposal, the easier it will be to achieve your goals.

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7. You will increase your concentration and focus

When you’re living inside of your comfort zone, the bulk of your actions are habitual: automatic, subconscious, and requiring limited focus.

But once you move out of your comfort zone, you no longer rely on those habitual responses. You’re forced to concentrate and focus on the new action in a way you never do in your comfort zone.

8. You will develop new skills

Moving out of your comfort zone requires that you develop new skills. One of the many benefits you’ll experience is that you’ll be stepping away from the “limited set of behaviors” and start to develop your ability and expertise in new areas.

Living inside of your comfort zone only requires a limited skill set, and those skills won’t contribute much to your success. Once you can confidently step outside of your comfort zone and learn a new skill, there’s no limit to how much you can achieve.

9. You will achieve more than before

With everything that happens once you move out of your comfort zone, you’re naturally going to achieve more than ever before.

Your increased concentration and focus will help you develop new skills. Those new skills will change the way you see yourself, encouraging you to step even further out of your comfort zone.

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