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15 Reasons Why You Should Not Be Grateful For Life

15 Reasons Why You Should Not Be Grateful For Life

Curious? This is about the beauty of life, about being grateful to life. I mean, we are all mortals, our emotions are constantly being juggled. It is natural to be upset with the sad moments we face in our lives, despite living in this beautiful world – but making sadness an obsession is BAD. You have to open your eyes and see all the beautiful things around you. Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder. Thus, wiggle off your depression and look afresh.

1. Get lost… in nature

Honestly, I don’t like to work right after I wake up in the morning. So, what I usually do is take my steaming cup of hot coffee, stand in front of the window and look outside. The lush green trees, the blooming flowers, even the houses look absolutely brilliant. If that’s not good enough to make you “not” grateful, nothing is. The next time you are feeling down, why don’t you take a stroll in the park, and enjoy what nature has to offer you?

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    2. Grow younger. Not that again!

    This is specially for those parents who are frustrated and become melancholic with life. I know it is not so easy to tend the kids, work, and handle the household chores. You have been gifted with the most precious gifts – your children! Be thankful for such a priceless present. For a change why not try grow young, be their age, play with them, laugh with them. Trust me, you can’t be any happier!

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      3. Who said laughter is the best medicine?

       

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        Yes, you, Mister-or-miss Serious! In the words of the movie, “Why so serious?” Aren’t you grateful that jokes exist in this world? Even if you are not a “lame” person, it is always a welcome break to wisecrack sometimes. If you can’t come up with something as bad as the above joke then read some! You’ll be grateful for life for the existence of such remedies. Because laughter is the best medicine!

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        4. Who likes music anyway?

        As if you don’t! Whether consciously or subconsciously, you do frequently hum a tune that gets stuck in your mind. There have been studies about music as a therapy and the results are very positive. Whether you are feeling down in the dumps or not, music has great impact on our mind and body. It is a powerful treatment tool. Aren’t you grateful that musicians exist?

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          5. Isn’t sitting on the couch and sulking away the best?

          Don’t misinterpret this! Party hard and go wild if it suits you, but don’t make it into a habit. You can dye your hair pink, dress like hobo; that’s absolutely your personal matter. What I mean is if you think there is nothing for you that the human race can offer, then go into the jungle and hang out with the animals. Yes, I am talking about safari! You will be in a safe distance from the wilds, but it will really unwind you and make you feel gratified that life has so many things to gift you. Always remember:

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            6. Chocolate, yuck!

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              Having a bad day? Feeling worthless? Don’t. Because it is not the answer to your problems. If you want to overcome your roller-coaster of an emotion, go buy yourself some chocolate. It is another medicine to cure your dreadful mood. The good news is, it is WAY cheaper than a therapist. If you want to be adventurous, then make one! Aren’t you glad? Happy eating!

              7. Cooking sucks!

              Cooking helps. Oh yes, cooking helps to lift up your mood like magic. Look at this picture of broccoli:

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                Isn’t it beautiful? This is just an example. Nature has presented us with such amazing, vibrant foods that we are forever grateful to. So, why not utilize these beauties and cook up a storm?

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                  8. Life has given you money, so, bankrupt yourself!

                  This is for the lovely ladies out there (the guys are most welcome too). You have a career, you get paid for your hard work, and most of the money is gone before you can count it. It is mainly draining away due to the household costs, babies, or paying bills – but that’s not life, that’s living. You should reward yourself as well. Visit the mall, and be a shopaholic for one day. It won’t harm you, neither will it kill you! Just make sure you don’t overindulge in this too often.

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                    9. The big bang theory

                    No, I am not talking about physics. I am talking about physical activity. It is actually a rhetoric term for sex. Sex is a sensational cure for depression. Because life has offered you a beautiful partner, and you guys complete each other, you are in bliss when you are in your partner’s company. Part of the bliss is having sex. Studies have shown that sex has a great impact on your psychological aspects. So, the next time you are down and your stunning partner is roaming around you, just do it!

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                      10. You are ugly, face it!

                      How ugly do you think you are? Everyone is born with their own beauty. Looking pretty naturally makes you feel pretty. To define your beauty, you can always take professional help. Say, after a haircut, or a massage, or even getting a mani-pedi, don’t you feel beautiful? Why not try meditation, or yoga? This form of exercise will revitalise your body and soul, leaving you happy and fresh. Whether you hit the salon, or your yoga mat, you’ll be grateful for life that such things matter and will increase your confidence.

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                        11. Hate hate hate dancing!

                        Did you know that you can release stress by dancing? You don’t have to wait for Saturday night to go clubbing. You can simply put on music and dance to the rhythm. Take half an hour from your time and you will be surprised to see the result. Here is a step by step guide on stress-relieving for your benefit. Check this out and thank me later!

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                          12. A friend in need…

                          You have amazing people around you. Your parents, your partner, your children, and your friends. Perhaps you don’t have your parents any more, or you are single with no kids. Don’t stress. You have friends because everyone has friends. It is not necessary to have a whole bunch of hanger-ons constantly around you. Two or three genuine sidekicks are sufficient. Just be yourself with them. Laugh out loud. Play games. Movies would do. Eat out. Drink till you are drunk. Party. Cry. SHARE. Trust me, these are more than enough to life a longer life – and you will be grateful for life that you are blessed with such wonderful souls.

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                            13. Reading is so overrated!

                            Read as much as you can. Not only will it make you forget your worries, it will rejuvenate your spirit as well. Be it Shakespeare or Jane Austen classics, to Sidney Sheldon or Agatha Christie. Be it William Blake or J.K. Rowling, it does not matter. Just read. You will thank your books forever. They can be one of your trusted friends.

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                              14. Loathe your mistakes

                              What are we without mistakes? Would we be the person we are today if we didn’t make any mistakes? Of course not! You face many hurdles in your life, it is okay. Some hurdles make you frustrated, some make you sad. There are some hurdles that push you to make mistakes. Do not fear your mistakes, embrace them. Walk with them. Talk to them. Laugh at them.

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                                15. School was boring. Why not relive it?

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                                  Imagine waking up early in the morning, going to school, attending classes with a bunch of teenagers, doing homework, sitting tests… I know, you don’t want to live in that nightmare AGAIN! You don’t have to of course, there is the internet. You can type whatever you like into a search engine and then… Learn! Knowledge has no bounds. There are many free online courses that provide certificates as well, to help you out, here are three such websites for your convenience:

                                  If you can get your hands busy on acquiring education, you won’t have time for moping around. You will be grateful for LIFE! You’re welcome!

                                  Lastly, I would like to say that we all have our differences, we all have difficulties in life, sorrows, and challenges. It is only natural to be upset, but next time, look around you. Love your flaws, love your life, and you shall be grateful for life. Here is Marilyn Monroe for you. Cheers!

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                                    How to Overcome the Fear of Public Speaking (A Step-by-Step Guide)

                                    How to Overcome the Fear of Public Speaking (A Step-by-Step Guide)

                                    You’re standing behind the curtain, just about to make your way on stage to face the many faces half-shrouded in darkness in front of you. As you move towards the spotlight, your body starts to feel heavier with each step. A familiar thump echoes throughout your body – your heartbeat has gone off the charts.

                                    Don’t worry, you’re not the only one with glossophobia(also known as speech anxiety or the fear of speaking to large crowds). Sometimes, the anxiety happens long before you even stand on stage.

                                    Your body’s defence mechanism responds by causing a part of your brain to release adrenaline into your blood – the same chemical that gets released as if you were being chased by a lion.

                                    Here’s a step-by-step guide to help you overcome your fear of public speaking:

                                    1. Prepare yourself mentally and physically

                                    According to experts, we’re built to display anxiety and to recognize it in others. If your body and mind are anxious, your audience will notice. Hence, it’s important to prepare yourself before the big show so that you arrive on stage confident, collected and ready.

                                    “Your outside world is a reflection of your inside world. What goes on in the inside, shows on the outside.” – Bob Proctor

                                    Exercising lightly before a presentation helps get your blood circulating and sends oxygen to the brain. Mental exercises, on the other hand, can help calm the mind and nerves. Here are some useful ways to calm your racing heart when you start to feel the butterflies in your stomach:

                                    Warming up

                                    If you’re nervous, chances are your body will feel the same way. Your body gets tense, your muscles feel tight or you’re breaking in cold sweat. The audience will notice you are nervous.

                                    If you observe that this is exactly what is happening to you minutes before a speech, do a couple of stretches to loosen and relax your body. It’s better to warm up before every speech as it helps to increase the functional potential of the body as a whole. Not only that, it increases muscle efficiency, improves reaction time and your movements.

                                    Here are some exercises to loosen up your body before show time:

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                                    1. Neck and shoulder rolls – This helps relieve upper body muscle tension and pressure as the rolls focus on rotating the head and shoulders, loosening the muscle. Stress and anxiety can make us rigid within this area which can make you feel agitated, especially when standing.
                                    2. Arm stretches – We often use this part of our muscles during a speech or presentation through our hand gestures and movements. Stretching these muscles can reduce arm fatigue, loosen you up and improve your body language range.
                                    3. Waist twists – Place your hands on your hips and rotate your waist in a circular motion. This exercise focuses on loosening the abdominal and lower back regions which is essential as it can cause discomfort and pain, further amplifying any anxieties you may experience.

                                    Stay hydrated

                                    Ever felt parched seconds before speaking? And then coming up on stage sounding raspy and scratchy in front of the audience? This happens because the adrenaline from stage fright causes your mouth to feel dried out.

                                    To prevent all that, it’s essential we stay adequately hydrated before a speech. A sip of water will do the trick. However, do drink in moderation so that you won’t need to go to the bathroom constantly.

                                    Try to avoid sugary beverages and caffeine, since it’s a diuretic – meaning you’ll feel thirstier. It will also amplify your anxiety which prevents you from speaking smoothly.

                                    Meditate

                                    Meditation is well-known as a powerful tool to calm the mind. ABC’s Dan Harris, co-anchor of Nightline and Good Morning America weekend and author of the book titled10% Happier , recommends that meditation can help individuals to feel significantly calmer, faster.

                                    Meditation is like a workout for your mind. It gives you the strength and focus to filter out the negativity and distractions with words of encouragement, confidence and strength.

                                    Mindfulness meditation, in particular, is a popular method to calm yourself before going up on the big stage. The practice involves sitting comfortably, focusing on your breathing and then bringing your mind’s attention to the present without drifting into concerns about the past or future – which likely includes floundering on stage.

                                    Here’s a nice example of guided meditation before public speaking:

                                    2. Focus on your goal

                                    One thing people with a fear of public speaking have in common is focusing too much on themselves and the possibility of failure.

                                    Do I look funny? What if I can’t remember what to say? Do I look stupid? Will people listen to me? Does anyone care about what I’m talking about?’

                                    Instead of thinking this way, shift your attention to your one true purpose – contributing something of value to your audience.

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                                    Decide on the progress you’d like your audience to make after your presentation. Notice their movements and expressions to adapt your speech to ensure that they are having a good time to leave the room as better people.

                                    If your own focus isn’t beneficial and what it should be when you’re speaking, then shift it to what does. This is also key to establishing trust during your presentation as the audience can clearly see that you have their interests at heart.[1]

                                    3. Convert negativity to positivity

                                    There are two sides constantly battling inside of us – one is filled with strength and courage while the other is doubt and insecurities. Which one will you feed?

                                    ‘What if I mess up this speech? What if I’m not funny enough? What if I forget what to say?’

                                    It’s no wonder why many of us are uncomfortable giving a presentation. All we do is bring ourselves down before we got a chance to prove ourselves. This is also known as a self-fulfilling prophecy – a belief that comes true because we are acting as if it already is. If you think you’re incompetent, then it will eventually become true.

                                    Motivational coaches tout that positive mantras and affirmations tend to boost your confidents for the moments that matter most. Say to yourself: “I’ll ace this speech and I can do it!”

                                    Take advantage of your adrenaline rush to encourage positive outcome rather than thinking of the negative ‘what ifs’.

                                    Here’s a video of Psychologist Kelly McGonigal who encourages her audience to turn stress into something positive as well as provide methods on how to cope with it:

                                    4. Understand your content

                                    Knowing your content at your fingertips helps reduce your anxiety because there is one less thing to worry about. One way to get there is to practice numerous times before your actual speech.

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                                    However, memorizing your script word-for-word is not encouraged. You can end up freezing should you forget something. You’ll also risk sounding unnatural and less approachable.

                                    “No amount of reading or memorizing will make you successful in life. It is the understanding and the application of wise thought that counts.” – Bob Proctor

                                    Many people unconsciously make the mistake of reading from their slides or memorizing their script word-for-word without understanding their content – a definite way to stress themselves out.

                                    Understanding your speech flow and content makes it easier for you to convert ideas and concepts into your own words which you can then clearly explain to others in a conversational manner. Designing your slides to include text prompts is also an easy hack to ensure you get to quickly recall your flow when your mind goes blank.[2]

                                    One way to understand is to memorize the over-arching concepts or ideas in your pitch. It helps you speak more naturally and let your personality shine through. It’s almost like taking your audience on a journey with a few key milestones.

                                    5. Practice makes perfect

                                    Like most people, many of us are not naturally attuned to public speaking. Rarely do individuals walk up to a large audience and present flawlessly without any research and preparation.

                                    In fact, some of the top presenters make it look easy during showtime because they have spent countless hours behind-the-scenes in deep practice. Even great speakers like the late John F. Kennedy would spend months preparing his speech beforehand.

                                    Public speaking, like any other skill, requires practice – whether it be practicing your speech countless of times in front of a mirror or making notes. As the saying goes, practice makes perfect!

                                    6. Be authentic

                                    There’s nothing wrong with feeling stressed before going up to speak in front of an audience.

                                    Many people fear public speaking because they fear others will judge them for showing their true, vulnerable self. However, vulnerability can sometimes help you come across as more authentic and relatable as a speaker.

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                                    Drop the pretence of trying to act or speak like someone else and you’ll find that it’s worth the risk. You become more genuine, flexible and spontaneous, which makes it easier to handle unpredictable situations – whether it’s getting tough questions from the crowd or experiencing an unexpected technical difficulty.

                                    To find out your authentic style of speaking is easy. Just pick a topic or issue you are passionate about and discuss this like you normally would with a close family or friend. It is like having a conversation with someone in a personal one-to-one setting. A great way to do this on stage is to select a random audience member(with a hopefully calming face) and speak to a single person at a time during your speech. You’ll find that it’s easier trying to connect to one person at a time than a whole room.

                                    With that said, being comfortable enough to be yourself in front of others may take a little time and some experience, depending how comfortable you are with being yourself in front of others. But once you embrace it, stage fright will not be as intimidating as you initially thought.

                                    Presenters like Barack Obama are a prime example of a genuine and passionate speaker:

                                    7. Post speech evaluation

                                    Last but not the least, if you’ve done public speaking and have been scarred from a bad experience, try seeing it as a lesson learned to improve yourself as a speaker.

                                    Don’t beat yourself up after a presentation

                                    We are the hardest on ourselves and it’s good to be. But when you finish delivering your speech or presentation, give yourself some recognition and a pat on the back.

                                    You managed to finish whatever you had to do and did not give up. You did not let your fears and insecurities get to you. Take a little more pride in your work and believe in yourself.

                                    Improve your next speech

                                    As mentioned before, practice does make perfect. If you want to improve your public speaking skills, try asking someone to film you during a speech or presentation. Afterwards, watch and observe what you can do to improve yourself next time.

                                    Here are some questions you can ask yourself after every speech:

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                                    • How did I do?
                                    • Are there any areas for improvement?
                                    • Did I sound or look stressed?
                                    • Did I stumble on my words? Why?
                                    • Was I saying “um” too often?
                                    • How was the flow of the speech?

                                    Write everything you observed down and keep practicing and improving. In time, you’ll be able to better manage your fears of public speaking and appear more confident when it counts.

                                    If you want even more tips about public speaking or delivering a great presentation, check out these articles too:

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