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5 Reasons to Place Your Marriage as Top Priority

5 Reasons to Place Your Marriage as Top Priority

During the 21st century, it seems like we are constantly busy running around working, taking care of the children, and paying the bills. Most of us (and our spouses) have a 9-5 job and our job continues when we come home. After a long day of work, we go home, cook dinner, take care of the house, and raise our children. It seems like there is no time to develop your marriage. With today’s society, placing your marriage as top priority has never been more important. You are busy working and taking care of your family. When do you take the time to develop your marriage and the relationship you have with your spouse? We continue living our life that is hectic, stressful, unsatisfying, and unfulfilling. The first and greatest commandment is LOVE. It seems like we are not giving enough love to our spouse. We are so busy with work and day-to-day stress that we place our marriage as last priority.

I don’t want you to wake up one day and realize that you should have invested more in your marriage. I want you to realize the importance of placing your marriage as top priority TODAY and take action!

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5 reasons why you NEED to place your marriage as top priority

  1. Commitment. You have made a commitment in your vows that you will be with your spouse through thick and through thin. Words are just words if we can’t show our love through our actions. It’s easy to say one thing and do the complete opposite. Your vows were taken seriously on your wedding day. What happened? The  commitment to living out your vows on a daily basis will help you place your marriage as top priority.
  2. Your children will be affected. Not only are you experiencing your marriage but so are your children. You are their role models. If you continue to argue or fight in front of your children, this will affect them. You may not see the consequences of your arguing now, but your children will be affected when they become teenagers and look for attention outside of the house.  Be a positive role model for your children as a parent and also as a united front for your marriage.
  3. United front. No matter what comes your way, you’ll know that you can rely on your spouse to support and love you. When you don’t place  your marriage as top priority, you’ll have to experience life’s challenges by yourself. Your spouse should be the one that you can bounce around ideas with and help you make the right decisions. When the two of you are working as a team, not only will you be able to get through the difficulties of life, but your marriage will deepen as a result.
  4. Decrease the possibility of infidelity. When you and your spouse have a strong, committed, and healthy relationship, you won’t have to look outside of the marriage to fulfill your needs. When you place your marriage as top priority, you will constantly be thinking, “What is best for my marriage?” Your mind won’t be wondering around and checking out other people to fulfill your needs. The two of you are fulfilled in your marriage because you have created a strong foundation and have placed your marriage as top priority.
  5. Future. What will happen when your kids grow up and have a family of their own? You’ll be spending your time with your spouse. If you haven’t placed your marriage as top priority then how you can possibly stand to be with each other when your children grow up? If you’ve invested so much emotional energy into your children instead of your spouse, what will happen when your children grow up?  People who don’t have a strong and healthy relationship with their spouse tend to invest a lot into their children. When the children grow up and have their own family, the couple is left to be with each other. This is precisely why it’s so important to place your marriage as top priority.

I understand that life can get in the way and resentment can build a big wall in between you and your spouse. Realize that you will never be able to have an open and loving relationship with your spouse if you continue to allow this wall to grow. If you have martial issues, it would be wise to seek professional help in order to chip away slowly the big wall of resentment, stress, and pain that has developed throughout the years.

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No matter where you are in your marriage, know that you still have time to strengthen and develop your relationship. It all starts with placing your marriage as top priority!

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On a final note, What are you most grateful for in your marriage? 

Until next time, Live with PASSION!

-Tiffany

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Last Updated on July 3, 2020

30 Small Habits To Lead A More Peaceful Life

30 Small Habits To Lead A More Peaceful Life

In today’s world, true peace must come from within us and our own actions. Here are 30 small things you can do on a regular basis to increase your overall sense of harmony, peace, and well-being:

1. Don’t go to every fight you’re invited to

Particularly when you’re around those who thrive on chaos, be willing to decline the invitation to join in on the drama.

2. Focus on your breath

Throughout the day, stop to take a few deep breaths. Keep stress at bay with techniques such as “square breathing.” Breathe in for four counts, hold for four counts, then out for four counts, and hold again for four counts. Repeat this cycle four times.

3. Get organized and purge old items

A cluttered space often creates a cluttered spirit. Take the time to get rid of anything you haven’t used in a year and invest in organizational systems that help you sustain a level of neatness.

4. Stop yourself from being judgmental

Whenever you are tempted to have an opinion about someone else’s life, check your intentions. Judging others creates and promotes negative energy.

5. Say ‘thank you’ early and often

Start and end each day with an attitude of gratitude. Look for opportunities in your daily routine and interactions to express appreciation.

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6. Smile more

Even if you have to “fake it until you make it,” there are many scientific benefits of smiling and laughing. Also, pay attention to your facial expression when you are doing neutral activities such as driving and walking. Turn that frown upside down!

7. Don’t worry about the future

As difficult as this sounds, there is a direct connection between staying in the present and living a more peaceful life. You cannot control the future. As the old proverb goes, “Worry is like a rocking chair. It gives you something to do, but it won’t get you anywhere.” Practice gently bringing your thoughts back to the present.

8. Eat real food

The closer the food is to the state from which it came from the earth, the better you will feel in eating it. Choose foods that grew from a plant over food that was made in a plant.

9. Choose being happy over being right

Too often, we sacrifice inner peace in order to make a point. It’s rarely worth it.

10. Keep technology out of the bedroom

Many studies, such as one conducted by Brigham and Women’s Hospital, have connected blue light of electronic devices before bed to adverse sleep and overall health. To make matters worse, many people report that they cannot resist checking email and social media when their cell phone is in reach of their bed, regardless of the time.

11. Make use of filtering features on social media

You may not want to “unfriend” someone completely, however you can choose whether you want to follow their posts and/or the sources of information that they share.

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12. Get comfortable with silence

When you picture someone who is the ultimate state of peace, typically they aren’t talking.

13. Listen to understand, not to respond

So often in conversations, we use our ears to give us cues about when it is our turn to say what we want to say. Practice active listening, ask questions, process, then speak.

14. Put your troubles in a bubble

Whenever you start to feel anxious, visualize the situation being wrapped in a bubble and then picture that sphere floating away.

15. Speak more slowly

Often a lack of peace manifests itself in fast or clipped speech. Take a breath, slow down, and let your thoughtful consideration drive your words.

16. Don’t procrastinate

Nothing adds stress to our lives like waiting until the last minute.

17. Buy a coloring book

Mandala coloring books for adults are becoming more popular because of their connection to creating inner peace.

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18. Prioritize yourself

You are the only person who you are guaranteed to live with 24 hours a day for the rest of your life.

19. Forgive others

Holding a grudge is hurting you exponentially more than anyone else. Let it go.

20. Check your expectations

Presumption often leads to drama. Remember the old saying, “Expectations are premeditated resentments.”

21. Engage in active play

Let your inner child come out and have some fun. Jump, dance, play, and pretend!

22. Stop criticizing yourself

The world is a hard enough place with more than enough critics. Your life is not served well by being one of them.

23. Focus your energy and attention on what you want

Thoughts, words, and actions all create energy. Energy attracts like energy. Put out what you want to get back.

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24. Assign yourself “complaint free” days.

Make a conscious decision not to complain about anything for a whole day. It might be harder than you think and the awareness will stick with you.

25. Surround yourself with people you truly enjoy being in the company of

Personalities tend to be contagious, and not everyone’s is worth catching. Be judicious in your choices.

26. Manage your money

Financial concerns rank top on the list of what causes people stress. Take the time each month to do a budget, calculate what you actually spend and sanity check that against the money you have coming in.

27. Stop trying to control everything

Not only is your inner control freak sabotaging your sense of peace, it is also likely getting in the way of external relationships as well.

28. Practice affirmations

Repeat positive phrases that depict the life and qualities you want to attract. It may not come naturally to you, but it works.

29. Get up before sunrise

Personally witnessing the dawn brings a unique sense of awe and appreciation for life.

30. Be yourself

Nothing creates more inner discord than trying to be something other than who we really are. Authenticity breeds happiness.

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