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15 Do’s and Don’ts When Dating

15 Do’s and Don’ts When Dating

In today’s 100 mile and hour whirlwind lives of ours it is harder than ever to meet the right person.  With the rise of speed dating events and singles nights it is clear to see that we are looking for all the help we can get with finding ‘the one’.  When time is limited and you are dealing with everyday stresses it’s hard to put your dating cap on and be on your top form, that’s why when you do get the chance you’ve got to make sure you make an impression as it may be your only chance to impress Mr. or Mrs. right.

Some guidance on dating wouldn’t go a miss I’m sure, so have a read on to see how you can use my advice to make a good impression and maybe a second date. Behold my friends……the 15 do’s and don’ts when dating.

1. DO Turn up on time.

Imagine that for every minute you are delayed your date will be thinking about how the possibility of them being stood up.  You’ll have left them in the restaurant or bar looking at their watch feeling self-conscious about everyone watching them sitting there alone.

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    2. Don’t talk about how great you are.

    How off-putting! Your date does not, I repeat NOT want to hear all about you.  They want to be listened to, respected and engaged with.  There will be plenty of time for them get to know you, just wait your turn and reveal more about you when the time calls for it.

    shh

      3. DO be interested.

      If you’re meeting for the first time it’s likely you’ll find out a lot about your date that you never knew.  Some of it may be of interest to you, some not, but act like you are interested.  Think of the effort they have made to tell you things that are important to them and show some interest in what they are saying.  Which leads me to my next point.

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        4. Don’t keep checking your phone.

        This shows total lack of interest and disrespect to the conversation. If you check your phone you are clearly saying that your phone is more important than the person sitting opposite you.  Prepare to get the bus home.

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          5. DO Listen more.

          We all like the sound of our own voice but when you are getting to know someone and the relationship is in it’s raw phase then quieten and take in what has been said.  Speak less and show your interest by listening more.

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            6. Don’t be under-dressed.

            Being overdressed is far better than turning up looking a scruff.  Your date will appreciate the effort you made and if they haven’t made as much of an effort then they will aim to the next time you meet up.

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              7. DO ask more questions.

              That’s right by now you are so interested in what they are saying that you want to know more. Listen, take in the information and ask questions to prove that what you have heard is computing.

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                8. Don’t try and be perfect.

                No one is perfect and no one is looking for Mr or Mrs perfect. No relationship is built on perfection so no need to worry if your date doesn’t seem too impressed with your little quirks or silly habits. Your imperfection is what makes you perfect.

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                  9. DO Make eye contact.

                  People will assess honesty through eye contact.  The more you look away when you are speaking the more dishonest you will seem.  You don’t need to stare your date out with your lovers eyes, just know that a better connection will be made if you keep your focus on them.

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                    10. Don’t spend too long talking about past relationships.

                    This subject is best mentioned and not elaborated on.  Nobody wants to hear how much you loved your ex and how wonderful your life was with them.  If you find yourself in the middle of this conversation I suggest you moonwalk out the bar and get a taxi home.

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                      11. DO be honest.

                      The relationship between you two will start off in the best possible way if you are totally honest with your date.  This is the way I see it. You should always be proud of expressing exactly who you are and what you stand for and if it doesn’t sit well with them then you know that they aren’t the right person for you.

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                        12. Don’t think too far ahead

                        Enjoy the moment! Forget what might happen, what could happen and all the variables and just enjoy your date, focus on connecting and being happy in the moment.

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                          13.Do offer to pay for the bill.

                          Guys find it attractive if a lady shows intention of paying for the bill.  It’s sexy, and shows that she is able to look after herself, but guys if you are reading this do not let the lady pay on the first date.  Take control of the payment as the ladies like the same quality in us.

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                            14. Don’t use cheesy lines.

                            You’re not thirteen years old any more so don’t even go there.  Cheesy lines should be left to teenagers, movies and people that have no interest in ever dating again. Not wise and not cool, enough said on that one.

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                              15. Do throw in a compliment or two.

                              We all love a compliment and I suggest that throwing one in to the conversation will only be a positive move. Keep it simple, keep it clean and say it like you mean it, not just because you are returning a compliment.

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                                Now go and get working my good people and may cupid be looking down on you.  Adios!

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                                Last Updated on June 13, 2019

                                How to Quit Your Boring Life and Start Living an Interesting One

                                How to Quit Your Boring Life and Start Living an Interesting One

                                Think you have a boring life?

                                The definition of boring is dull or not interesting. Maybe you’ve been doing the same thing and living the same life for too long, or maybe your daily routine is limiting your growth and happiness. Whatever your reason is, the following list of 20 things can definitely make any day more interesting. Some of them are silly, while some are more meaningful, so hopefully just reading the list makes your life less boring and sparks your creativity.

                                Let’s dive in the list to quit your boring life and start living an interesting (and meaning) one!

                                1. Channel Your 7-Year-Old Self

                                What would he or she want to do right now? Color? Paint? Run around outside? Play dress up? Eat with your hands? Play that instrument hiding in the back of your closet that you haven’t touched in years?

                                Just because you’re a grown up doesn’t mean any of this stuff will be less enjoyable than you remember it. Give yourself permission to play.

                                2. Go Play with Kids

                                Speaking of little kids, if you have your own or access to any (in a non-creepy way, like they’re your niece or your best friend’s kid, you get the idea) go play with them!

                                They didn’t create an entire show called Kids Say The Darndest Things because kids aren’t hilarious. They also keep things so simple, and we can really stand to be reminded of this and stop allowing ourselves to get bogged down in boring details.

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                                3. Order a Hot Dog

                                While you’re eating it, Google: “What’s in a hot dog?” You decide whether or not you want to finish it.

                                4. For the Ladies: Wear Your Sexiest Lingerie Under Your Work Clothes

                                Your “little secret” will leave you feeling anything but boring all day!

                                5. Play Cell Phone Roulette

                                You’ll need at least one buddy for this. Scroll through the contacts in your phone, stop on a random one and call the person.

                                You could spark an incredible catch up session or be incredibly awkward. Neither are boring.

                                6. Fill out a Pack of Thank-You Cards

                                Give them to random people who probably don’t get thanked too often for doing what they do ever day.

                                Ideas: police officers, librarians, servers, baristas, cab drivers, sanitation workers, teachers, people behind any check out counter, receptionists, your friends, the guy at the falafel stand, etc.

                                7. Sign up for a Class in Something You’ve “Always Wanted to Do”, or Something That Makes You Really Uncomfortable

                                Ideas: pole dancing, salsa lessons, improv, pottery, cooking, knitting (yup, there are classes for this, too!), karate, boxing, something techy like the workshops they run in Apple stores, get Rosetta Stone and learn that language you’ve always wanted to speak, etc.

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                                What’s good about joining an interest class is that you will also meet new people!

                                8. Interview Your Grandparents About Their Lives

                                You can bet they’ve had some crazy experiences you probably never knew about.

                                9. Get up on Stage at an Open Mic Night

                                Whether you’re funny or not, get up on stage and just talk funny. And if you’re not, memorize a few of your favorite jokes and tell those!

                                10. Do Something for Someone Else That You Wish Someone Would Do for You

                                We all have a few ideas on this list. I promise you will feel amazing after and anything but bored.

                                11. Start a DIY Project in Your Home

                                It doesn’t have to be super complicated. If you need ideas, there’re plenty on Pinterest. Or you can also check out these 30 Awesome DIY Projects that You’ve Never Heard of.

                                12. Plan a Weekend Trip or an All-Out Vacation

                                This will give you something to look forward to.

                                Even if you don’t have the time or money to go on a vacation, plan for a staycation, which is same fun and relaxing!

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                                13. People Watch

                                Find a bench in a crowded area (centers of transportation like airports, bus stops and train stations are great for this!) and just observe.

                                People are infinitely interesting.

                                14. Eat Something You’ve Never Eaten Before

                                Bonus points if it’s a random fruit or veggie.

                                15. Dance

                                You can get your friends together for a night on the town or just pull up a video on YouTube and bust a move from your own living room.

                                If you’re feeling extra brave, you can even dance in public and get other people involved.

                                16. Go to YOUTUBE and Search “Funny Pets” or “Funny Babies”

                                This is also a great quickie ab workout as you will be laughing hysterically.

                                17. Pick up a Book and Start Reading

                                Check out the NY Times Best Sellers lists and grab a new book you can get lost in.

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                                18. Step Away from the Computer and Go Get Some Time with People You Care About in Real Life

                                Facebook stalking doesn’t count as real social interaction. You can even share this post with your friends and vote on which one you’d like to do together!

                                19. Check out a Museum You’ve Never Been to Before

                                OK, depending on your interests, this one might actually be boring. If you love learning, art or different cultures though, this one is for you!

                                20. Write a List of Things You Desire and Truly Want

                                This is a great way to help you figure out the real reason why you’re feeling bored about your life. Maybe you haven’t really done things that you truly enjoy? Maybe what you’ve wanted to do all the time has been left behind?

                                Think about the list of things you really want to do, and ask yourself why you aren’t doing these things (yet). Then start taking your first step to make what you want happen.

                                Now go make your life interesting and live your dream life!

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