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20 Thoughts About Happiness That Will Improve Your Mood

20 Thoughts About Happiness That Will Improve Your Mood

Your happiness should not be dependent on any person but yourself. If you’re feeling down, these twenty thoughts about happiness should improve your mood.

“Don’t cry because it’s over, smile because it happened.” ― Dr. Seuss

Memories will forever live in your heart, no matter how brief the experience might have been, so be thankful that you can reminisce at any time you choose.

“Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.” ― Dalai Lama

Complaining is a fool’s errand, because you can’t expect your dreams to come true if you’re not willing to pursue them relentlessly.

“To be happy, we must not be too concerned with others.” ― Albert Camus

The secret to happiness is to appreciate the people who “get” you, while having no concern with the rest.

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“Caring about others, running the risk of feeling, and leaving an impact on people, brings happiness.” ― Harold Kushner

It is understandable to be afraid of opening up if you’ve been hurt in the past, but authentic connection cannot be established if you’re not willing to be vulnerable.

“Folks are usually about as happy as they make their minds up to be.” ― Abraham Lincoln

Happiness isn’t a destination, but rather a choice.

“It’s so hard to forget pain, but it’s even harder to remember sweetness. We have no scar to show for happiness. We learn so little from peace.” ― Chuck Palahniuk

Painful experiences tend to stick out more vividly than peaceful ones, so pursue an art or craft that allows you to release your pain in a productive way.

“Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.” ― Mahatma Gandhi

Strive for harmony in your thoughts and actions, because behaving in a way that opposes our beliefs can produce a hell of an identity crisis.

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“Happiness in intelligent people is the rarest thing I know.” ― Ernest Hemingway

I often wish I could forget about injustices and troubling facts about the society we live in… when thinking about this makes me depressed, I remind myself of this affirmation: positive actions trump negative thoughts every time.

“I am determined to be cheerful and happy in whatever situation I may find myself. For I have learned that the greater part of our misery or unhappiness is determined not by our circumstance but by our disposition.” ― Martha Washington

When it seems like a dark cloud is overhead, remember that even the most severe storms are temporary.

“Happiness is having a large, loving, caring, close-knit family in another city.” ― George Burns

Appreciating your family is essential, but it is also wise to distance yourself as necessary for your mental health and sanity.

“Everything has its wonders, even darkness and silence, and I learn, whatever state I may be in, therein to be content.” ― Helen Keller

Before you complain about first world problems, consider that many people living in third world countries are more satisfied with their life than you are.

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“The moments of happiness we enjoy take us by surprise. It is not that we seize them, but that they seize us.” ― Ashley Montagu

Life is not meant to be a choreographed routine, but rather an exciting adventure.

“You can’t be happy unless you’re unhappy sometimes.” ― Lauren Oliver

How do you propose you would appreciate the emotional “highs” of your life without some “lows” to put them in perspective?

“Don’t underestimate the value of doing nothing, of just going along, listening to all the things you can’t hear, and not bothering.” ― Winnie the Pooh

If you feel like you always have to be doing something, then you will never comprehend how freeing silence can be.

“Sometimes your joy is the source of your smile, but sometimes your smile can be the source of your joy.” ― Thich Nhat Hanh

Smile (even if you don’t feel like it), because it is scientifically proven to make you feel better.

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“Happy people plan actions, they don’t plan results.” ― Dennis Waitley

The result of your work will never reflect your expectations, so it is better to focus on enjoying the process than achieving a specific result.

“The best way to cheer yourself is to try to cheer somebody else up.” ― Mark Twain

Brightening another person’s day will make you feel infinitely better than wallowing in your own misery.

“Nobody really cares if you’re miserable, so you might as well be happy.” ― Cynthia Nelms

Letting people get to you will only encourage them to bother you, while smiling in the face of criticism will show them how powerful you really are.

“There is no cosmetic for beauty like happiness.” ― Lady Blessington

A loving spirit and positive attitude will make you more attractive than any amount of weight-loss ever could.

“A truly happy person is one who can enjoy the scenery while on a detour.” ― Author Unknown

Don’t be afraid of the unexpected, because life comes equipped with twists and turns you will never be able to predict.

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Daniel is a writer who focuses on blogging about happiness and motivation at Lifehack.

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How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

For all our social media bravado, we live in a society where communication is seen less as an art, and more as a perfunctory exercise. We spend so much time with people, yet we struggle with how to meaningfully communicate.

If you believe you have mastered effective communication, scan the list below and see whether you can see yourself in any of the examples:

Example 1

You are uncomfortable with a person’s actions or comments, and rather than telling the individual immediately, you sidestep the issue and attempt to move on as though the offending behavior or comment never happened.

You move on with the relationship and develop a pattern of not addressing challenging situations. Before long, the person with whom you are in relationship will say or do something that pushes you over the top and predictably, you explode or withdraw completely from the relationship.

In this example, hard-to-speak truths become never- expressed truths that turn into resentment and anger.

Example 2

You communicate from the head and without emotion. While what you communicate makes perfect sense to you, it comes across as cold because it lacks emotion.

People do not understand what motivates you to say what you say, and without sharing your feelings and emotions, others experience you as rude, cold or aggressive.

You will know this is a problem if people shy away from you, ignore your contributions in meetings or tell you your words hurt. You can also know you struggle in this area if you find yourself constantly apologizing for things you have said.

Example 3

You have an issue with one person, but you communicate your problem to an entirely different person.

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The person in whom you confide lacks the authority to resolve the matter troubling you, and while you have vented and expressed frustration, the underlying challenge is unresolved.

Example 4

You grew up in a family with destructive communication habits and those habits play out in your current relationships.

Because you have never stopped to ask why you communicate the way you do and whether your communication style still works, you may lack understanding of how your words impact others and how to implement positive change.

If you find yourself in any of the situations described above, this article is for you.

Communication can build or decimate worlds and it is important we get it right. Regardless of your professional aspirations or personal goals, you can improve your communication skills if you:

  • Understand your own communication style
  • Tailor your style depending on the needs of the audience
  • Communicate with precision and care
  • Be mindful of your delivery, timing and messenger

1. Understand Your Communication Style

To communicate effectively, you must understand the communication legacy passed down from our parents, grandparents or caregivers. Each of us grew up with spoken and unspoken rules about communication.

In some families, direct communication is practiced and honored. In other families, family members are encouraged to shy away from difficult conversations. Some families appreciate open and frank dialogue and others do not. Other families practice silence about substantive matters, that is, they seldom or rarely broach difficult conversations at all.

Before you can appreciate the nuance required in communication, it helps to know the familial patterns you grew up with.

2. Learn Others Communication Styles

Communicating effectively requires you to take a step back, assess the intended recipient of your communication and think through how the individual prefers to be communicated with. Once you know this, you can tailor your message in a way that increases the likelihood of being heard. This also prevents you from assuming the way you communicate with one group is appropriate or right for all groups or people.

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If you are unsure how to determine the styles of the groups or persons with whom you are interacting, you can always ask them:

“How do you prefer to receive information?”

This approach requires listening, both to what the individuals say as well as what is unspoken. Virgin Group CEO Richard Branson noted that the best communicators are also great listeners.

To communicate effectively from relationship to relationship and situation to situation, you must understand the communication needs of others.

3. Exercise Precision and Care

A recent engagement underscored for me the importance of exercising care when communicating.

On a recent trip to Ohio, I decided to meet up with an old friend to go for a walk. As we strolled through the soccer park, my friend gently announced that he had something to talk about, he was upset with me. His introduction to the problem allowed me to mentally shift gears and prepare for the conversation.

Shortly after introducing the shift in conversation, my friend asked me why I didn’t invite him to the launch party for my business. He lives in Ohio and I live in the D.C. area.

I explained that the event snuck up on me, and I only started planning the invite list three weeks before the event. Due to the last-minute nature of the gathering, I opted to invite people in the DMV area versus my friends from outside the area – I didn’t want to be disrespectful by asking them to travel on such short notice.

I also noted that I didn’t want to be disappointed if he and others declined to come to the event. So I played it safe in terms of inviting people who were local.

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In the moment, I felt the conversation went very well. I also checked in with my friend a few days after our walk, affirmed my appreciation for his willingness to communicate his upset and our ability to work through it.

The way this conversation unfolded exemplified effective communication. My friend approached me with grace and vulnerability. He approached me with a level of curiosity that didn’t put me on my heels — I was able to really listen to what he was saying, apologize for how my decision impacted him and vow that going forward, I would always ask rather than making decisions for him and others.

Our relationship is intact, and I now have information that will help me become a better friend to him and others.

4. Be Mindful of Delivery, Timing and Messenger

Communicating effectively also requires thinking through the delivery of the message one intends to communicate as well as the appropriate time for the discussion.

In an Entrepreneur.com column, VIP Contributor Deep Patel, noted that persons interested in communicating well need to master the art of timing. Patel noted,[1]

“Great comedians, like all great communicators, are able to feel out their audience to determine when to move on to a new topic or when to reiterate an idea.”

Communicating effectively also requires thoughtfulness about the messenger. A person prone to dramatic, angry outbursts should never be called upon to deliver constructive feedback, especially to people whom they do not know. The immediate aftermath of a mass shooting is not the ideal time to talk about the importance of the Second Amendment rights.

Like everyone else, I must work to ensure my communication is layered with precision and care.

It requires precision because words must be carefully tailored to the person with whom you are speaking.

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It requires intentionality because before one communicates, one should think about the audience and what the audience needs in order to hear your message the way you intended it to be communicated.

It requires active listening which is about hearing verbal and nonverbal messages.

Even though we may be right in what we say, how we say it could derail the impact of the message and the other parties’ ability to hear the message.

Communicating with care is also about saying things that the people in our life need to hear and doing so with love.

The Bottom Line

When I left the meeting with my dear friend, I wondered if I was replicating or modeling this level of openness and transparency in the rest of my relationships.

I was intrigued and appreciative. He’d clearly thought about what he wanted to say to me, picked the appropriate time to share his feedback and then delivered it with care. He hit the ball out of the park and I’m hopeful we all do the same.

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