Advertising
Advertising

20 Reasons Why You Should Date Solo Women Travelers

20 Reasons Why You Should Date Solo Women Travelers

They say that travel broadens the mind, and opens a person up to different cultures and new experiences. This is certainly true, and if you are a woman traveling alone, even more so. It takes inner strength coupled with a sense of adventure to travel solo, yet it can be one of life’s most rewarding experiences.

That was definitely the case for me when I took a 6 week sabbatical last year to explore Central America on my lonesome. I spent a year traveling solo around the world in my early twenties but I was young, dumb and completely naive. Doing it again in my thirties proved to be a different experience; it was less about partying at each new destination and more of an inward journey. While at times it was daunting, it turned out to be an illuminating experience that cracked me open.

Traveling alone can be an unnerving endeavor regardless of gender, but there is something about women who choose to take themselves out of their comfort zone to face the unknown that makes them wonderfully exciting people to date. Here are 20 reasons why.

1. They value their independence.

Cue the soundtrack to Destiny’s Child ‘Independent Woman.’ The clothes she’s wearing? She bought them. That trip to Florence? She bought that too and has no qualms about enjoying it all on her lonesome. There is something incredibly sexy about a woman who pays her own bills and lives life on her own terms. Hurry up and catch her while you can as these types of ladies don’t tend to stay in one place for long.

2. They will value your space.

If you are the type of person who needs breathing room in a relationship, then dating a lady who grabs life by its horns might just be a perfect fit. These types of ladies aren’t looking for anyone to complete them; they are comfortable with themselves as individuals and therefore won’t be blowing up your phone every 30 minutes with needy text messages. They love their own space and as a result will value yours too.

Advertising

3. They have a healthy relationship with fear.

Women who routinely open themselves up to new experiences typically don’t let fear stand in their way. They are comfortable pushing themselves and don’t buy into the pathos that the world is a dangerous place. This doesn’t mean that they take unnecessary risks and place themselves in dangerous situations; it just means that they do their homework beforehand and weigh the risks versus the rewards.

4. They are spontaneous.

Looking for a lady who is happy to take off on a whim? Ladies who travel alone usually fly by the seat of their pants and are comfortable with spontaneity meaning that your relationship will never be dull. Wake up and decide to go on a road trip for the weekend? This chick will be riding shotgun right alongside you.

5. They have vast reserves of inner strength.

Traveling by yourself means that inevitably endless hours will be spent alone with only your thoughts for company. It takes a certain amount of strength of character to be comfortable with this in addition to dealing with any mishaps that might occur whilst on the road. With nothing or no one to draw on other than your own strength, women who take these kinds of challenges on have endless reserves of inner strength, which makes them wonderfully strong minded companions.

6. They know that patience is a virtue.

One of the downsides of travel is that sooner or later, you will encounter delays. Whether its flight delays, traffic jams, cancelled trains or a slow-as-molasses cab driver, one thing that travel teaches you is the art of patience. Rest assured that your date will likely be pretty comfortable with the premise that sometimes stuff happens and patience pays. So if you find yourself trapped together in traffic, know that she will take it all in her stride.

7. They have a curious mind.

People who enjoy traveling to different countries and experiencing foreign cultures typically have a curious nature. Dating a woman who likes to travel alone means that you will never be bored, especially when you try to keep up with her inquisitive nature and insatiable appetite for learning new things.

Advertising

8. They work hard but play harder.

All travel and no play makes for a very dull trip indeed. If you are looking for someone to kick back with on the beach after a day exploring new vistas then look no further than a lady traveler. Women who feel comfortable enough in their own skin to travel alone can make for great company and probably more than a few laughs (and beers) along the way.

9. They are comfortable being alone.

It probably goes without saying that those who travel alone enjoy their own company. When you take it upon yourself to travel by yourself, there will undoubtedly be endless hours spent gallivanting from Point A to Point B. Women who enjoy these types of trips tend to relish this time alone and are more than happy to while away a few hours sat at an airport lost in their own thoughts.

10. They are open minded.

Another positive aspect of dating women who do it alone is that they are open minded. In and of itself, travel expands the mind which makes it harder to hold onto outdated prejudices or ignorant beliefs. These types of women have seen a vast swath of the world through their own eyes and tend to have an easier time recognizing any similarities they share with foreign cultures rather than focusing on the differences.

11. They relish their responsible side.

Taking off solo requires a certain amount of planning and responsibility, you have to really know yourself and what you are and are not comfortable with. Dating a women like this means that she’ll have a deep understanding of herself and what risks she will and won’t be prepared to take in life.

12. They trust their intuition.

Being a female traveler means that in certain countries they could be faced with a potentially dangerous situation. Being cognizant of these risks means that they largely rely on their intuition to stay safe. They are more experienced at reading a situation intuitively which means that they tend to have astute street smarts and as a result means she probably won’t be dragging you into any types of troublesome situations.

Advertising

13. They are decisive.

Being so in touch with their intuition and sense of responsibility means that there will be no umm-ing and err-ing when it comes to decision-making. If you like a lady who knows what she wants and isn’t afraid to ask for it then dating an independent woman might just be the ticket to a long lasting relationship.

14. They have a good head for money.

Any type of travel invariably incurs expenses and one of the many skills of an experienced traveler is their head for money and ability to budget accordingly. Don’t expect any princess demands from these chicks; they have a keen ability to be mindful of costs and stay within a budget, meaning it’s unlikely she’ll be taking your credit card on a shopping spree.

15. They are fun to talk to.

Spending large swathes of time alone means that these ladies are more than happy to strike up a conversation with a passing stranger. Talking to people from exotic lands is a wonderful chance to work on their conversation skills so that you can be sure you will never run out of interesting things to talk about.

16. They have a wrath of interesting stories to tell.

Traveling to far-flung locales or even traveling locally provides a plethora of interesting stories to tell. Don’t expect to be bored, these ladies are more likely to regale you with fun anecdotes about their crazy adventures rather than wanting to recap what happened last night on the Bachelor.

17. They say Yes to Life.

Women who live to travel embrace spontaneity which inevitably leads to a passionate view of life and a positive mind set. As a result they are more likely to say yes to life and open themselves up to new experiences which are wonderful characteristics for a fun filled and exciting relationship.

Advertising

18. They are constantly expanding their comfort zone.

It’s important to know that these women like to push themselves and do not like to live their lives penned in by their comfort zones. If you are the type of person who enjoys pushing themselves and trying new things, then dating a lady who gets her kicks the same way might just be a match made in heaven.

19. They are resourceful.

Inevitably there will be times during a trip when things go wrong. From a stolen passport to missing luggage, these types of situations are incredibly frustrating but useful learning experiences. Having dealt with these types of situations before means that women who enjoy traveling alone are pretty resourceful and are fairly quick to figure out a solution making them great companions both on and off the road.

20. They take each day as it comes.

Lady adventurers are very familiar with the phrase Carpe Diem. They are aware that life can pass you by in an instant and so they strive to make every day count. Their focus is primarily on staying in the moment and not choosing to dwell on the coulds, woulds and shoulds of life. Having a partner with these types of qualities means that they don’t often let life drag them down and prefer to focus on the positive, which is an infectious and fun mindset to be around.

Featured photo credit: Photo by Ed Gregory via stokpic.com

More by this author

I Didn’t Know I Secretly Enjoyed My Unhappiness, I Thought I Was Just Unhappy 5 Things You Should Keep In Mind When You Are Overcoming A Hard Time 5 Steps To Let Your Negative Emotions Out 13 Things to Remember if You Love A Sensitive Person These 10 Things Will Happen When You Start Stepping Out of Your Comfort Zone

Trending in Communication

1 5 Real Relationship Goals You Should Actually Strive Toward 2 When You Learn A Second Language, These 7 Amazing Things Will Happen To You 3 15 Things To Stop Doing If You Want To Be Truly Happy 4 7 Ways To Have More Confident Body Language 5 How to Apologize When You Have Made a Mistake

Read Next

Advertising
Advertising
Advertising

Last Updated on January 15, 2021

7 Ways To Have More Confident Body Language

7 Ways To Have More Confident Body Language

The popular idiomatic saying that “actions speak louder than words” has been around for centuries, but even to this day, most people struggle with at least one area of nonverbal communication. Consequently, many of us aspire to have more confident body language but don’t have the knowledge and tools necessary to change what are largely unconscious behaviors.

Given that others’ perceptions of our competence and confidence are predominantly influenced by what we do with our faces and bodies, it’s important to develop greater self-awareness and consciously practice better posture, stance, eye contact, facial expressions, hand movements, and other aspects of body language.

Posture

First things first: how is your posture? Let’s start with a quick self-assessment of your body.

  • Are your shoulders slumped over or rolled back in an upright posture?
  • When you stand up, do you evenly distribute your weight or lean excessively to one side?
  • Does your natural stance place your feet relatively shoulder-width apart or are your feet and legs close together in a closed-off position?
  • When you sit, does your lower back protrude out in a slumped position or maintain a straight, spine-friendly posture in your seat?

All of these are important considerations to make when evaluating and improving your posture and stance, which will lead to more confident body language over time. If you routinely struggle with maintaining good posture, consider buying a posture trainer/corrector, consulting a chiropractor or physical therapist, stretching daily, and strengthening both your core and back muscles.

Facial Expressions

Are you prone to any of the following in personal or professional settings?

  • Bruxism (tight, clenched jaw or grinding teeth)
  • Frowning and/or furrowing brows
  • Avoiding direct eye contact and/or staring at the ground

If you answered “yes” to any of these, then let’s start by examining various ways in which you can project confident body language through your facial expressions.

Advertising

1. Understand How Others Perceive Your Facial Expressions

A December 2020 study by UC Berkeley and Google researchers utilized a deep neural network to analyze facial expressions in six million YouTube clips representing people from over 140 countries. The study found that, despite socio-cultural differences, people around the world tended to use about 70% of the same facial expressions in response to different emotional stimuli and situations.[1]

The study’s researchers also published a fascinating interactive map to demonstrate how their machine learning technology assessed various facial expressions and determined subtle differences in emotional responses.

This study highlights the social importance of facial expressions because whether or not we’re consciously aware of them—by gazing into a mirror or your screen on a video conferencing platform—how we present our faces to others can have tremendous impacts on their perceptions of us, our confidence, and our emotional states. This awareness is the essential first step towards

2. Relax Your Face

New research on bruxism and facial tension found the stresses and anxieties of Covid-19 lockdowns led to considerable increases in orofacial pain, jaw-clenching, and teeth grinding, particularly among women.[2]

The National Institute of Dental and Craniofacial Research estimates that more than 10 million Americans alone have temporomandibular joint dysfunction (TMJ syndrome), and facial tension can lead to other complications such as insomnia, wrinkles, dry skin, and dark, puffy bags under your eyes.[3])

To avoid these unpleasant outcomes, start practicing progressive muscle relaxation techniques and taking breaks more frequently throughout the day to moderate facial tension.[4] You should also try out some biofeedback techniques to enhance your awareness of involuntary bodily processes like facial tension and achieve more confident body language as a result.[5]

Advertising

3. Improve Your Eye Contact

Did you know there’s an entire subfield of kinesic communication research dedicated to eye movements and behaviors called oculesics?[6] It refers to various communication behaviors including direct eye contact, averting one’s gaze, pupil dilation/constriction, and even frequency of blinking. All of these qualities can shape how other people perceive you, which means that eye contact is yet another area of nonverbal body language that we should be more mindful of in social interactions.

The ideal type (direct/indirect) and duration of eye contact depends on a variety of factors, such as cultural setting, differences in power/authority/age between the parties involved, and communication context. Research has shown that differences in the effects of eye contact are particularly prominent when comparing East Asian and Western European/North American cultures.[7]

To improve your eye contact with others, strive to maintain consistent contact for at least 3 to 4 seconds at a time, consciously consider where you’re looking while listening to someone else, and practice eye contact as much as possible (as strange as this may seem in the beginning, it’s the best way to improve).

3. Smile More

There are many benefits to smiling and laughing, and when it comes to working on more confident body language, this is an area that should be fun, low-stakes, and relatively stress-free.

Smiling is associated with the “happiness chemical” dopamine and the mood-stabilizing hormone, serotonin. Many empirical studies have shown that smiling generally leads to positive outcomes for the person smiling, and further research has shown that smiling can influence listeners’ perceptions of our confidence and trustworthiness as well.

4. Hand Gestures

Similar to facial expressions and posture, what you do with your hands while speaking or listening in a conversation can significantly influence others’ perceptions of you in positive or negative ways.

Advertising

It’s undoubtedly challenging to consciously account for all of your nonverbal signals while simultaneously trying to stay engaged with the verbal part of the discussion, but putting in the effort to develop more bodily awareness now will make it much easier to unconsciously project more confident body language later on.

5. Enhance Your Handshake

In the article, “An Anthropology of the Handshake,” University of Copenhagen social anthropology professor Bjarke Oxlund assessed the future of handshaking in wake of the Covid-19 pandemic:[8]

“Handshakes not only vary in function and meaning but do so according to social context, situation and scale. . . a public discussion should ensue on the advantages and disadvantages of holding on to the tradition of shaking hands as the conventional gesture of greeting and leave-taking in a variety of circumstances.”

It’s too early to determine some of the ways in which Covid-19 has permanently changed our social norms and professional etiquette standards, but it’s reasonable to assume that handshaking may retain its importance in American society even after this pandemic. To practice more confident body language in the meantime, the video on the science of the perfect handshake below explains what you need to know.

6. Complement Your Verbals With Hand Gestures

As you know by now, confident communication involves so much more than simply smiling more or sounding like you know what you’re talking about. What you do with your hands can be particularly influential in how others perceive you, whether you’re fidgeting with an object, clenching your fists, hiding your hands in your pockets, or calmly gesturing to emphasize important points you’re discussing.

Social psychology researchers have found that “iconic gestures”—hand movements that appear to be meaningfully related to the speaker’s verbal content—can have profound impacts on listeners’ information retention. In other words, people are more likely to engage with you and remember more of what you said when you speak with complementary hand gestures instead of just your voice.[9]

Advertising

Further research on hand gestures has shown that even your choice of the left or right hand for gesturing can influence your ability to clearly convey information to listeners, which supports the notion that more confident body language is readily achievable through greater self-awareness and deliberate nonverbal actions.[10]

Final Takeaways

Developing better posture, enhancing your facial expressiveness, and practicing hand gestures can vastly improve your communication with other people. At first, it will be challenging to consciously practice nonverbal behaviors that many of us are accustomed to performing daily without thinking about them.

If you ever feel discouraged, however, remember that there’s no downside to consistently putting in just a little more time and effort to increase your bodily awareness. With the tips and strategies above, you’ll be well on your way to embracing more confident body language and amplifying others’ perceptions of you in no time.

More Tips on How to Develop a Confident Body Language

Featured photo credit: Maria Lupan via unsplash.com

Reference

Read Next