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15 Life Lessons To Learn Before Entering Your 30s

15 Life Lessons To Learn Before Entering Your 30s

Reaching your thirties comes with a sense of pride and accomplishment. You must have learned a thing or two over the years and these vital lessons will forever prove valuable. Here are fifteen lessons you should have learned before entering your 30s.

1. You learn that education goes beyond having a degree

Well you may think that having a degree and going to an Ivy League School guarantees your success. However it goes beyond that. Education with a degree has a limit, but real life education doesn’t. and this sort of unconventional education could protect, guide and tutor you to becoming the person you can be.

2. You learn that money doesn’t solve all problems

Your real problems in life won’t be solved by money. Yes money offers you a lot of options and luxuries but worthy things such as a happy home, a satisfactory job and great friends do not require money.

3. You learn that time is limited

“The aging process has you firmly in its grasp if you never get the urge to throw a snowball.” – Doug Larson

You don’t have all the time in the world as time is passing and an item you cannot hold on to. Yet you can make true value of your time and making sure every second counts.

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4. You learn that people’s opinion about you don’t really matter

Your twenties comes with a roller coaster and through it you start understanding that you have to take control of your life rather than let others dictate your choices and decisions for you.

5. You learn to appreciate your health

“After 30, a body has a mind of its own.” Bette Midler

As you grow older you understand that you are not invincible. Slowly aches and pains start creeping into your life and thus you start placing more value on your health.

6. You learn to value your family

You may have thought you are infallible all this while but as you grow older you realize your flaws. With this you pay more attention to your family and understand how central they are to your well-being. You can forgive them for the mistakes they made as you are no longer a newcomer to making mistakes.

7. You learn to understand the importance of forgiveness

“Thirty was so strange for me. I’ve really had to come to terms with the fact that I am now a walking and talking adult.” C.S. Lewis

You start having more reason to let go and allow grievances or hurt to heal as you reach your 30s. You learn that forgiveness is worth the hard work and such responsibility starts with you.

8. You learn that life doesn’t always turn out as planned

“The boy gathers materials for a temple, and then when he is thirty, concludes to build a woodshed.” Henry David Thoreau

In your teens you must have had high expectations. But as you grow older, you understand that with success comes a time clock that may not be what you had planned or desired earlier.

9. You learn that you can’t really change anything by worrying

Worries do not really change your future. You should be more concerned with facing the future with courage and hope.

10. You learn to have a more holistic view of success

By the time you reach your 30s you have a different definition of success and you understand that it is not all about money and being popular. Rather about friendships, family and peace.

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11. You learn that it’s not always about you

You understand reasons why you should not be so selfish and want all the attention upon you. You start learning to shift your focus and perspectives outside of yourself. You learn to adapt and become a part of the bigger picture.

12. You learn to be more mindful of what you say and how you say it

You learn that your words have a lot of power and it is important that you are meticulous with them. A thoughtless comment and a negative remark could put a dent on your character, thus you discover the power in your words.

13. You learn that joy can come from the most unexpected places

As you grow older you start appreciating the simple things more. What never seemed to be fun when you are younger takes a whole new meaning as you reach your 30s.

14. You learn that life becomes more expensive as you grow older

A 50 dollar note in the hand of a 20-year-old has a different value to a 30 year old. As you grow older you start understanding the essence and value of money and why you need to spend it wisely.

15. You learn to have a clearer definition of friendship

As you grow older you learn that friendship shouldn’t be a one-way affair but should affect mutual interests. As you reach your 30s you have to invest your time only on those who are worth investing on.

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As you reach your thirties you should be aware of those hard lessons you have learned over the years.

“Everything I know I learned after I was thirty.” – Georges Clemenceau

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Last Updated on December 3, 2019

10 Life Lessons You’d Better Learn Early on in Life

10 Life Lessons You’d Better Learn Early on in Life

There are so many lessons I wish I had learned while I was young enough to appreciate and apply them. The thing with wisdom, and often with life lessons in general, is that they’re learned in retrospect, long after we needed them. The good news is that other people can benefit from our experiences and the lessons we’ve learned.

Here’re 10 important life lessons you should learn early on:

1. Money Will Never Solve Your Real Problems

Money is a tool; a commodity that buys you necessities and some nice “wants,” but it is not the panacea to your problems.

There are a great many people who are living on very little, yet have wonderfully full and happy lives… and there are sadly a great many people are living on quite a lot, yet have terribly miserable lives.

Money can buy a nice home, a great car, fabulous shoes, even a bit of security and some creature comforts, but it cannot fix a broken relationship, or cure loneliness, and the “happiness” it brings is only fleeting and not the kind that really and truly matters. Happiness is not for sale. If you’re expecting the “stuff” you can buy to “make it better,” you will never be happy.

2. Pace Yourself

Often when we’re young, just beginning our adult journey we feel as though we have to do everything at once. We need to decide everything, plan out our lives, experience everything, get to the top, find true love, figure out our life’s purpose, and do it all at the same time.

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Slow down—don’t rush into things. Let your life unfold. Wait a bit to see where it takes you, and take time to weigh your options. Enjoy every bite of food, take time to look around you, let the other person finish their side of the conversation. Allow yourself time to think, to mull a bit.

Taking action is critical. Working towards your goals and making plans for the future is commendable and often very useful, but rushing full-speed ahead towards anything is a one-way ticket to burnout and a good way to miss your life as it passes you by.

3. You Can’t Please Everyone

“I don’t know the secret to success, but the secret to failure is trying to please everyone” – Bill Cosby.

You don’t need everyone to agree with you or even like you. It’s human nature to want to belong, to be liked, respected and valued, but not at the expense of your integrity and happiness. Other people cannot give you the validation you seek. That has to come from inside.

Speak up, stick to your guns, assert yourself when you need to, demand respect, stay true to your values.

4. Your Health Is Your Most Valuable Asset

Health is an invaluable treasure—always appreciate, nurture, and protect it. Good health is often wasted on the young before they have a chance to appreciate it for what it’s worth.

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We tend to take our good health for granted, because it’s just there. We don’t have to worry about it, so we don’t really pay attention to it… until we have to.

Heart disease, bone density, stroke, many cancers—the list of many largely preventable diseases is long, so take care of your health now, or you’ll regret it later on.

5. You Don’t Always Get What You Want

“Life is what happens while you’re busy making other plans.” – John Lennon

No matter how carefully you plan and how hard you work, sometimes things just don’t work out the way you want them to… and that’s okay.

We have all of these expectations; predetermined visions of what our “ideal” life will look like, but all too often, that’s not the reality of the life we end up with. Sometimes our dreams fail and sometimes we just change our minds mid-course. Sometimes we have to flop to find the right course and sometimes we just have to try a few things before we find the right direction.

6. It’s Not All About You

You are not the epicenter of the universe. It’s very difficult to view the world from a perspective outside of your own, since we are always so focused on what’s happening in our own lives. What do I have to do today? What will this mean for me, for my career, for my life? What do I want?

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It’s normal to be intensely aware of everything that’s going on in your own life, but you need to pay as much attention to what’s happening around you, and how things affect other people in the world as you do to your own life. It helps to keep things in perspective.

7. There’s No Shame in Not Knowing

No one has it all figured out. Nobody has all the answers. There’s no shame in saying “I don’t know.” Pretending to be perfect doesn’t make you perfect. It just makes you neurotic to keep up the pretense of manufactured perfection.

We have this idea that there is some kind of stigma or shame in admitting our limitations or uncertainly, but we can’t possibly know everything. We all make mistakes and mess up occasionally. We learn as we go, that’s life.

Besides—nobody likes a know-it-all. A little vulnerability makes you human and oh so much more relatable.

8. Love Is More Than a Feeling; It’s a Choice

That burst of initial exhilaration, pulse quickening love and passion does not last long. But that doesn’t mean long-lasting love is not possible.

Love is not just a feeling; it’s a choice that you make every day. We have to choose to let annoyances pass, to forgive, to be kind, to respect, to support, to be faithful.

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Relationships take work. Sometimes it’s easy and sometimes it’s incredibly hard. It is up to us to choose how we want to act, think and speak in a relationship.

9. Perspective Is a Beautiful Thing

Typically, when we’re worried or upset, it’s because we’ve lost perspective. Everything that is happening in our lives seems so big, so important, so do or die, but in the grand picture, this single hiccup often means next to nothing.

The fight we’re having, the job we didn’t get, the real or imagined slight, the unexpected need to shift course, the thing we wanted, but didn’t get. Most of it won’t matter 20, 30, 40 years from now. It’s hard to see long term when all you know is short term, but unless it’s life-threatening, let it go, and move on.

10. Don’t Take Anything for Granted

We often don’t appreciate what we have until it’s gone: that includes your health, your family and friends, your job, the money you have or think you will have tomorrow.

When you’re young, it seems that your parents will always be there, but they won’t. You think you have plenty of time to get back in touch with your old friends or spend time with new ones, but you don’t. You have the money to spend, or you think you’ll have it next month, but you might not.

Nothing in your life is not guaranteed to be there tomorrow, including those you love.

This is a hard life lesson to learn, but it may be the most important of all: Life can change in an instant. Make sure you appreciate what you have, while you still have it.

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