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23 Things You Haven’t Let Go Of That Make Your Life Tougher

23 Things You Haven’t Let Go Of That Make Your Life Tougher

Do you feel like your life is so damn hard? Everyone has a common goal in life: to live a simple, happy life. However, for most people life is tough. Surprisingly, the biggest factor that makes our lives tough is ourselves. We put limitations on ourselves every day, whether we realize it or not. It is very important to stop making things complicated and tougher than it really is. Remember, life can either be something that you embrace or something you hide from. Life would be so much easier if we just let go of certain things. Here are 23 things that you need to let go of to make your life easier:

1. Let go of worrying about everyone else’s opinions of you.

None of their opinions about you matter, the only one that matter is your own belief. You are in control of your own life.

2. Let go of all your empty complaints.

Complaints do not solve your problems. So, stop complaining about your situation and start taking action to improve your life.

3. Let go of anger or resentment.

Learn how to forgive people that have wronged you. Keeping the anger will only harm you.

4. Let go of lazy attitudes and routines.

Laziness is one of the worst hitngs in this world. Do not let laziness stop you from reaching your dreams. Start creating routines that will improve your life.

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5. Let go of the excuses.

Nothing is impossible. For every problem that you have, there are other people who experience similar problems. And if they are able to conquer it, so can you.

6. Let go of the idea of perfection.

Nothing in this world is perfect. Actually, by trying to achieve perfection, usually you will end up frustrated and it becomes even harder to reach your goal.

7. Let go of thinking you should always get what you want.

Most of the time, what you want is not exactly what you need. Believe that everything happens for a reason, and be a positive-thinker.

8. Let go of the notion that life is fair.

Life should not be fair. If life was fair there would be no winners and no losers. Life needs to be not fair so that we can prosper. If you think about it, it is a good thing that life is not fair.

9. Let go of insecurity.

Being insecure will only make your life tougher. Learn to let go of insecurity, radiate confidence, and give positive vibes to the people around you.

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10. Let go of thinking there is a perfect time.

There’s a saying that the best time to plant a tree is 20 years ago and the next best time is today. So do not wait for a “perfect time” to do what you have always wanted to do.

11. Let go of the need to always feel comfortable.

You grow the most when you are leaving your comfort zone, so actually you should feel good that you are feeling uncomfortable, because that’s exactly what you need to grow as a person.

12. Let go of thinking you have to know everything first.

Do not burden yourself by thinking that you need to know everything before you even started it. Most of the times, the experts are people who started with little knowledge, and they gained the expertise along their journey.

13. Let go of expectations.

Managing your expectations is the key to happiness. Do not expect a certain result from any given situation. Go into an experience with an open mind. This will allow you to fully immerse yourself, without the pressure of living up to preconceived notions.

14. Let go of your past mistakes.

Whatever happened in the past has already happened. Dwelling about it will change nothing, so you might as well move on and make sure you don’t make the same mistake in the future.

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15. Let go of excessive worrying.

Worrying does nothing good to you. Stop worrying and start living, because people who worry too much will end up doing nothing.

16. Let go of wanting stuff you don’t need.

Sometimes, it is better to own less things. It results in less clutter, and it enables you to be more focused on things that really matter.

17. Let go of negative influences.

You are the average of five people you spend most time with, so surround yourself with positive people. Do not let negative people bring you down.

18. Let go of ugly words.

Keep your mouth cool even though you are angry. Most people will regret hurtful things that they said when they were angry.

19. Let go of your superficial judgments.

You have no idea what is going on in another person’s live, so who are you to pass judgement on the way they act?

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20. Let go of trying to change others.

Most of the time, it is impossible to try to change others. Do your best, but if they don’t change, you need to either just accept who they are or choose to live without them.

21. Let go of one-sided relationships.

There’s a million other people out there. You simply deserve better.

22. Let go of hating your own body.

It’s not wrong to dream of a better body, but don’t let yourself hate your current looks. Hating your current looks only result in frustration, and you don’t want that. Instead, you want to be calm and composed: stop relying on willpower, learn the right information, and develop systems.

23. Let go of the attachment to money.

Money is definitely good to have, but once our basic needs and saving goals are met, it’s time to evaluate the trade off of earning more and more. Do not let yourself sacrifice health and relationships in exchange for money.

Letting go of something that has been developed as a habit is hard. When you trust a broken set of habits everyday, it’s only a matter of time before you feel broken too. Hence, it is useful to understand the science behind how a habit is created in order to change your own habit. So, what will you let go of today? Let me know in the comment sections below.

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Last Updated on March 14, 2019

7 Questions to Ask in a Job Interview That Will Impress the Interviewer

7 Questions to Ask in a Job Interview That Will Impress the Interviewer

Recruiters might hold thousands of interviews in their careers and a lot of them are reporting the same thing—that most candidates play it safe with the questions they ask, or have no questions to ask in a job interview at all.

For job applicants, this approach is crazy! This is a job that you’re going to dedicate a lot of hours to and that might have a huge impact on your future career. Don’t throw away the chance to figure out if the position is perfect for you.

Here are 7 killer questions to ask in a job interview that will both impress your counterpart and give you some really useful insights into whether this job will be a dream … or a nightmare.

1. What are some challenges I might come up against this role?

A lesser candidate might ask, “what does a typical day look like in this role?” While this is a perfectly reasonable question to ask in an interview, focusing on potential challenges takes you much further because it indicates that you already are visualizing yourself in the role.

It’s impressive because it shows that you are not afraid of challenges, and you are prepared to strategize a game plan upfront to make sure you succeed if you get the job.

It can also open up a conversation about how you’ve solved problems in the past which can be a reassuring exercise for both you and the hiring manager.

How it helps you:

If you ask the interviewer to describe a typical day, you may get a vibrant picture of all the lovely things you’ll get to do in this job and all the lovely people you’ll get to do them with.

Asking about potential roadblocks means you hear the other side of the story—dysfunctional teams, internal politics, difficult clients, bootstrap budgets and so on. This can help you decide if you’re up for the challenge or whether, for the sake of your sanity, you should respectfully decline the job offer.

2. What are the qualities of really successful people in this role?

Employers don’t want to hire someone who goes through the motions; they want to hire someone who will excel.

Asking this question shows that you care about success, too. How could they not hire you with a dragon-slayer attitude like that?

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How it helps you:

Interviewers hire people who are great people to work with, but the definition of “great people” differs from person to person.

Does this company hire and promote people with a specific attitude, approach, worth ethic or communication style? Are the most successful people in this role strong extroverts who love to talk and socialize when you are studious and reserved? Does the company reward those who work insane hours when you’re happiest in a more relaxed environment?

If so, then this may not be the right match for you.

Whatever the answer is, you can decide whether you have what it takes for the manager to be happy with your performance in this role. And if the interviewer has no idea what success looks like for this position, this is a sign to proceed with extreme caution.

3. From the research I did on your company, I noticed the culture really supports XYZ. Can you tell me more about that element of the culture and how it impacts this job role?

Of course, you could just ask “what is the culture like here? ” but then you would miss a great opportunity to show that you’ve done your research!

Interviewers give BIG bonus point to those who read up and pay attention, and you’ve just pointed out that (a) you’re diligent in your research (b) you care about the company culture and (c) you’re committed to finding a great cultural fit.

How it helps you:

This question is so useful because it lets you pick an element of the culture that you really care about and that will have the most impact on whether you are happy with the organization.

For example, if training and development is important to you, then you need to know what’s on offer so you don’t end up in a dead-end job with no learning opportunities.

Companies often talk a good talk, and their press releases may be full of shiny CSR initiatives and all the headline-grabbing diversity programs they’re putting in place. This is your opportunity to look under the hood and see if the company lives its values on the ground.

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A company that says it is committed to doing the right thing by customers should not judge success by the number of up-sells an employee makes, for instance. Look for consistency, so you aren’t in for a culture shock after you start.

4. What is the promotion path for this role, and how would my performance on that path be measured?

To be clear, you are not asking when you will get promoted. Don’t go there—it’s presumptuous, and it indicates that you think you are better than the role you have applied for.

A career-minded candidate, on the other hand, usually has a plan that she’s working towards. This question shows you have a great drive toward growth and advancement and an intention to stick with the company beyond your current state.

How it helps you:

One word: hierarchy.

All organizations have levels of work and authority—executives, upper managers, line managers, the workforce, and so on. Understanding the hierarchical structure gives you power, because you can decide if you can work within it and are capable of climbing through its ranks, or whether it will be endlessly frustrating to you.

In a traditional pyramid hierarchy, for example, the people at the bottom tend to have very little autonomy to make decisions. This gets better as you rise up through the pyramid, but even middle managers have little power to create policy; they are more concerned with enforcing the rules the top leaders make.

If having a high degree of autonomy and accountability is important to you, you may do better in a flat hierarchy where work teams can design their own way of achieving the corporate goals.

5. What’s the most important thing the successful candidate could accomplish in their first 3 months/6 months/year?

Of all the questions to ask in a job interview, this one is impressive because it shows that you identify with and want to be a successful performer, and not just an average one.

Here, you’re drilling down into what the company needs, and needs quite urgently, proving that you’re all about adding value to the organization and not just about what’s in it for you.

How it helps you:

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Most job descriptions come with 8, 10 or 12 different job responsibilities and a lot of them with be boilerplate or responsibilities that someone in HR thinks are associated with this role. This question gives you a better sense of which responsibilities are the most important—and they may not be what initially attracted you to the role.

If you like the idea of training juniors, for example, but success is judged purely on your sales figures, then is this really the job you thought you were applying for?

This question will also give you an idea of what kind of learning curve you’re expected to have and whether you’ll get any ramp-up time before getting down to business. If you’re the type of person who likes to jump right in and get things done, for instance, you may not be thrilled to hear that you’re going to spend the first three months shadowing a peer.

6. What do you like about working here?

This simple question is all about building rapport with the interviewer. People like to talk about themselves, and the interviewer will be flattered that you’re interested in her opinions.

Hopefully, you’ll find some great connection points that the two of you share. What similar things drive you head into the office each day? How will you fit into the culture?

How it helps you:

You can learn a lot from this question. Someone who genuinely enjoys his job will be able to list several things they like, and their answers will sound passionate and sincere. If not….well, you might consider that a red flag.

Since you potentially can learn a lot about the company culture from this question, it’s a good idea to figure out upfront what’s important to you. Maybe you’re looking for a hands-off boss who values independent thought and creativity? Maybe you work better in environments that move at a rapid, exciting pace?

Whatever’s important to you, listen carefully and see if you can find any common ground.

7. Based on this interview, do you have any questions or concerns about my qualifications for the role?

What a great closing question to ask in a job interview! It shows that you’re not afraid of feedback—in fact, you are inviting it. Not being able to take criticism is a red flag for employers, who need to know that you’ll act on any “coaching moments” with a good heart.

As a bonus, asking this question shows that you are really interested in the position and wish to clear up anything that may be holding the company back from hiring you.

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How it helps you:

What a devious beast this question is! On the surface, it looks straightforward, but it’s actually giving you four key pieces of information.

First, is the manager capable of giving you feedback when put on the spot like this? Some managers are scared of giving feedback, or don’t think it’s important enough to bother outside of a formal performance appraisal. Do you want to work for a boss like that? How will you improve if no one is telling you what you did wrong?

Second, can the manager give feedback in a constructive way without being too pillowy or too confrontational? It’s unfair to expect the interviewer to have figured out your preferred way of receiving feedback in the space of an interview, but if she come back with a machine-gun fire of shortcomings or one of those corporate feedback “sandwiches” (the doozy slipped between two slices of compliment), then you need to ask yourself, can you work with someone who gives feedback like that?

Third, you get to learn the things the hiring manager is concerned about before you leave the interview. This gives you the chance to make a final, tailored sales pitch so you can convince the interviewer that she should not be worried about those things.

Fourth, you get to learn the things the hiring manager is concerned about period. If turnover is keeping him up at night, then your frequent job hopping might get a lot of additional scrutiny. If he’s facing some issues with conflict or communication, then he might raise concerns regarding your performance in this area.

Listen carefully: the concerns that are being raised about you might actually be a proxy for problems in the wider organization.

Making Your Interview Work for You

Interviews are a two-way street. While it is important to differentiate yourself from every other candidate, understand that convincing the interviewer you’re the right person for the role goes hand-in-hand with figuring out if the job is the right fit for you.

Would you feel happy in a work environment where the people, priorities, culture and management style were completely at odds with the way you work? Didn’t think so!

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