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15 Simple But Romantic Gestures Only Women Who Are So In Love Understand

15 Simple But Romantic Gestures Only Women Who Are So In Love Understand

Saying “I love you” can mean the world. But sometimes, he doesn’t even have to say anything to you, for you to know that he adores you. Here are some romantic gestures that women in love love.

1. When he writes you letters or notes

It doesn’t matter if you see him every day or live under the same roof – a written confirmation of his feelings gives you something tangible to read over and over again when you’re feeling low, have had a hard day, when he’s on a business trip, or just when you want to get the warm fuzzies. Taking the time to put his love into words lets you know he cares.

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    2. When he makes you things

    While a shiny pair of earrings or a new Coach purse can send you spinning, it makes you glow from the inside out when he makes you something with his own two hands. It can be as simple as a birthday card made with construction paper and crayons, or a plate of your favorite childhood treat that he had your mom teach him to make; or maybe he put together a book of his favorites photos of you two, or painted a scene from your fist date or honeymoon. It doesn’t have to be expensive or perfect to touch your heart.

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    3. When he hugs you

    A kiss when you wake up, an arm around your shoulder while you’re waiting in line at the grocery store, and hand holding during the movies are certainly welcome gestures of affection. But when he takes the time to give you a long, warm bear hug – the snuggle-your-nose-into-his-shoulder, close-your-eyes kind of hug – you sink into it, and for a few moments, the rest of the world doesn’t matter.

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      4. When he lets you talk

      While it may be cliche, doesn’t it mean the world to know that you can tell him anything and he’ll listen without judgement and without interruption? Even if he disagrees with how you handled a tough situation at work or a conversation with your sister, you love that he lets you express the whole story and your feelings about it before offering advice or talking you through the problem.

      5. When he invites you along

      There’s something to be said for bro time, and while your man certainly deserve time with just the guys, you love when he invites you – even when you don’t end up tagging along. It could be that the guys are going to the movie you’ve been dying to see, or the bar you’ve been wanting to hit, or even just having a video game session – when he includes you in his plans with his friends, you not only get to spend time together, but get to know the guys he’s chosen to be friends with – it’s a win/win!

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      6. When he lets you have the last bite

      Sharing food can increase feelings of closeness and intimacy and decrease any chance of selfishness in your relationship. We all want the last bag fry, and when he hands you the bag and tells you to enjoy, it makes you feel like his number one priority. When you opt for a light salad but he lets you have as many “little” bites of his cheesy, bacon mac ‘n’ cheese as you want, or, more importantly, when you share dessert, and he lets you eat the majority of that piece of tiramisu or cheesecake, your heart fills up with joy and contentment that go beyond a happy stomach.

      7. When he opens your doors

      They say chivalry is dead, but he makes sure it lives on! Before getting in the car, he opens your door AND closes it after all your fingers and toes are safely inside; when it’s raining, snowing, cold, or you’re rocking those 4″ heels, her drops you at the door of your destination and meets you inside once he’s parked; and when you’re taking a walk, he lets you have the inside track while he walks closest to the road. His genteel ways never get old.

      8. When he remembers the past moments of being with you

      Living in the present and reveling in each day with your best guy is a good habit to get into – but you love when he starts off with “remember the time…” and you both laugh about last Thanksgiving when the turkey caught on fire, when you shared your first kiss, or just that perfect day at the lake. It lets you know he treasures the time you’ve had together so far, and reminds you both to cherish today, which will be another memory in the future.

      9. When he catches on

      You can’t recall how many times you’ve told him to put his socks in the hamper or wipe up the water from the bathroom vanity – but the days he remembers all on his own has you bursting with satisfied surprise. When he brings you the spoon you prefer with your macaroni instead of a fork, or leaves all the M&Ms in the trail mix because he knows they’re your favorite ingredient, or just puts the butter back in the fridge like you always do, you feel as though you’re in sync and that he’s paying attention.

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      10. When he compliments you in that very unique way

      Everyone has an ugly day – the ones where your nose it too wide, your calves are too thick, or your hair is too flat. On those days especially, hearing the words “you’re beautiful” or “I love the way you look, all the time” lets you know that he sees past all your self-perceived flaws and loves you for who you are and not what you wish you were.

      11. When he does the chores

      Whether it’s folding your T-shirts or doing the dishes, you love when he does chores that he admittedly dislikes so you can get out of them. It shows that he values making your life easier over his. That’s a true sign of love right there.

      12. When he’s honest with you

      We all want to be told that our Pinterest-found-casserole is delicious and that our new lip gloss gives us Angelina Jolie lips. But when that’s not the case, he tells you in a kind, compassionate, loving way. It may be hard not to take the comments personally at first, but realizing he only has your best interests at heart means more than a fake smile at the first bite of your failed bacon-beef-jalapeno-ranch soufflé.

      13. When he helps you pick out clothes

      And not just bikinis and mini skirts. When he sits outside the dressing room while you model work khakis and button-ups, and tells you he prefers the blue shirt to the green, it not only makes your decision easier, but lets you know he’s paying attention and wants to help in even the most mundane, practical aspects of your life.

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      14. When he says your name

      Nicknames are cute and fun, but when your actual name comes out of his mouth, it sounds different than when anyone else says it. It might just be the love talking, but you swear that it sounds sweeter and more beautiful, even when he’s just asking you what you want to eat at the drive-thru.

      15. When he squeezes your hand

      Holding hands is great, whether you prefer the waffle or pancake variety. What makes any hand holding a little more special is when he squeezes your hand to remind you he’s there – whether you’re driving in the car, taking a walk in the park, or in the waiting room at the dentist, that extra little squeeze makes you feel extra-secure and loved.

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        Love these romantic gestures? Here are even more ideas. (And a few more for good measure.)

        Featured photo credit: I Will Never If You Never/Christian Gonzalez via flickr.com

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        How to Talk to Strangers Without Feeling Awkward

        How to Talk to Strangers Without Feeling Awkward

        Many of us feel awkward talking to strangers. I’m a very outgoing person, even though I sometimes feel uncomfortable walking up to someone and asking a question or starting a conversation. I consider myself pretty high up on the extrovert meter. So what is it that makes us pause and become worried or anxious about talking to people we don’t know?

        In this article, we will discuss why we feel this way as well as some tips on how to talk to strangers without feeling awkward.

        Step right up, don’t be shy!

        Why We Feel Awkward Talking to Strangers

        The next time you feel uncomfortable talking to a stranger, tell yourself that’s completely normal. There are numerous reasons why it’s actually natural to feel awkward talking to strangers:

        Our Stress Levels Rise Around Strangers

        Numerous studies have show that our levels of cortisol go up when we are around strangers.[1] Cortisol is the hormone inside of us which produces stress responses.[2]
        So there you go, right off the bat you can see part of your standard response to strangers is due to a chemical reaction!

        A very interesting by product of increased cortisol is that it makes us less empathetic. More than likely this can be traced to our evolution. The increase in the cortisol and the corresponding decrease in empathy makes us want to stay away from strangers. We are biologically wired to feel concern around strangers.

        Evolution Taught Us to Be Wary

        Evolution has also taught us to be wary of strangers in general. Humans as a whole have spent a large chunk of their history banded together in small protective groups. We did this in order to help protect each other and maximize resources.

        When you think about it in this context, outsiders to our small groups or strangers are considered potential threats. Fear of strangers is common across almost all human cultures.

        Culturally Conditioned

        We can also thank our society for helping us feel uncomfortable and sometimes afraid of strangers. The term “stranger danger” is something most of us can relate to either growing up or raising kids. Or both.

        I remember hearing this from my parents, mostly about not getting in someone’s car I didn’t know. And as the father of 2 teenage girls, you can be sure I’ve talked to them about this very concept more times that they want to hear.

        The thought that strangers can be dangerous is built into us as it is. Toss in the amplification of the media on strangers doing things such as kidnapping kids and it takes it to an even higher level.

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        Now that we’ve reviewed some of the reasons why we are nervous, let’s look at why you should talk to strangers more.

        Benefits of Getting over the Awkwardness

        Let’s take a quick look at some of the advantages of how to talk to strangers without feeling awkward. These are some high level benefits of talking to strangers.

        1. Broadens Your Network

        After you talk to someone, you didn’t know previously they become someone you know at least a little bit. This alone helps broaden your network of people you know. This is helpful in many ways whether it is work related or socially related.

        2. Improves Your Communication Skills

        I am a huge proponent of the value of solid communication skills and have written about it often. The more you talk to people, especially people you don’t know, the better your communication skills become.

        Interacting with a wider variety of people will bring the added benefit of improving your communication skills.

        3. Continually Learning

        So many of us don’t actively seek to learn new things. This is one of the primary keys to staying engaged in life and our own personal self fulfillment.

        Almost every time I speak to someone I didn’t know previously, I’ve learned something new. When we speak to strangers, it pushes us out of our comfort zones and we tend to learn new things.

        4. Increases Self Confidence

        Every time we learn to do something we were previously anxious about, we feel better about ourselves.

        Forcing ourselves to talk to strangers will lead to increased self confidence. As we get more and more comfortable doing something that previously made us feel awkward, our self confidence will go up and up.

        So, how to talk to strangers to reap these benefits?

        How to Talk to Strangers

        Here are some tips to on how to talk to strangers without feeling awkward.

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        1. Say Hello

        Putting “say hello” first may seem a bit obvious but let’s take a deeper look. Much of the social awkwardness when speaking to strangers is simply breaking the ice. The first words that will engage someone.

        Most people will respond when someone says hello or hi to them. And those that don’t, you probably don’t want to talk to anyway.

        Practice being the person that opens the door to a conversation. Say hello.

        2. Ask About Them

        Something that I have noticed over the years is that people love to talk about themselves. Even fairly private people tend to open up when asked about events in their lives.

        You can ask leading questions that get people to talk about themselves and recent events. Things like recent movies watched or the summer vacation are great to get someone talking.

        As a father, I also know that people love to talk about their kids. Asking about kids is a fairly easy topic to bring up and in general, most people will expound upon all the great things their kids do or are involved with.

        3. Just Do It

        One of the biggest reasons we don’t do things we want to or know we should is because we overthink it. Quit thinking about it so much and just do it.

        When you give yourself the time to analyze every little angle about a situation, you also give plenty of time to talk yourself out of it. You’ll wind up thinking what if this happens or what if that happens.

        Try to force yourself to jump right in without thinking about it too much. Whenever I have done this, I always feel great about it afterwards, no matter how it turned out.

        4. Don’t Take It Personal

        One of the greatest lessons in life I ever learned was don’t take anything personally. We all go through life with our own sets of experiences and see things through our own lens. The way people react to different situations has almost nothing to do with us. It has to do with previous experiences and the way people feel about things other than us.

        When someone’s reaction isn’t what you’d hoped or expected, chances are it has nothing to do with you. Remember that and keep it in context.

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        5. Get a Chuckle If Possible

        I used the word chuckle purposely because it makes me laugh. In my opinion, it’s one of those funny words. We all like to laugh because it makes us feel good. And when someone makes us laugh, we typically remember those people in a positive light.

        One of the best ways to make a conversation easy and free flowing is to get some laughter going. It doesn’t mean you have to be the master joke teller or anything. See if you can work in a way to make the person you are talking to get a smile or some laughter in. In fact, laughing at yourself maybe a nice try.

        6. Detach

        A great feeling is when you don’t mind which way something turns out, that you will be fine no matter what happens. Kind of like when I watch my two favorite football teams play against each other. I don’t really care who wins, I just want a fun game.

        Treat talking to strangers the same way. You don’t really care how the conversation goes because you are detaching from the outcome. Make it a fun time with yourself and if the conversation goes well, awesome! If not then no big deal, move on.

        7. Share Your Stories

        Well, all like to feel connected to other people. And many times we wind up hanging out with people that we have things in common with. No surprise here.

        To help with how to talk to strangers without feeling awkward, tell stories that have commonalities with the person you are talking to. Kids are an easy one. I have a daughter who was a competitive cheerleader and now plays club volleyball. I have instant connection and stories with strangers I speak with who have kids that play sports. It’s easy to relate to.

        So when you are speaking to a stranger and you have a story or mutual connection point, bring it up.

        8. Give a Compliment

        Almost everyone likes hearing a compliment, whether they admit to it or not. As a general rule, we don’t give out enough compliments. It’s amazing how one small remark someone tosses your way about how good you look can literally make your entire day.

        When you are speaking with someone you don’t know, see if you can work a compliment in. Nothing creepy here. Not a good idea to tell someone you just met that they are the prettiest or handsomest person you ever met. However, if you can share how you like their tattoo or shoes or something like that, it will help put the conversation into an easy going, smiling place.

        9. Relax Your Body Language

        If you go into a situation all worried and nervous, it shows on your body. Your shoulders are tensed up, there’s a look of consternation on your face, things like that.

        When you engage a stranger in conversation, make it a point to relax your body language. Take a deep breath before you engage the person, let your body relax, and put a smile on your face. This will help relax you and it has the added benefit of putting the other person more at ease.

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        If they see that you are relaxed, it helps them relax. Plus having open, engaging body language is very conducive to inviting someone to open up into a conversation with you.

        10. Practice, Practice, Practice

        Like everything else in life, talking to strangers gets easier with practice. The more you do it, the easier it becomes.

        Make it a point to talk to several strangers each week and it will definitely help you relax as you do it more and more.

        After a while, it will become something you don’t even think about, you just do it. And that takes all of the awkwardness out of being in these type situations.

        The Bottom Line

        As we have seen, it is perfectly natural to feel awkward talking to strangers. We are biologically built that way and we have our own society constantly warning us how dangerous it is. It’s no wonder we feel awkward talking to strangers!

        There are numerous benefits to learning to be more comfortable talking to strangers. See if you can employ some of the techniques mentioned to learn how to talk to strangers without feeling awkward.

        Once you start practicing speaking with strangers more often and utilizing some of the tips, you will become more comfortable doing so. This in turn will lead to a learned new skill and increased self confidence.

        Remember, everyone you know was a stranger at one time. Now get out there and make some new friends.

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