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15 Things You Keep That Stop You From Moving On With Life

15 Things You Keep That Stop You From Moving On With Life

You are your own worst enemy. Yes, you may claim you want to be happy, but you’re holding on to a whole lot of stuff that blocks a smile from reaching your face. Let go of these 15 things to get moving on with life.

1. The Shiny New Thing

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    There will always be a newer, better, more expensive version of everything you own. Does your cell phone, laptop, or video game console get the job done? If so, get over it and be happy with what you have. Life should be full of experiences (not things).

    2. Ancient Artifacts

    How many toys do your children actually play with? How much of your stuff do you actually use? If your answer is “not much,” then it’s time to cut the clutter. A clean home free from distractions will make you feel happy and satisfied with your surroundings.

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      3. Faux Friendships

      Sure, you might have 2,000 friends on Facebook, but how many of them do you actually talk to? If you have any negative people cluttering up your feed, or acquaintances so unfamiliar they might as well be strangers, give them the boot with a quick unfriend.

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        4. Undialed Numbers

        Take a half hour when you have nothing else to do and scroll through your contacts list. If a phone number hasn’t been dialed in the last year (and you don’t plan on calling again), delete it without a second thought. Remember: quality over quantity.

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          5. Neglected Attire

          If the question “when is the last time I wore that?” results in a 30 second pause while you deliberate, it needs to go.

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            6. Excuses

            While you’re making excuses, other people are hustling hard in the direction of their hopes and dreams. Stop making excuses and start finding solutions. There is no problem so difficult you can’t solve it.

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              7. Baggage

              We all have a little baggage so don’t feel like you’re alone, but a lighter load will help you carry yourself forward with life. Carrying remnants of a relationship gone wrong into new love will put a damper on your new life, so it’s time to let it go.

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                  8. The “Right” Time

                  There is no “right” or “perfect” time to do anything. The more you keep telling yourself you’re waiting for the “right time,” the harder it will be to take action, so get started now.

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                    9. Insecurity

                    Your feelings of inadequacy will reflect in how you carry yourself. In other words? Being insecure in your words and actions will merely create a self-fulfilling prophecy. Look people in the eye, take their hand (firmly!), and speak to them with confidence.

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                      10. Unresolved Conflicts

                      Is there a difficult conversation you’ve been putting off for a while now? Things held in have a way of intensifying, so it would be in your best interest to get it off your chest.

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                        11. Thoughts About Your Ex

                        If you’re going to linger on thoughts of love lost, let your mind consider the positive experiences or lessons learned (not the past regrets you can’t do anything about). Whether you were in the right or wrong, holding on to negative thoughts about your ex will not magically make your life any better. Do you want to find another person who is a better match, who will make you feel happy and loved? Then you need to drop it and move on.

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                          12. The Need to Be Right

                          What a person learns from being correct: Nothing. What a person learns from being wrong: A lot. Failure is a teacher who will drive its lesson home better than all of your college professors combined.

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                            13. Fear of Trying New Things

                            Holding on to your fear of new experiences will shut a lot of doors. Challenge yourself to explore as many new opportunities as you can. Growth happens when we evolve (not when we’re stagnate).

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                              14. 24/7 Human Companionship

                              By the time you go to work, school, and back home… do you spend any time by yourself (and no, the car drive doesn’t count)? Humans are usually fun to be around but everybody could use a breather to relax and be alone. Make time for yourself and drop your need for constant companionship. Become your own BFF.

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                                15. The Belief That It’s All About You

                                NEWSFLASH: It is not all about you. Earth is a home for 7,023,000,000 (that’s 7.023 billion) people who face challenges and hardships just like you do. The next time a banker asks you for your ID and you start to complain because you’re a regular and they should recognize you, imagine how many people they see in a day (hint: you times a thousand). The next time you get mad because you’re stuck in traffic, let the fact that you’re not alone register (and if there’s a wreck, be glad you’re at the back of the line instead of in the mangled wreckage in front).

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                                  Do you see anything familiar that’s stopping you from moving on with life? If so, how are you going to fix it?

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                                  Last Updated on July 18, 2019

                                  What Makes People Happy? 20 Secrets of “Always Happy” People

                                  What Makes People Happy? 20 Secrets of “Always Happy” People

                                  Some people just seem to float through life with a relentless sense of happiness – through the toughest of times, they’re unfazed and aloof, stopping to smell the roses and drinking out of a glass half full.

                                  They may not have much to be happy about, but the simplicity behind that fact itself may make them happy.

                                  It’s all a matter of perspective, conscious effort and self-awareness. Listed below are a number of reasons why some people are always happy.

                                  1. They Manage Their Expectations

                                  They’re not crushed when they don’t get what they want – or misled into expecting to get the most out of every situation. They approach every situation pragmatically, hoping for the best but being prepared for the worst.

                                  2. They Don’t Set Unrealistic Standards

                                  Similar to the last point, they don’t live their lives in a constant pursuit towards impossible visions of perfection, only to always find themselves falling short of what they want.

                                  3. They Don’t Take Anything for Granted

                                  Happiness rests with feeling fulfilled – those who fail to stop and appreciate what they have every now and again will never experience true fulfillment.

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                                  4. They’re Not Materialistic

                                  There are arguing viewpoints on whether or not money can really buy happiness; if it can, then we know from experience that we can never be satisfied because there will always be something newer or better that we want. Who has ever had enough money?

                                  5. They Don’t Dwell

                                  They don’t sweat the small things or waste time worrying about things that don’t really matter at the end of the day. They don’t let negative thoughts latch onto them and drain them or distract them. Life’s too short to worry.

                                  6. They Care About Themselves First

                                  They’re independent, care for themselves and understand that they must put their needs first in order to accommodate the needs of others.

                                  They indulge, aim to get what they want, make time for themselves and are extremely self-reliant.

                                  7. They Enjoy the Little Things

                                  They stop to smell the roses. They’re accustomed to find serenity when it’s available, to welcome entertainment or a stimulating discussion with a stranger when it crosses their path. They don’t overlook the small things in life that can be just as important.

                                  8. They Can Adapt

                                  They’re not afraid of change and they work to make the most out of new circumstances, good or bad. They thrive under pressure, are not overwhelmed easily and always embrace a change of pace.

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                                  9. They Experiment

                                  They try new things, experience new flavors and never shy away from something they have yet to experience. They never order twice from the same menu.

                                  10. They Take Their Time

                                  They don’t unnecessarily rush through life. They work on their own schedule to the extent that they can and maneuver through life at their own relaxing pace.

                                  11. They Employ Different Perspectives

                                  They’re not stuck in one perspective; a loss can result in a new opportunity, hitting rock bottom can mean that there’s no where to go but up.

                                  12. They Seek to Learn

                                  Their constant pursuit of knowledge keeps them inspired and interested in life. They cherish information and are on a life-long quest to learn as much as they can.

                                  13. They Always Have a Plan

                                  They don’t find themselves drifting without purpose. When something doesn’t go as planned, they have a plan for every letter in the alphabet to fall back on.

                                  14. They Give Respect to Get It

                                  They are respectful and, in turn, are seen as respectable; the respect they exude earns them the respect they deserve.

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                                  15. They Consider Every Opportunity

                                  They always have their eyes open for a new road, a new avenue worth exploring. They know how to recognize opportune moments and pounce on them to make the most of every situation. Success is inevitable for them.

                                  16. They Always Seek to Improve

                                  Perpetual self-improvement is the key towards their ongoing thirst for success. Whatever it is they do, they take pride in getting better and better, from social interactions to mundane tasks. Their pursuit at being the best eventually materializes.

                                  17. They Don’t Take Life Too Seriously

                                  They’re not ones to get offended easily over-analyze or complicate matters. They laugh at their own faults and misfortunes.

                                  18. They Live in the Moment

                                  They don’t live for tomorrow or dwell on what may have happened yesterday. Every day is a new opportunity, a new chapter. They live in the now, and in doing so, get the most out of every moment.

                                  You can learn how to do so too: How to Live in the Moment and Stop Worrying About the Past or Future

                                  19. They Say Yes

                                  Much more often than they say no. They don’t have to be badgered to go out, don’t shy away from new opportunities or anything that may seem inconvenient.

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                                  20. They’re Self-Aware

                                  Most important, they’re wholly aware of themselves. They self-reflect and are conscious of their states of mind. If somethings bothering them, they fix it.

                                  We’re all susceptible to feeling down every now and again, but we are all equipped with the necessary solutions that just have to be discovered.

                                  Lack of confidence, inability to feel fulfilled, and susceptibility to stress are all matters that can be controlled through the way we handle our lives and perceive our circumstances.

                                  Learn about How Self-Reflection Gives You a Happier and More Successful Life.

                                  Final Thoughts

                                  The main philosophy employed by the happiest includes the idea that life’s simply too short: life’s too short to let things get you down, to take things for granted, to pursue absolute and unrealistic perfection.

                                  For some, employing these characteristics is a second nature – they do it without knowing. For others, a conscious effort must be put forth every now and again. Self-Awareness is key.

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