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15 Life Lessons To Learn Before Entering Your 30s

15 Life Lessons To Learn Before Entering Your 30s

Reaching your thirties comes with a sense of pride and accomplishment. You must have learned a thing or two over the years and these vital lessons will forever prove valuable. Here are fifteen lessons you should have learned before entering your 30s.

1. You learn that education goes beyond having a degree

Well you may think that having a degree and going to an Ivy League School guarantees your success. However it goes beyond that. Education with a degree has a limit, but real life education doesn’t. and this sort of unconventional education could protect, guide and tutor you to becoming the person you can be.

2. You learn that money doesn’t solve all problems

Your real problems in life won’t be solved by money. Yes money offers you a lot of options and luxuries but worthy things such as a happy home, a satisfactory job and great friends do not require money.

3. You learn that time is limited

“The aging process has you firmly in its grasp if you never get the urge to throw a snowball.” – Doug Larson

You don’t have all the time in the world as time is passing and an item you cannot hold on to. Yet you can make true value of your time and making sure every second counts.

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4. You learn that people’s opinion about you don’t really matter

Your twenties comes with a roller coaster and through it you start understanding that you have to take control of your life rather than let others dictate your choices and decisions for you.

5. You learn to appreciate your health

“After 30, a body has a mind of its own.” Bette Midler

As you grow older you understand that you are not invincible. Slowly aches and pains start creeping into your life and thus you start placing more value on your health.

6. You learn to value your family

You may have thought you are infallible all this while but as you grow older you realize your flaws. With this you pay more attention to your family and understand how central they are to your well-being. You can forgive them for the mistakes they made as you are no longer a newcomer to making mistakes.

7. You learn to understand the importance of forgiveness

“Thirty was so strange for me. I’ve really had to come to terms with the fact that I am now a walking and talking adult.” C.S. Lewis

You start having more reason to let go and allow grievances or hurt to heal as you reach your 30s. You learn that forgiveness is worth the hard work and such responsibility starts with you.

8. You learn that life doesn’t always turn out as planned

“The boy gathers materials for a temple, and then when he is thirty, concludes to build a woodshed.” Henry David Thoreau

In your teens you must have had high expectations. But as you grow older, you understand that with success comes a time clock that may not be what you had planned or desired earlier.

9. You learn that you can’t really change anything by worrying

Worries do not really change your future. You should be more concerned with facing the future with courage and hope.

10. You learn to have a more holistic view of success

By the time you reach your 30s you have a different definition of success and you understand that it is not all about money and being popular. Rather about friendships, family and peace.

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11. You learn that it’s not always about you

You understand reasons why you should not be so selfish and want all the attention upon you. You start learning to shift your focus and perspectives outside of yourself. You learn to adapt and become a part of the bigger picture.

12. You learn to be more mindful of what you say and how you say it

You learn that your words have a lot of power and it is important that you are meticulous with them. A thoughtless comment and a negative remark could put a dent on your character, thus you discover the power in your words.

13. You learn that joy can come from the most unexpected places

As you grow older you start appreciating the simple things more. What never seemed to be fun when you are younger takes a whole new meaning as you reach your 30s.

14. You learn that life becomes more expensive as you grow older

A 50 dollar note in the hand of a 20-year-old has a different value to a 30 year old. As you grow older you start understanding the essence and value of money and why you need to spend it wisely.

15. You learn to have a clearer definition of friendship

As you grow older you learn that friendship shouldn’t be a one-way affair but should affect mutual interests. As you reach your 30s you have to invest your time only on those who are worth investing on.

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As you reach your thirties you should be aware of those hard lessons you have learned over the years.

“Everything I know I learned after I was thirty.” – Georges Clemenceau

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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