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20 Things You Should Stop Doing Now to Make Your Life At 50 Amazing

20 Things You Should Stop Doing Now to Make Your Life At 50 Amazing

Have you pictured and do you have a clear vision of how you want your 50s to be like? Here are some things you should stop doing that will make your 50s amazing.

1. Stop staring at the hole rather than the doughnut

For your 50s to be amazing you should start looking at it with hope. Be optimistic and positive about the future.

2. Stop procrastinating

You do not get much done from waiting for the perfect time. Procrastination is a thief of time. You need to start taking action.

3. Stop taking your health for granted

You need to take care of your body. Build an active lifestyle now. According to Warren Buffet who started building his wealth early, your body is your vehicle to your ripe and mature age of 50.

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4. Stop spending more than you earn

You really do not want to grow old without having money in the bank or something to fall back on. Try and save or invest and see that you’re the little money you can put outside grows. This secret is popular amongst the rich and the famous.

5. Stop making excuses

You want to have kids, build a house, write a book or see the world. Don’t make any excuses about it. Follow your dreams and focus on how you can make these things real!

6. Stop being in the wrong relationships

You are an average of your five closest friends. You do not need to be in a toxic relationship. Rather be in relationships that build you up and make you become better. Always filter your relationships.

7. Stop picking things over experiences

There is the allure of having luxurious possessions and buying gadgets. But if you want to be happier and cherish some memorable moments you should invest in experiences.

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8. Stop beating yourself up

Yes you are going to make mistakes and many of the things you thought were right might have turned out wrong. We are all caught in our folly sometimes, but there is no sense in beating yourself about it.

9. Stop trying to please everyone

Yes you may try to please some people, perhaps when it counts. Yet you should know that you can never please everyone. Rather the best person to please should be yourself.

10. Stop spending your time poorly

Time management is key to making your 50s amazing. Make your time count. Read books, travel and learn. You should not be consumed in the wrong activities or that does not take you in the direction your life must go.

11. Stop being un-thankful

We should all be thankful for something. Even the small things that have been offered to you should be enough to spur you into being grateful.

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12. Stop comparing yourself to others

We all have different genes and are meant to live different lives. What applies to X doesn’t apply to Y. Try living your life rather than comparing yourself to others.

13. Stop trying to buy happiness

Happiness cannot be bought. Many things that will make you happy are free and reachable. Rather than letting the world define what happiness should mean for you, state your position clearly.

14. Stop feeling sorry for yourself

There is no need in playing the victim all the time. Rather accept responsibility for what goes wrong and move on.

15. Stop envying others

You would gain nothing from being jealous of others rather your self esteem and ego would be bruised. Understand that you are unique in a beautiful way.

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16. Stop trying to take the easy way out

Accomplishments that are worthwhile and enriching do take time and hard work. You should focus on seeing your tasks and projects to completion and fruition rather than looking for the easy way out.

17. Stop finding faults in others

As much as you can forgive yourself for your mistakes, learn to forgive others and let go of wrongs. No one is perfect and finding faults in others doesn’t help your confidence.

18. Stop running away from problems

It is always easier to turn your back and flee from things that seem to tough to handle. Yet defining happiness when you reach 50 will require you to have faced many of your problems rather than running away from them.

19. Stop leaning on others to make you happy

Your happiness should be determined by you and not by others standard of you. Try and be tough and easy on yourself as well.

20. Stop asking the wrong questions

You won’t want to be consumed in the “what ifs?” and “why me?” Ask the right questions that would solve problems like “what can I do?” “What do I need?” and you would be on your way to an amazing 50s.

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Last Updated on January 15, 2021

7 Ways To Have More Confident Body Language

7 Ways To Have More Confident Body Language

The popular idiomatic saying that “actions speak louder than words” has been around for centuries, but even to this day, most people struggle with at least one area of nonverbal communication. Consequently, many of us aspire to have more confident body language but don’t have the knowledge and tools necessary to change what are largely unconscious behaviors.

Given that others’ perceptions of our competence and confidence are predominantly influenced by what we do with our faces and bodies, it’s important to develop greater self-awareness and consciously practice better posture, stance, eye contact, facial expressions, hand movements, and other aspects of body language.

Posture

First things first: how is your posture? Let’s start with a quick self-assessment of your body.

  • Are your shoulders slumped over or rolled back in an upright posture?
  • When you stand up, do you evenly distribute your weight or lean excessively to one side?
  • Does your natural stance place your feet relatively shoulder-width apart or are your feet and legs close together in a closed-off position?
  • When you sit, does your lower back protrude out in a slumped position or maintain a straight, spine-friendly posture in your seat?

All of these are important considerations to make when evaluating and improving your posture and stance, which will lead to more confident body language over time. If you routinely struggle with maintaining good posture, consider buying a posture trainer/corrector, consulting a chiropractor or physical therapist, stretching daily, and strengthening both your core and back muscles.

Facial Expressions

Are you prone to any of the following in personal or professional settings?

  • Bruxism (tight, clenched jaw or grinding teeth)
  • Frowning and/or furrowing brows
  • Avoiding direct eye contact and/or staring at the ground

If you answered “yes” to any of these, then let’s start by examining various ways in which you can project confident body language through your facial expressions.

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1. Understand How Others Perceive Your Facial Expressions

A December 2020 study by UC Berkeley and Google researchers utilized a deep neural network to analyze facial expressions in six million YouTube clips representing people from over 140 countries. The study found that, despite socio-cultural differences, people around the world tended to use about 70% of the same facial expressions in response to different emotional stimuli and situations.[1]

The study’s researchers also published a fascinating interactive map to demonstrate how their machine learning technology assessed various facial expressions and determined subtle differences in emotional responses.

This study highlights the social importance of facial expressions because whether or not we’re consciously aware of them—by gazing into a mirror or your screen on a video conferencing platform—how we present our faces to others can have tremendous impacts on their perceptions of us, our confidence, and our emotional states. This awareness is the essential first step towards

2. Relax Your Face

New research on bruxism and facial tension found the stresses and anxieties of Covid-19 lockdowns led to considerable increases in orofacial pain, jaw-clenching, and teeth grinding, particularly among women.[2]

The National Institute of Dental and Craniofacial Research estimates that more than 10 million Americans alone have temporomandibular joint dysfunction (TMJ syndrome), and facial tension can lead to other complications such as insomnia, wrinkles, dry skin, and dark, puffy bags under your eyes.[3])

To avoid these unpleasant outcomes, start practicing progressive muscle relaxation techniques and taking breaks more frequently throughout the day to moderate facial tension.[4] You should also try out some biofeedback techniques to enhance your awareness of involuntary bodily processes like facial tension and achieve more confident body language as a result.[5]

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3. Improve Your Eye Contact

Did you know there’s an entire subfield of kinesic communication research dedicated to eye movements and behaviors called oculesics?[6] It refers to various communication behaviors including direct eye contact, averting one’s gaze, pupil dilation/constriction, and even frequency of blinking. All of these qualities can shape how other people perceive you, which means that eye contact is yet another area of nonverbal body language that we should be more mindful of in social interactions.

The ideal type (direct/indirect) and duration of eye contact depends on a variety of factors, such as cultural setting, differences in power/authority/age between the parties involved, and communication context. Research has shown that differences in the effects of eye contact are particularly prominent when comparing East Asian and Western European/North American cultures.[7]

To improve your eye contact with others, strive to maintain consistent contact for at least 3 to 4 seconds at a time, consciously consider where you’re looking while listening to someone else, and practice eye contact as much as possible (as strange as this may seem in the beginning, it’s the best way to improve).

3. Smile More

There are many benefits to smiling and laughing, and when it comes to working on more confident body language, this is an area that should be fun, low-stakes, and relatively stress-free.

Smiling is associated with the “happiness chemical” dopamine and the mood-stabilizing hormone, serotonin. Many empirical studies have shown that smiling generally leads to positive outcomes for the person smiling, and further research has shown that smiling can influence listeners’ perceptions of our confidence and trustworthiness as well.

4. Hand Gestures

Similar to facial expressions and posture, what you do with your hands while speaking or listening in a conversation can significantly influence others’ perceptions of you in positive or negative ways.

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It’s undoubtedly challenging to consciously account for all of your nonverbal signals while simultaneously trying to stay engaged with the verbal part of the discussion, but putting in the effort to develop more bodily awareness now will make it much easier to unconsciously project more confident body language later on.

5. Enhance Your Handshake

In the article, “An Anthropology of the Handshake,” University of Copenhagen social anthropology professor Bjarke Oxlund assessed the future of handshaking in wake of the Covid-19 pandemic:[8]

“Handshakes not only vary in function and meaning but do so according to social context, situation and scale. . . a public discussion should ensue on the advantages and disadvantages of holding on to the tradition of shaking hands as the conventional gesture of greeting and leave-taking in a variety of circumstances.”

It’s too early to determine some of the ways in which Covid-19 has permanently changed our social norms and professional etiquette standards, but it’s reasonable to assume that handshaking may retain its importance in American society even after this pandemic. To practice more confident body language in the meantime, the video on the science of the perfect handshake below explains what you need to know.

6. Complement Your Verbals With Hand Gestures

As you know by now, confident communication involves so much more than simply smiling more or sounding like you know what you’re talking about. What you do with your hands can be particularly influential in how others perceive you, whether you’re fidgeting with an object, clenching your fists, hiding your hands in your pockets, or calmly gesturing to emphasize important points you’re discussing.

Social psychology researchers have found that “iconic gestures”—hand movements that appear to be meaningfully related to the speaker’s verbal content—can have profound impacts on listeners’ information retention. In other words, people are more likely to engage with you and remember more of what you said when you speak with complementary hand gestures instead of just your voice.[9]

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Further research on hand gestures has shown that even your choice of the left or right hand for gesturing can influence your ability to clearly convey information to listeners, which supports the notion that more confident body language is readily achievable through greater self-awareness and deliberate nonverbal actions.[10]

Final Takeaways

Developing better posture, enhancing your facial expressiveness, and practicing hand gestures can vastly improve your communication with other people. At first, it will be challenging to consciously practice nonverbal behaviors that many of us are accustomed to performing daily without thinking about them.

If you ever feel discouraged, however, remember that there’s no downside to consistently putting in just a little more time and effort to increase your bodily awareness. With the tips and strategies above, you’ll be well on your way to embracing more confident body language and amplifying others’ perceptions of you in no time.

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