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15 Struggles Only Mature People Would Understand

15 Struggles Only Mature People Would Understand

We all have to mature someday. Facing this period of our lives may seem daunting. Yet, growth is important to be the best you can be. With such growth comes certain realizations of owning up to what life has presented us with.

1. You don’t have to always please others

Pleasing others becomes secondary as you mature. Maturing means you define your priorities and honestly deal with decisions. You see the world from your own eyes rather than from the eyes of your friends or others.

2. You become responsible for your actions

As you grow older and become matured you understand the importance of taking responsibility. It is a tough battle to prove to the world how skillful and prepared you are. But it could become a better choice than blaming everyone else for your problems and challenges.

3. You have to deal with your emotions

Negative emotions like anger, disappointment and regret have a way of giving way to positive feelings like forgiveness, tolerance and optimism when you become matured. You have to be able to deal with your feelings and build a strong character from it.

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4. You have to delay gratification

You are not a victim of impulsive actions. You don’t only think through your actions, but you analyze them carefully. You want the best for yourself and getting that may mean saying no more often, which can be a tough challenge many times.

5. You know how important your self-respect is

Bruised ego and a burnt soul is something that has to be far away from you. You want to be an ideal character people can look up to and admire. You are more conscious of the things you say and do as you mature.

6. You have to become more adaptable

Working under a terrible boss, being in the wrong company or facing difficult times are things you can adjust to rather than simply retreating from. In the past you would have thrown the towel to bitter challenges but rather than take the easy way out, you toughen up and face up to challenges.

7. You have to appreciate money as a tool rather than an item

Growing up you may not have discovered what money really means because you were not working as hard for it until you matured. Money has to become a tool to getting the right things done, rather than an ornament to be boastful about. You appreciate the essence of every dollar you earn and are more meticulous with the way you handle it.

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8. You have to tolerate others

Arguing and trying to get your way must have being fun and exciting in the past but maturity comes with the knowing that getting your way could mean losing a friend or hurting someone you care about. You have to become more accommodating and incisive with how you treat others.

9. You have to appreciate relationships better

Missing your sister’s wedding may be a simpler choice, but you understand the importance of being there for her and showing the family that you can be there for her during her special moments. You have to value relationships that count and commit yourself to them.

10. You have to make smart decisions

Making decisions or picking the right choices is not easy for anyone – but it has to become an easy task if you want to make a positive impact to your surroundings.

11. You know the world is not about you

You have to respect other people’s opinions and beliefs. You have to understand that other people matter too and the world is not made for only you.

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12. You have to manage criticism

As you grow older you learn that criticism is an important element of life. Whether you are successful or not you will receive them. This is why you have to toughen up and handle criticism the matured way.

13. You have to pay attention to your health

Becoming more matured means that your health would come with some challenges. Your body becomes a tool for success and you have to deal with any issues it presents. You are meticulous about what you eat and drink. Protecting your body becomes your responsibility.

14. You have to love someone

Although being alone provides pleasure you also understand that you have to commit to someone emotionally. Loving someone other than yourself takes courage but with maturity this has to take a more serious direction.

15. You have to worry less

No matter what you are going through you know you can’t solve anything by worrying a lot. You have to manage your negative emotions and channel it positively instead.

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Maturing can be exciting and challenging but with it comes a sense of ownership and this independence we all have to meet.

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Last Updated on September 17, 2018

7 Signs of an Unhappy Relationship That Makes You Feel Stuck

7 Signs of an Unhappy Relationship That Makes You Feel Stuck

Relationships are complicated and when you’re unhappy, it can be difficult to tell what’s causing it and what needs to change.

Sometimes it’s as easy as opening up to your partner about your problems, while other times it may be necessary to switch partners or roll solo to get your mind straight.

When you’re in the thick of things, it can be difficult to tell if you’re unhappy in your relationship or just unhappy in general (in which case, a relationship may be just the cure you need).

Here’re signs of an unhappy relationship that is possibly making you feel stuck:

1. You’re depressed about your home life.

No matter what you do in life, you’re going to have good and bad days. Your relationship is no different.

However, no matter what you’re going through at home, you have to feel comfortable in your own home.

If you constantly dread going home because your significant other is there, there’s a problem. Maybe it’s something you already know about, everyone has an argument or just needs some alone time.

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When that yearning to be alone becomes an insatiable obsession over the course of months and years, it’s time to realize you’re not the exception to the rule.

You’re unhappy in your relationship, and you need to take a look in the mirror and do whatever it takes to make yourself smile.

2. You aren’t comfortable being yourself.

Remember all those things you discovered about yourself when you first got together? The way your partner made you feel when you met that made you fall in love with him or her in the first place.

If they don’t make you feel that way anymore, it’s not the end of the world. If your partner makes you uncomfortable about being you, then her or she is only dragging you down. It’s up to you to decide how to handle that.

You need to be comfortable with who you are. This means being comfortable in your skin and with the way you walk, talk, look, breath, move, and all the other things that make you uniquely you.

If the person who supposedly loves you doesn’t make you feel good about yourself, know that you can do better. They’re not even one in a billion.

3. You can’t stop snooping.

Mutual trust is necessary in any relationship. The only way to get that trust is with respect.

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I can find you anywhere online, no matter how private and secure you think you are. The odds of you having a password I can’t crack are slim. If we’ve met in person, I could install a remote key logger on your device without even touching it.

Finding your information online hardly takes a clandestine organization. Any idiot with a Wi-Fi-enabled device can cyberstalk you. I’m just the only idiot in the village admitting it.

So now that we know everyone snoops, it’s time to address your personal habits. Governments snoop because they don’t trust us. If you’re snooping on your partner, it’s because you don’t trust them.

It’s ok to have doubts, and it’s perfectly normal to look into anything that looks weird, but keep in mind that data collection is only half of an investigation.

If you find yourself constantly snooping and questioning everything, clearly there’s a trust issue and the relationship likely needs to end.

4. You’re afraid of commitment.

If you’ve been dating longer than a year and you aren’t engaged, it’s never going to happen.

Commitment is important. People will come up with a million ways to describe why they can’t be committed.

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No matter who you are if you like it, you need to put a ring on it. Find an engagement ring, stick a gemstone in it and marry the person. If you’re not legally able to get married or you don’t believe in it for one reason or another, have a child (or adopt one, however you’re able to) or treat your partner’s family like your own. It’s a huge financial and mental commitment.

If you’re not ready for one or the other after some time, don’t waste anymore of your precious life on the relationship.

Your relationship should be something that propels you forward. If it’s not going anywhere, make it an open relationship and call it what it is—dating multiple people.

5. You imagine a happier life without your partner.

If all you’re doing is imagining a happier life without your partner, it’s a sign that you’re in the wrong relationship. You’re unhappy and you need to get out.

Your partner should be included in your dreams. There’s nothing wrong with wanting a future with someone.

Try to remember what you dreamed of before you got your heart broken by the realities of life, love and the pursuit of human success.

Remember when you would crush on that cute kid in class? You would secretly imagine marrying him or her and going on an adventure—that’s the way life should be.

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If you’re not at least imagining adventures together, then why are you in that relationship?

6. You resent, rather than love your partner.

When a relationship starts to crumble, you begin to resent your partner for all the things you once loved about him or her.

When you’ve reached this point, your partner has reached at least No. 2 on this list. From your partner’s perspective, your unhappiness with them is picked up as bashing them for being who they are.

If you’re both unhappy in the relationship, it’s better if it ends as quickly and painlessly as possible.

7. You chase past feelings.

It’s okay to reminisce about the past, but if all you do is wish things were like they used to be, it’s a sign you’re not on the right path.

You’re unhappy and, at the very least, you need to have an open dialogue about it. This isn’t necessarily a sign that the relationship should end, but it definitely needs a spark.

When you talk to your partner candidly about what it is you’re looking for, you never know how they’ll react. The risk alone is worth it, good or bad.

Final thoughts

If you’re feeling stuck in your current relationship, it’s time to reflect about it with your partner. Don’t ignore these signs of an unhappy relationship as they will slowly go worse and harm both you and your partner in long-term.

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