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30 Heart-Melting Love Gestures Every Woman Loves

30 Heart-Melting Love Gestures Every Woman Loves

Every woman is special and should be treated as such, especially from a man who truly loves her. In any relationship, the borderlines between his life, her life, and your life combined is thin, but that’s no excuse for eliminating good manners, sweet gestures, and meaningful actions in your love life.

Despite the stigma, chivalry isn’t dead. It’s alive and well if you decide to practice it, and it’ll mean the world to her that you did. Below is a list of 30 heartmelting gestures that will leave any man thinking more about ways to please her, and less time thinking about his embarrassing fantasy football loss last week.

1. Early in the relationship, or in pre-“mutually exclusive” stages, walk her to the car when the date is over (if she doesn’t stay the night). Who knows, it may even end in an unexpected goodnight kiss. (Bonus: text or call her to make sure she get’s home safely.)

Goodnight Kisses

    2. Texting every 5 minutes can be exhausting, but a call is more personal, easier to communicate, and can be sexy if your charisma carries well over the phone. It’s also far more courageous to ask a woman on a date with your voice and raw emotion, instead of your well thought out words via text.

    Charlie

      3. In the early stages of dating, avoid racial, homophobic, or any other slurs altogether. If this is a part of your personality that will surface later in the relationship when you’re “comfortable,” it might an opportune time to reflect on this poor choice in speech.

      Allan

        4. If you wear a casual ball cap, snapback, or fedora to a date or outing with your lover, remove the hat when you enter ANY room indoors. Sure, hat hair sucks, and rarely does someone look fly rocking it. Acting in this way, however, distinguishes you as a man of class and self confidence.

        Hat Hair

          5. When attending a fancy restaurant and she wants to look glamorous for you, kindly offer to drop her off at the front door to save her ankles. Dudes: just look at those deathtraps known as high heels? Would you want to walk 6 blocks on wet concrete after it just rained?

          Heels

            6. It’s always good practice, and good karma if that’s your thing, to treat the waiter or waitress with respect. Let her order first, offer to pay at the end (don’t insist on it too strongly), and always remember to tip onto others as you’d like to be tipped.

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            Counting Money

              7. After a meal is paid for, kindly excuse yourself from the table to go call a taxi or pull the car around up front. (Bonus: get her door.)

              Sexy Look

                8. In a social party scene with a lot of people, make it a point to introduce her first and foremost to your friends, colleagues, or business associates. Not only should you be extremely proud of this feminine fox you have on your arm, but it will also make her feel like a perfectly cut diamond.

                Hiiiiiii

                  9. Hold the door for her especially, but also for strangers. Selfless generosity is an underutilized turn on that’s super simple and effortless.

                  Holding the Door

                    10. Give uncommon, unique gifts spontaneously. Why wait for her birthday, Christmas, or Valentines day when the pressure is on? Gifts on these Hallmark holidays are expected, but the one’s that were strangely awesome and a complete surprise she’ll remember forever. (Bonus: hand make the gift.)

                    Trash

                      11. Speaking of birthdays, those are important. The significance of growing another year older, however, lessens with each passing celebration. This gives you dudes room for extreme creativity. Standard birthday partys are cool and large dinner reservations are touching, but I challenge all guys reading to think of something more. A surprise birthday party, a weekend getaway, or something of that nature. (Warning: know her likes before attempting. If she’s a social butterfly and you’d rather be alone, don’t surprise her with a 4 day backpacking trip that will remove her from friends, family, and cell reception on her special day.)

                      Surprise

                        12. Speaking of which, the digital age has made us so lazy. The convenience of texting and instant messaging makes over protection a real problem. Want a non-creepy, anti-aggressive way to remind her of your love without texting 75 times a day when you live in the same 750 square feet? Write her a love note. It can be as elaborate as the 5 pagers you used to pass Janice Hawlstruck between 2nd and 3rd period in 6th grade, or as simple as a sticky note in her lunch box. (Bonus: pack her a lunch, leave a note on the bag itself.)

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                        I love you

                          13. I want to use a whole number to drive home the point that if you text mushy, over the top lovey-dovey stuff every 5 minutes of the day when you’re separated, the “I love you’s” exchanged when you’re face to face will slowly become less and less meaningful. Don’t believe me? Try it.

                          That Look

                            14. Anything involving a puppy or kitten. (Bonus: both.)

                            Puppy and Kitten

                              15. Either late Friday night, or early Saturday morning, pack the car with camping essentials, wake her up, blindfold her, and tell her to leave her phone behind. (Bonus: have lunches/dinner packed with her favorite food items.) (Double Bonus: get a hotel unless you know for sure she’s into sleeping on the ground.)

                              Blindfold

                                16. Make casual, but intentional, flirty eye movements from across the room. In other words, this is pretty much the only scenario where winking isn’t grounds for a restraining order.

                                Wink

                                  17. If I were forced to give precedence to one of these, it’d be this: empower her. Encourage her dreams, help her attack her fears head on, and rely on each  other to grow stronger both as individuals and as a team. Ask her tough questions, and challenge her to be better every single day. I promise that this will result in mutual benefit and growth.

                                  Girl Power

                                    18. Take chances for her. Shake that booty even if you look like an idiot white boy. Cook even if you manage to burn water. Try crafts or draw a picture even though your kindergarden cousin can make a better construction paper collage than you. Your courage is sexy, and your willingness to try new things will go a long way with her. (Bonus: do things she already enjoys that are new to you.)

                                    White Dancing

                                      19. Respect the “Venn Diagram” of your relationship by offering up the house or apartment for the night so she can kick it and gossip with her girls. Why not use this as an opportunity to hit up an old friend from college, or go grab a long-waited beer with the guys?

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                                      Gossip Girl

                                        20. Befriend her parents as much as possible, and show them your true self as frequently as you can. This is a difficult dynamic for some, but even if the relationship with her and her family, or you and her family is rocky, the fact that you’re trying to be the bigger guy will go a really long way in her eyes. (Bonus: once a relationship is established, offer to do something spontaneous and nice for her parents or family without her prior knowledge.)

                                        Be Cool

                                          21. Psychological test have proven that saying someone’s name casually in conversation is a surefire way to increase the bond between those people. In fact, Dale Carnegie brilliantly states, “Remember that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.” Trust me gentlemen, she loves hearing it, too.

                                          Say My Name

                                            22. Never, ever, ever, under any circumstances, underestimate the power of tea or coffee in bed. (Bonus: utilize these three S’s: Saturdays, Sundays, and sick days.)

                                            Coffee

                                              23. Keep the private “photo messages” you share between you two exclusively. It’s disrespectful to her and makes you look immature when you share this private information with your homies as a joke or to show off.

                                              Zip It

                                                24. Make “deep belly laugh” a monthly priority at the least. I’m talking tears streaming down your face, stomach is sore from laughing so hard kind of laugh. Obviously you can’t plan these things, but put yourself in as many prime opportunities as you can to make it happen.

                                                Laughter

                                                  25. Surprise her by stopping one petty argument with a kiss. (Warning: one time use is encouraged. The cuteness rating of this moves plummets, sometimes disappearing completely, after the first time played.)

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                                                  Louie Kiss

                                                    26. Focus on her eyes, even if your heart is racing and your palms are sweaty. (Bonus: minimal glances at her chest when you’re outside of the bedroom.)

                                                    Betty

                                                      27. Get creative with pet names and compliments, and do your best to not recycle them. Just like overly-lovely text messages, a name like “babe” or “beautiful” loses it’s luster after the hundredth time. Get creative, dudes. (Tip: when complimenting, be uber specific.)

                                                      Sass

                                                        28. When walking her home after a nice date (no matter the time of day) always walk on the outside of the sidewalk, or closer to passing traffic. This will shield her from any unfortunate event, such as a terrible driver or a semi-truck showering you in drainage water. (Bonus: if you have an umbrella, use it. Let her stay under the larger portion so she says dry.)

                                                        Kangaroo

                                                          29. Offer her your coat. Nobody does that any more.

                                                          RIP

                                                            30. Stand up for her even if you both know she’s wrong. (Bonus: keep your cool when the situation get’s hectic.)

                                                            Ron Burgendy

                                                              There you have it, gentlemen. 30 tips that take very little effort, but go a very long way with her. I’m curious to hear if I missed anything. Ladies? Gents?

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                                                              30 Small Habits To Lead A More Peaceful Life

                                                              30 Small Habits To Lead A More Peaceful Life

                                                              In today’s world, true peace must come from within us and our own actions. Here are 30 small things you can do on a regular basis to increase your overall sense of harmony, peace, and well-being:

                                                              1. Don’t go to every fight you’re invited to

                                                              Particularly when you’re around those who thrive on chaos, be willing to decline the invitation to join in on the drama.

                                                              2. Focus on your breath

                                                              Throughout the day, stop to take a few deep breaths. Keep stress at bay with techniques such as “square breathing.” Breathe in for four counts, hold for four counts, then out for four counts, and hold again for four counts. Repeat this cycle four times.

                                                              3. Get organized and purge old items

                                                              A cluttered space often creates a cluttered spirit. Take the time to get rid of anything you haven’t used in a year and invest in organizational systems that help you sustain a level of neatness.

                                                              4. Stop yourself from being judgmental

                                                              Whenever you are tempted to have an opinion about someone else’s life, check your intentions. Judging others creates and promotes negative energy.

                                                              5. Say ‘thank you’ early and often

                                                              Start and end each day with an attitude of gratitude. Look for opportunities in your daily routine and interactions to express appreciation.

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                                                              6. Smile more

                                                              Even if you have to “fake it until you make it,” there are many scientific benefits of smiling and laughing. Also, pay attention to your facial expression when you are doing neutral activities such as driving and walking. Turn that frown upside down!

                                                              7. Don’t worry about the future

                                                              As difficult as this sounds, there is a direct connection between staying in the present and living a more peaceful life. You cannot control the future. As the old proverb goes, “Worry is like a rocking chair. It gives you something to do, but it won’t get you anywhere.” Practice gently bringing your thoughts back to the present.

                                                              8. Eat real food

                                                              The closer the food is to the state from which it came from the earth, the better you will feel in eating it. Choose foods that grew from a plant over food that was made in a plant.

                                                              9. Choose being happy over being right

                                                              Too often, we sacrifice inner peace in order to make a point. It’s rarely worth it.

                                                              10. Keep technology out of the bedroom

                                                              Many studies, such as one conducted by Brigham and Women’s Hospital, have connected blue light of electronic devices before bed to adverse sleep and overall health. To make matters worse, many people report that they cannot resist checking email and social media when their cell phone is in reach of their bed, regardless of the time.

                                                              11. Make use of filtering features on social media

                                                              You may not want to “unfriend” someone completely, however you can choose whether you want to follow their posts and/or the sources of information that they share.

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                                                              12. Get comfortable with silence

                                                              When you picture someone who is the ultimate state of peace, typically they aren’t talking.

                                                              13. Listen to understand, not to respond

                                                              So often in conversations, we use our ears to give us cues about when it is our turn to say what we want to say. Practice active listening, ask questions, process, then speak.

                                                              14. Put your troubles in a bubble

                                                              Whenever you start to feel anxious, visualize the situation being wrapped in a bubble and then picture that sphere floating away.

                                                              15. Speak more slowly

                                                              Often a lack of peace manifests itself in fast or clipped speech. Take a breath, slow down, and let your thoughtful consideration drive your words.

                                                              16. Don’t procrastinate

                                                              Nothing adds stress to our lives like waiting until the last minute.

                                                              17. Buy a coloring book

                                                              Mandala coloring books for adults are becoming more popular because of their connection to creating inner peace.

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                                                              18. Prioritize yourself

                                                              You are the only person who you are guaranteed to live with 24 hours a day for the rest of your life.

                                                              19. Forgive others

                                                              Holding a grudge is hurting you exponentially more than anyone else. Let it go.

                                                              20. Check your expectations

                                                              Presumption often leads to drama. Remember the old saying, “Expectations are premeditated resentments.”

                                                              21. Engage in active play

                                                              Let your inner child come out and have some fun. Jump, dance, play, and pretend!

                                                              22. Stop criticizing yourself

                                                              The world is a hard enough place with more than enough critics. Your life is not served well by being one of them.

                                                              23. Focus your energy and attention on what you want

                                                              Thoughts, words, and actions all create energy. Energy attracts like energy. Put out what you want to get back.

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                                                              24. Assign yourself “complaint free” days.

                                                              Make a conscious decision not to complain about anything for a whole day. It might be harder than you think and the awareness will stick with you.

                                                              25. Surround yourself with people you truly enjoy being in the company of

                                                              Personalities tend to be contagious, and not everyone’s is worth catching. Be judicious in your choices.

                                                              26. Manage your money

                                                              Financial concerns rank top on the list of what causes people stress. Take the time each month to do a budget, calculate what you actually spend and sanity check that against the money you have coming in.

                                                              27. Stop trying to control everything

                                                              Not only is your inner control freak sabotaging your sense of peace, it is also likely getting in the way of external relationships as well.

                                                              28. Practice affirmations

                                                              Repeat positive phrases that depict the life and qualities you want to attract. It may not come naturally to you, but it works.

                                                              29. Get up before sunrise

                                                              Personally witnessing the dawn brings a unique sense of awe and appreciation for life.

                                                              30. Be yourself

                                                              Nothing creates more inner discord than trying to be something other than who we really are. Authenticity breeds happiness.

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