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20 Reasons Why You Should Date Solo Women Travelers

20 Reasons Why You Should Date Solo Women Travelers

Women who travel alone have experienced the world in completely unique ways. They develop traits that shape them into strong women. Having said that, they have a lot of characteristics that help relationships grow and flourish. Below are reasons you should date women who travel alone.

1. They are independent

It’s seems like the most obvious one, but it’s true. Women who travel alone don’t depend on anyone to get their work done. They are used to depending on themselves and when they are in relationships it’s no different. They don’t depend solely on their partners and contribute equally which makes for a good relationship.

2. They are patient

Hours of waiting around, flight connections, and misplaced baggage makes them incredibly patient. They are used to facing chaotic situations and are able to maintain their composure. When they are in relationships, this patience allows them to be calmer in the face of any issues that arise.

3. They aren’t afraid of being alone

They enjoy quiet solitude from time to time because they are used to being in empty airports at the crack of dawn. When they are in relationships, they like having time to themselves and are fine with being alone. In relationships, they don’t mind having time apart from their partners, which makes for a healthy relationship.

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4. They are good problem solvers

Because they have been faced with countless issues whilst traveling alone, they have had to deal with them alone and have developed good problem solving skills. This helps them tackle day to day issues with ease. When in relationships, they are able to prevent any arguments from starting by solving problems before they start.

5. They look at the world differently

Because they have traveled alone, they have spent a lot of time reflecting and absorbing the beauty of the world. They are able to look passed small flaws and see the bigger picture. When in relationships, this allows them to be more accepting as they understand that flaws are part of being human.

6. They are appreciative

They are used to being by themselves and so they are used to doing things for themselves. They don’t expect anything of anyone. This makes them appreciate it when their partners do simple things for them. Appreciation makes for good relationships.

7. They are comfortable with change

Women who travel alone are constantly in changing environments. They are able to adapt to changes quickly. When they are in relationships, sudden changes in circumstance don’t upset them and they are able to adapt quickly. This avoids any tension and keeps the relationship healthy.

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8. They are confident

As they travel by themselves, they have learnt to be confident. Confidence allows them to love themselves and thus love people around them. This makes for stable, healthy relationships.

9. They know themselves well

Traveling alone has given them time to grow and learn things about themselves. Women who travel alone are fully aware of who they are and what they want. Because they know themselves, they are able to be settled when they are in relationships and form healthy bonds.

10. They are open-minded

They have seen different parts of the world and thus have been exposed to different cultures. This makes them open to different ideas. This helps in relationships as they are able to understand their partners point of view better.

11. They can protect themselves

They have had to take care of themselves because of all the solo travel and therefore are fully capable of protecting themselves. This gives them strength within themselves. When they are in relationships, this helps them feel independent, which makes for happier relationships.

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12. They can manage their money well

Traveling alone forces you to organize your money well. Women who travel alone develop this skill. Therefore in relationships they experience less tension when it comes to money.

13. They are good planners

Women who travel alone have learnt to manage their time well and plan ahead. This enables them to be good planners, which helps ease any tension that arises in relationships.

14. They are good decision makers

They have had to make decisions under pressure before and therefore they know how to successfully make good decisions. They don’t face any trouble that comes from bad decision making. This allows them to form healthy relationships with fewer arguments.

15. They see the beauty in others

They have been around so many people and have learnt to see how everyone has beauty within themselves. They see the best in people. When they are in relationships, they look for the best in their partner and focus on that making for healthier relationships.

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16. They are willing to try new things

They are open to try different things because they are more cultured due to their solo travel. They see the importance in experiencing new things. This helps keep relationships fresh and therefore healthy.

17. They are up for challenges

When things get difficult, they don’t back down. This is a skill they learnt while they travel alone as they have had to face many challenging situations that they have overcome. When they face obstacles in relationships they work at it instead of walking away.

18. They have incredible stories

Because they have experienced a lot of the world alone, they have many interesting stories to share. Therefore relationships with women who travel alone are never boring because of all their experiences they have to share.

19. They place value on things that are important

They have seen so much of the world alone and have had time to see what is really important in life. Therefore they don’t value material possessions as much as they value experiences and emotions. This helps them form healthier stronger bonds with people.

20. They have learned to love themselves

Because they have had time to reflect on themselves and learn who they are due to all the solo travel, they are truly connected with themselves. They develop a love for who they are and this allows them to love other people deeply.

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How to Live a Stress Free Life in a Way Most People Don’t

How to Live a Stress Free Life in a Way Most People Don’t

Learning how to live a stress free life may seem impossible, but the truth is that there are specific things you can do to begin eliminating sources of stress.

No, it doesn’t look like a made-for-television movie. No, it doesn’t look like something only people with extra time and money can do. It looks like your life—but without any self-created stress triggers.

Here are 11 ways to help you live a stress-free life:

1. Stop Overanalyzing Situations That Haven’t Happened

The first step to living a stress-free life is to stop overanalyzing imaginary scenarios. It’s easy to spend time in the world of worst-case scenarios. People tend to cultivate this world for one of two reasons.

First, because if you know what the worst-case scenario is, then it won’t surprise you when it happens. Second, if you know what the worst-case scenario is, then you can do everything in your power to control the universe so the worst case never happens.

If that’s really the world you want to cultivate, then become a professional risk assessor. If not, then ask yourself how you are benefiting from continuing to live that way.

Does it make you feel better about yourself and your life? Does it make you want to leap out of bed in the morning, eager to embrace the worst-case scenario? Does it bring you joy or fulfillment?

If your answer to these three questions is no, then stop living in the future and bring yourself back into the present.

2. Don’t Take on Other People’s Problems

The whole advantage of other people having problems is that they aren’t your problems. When you frequently take on other people’s problems, you get into the habit of enabling.

Let’s get crystal clear about the definition of enabling: enabling is the art of continuing to take responsibility for other people, thereby disallowing their personal responsibility[1].

It is of no service to other people to take on their problems because they can’t/won’t/don’t know how to fix the problem.

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It is of service to empower others to take responsibility for themselves and their lives, to encourage, teach, and motivate others to address their own problems. So stop enabling, and start empowering.

3. Get Present in the Moment

Being present in the moment involves being in your body and feeling your feelings—two things that lots of folks actually don’t know how to do.

Ask yourself these two questions: What does fear feel like in your body? What are you afraid of?

If you don’t know the answer to these questions, you probably aren’t present in the moment. Being present involves vulnerability, humility, and openness[2].

How to live a stress free life by being present

    The past and the future stop being so relevant and intriguing when you’re able to get in your body and feel your feelings. When you can do these two things, you actually want to be in the present moment.

    To get started, close your eyes, focus on your breathing, and watch your stress levels drop. Then, try these tips: How to Live in the Moment and Stop Worrying.

    4. Focus on What You Have, Not What You Don’t

    The easiest way to stop focusing on what you don’t have is by not watching TV commercials. Marketing teaches us to focus on what we don’t have, and advertising campaigns spend millions of dollars convincing us that we must have what we don’t yet have.

    Can you think of a marketing campaign that teaches you to enjoy what you already have without buying something to enhance it? Odds are you can’t.

    In a world dictated by Super Bowl commercials and Facebook ads, it takes stalwart focus to recognize what you have more than what you don’t. If you want a stress-free life now, get stalwart, and stop letting other people dictate your focus.

    In order to do this, try cultivating a gratitude practice to help refocus your mind toward what is good in your life. You can get started with this guide.

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    5. Stop Surrounding Yourself With People Who Don’t Make You Happy

    Honestly, what kind of people do you really like to be around with? People who get you, who see you clearly, who accept your flaws and all; people you can be yourself with; people who have shared interests?

    How many of those people are in your life? What characteristics do all of the other people in your life have?

    If you find that the people in your life aren’t adding anything positive, it may be time to make some changes. If you find that other relationships you have are downright toxic, start working to cut out those relationships immediately.

    6. Find a Job That Makes You Feel Good

    You don’t have to stay at a job just because it pays the bills. Most people spend more time working than sleeping. The average person spends 40 to 80 hours a week—or 2,000 to 4,000 hours a year—working. That is a significant investment!

    If your best friend or child told you that they were going to spend 4,000 hours giving their emotional, mental, and physical energy to something (or someone) that wasn’t going to value them, give anything back to them, or pay them what they were worth, what advice would you offer? Give that same advice to yourself. You won’t be stress-free unless you don’t learn this[3].

    Here’re 11 Signs That You Should Leave Your Job.

    7. Only Take on What You Can Handle

    Busyness is an addiction. Slowing down can actually be terrifying because it causes you to notice that you have feelings that you now have time to feel.

    I get it.

    By the time I slowed down, I had decades of busyness under my belt. I went into a tailspin depression because I didn’t understand how to be in the right relationship with my own emotions.

    When I finally figured out that feelings are just feelings and allowing them to express themselves is healthy and natural, I stopped experiencing withdrawal from my addiction to busyness and started figuring out the pace of life that felt best for me.

    Remarkably, I discovered that I don’t actually like being busy. What will you discover about yourself?

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    8. Let Go of Grudges and Anger

    For me, it took 20 years of adulthood to figure out that holding on to grudges and anger only hurt me. Lucky for you, though, you can benefit vicariously from my experience just by reading one short paragraph!

    No one is holding your feet to the fire, demanding that you hold on to grudges and anger. The energy of anger slowly eats away at your body, mind, and spirit, until one day you wake up more resentful than optimistic.

    One day, people no longer want to be around you because the stink of negativity is oozing out of your pores. One day, you even get tired of hearing yourself get angry. And the person or people you are angry at or holding grudges against probably haven’t been affected at all.

    Who gets hurt the most in that process of repeating negative thoughts? You do.

    Some good advice for you here: How to Let Go of Resentment and Anger

    9. Stop Reliving Your Past

    To live a stress-free life, you have to stop reliving your past. I know it seems like fun to compare everything in your present to your past, and to experience the present through past-colored glasses, but it actually isn’t.

    When you wear past-colored glasses, you can’t truly experience the present for what it is. Your boyfriend or girlfriend gets compared to a list of expectations and failed relationships rather than recognized for the unique blessing they are in your life.

    Your boss gets compared to all the bosses who came before her/him. Your friends’ ability to parent gets compared to your parents’ ability to parent.

    People, including you, deserve to stand on their own past-free merit.

    10. Don’t Complain About Things You Can’t Change

    There are always going to be people elected into office whom you don’t like, taxes that you don’t want to pay, idiot drivers who refuse to move out of the left-hand lane, and a person ahead of you in the check-out line who won’t stop chatting with the clerk.

    The great benefit of being human is that we get to experience all of what life offers us. To live stress-free is to learn to deal with this fact.

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    Dwelling on your frustration with something that can’t be changed doesn’t do anything other than drag you down. You are the only person who will ultimately decide how to respond to what is.

    11. Stop Living Through Other People’s Lives

    Someone else’s life is not your life. Your life is your life.

    What that means is you get to live your life in the way you want. You get to make ridiculous mistakes, take leaps of faith, and stuff things inside your handbag of fear just as much as the next person.

    Going through stuff is the whole great messy adventure of being human! Being alive and living life is terrifying and glorious and everything in between.

    Stop living through social media, trying to soak in all of the experiences everyone else is having. Focus, instead, on what it feels like to be you in this moment. You may find you like it.

    Final Thoughts

    An astounding thing happens when you reduce stress and anxiety, get into a relationship with your body, mind, and spirit, and just be yourself without judgment.

    Your life literally slows down. You stop wishing for the weekend. You begin to live in each moment, and you start feeling like a human being. You just ride the wave that is life, with this feeling of contentment and joy.

    You move fluidly, steadily, calmly, and gratefully. A veil is lifted, and a whole new perspective is born through improved mental health. And this is how you live a stress-free life.

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