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15 Things Only People Who Have Talkative Best Friends Would Understand

15 Things Only People Who Have Talkative Best Friends Would Understand

I myself am not a very chatty person, but I love my talkative friends. They make life oh[!] so interesting. If you are like me and have close friends or loved ones who are super talkative, then you’ll understand what I mean when I say these things about talkative friends…

1. They HAVE to tell you about their day!

They just can’t help themselves. They’ll call or come over to your place to tell you about their day. Fortunately, there is no silent or dull moment in their day. The way they describe it is so interesting that if you didn’t know any better you’d be pretty jealous.

2. Although they speak a million words a second, you always try to pay attention and listen

That’s because you love them and you don’t want to hurt their feeling by appearing not to care. Besides, if you don’t pay attention you might miss an important point in there—and that would be worse than interrupting.

3. They always have an inclination to bring up and make a commentary on random things, and it often seems like they are experts at the mundane

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boys can be so dumb

    But just because they have an opinion on everything and always talk a lot, doesn’t mean they know what they are talking about. Hilarious!

    4. Because they talk so much, they often don’t bother listening to you

    They often cut you short in mid-sentence and it makes you mad. Even when you’re mad at them though, you still know that you care about them. You understand that they HAVE to speak. It’s simply their nature.

    5. They have certain pet topics that just triggersthem to gush on and on when they come up in conversation

    …So you must always have a list of alternative, more bearable topics on hand to spring on them whenever they ratchet up on their pet topic: such as raising questions about the person they’re dating, fashion or sports.

    6. They always have a bag full of surprises and unpredictable answers to every question you throw at them

    And that is why you fear asking them some questions, because you never know what they will say or where they will take the conversation. Sometimes their answers are eye-opening; sometimes not so much.

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    7.  They’re always sharing the tiniest of details with you (and others) only to realize what a silly thing they’ve just done

    You’ve actually watched people nudge them and say “ssshhh,” when they are speaking out of place. You always feel embarrassed for them for sharing way too much information than was called for.

    8. They have a penchant for talking to themselves and having conversations in their own heads

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      That’s when they are silent (which is rare). You always wonder whether they get time to just sit and rest their brain. Still, you’re impressed how they never seem to get bored—even when they are left alone in their own company.

      9. They probably will never be able to keep a secret forever!

      That’s because you know how much they like to talk.Because they talk so much, they tend to let things slip—secrets included. It’s really not that surprising any more that they somehow always inadvertently let the cat out of the bag.

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      10. They are excellent at starting and holding conversations—even with total strangers

      …And how they are able to make new friends and hold conversations so effortlessly never ceases to amaze you. It’s still a mystery to you how they do it with a total stranger. Anyway, they have the gift of the gab and you love it because it makes you look cool and interesting by association.

      11. They are a life saver in social situations where small talk (which you hate) is expected

      You never have to worry about small talk or feel out of place when you are out with them on social gatherings, because they will always hold the conversation. When you see them in action talking to people freely it always makes you want to open up just as much as they do.

      12. You can always trust them to blurt out spoilers for the books, movie or TV show you’re watching

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        And that makes you so mad—at least most of the time it does.

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        13. They are forthright and tell you like it is!

        Because they don’t keep secrets or hold back information from you, they always tell you exactly what is on their mind, especially when they are upset with you for some reason. You hate it that they are so forthright, but love it because issues in your relationship are dealt with openly.

        14. They say quirky, esoteric things that sometimes get you in trouble

        You’ve actually been sent out of places like meetings, classes or stores because they were making noise or fun of someone or something. While it’s always funny when you get in trouble with them, you’re usually not proud of what you said or did together when you think about it later.

        15. You have to expressly tell them they talk too much and should stop it now for them to stop

        …And you tell them to stop in a light-hearted way because you love them. They’re your best friend. You know one day they will be able to put their talent to the best possible use—as a storyteller, motivational speaker or even stand-up comedian.

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        Last Updated on January 18, 2019

        7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

        7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

        Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

        But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

        If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

        1. Limit the time you spend with them.

        First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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        In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

        Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

        2. Speak up for yourself.

        Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

        3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

        This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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        But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

        4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

        Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

        This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

        Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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        5. Change the subject.

        When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

        Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

        6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

        Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

        I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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        You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

        Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

        7. Leave them behind.

        Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

        If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

        That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

        You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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