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15 Life Lessons To Learn Before Entering Your 30s

15 Life Lessons To Learn Before Entering Your 30s

Reaching your thirties comes with a sense of pride and accomplishment. You must have learned a thing or two over the years and these vital lessons will forever prove valuable. Here are fifteen lessons you should have learned before entering your 30s.

1. You learn that education goes beyond having a degree

Well you may think that having a degree and going to an Ivy League School guarantees your success. However it goes beyond that. Education with a degree has a limit, but real life education doesn’t. and this sort of unconventional education could protect, guide and tutor you to becoming the person you can be.

2. You learn that money doesn’t solve all problems

Your real problems in life won’t be solved by money. Yes money offers you a lot of options and luxuries but worthy things such as a happy home, a satisfactory job and great friends do not require money.

3. You learn that time is limited

“The aging process has you firmly in its grasp if you never get the urge to throw a snowball.” – Doug Larson

You don’t have all the time in the world as time is passing and an item you cannot hold on to. Yet you can make true value of your time and making sure every second counts.

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4. You learn that people’s opinion about you don’t really matter

Your twenties comes with a roller coaster and through it you start understanding that you have to take control of your life rather than let others dictate your choices and decisions for you.

5. You learn to appreciate your health

“After 30, a body has a mind of its own.” Bette Midler

As you grow older you understand that you are not invincible. Slowly aches and pains start creeping into your life and thus you start placing more value on your health.

6. You learn to value your family

You may have thought you are infallible all this while but as you grow older you realize your flaws. With this you pay more attention to your family and understand how central they are to your well-being. You can forgive them for the mistakes they made as you are no longer a newcomer to making mistakes.

7. You learn to understand the importance of forgiveness

“Thirty was so strange for me. I’ve really had to come to terms with the fact that I am now a walking and talking adult.” C.S. Lewis

You start having more reason to let go and allow grievances or hurt to heal as you reach your 30s. You learn that forgiveness is worth the hard work and such responsibility starts with you.

8. You learn that life doesn’t always turn out as planned

“The boy gathers materials for a temple, and then when he is thirty, concludes to build a woodshed.” Henry David Thoreau

In your teens you must have had high expectations. But as you grow older, you understand that with success comes a time clock that may not be what you had planned or desired earlier.

9. You learn that you can’t really change anything by worrying

Worries do not really change your future. You should be more concerned with facing the future with courage and hope.

10. You learn to have a more holistic view of success

By the time you reach your 30s you have a different definition of success and you understand that it is not all about money and being popular. Rather about friendships, family and peace.

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11. You learn that it’s not always about you

You understand reasons why you should not be so selfish and want all the attention upon you. You start learning to shift your focus and perspectives outside of yourself. You learn to adapt and become a part of the bigger picture.

12. You learn to be more mindful of what you say and how you say it

You learn that your words have a lot of power and it is important that you are meticulous with them. A thoughtless comment and a negative remark could put a dent on your character, thus you discover the power in your words.

13. You learn that joy can come from the most unexpected places

As you grow older you start appreciating the simple things more. What never seemed to be fun when you are younger takes a whole new meaning as you reach your 30s.

14. You learn that life becomes more expensive as you grow older

A 50 dollar note in the hand of a 20-year-old has a different value to a 30 year old. As you grow older you start understanding the essence and value of money and why you need to spend it wisely.

15. You learn to have a clearer definition of friendship

As you grow older you learn that friendship shouldn’t be a one-way affair but should affect mutual interests. As you reach your 30s you have to invest your time only on those who are worth investing on.

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As you reach your thirties you should be aware of those hard lessons you have learned over the years.

“Everything I know I learned after I was thirty.” – Georges Clemenceau

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Last Updated on November 15, 2018

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

What do you think it takes to achieve your goals? Hard work? Lots of actions? While these are paramount to becoming successful in reaching our goals, neither of these are possible without a positive mindset.

As humans, we naturally tend to lean towards a negative outlook when it comes to our hopes and dreams. We are prone to believing that we have limitations either from within ourselves or from external forces keeping us from truly getting to where we want to be in life. Our tendency to think that we’ll “believe it when we see it” suggests that our mindsets are focused on our goals not really being attainable until they’ve been achieved. The problem with this is that this common mindset fuels our limiting beliefs and shows a lack of faith in ourselves.

The Success Mindset

Success in achieving our goals comes down to a ‘success mindset’. Successful mindsets are those focused on victory, based on positive mental attitudes, empowering inclinations and good habits. Acquiring a success mindset is the sure-fire way to dramatically increase your chance to achieve your goals.

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The idea that achieving our goals comes down to our habits and actions is actually a typical type of mindset that misses a crucial point; that our mindset is, in fact, the determiner of our energy and what actions we take. A negative mindset will tend to create negative actions and similarly if we have a mindset that will only set into action once we see ‘proof’ that our goals are achievable, then the road will be much longer and arduous. This is why, instead of thinking “I’ll believe it when I see it”, a success mindset will think “I’ll see it when I believe it.”

The Placebo Effect and What It Shows Us About The Power of Mindset

The placebo effect is a perfect example of how mindset really can be powerful. In scientific trials, a group of participants were told they received medication that will heal an ailment but were actually given a sugar pill that does nothing (the placebo). Yet after the trial the participants believed it’s had a positive effect – sometimes even cured their ailment even though nothing has changed. This is the power of mindset.

How do we apply this to our goals? Well, when we set goals and dreams how often do we really believe they’ll come to fruition? Have absolute faith that they can be achieved? Have a complete unwavering expectation? Most of us don’t because we hold on to negative mindsets and limiting beliefs about ourselves that stop us from fully believing we are capable or that it’s at all possible. We tend to listen to the opinions of others despite them misaligning with our own or bow to societal pressures that make us believe we should think and act a certain way. There are many reasons why we possess these types of mindsets but a success mindset can be achieved.

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How To Create a Success Mindset

People with success mindsets have a particular way of perceiving things. They have positive outlooks and are able to put faith fully in their ability to succeed. With that in mind, here are a few ways that can turn a negative mindset into a successful one.

1. A Success Mindset Comes From a Growth Mindset

How does a mindset even manifest itself? It comes from the way you talk to yourself in the privacy of your own head. Realising this will go a long way towards noticing how you speak to yourself and others around you. If it’s mainly negative language you use when you talk about your goals and aspirations then this is an example of a fixed mindset.

A negative mindset brings with it a huge number of limiting beliefs. It creates a fixed mindset – one that can’t see beyond it’s own limitations. A growth mindset sees these limitations and looks beyond them – it finds ways to overcome obstacles and believes that this will result in success. When you think of your goal, a fixed mindset may think “what if I fail?” A growth mindset would look at the same goal and think “failures happen but that doesn’t mean I won’t be successful.”

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There’s a lot of power in changing your perspective.

2. Look For The Successes

It’s really important to get your mind focused on positive aspects of your goal. Finding inspiration through others can be really uplifting and keep you on track with developing your success mindset; reinforcing your belief that your dreams can be achieved. Find people that you can talk with about how they achieved their goals and seek out and surround yourself with positive people. This is crucial if you’re learning to develop a positive mindset.

3. Eliminate Negativity

You can come up against a lot of negativity sometimes either through other people or within yourself. Understanding that other people’s negative opinions are created through their own fears and limiting beliefs will go a long way in sustaining your success mindset. But for a lot of us, negative chatter can come from within and these usually manifest as negative words such as can’t, won’t, shouldn’t. Sometimes, when we think of how we’re going to achieve our goals, statements in our minds come out as negative absolutes: ‘It never works out for me’ or ‘I always fail.’

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When you notice these coming up you need to turn them around with ‘It always works out for me!’ and ‘I never fail!’ The trick is to believe it no matter what’s happened in the past. Remember that every new day is a clean slate and for you to adjust your mindset.

4. Create a Vision

Envisioning your end goal and seeing it in your mind is an important trait of a success mindset. Allowing ourselves to imagine our success creates a powerful excitement that shouldn’t be underestimated. When our brain becomes excited at the thought of achieving our goals, we become more committed, work harder towards achieving it and more likely to do whatever it takes to make it happen.

If this involves creating a vision board that you can look at to remind yourself every day then go for it. Small techniques like this go a long way in sustaining your success mindset and shouldn’t be dismissed.

An Inspirational Story…

For centuries experts said that running a mile in under 4 minutes was humanly impossible. On the 6th May 1954, Rodger Bannister did just that. As part of his training, Bannister relentlessly visualised the achievement, believing he could accomplish what everyone said wasn’t possible…and he did it.

What’s more amazing is that, as soon as Bannister achieved the 4-minute mile, more and more people also achieved it. How was this possible after so many years of no one achieving it? Because in people’s minds it was suddenly possible – once people knew that it was achievable it created a mindset of success and now, after over fifty years since Bannister did the ‘impossible’, his record has been lowered by 17 seconds – the power of the success mindset!

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