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15 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Believe

15 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Believe

There are so many misconceptions and downright lies that most people accept wholeheartedly, while those who are truly happy with their lives know to avoid them. To be like them, check out this list of 15 things that mentally strong people don’t believe.

1. They don’t believe in the pass-fail model.

Mentally strong people don’t believe in the big red F. Every experience, even the one that didn’t go well, is something you can learn from. If you consider things that you have done in your life as simple failures, then you need to start thinking more complexly. Mentally strong people understand this, so should you.

2. They don’t believe that failure is inevitable.

Even the most disastrous circumstances can turn around, if you have the right attitude. Mentally strong people don’t believe that there is a point where you should give up, so you shouldn’t believe it either. As long as there is will there is hope, so keep pushing forward even when the odds are stacked against you.

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3. They don’t believe life is meaningless.

If mentally strong people couldn’t believe that there is a purpose to the world, they would never have become mentally strong.

4. They don’t believe things will always go the way you expect.

If you’re a pessimist, you should stop expecting storms. If you’re an optimist, you should stop assuming there will never be clouds in the sky. Always be prepared for the inevitability that our days can be very unexpected, either for good or for ill.

5. They don’t believe that there is no hope.

Mentally strong people don’t believe that there’s a dark place that you can’t crawl back from. Your hope for the future is very much in your control, so own your fears and push past them.

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6. They don’t believe that miracles don’t exist.

Unlike the overly negative, mentally strong people don’t believe that the miraculous is impossible. That doesn’t mean they believe in a higher power, per se, but they are convinced that truly great things can happen to you if you don’t let negativity get in the way.

7. They don’t believe they have to do everything perfectly.

Perfection is a myth. The circle is one of the most beautiful constructs in the world, and still it has an infinite number of decimal points. Learn to round to 3.14 in certain aspects of your life so that you don’t become obsessed with the idea of perfection.

8. They don’t believe in waiting too long for the right moment.

The right moment is when you take action, so why wait? When the opportunity is there, seize it and don’t look back.

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9. They don’t believe their past inhibits their future.

Mentally strong people don’t believe in the restraints of the past that prevent future success. Everything can be overcome, with energy and time.

10. They don’t believe they die alone.

Too many think that, no matter how many friends they have in life, everyone dies alone. Mentally strong people don’t believe that lie, understanding that the relationships you cultivate are always with you even if no one is sitting by your deathbed.

11. They don’t believe cruelty is necessary.

Mentally strong people don’t believe that you have to be mean to see results. Drill sergeants can make their cadets run a hundred laps, but positive encouragement is what will mold them into better individuals.

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12. They don’t believe they have learned all there is to learn.

Some would say they know everything they need to. Others know better. Mentally strong people don’t believe that there is ever a point where we stop learning. The world continues to change around us, so our education should be never-ending.

13. They don’t believe that they need a substance to feel better.

Many are stuck in a rut where they need something to make them feel better, whether it be drugs, alcohol, food or something else. Mentally strong people don’t believe that you can never break free of that dependence.

14. They don’t believe in weakness.

Mentally strong people are better off than most when it comes to well-being, but they don’t consider others weak for not being as happy as they are. Everyone is dealt different circumstances, and it’s a tougher road to good mental health for some than others. The mentally strong understand that fact.

15. They don’t believe change is impossible.

A lot of people refuse to accept the idea that people can change, but mentally strong people don’t believe someone can’t grow to be better. If they did, they would have never gotten to the great place they’re at today.

Featured photo credit: Happiness/Moyan Brenn via flickr.com

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Last Updated on September 17, 2018

7 Signs of an Unhappy Relationship That Makes You Feel Stuck

7 Signs of an Unhappy Relationship That Makes You Feel Stuck

Relationships are complicated and when you’re unhappy, it can be difficult to tell what’s causing it and what needs to change.

Sometimes it’s as easy as opening up to your partner about your problems, while other times it may be necessary to switch partners or roll solo to get your mind straight.

When you’re in the thick of things, it can be difficult to tell if you’re unhappy in your relationship or just unhappy in general (in which case, a relationship may be just the cure you need).

Here’re signs of an unhappy relationship that is possibly making you feel stuck:

1. You’re depressed about your home life.

No matter what you do in life, you’re going to have good and bad days. Your relationship is no different.

However, no matter what you’re going through at home, you have to feel comfortable in your own home.

If you constantly dread going home because your significant other is there, there’s a problem. Maybe it’s something you already know about, everyone has an argument or just needs some alone time.

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When that yearning to be alone becomes an insatiable obsession over the course of months and years, it’s time to realize you’re not the exception to the rule.

You’re unhappy in your relationship, and you need to take a look in the mirror and do whatever it takes to make yourself smile.

2. You aren’t comfortable being yourself.

Remember all those things you discovered about yourself when you first got together? The way your partner made you feel when you met that made you fall in love with him or her in the first place.

If they don’t make you feel that way anymore, it’s not the end of the world. If your partner makes you uncomfortable about being you, then her or she is only dragging you down. It’s up to you to decide how to handle that.

You need to be comfortable with who you are. This means being comfortable in your skin and with the way you walk, talk, look, breath, move, and all the other things that make you uniquely you.

If the person who supposedly loves you doesn’t make you feel good about yourself, know that you can do better. They’re not even one in a billion.

3. You can’t stop snooping.

Mutual trust is necessary in any relationship. The only way to get that trust is with respect.

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I can find you anywhere online, no matter how private and secure you think you are. The odds of you having a password I can’t crack are slim. If we’ve met in person, I could install a remote key logger on your device without even touching it.

Finding your information online hardly takes a clandestine organization. Any idiot with a Wi-Fi-enabled device can cyberstalk you. I’m just the only idiot in the village admitting it.

So now that we know everyone snoops, it’s time to address your personal habits. Governments snoop because they don’t trust us. If you’re snooping on your partner, it’s because you don’t trust them.

It’s ok to have doubts, and it’s perfectly normal to look into anything that looks weird, but keep in mind that data collection is only half of an investigation.

If you find yourself constantly snooping and questioning everything, clearly there’s a trust issue and the relationship likely needs to end.

4. You’re afraid of commitment.

If you’ve been dating longer than a year and you aren’t engaged, it’s never going to happen.

Commitment is important. People will come up with a million ways to describe why they can’t be committed.

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No matter who you are if you like it, you need to put a ring on it. Find an engagement ring, stick a gemstone in it and marry the person. If you’re not legally able to get married or you don’t believe in it for one reason or another, have a child (or adopt one, however you’re able to) or treat your partner’s family like your own. It’s a huge financial and mental commitment.

If you’re not ready for one or the other after some time, don’t waste anymore of your precious life on the relationship.

Your relationship should be something that propels you forward. If it’s not going anywhere, make it an open relationship and call it what it is—dating multiple people.

5. You imagine a happier life without your partner.

If all you’re doing is imagining a happier life without your partner, it’s a sign that you’re in the wrong relationship. You’re unhappy and you need to get out.

Your partner should be included in your dreams. There’s nothing wrong with wanting a future with someone.

Try to remember what you dreamed of before you got your heart broken by the realities of life, love and the pursuit of human success.

Remember when you would crush on that cute kid in class? You would secretly imagine marrying him or her and going on an adventure—that’s the way life should be.

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If you’re not at least imagining adventures together, then why are you in that relationship?

6. You resent, rather than love your partner.

When a relationship starts to crumble, you begin to resent your partner for all the things you once loved about him or her.

When you’ve reached this point, your partner has reached at least No. 2 on this list. From your partner’s perspective, your unhappiness with them is picked up as bashing them for being who they are.

If you’re both unhappy in the relationship, it’s better if it ends as quickly and painlessly as possible.

7. You chase past feelings.

It’s okay to reminisce about the past, but if all you do is wish things were like they used to be, it’s a sign you’re not on the right path.

You’re unhappy and, at the very least, you need to have an open dialogue about it. This isn’t necessarily a sign that the relationship should end, but it definitely needs a spark.

When you talk to your partner candidly about what it is you’re looking for, you never know how they’ll react. The risk alone is worth it, good or bad.

Final thoughts

If you’re feeling stuck in your current relationship, it’s time to reflect about it with your partner. Don’t ignore these signs of an unhappy relationship as they will slowly go worse and harm both you and your partner in long-term.

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