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15 Struggles Only Mature People Would Understand

15 Struggles Only Mature People Would Understand

We all have to mature someday. Facing this period of our lives may seem daunting. Yet, growth is important to be the best you can be. With such growth comes certain realizations of owning up to what life has presented us with.

1. You don’t have to always please others

Pleasing others becomes secondary as you mature. Maturing means you define your priorities and honestly deal with decisions. You see the world from your own eyes rather than from the eyes of your friends or others.

2. You become responsible for your actions

As you grow older and become matured you understand the importance of taking responsibility. It is a tough battle to prove to the world how skillful and prepared you are. But it could become a better choice than blaming everyone else for your problems and challenges.

3. You have to deal with your emotions

Negative emotions like anger, disappointment and regret have a way of giving way to positive feelings like forgiveness, tolerance and optimism when you become matured. You have to be able to deal with your feelings and build a strong character from it.

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4. You have to delay gratification

You are not a victim of impulsive actions. You don’t only think through your actions, but you analyze them carefully. You want the best for yourself and getting that may mean saying no more often, which can be a tough challenge many times.

5. You know how important your self-respect is

Bruised ego and a burnt soul is something that has to be far away from you. You want to be an ideal character people can look up to and admire. You are more conscious of the things you say and do as you mature.

6. You have to become more adaptable

Working under a terrible boss, being in the wrong company or facing difficult times are things you can adjust to rather than simply retreating from. In the past you would have thrown the towel to bitter challenges but rather than take the easy way out, you toughen up and face up to challenges.

7. You have to appreciate money as a tool rather than an item

Growing up you may not have discovered what money really means because you were not working as hard for it until you matured. Money has to become a tool to getting the right things done, rather than an ornament to be boastful about. You appreciate the essence of every dollar you earn and are more meticulous with the way you handle it.

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8. You have to tolerate others

Arguing and trying to get your way must have being fun and exciting in the past but maturity comes with the knowing that getting your way could mean losing a friend or hurting someone you care about. You have to become more accommodating and incisive with how you treat others.

9. You have to appreciate relationships better

Missing your sister’s wedding may be a simpler choice, but you understand the importance of being there for her and showing the family that you can be there for her during her special moments. You have to value relationships that count and commit yourself to them.

10. You have to make smart decisions

Making decisions or picking the right choices is not easy for anyone – but it has to become an easy task if you want to make a positive impact to your surroundings.

11. You know the world is not about you

You have to respect other people’s opinions and beliefs. You have to understand that other people matter too and the world is not made for only you.

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12. You have to manage criticism

As you grow older you learn that criticism is an important element of life. Whether you are successful or not you will receive them. This is why you have to toughen up and handle criticism the matured way.

13. You have to pay attention to your health

Becoming more matured means that your health would come with some challenges. Your body becomes a tool for success and you have to deal with any issues it presents. You are meticulous about what you eat and drink. Protecting your body becomes your responsibility.

14. You have to love someone

Although being alone provides pleasure you also understand that you have to commit to someone emotionally. Loving someone other than yourself takes courage but with maturity this has to take a more serious direction.

15. You have to worry less

No matter what you are going through you know you can’t solve anything by worrying a lot. You have to manage your negative emotions and channel it positively instead.

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Maturing can be exciting and challenging but with it comes a sense of ownership and this independence we all have to meet.

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Last Updated on October 6, 2020

15 Things Highly Confident People Don’t Do

15 Things Highly Confident People Don’t Do

Highly confident people believe in their ability to achieve. If you don’t believe in yourself, why should anyone else put their faith in you? To walk with swagger and improve your self-confidence, watch out for these fifteen things highly confident people don’t do.

And if you want to know the difference between an arrogant person and a confident person, watch this video first:

 

1. They don’t make excuses.

Highly confident people take ownership of their thoughts and actions. They don’t blame the traffic for being tardy at work; they were late. They don’t excuse their short-comings with excuses like “I don’t have the time” or “I’m just not good enough”; they make the time and they keep on improving until they are good enough.

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2. They don’t avoid doing the scary thing.

Highly confident people don’t let fear dominate their lives. They know that the things they are afraid of doing are often the very same things that they need to do in order to evolve into the person they are meant to be.

3. They don’t live in a bubble of comfort.

Highly confident people avoid the comfort zone, because they know this is a place where dreams die. They actively pursue a feeling of discomfort, because they know stretching themselves is mandatory for their success.

4. They don’t put things off until next week.

Highly confident people know that a good plan executed today is better than a great plan executed someday. They don’t wait for the “right time” or the “right circumstances”, because they know these reactions are based on a fear of change. They take action here, now, today – because that’s where progress happens.

5. They don’t obsess over the opinions of others.

Highly confident people don’t get caught up in negative feedback. While they do care about the well-being of others and aim to make a positive impact in the world, they don’t get caught up in negative opinions that they can’t do anything about. They know that their true friends will accept them as they are, and they don’t concern themselves with the rest.

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6. They don’t judge people.

Highly confident people have no tolerance for unnecessary, self-inflicted drama. They don’t feel the need to insult friends behind their backs, participate in gossip about fellow co-workers or lash out at folks with different opinions. They are so comfortable in who they are that they feel no need to look down on other people.

7. They don’t let lack of resources stop them.

Highly confident people can make use of whatever resources they have, no matter how big or small. They know that all things are possible with creativity and a refusal to quit. They don’t agonize over setbacks, but rather focus on finding a solution.

8. They don’t make comparisons.

Highly confident people know that they are not competing with any other person. They compete with no other individual except the person they were yesterday. They know that every person is living a story so unique that drawing comparisons would be an absurd and simplistic exercise in futility.

9. They don’t find joy in people-pleasing.

Highly confident people have no interest in pleasing every person they meet. They are aware that not all people get along, and that’s just how life works. They focus on the quality of their relationships, instead of the quantity of them.

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10. They don’t need constant reassurance.

Highly confident people aren’t in need of hand-holding. They know that life isn’t fair and things won’t always go their way. While they can’t control every event in their life, they focus on their power to react in a positive way that moves them forward.

11. They don’t avoid life’s inconvenient truths.

Highly confident people confront life’s issues at the root before the disease can spread any farther. They know that problems left unaddressed have a way of multiplying as the days, weeks and months go by. They would rather have an uncomfortable conversation with their partner today than sweep an inconvenient truth under the rug, putting trust at risk.

12. They don’t quit because of minor set-backs.

Highly confident people get back up every time they fall down. They know that failure is an unavoidable part of the growth process. They are like a detective, searching for clues that reveal why this approach didn’t work. After modifying their plan, they try again (but better this time).

13. They don’t require anyone’s permission to act.

Highly confident people take action without hesitation. Every day, they remind themselves, “If not me, who?”

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14. They don’t limit themselves to a small toolbox.

Highly confident people don’t limit themselves to Plan A. They make use of any and all weapons that are at their disposal, relentlessly testing the effectiveness of every approach, until they identify the strategies that offer the most results for the least cost in time and effort.

15. They don’t blindly accept what they read on the Internet as “truth” without thinking about it.

Highly confident people don’t accept articles on the Internet as truth just because some author “said so”. They look at every how-to article from the lens of their unique perspective. They maintain a healthy skepticism, making use of any material that is relevant to their lives, and forgetting about the rest. While articles like this are a fun and interesting thought-exercise, highly confident people know that they are the only person with the power to decide what “confidence” means.

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