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14 Inspiring Quotes from Best-selling Book “Tuesdays with Morrie”

14 Inspiring Quotes from Best-selling Book “Tuesdays with Morrie”

In a world of hustle and bustle, it’s sad that we have to wait for the harsher realities in life to jolt us awake.  In the end, all the worldly possessions we strive for or the status we all reach for mean nothing.  Have you loved and did you love?  That’s all that matters in the end. Here are 14 inspiring quotes  about life from Mitch Albom’s beloved book Tuesdays with Morrie.

1.  “Don’t let go too soon, but don’t hold on too long.”

Mourning has to happen, we have to honor those that we lose by really sinking into that feeling of loss.  But we are amiss when we spend too much time there. Use pain and heartache to catapult you to new purposes and look around at what’s left of living. Look at it with a new-found perspective.  Don’t be defined by your losses.  Let your losses define your motivation.

2.  “Love each other or perish.”

A life without love is like a plant without water, it slowly deteriorates.  Love brings life, it brings motivation and inspiration.  Love brings with it confidence and adventure.  Love makes life come alive and without it we are wilting away day by day.  Start planting the seeds by putting love out there and watch how the more love you share, the more comes back to you.

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3.  “What if today were my last day on earth?”

Nothing teaches gratitude as much as thoughts about how precious time is.  Truly the best way to go forth in life is to appreciate how precious it is to be alive.  When we think of it this way, we are more purposeful with how we spend our time and what goals we give ourselves.

4.   “Love is the only rational act.”

We try to fight love but we are fighting for make believe walls and holding on to insecurities.  Let it all go and just let love out.   Stop letting your life be ruled by anything more than what’s in your heart.

5.   “Love always wins.”

Resistance and friction happens when we’re fighting to protect the little bubble of a world we live in, we’re hoarding all the wrong things in this bubble.  We want to be right.  We want to have pride.  We want the wrong things.  Love is the only solution to conflict. Love heals all wounds.

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6.   “Find someone to share your heart, give to your community, be at peace with yourself, try to be as human as you can be.”

Don’t isolate.  Get in the world and interact with it.   When it seems that nothing is going your way think about what vibes you give out to the universe.  Usually what you send out is what comes back to you.  Get comfortable with people and with giving of your heart.  The art of a big heart takes practice.  The more you share your heart, the more you feel it will be reciprocated.  Then you start to get the confidence to try harder.  Soon you become good at it with practice and more of it comes back to you.

7.   “The most important thing in life is to learn how to give out love, and to let it come in.”

We all spend so much time with our energies everywhere but in our hearts.  All searching for happiness and acceptance when it’s within us, right with us all along.  Isn’t it funny that when we figure this out, everything else seems to fall into place?

8.   “If you really want it, then you’ll make your dream happen.”

Sometimes we don’t know what we really want.  Sometimes pain finally forces us to look inside and figure it out.  In pain, good things happen, if you let it.  Find out who you are and start crafting the dream that’s inside of you.  Be the better person you’re meant to become.  Once you know what you want and it’s clear it and you can see it, you can move mountains to make things happen.

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9.    “So many people walk around with a meaningless life. They seem half-asleep, even when they’re busy doing things they think are important. This is because they’re chasing the wrong things. The way you get meaning into your life is to devote yourself to loving others, devote yourself to your community around you, and devote yourself to creating something that gives you purpose and meaning.”

Everyone needs to find something inside that drives them, that they’re willing to push themselves through tough times.  Don’t wait for a tragedy to happen or a tragic loss to happen for you to realize that you need to find your purpose.  Take the time to find out what it is, do the work to find out who you are and what you want.

10.  “Don’t cling to things because everything is impermanent.”

Things come and go.  Life seems so much more stressful with more stuff.  Think about how our life has evolved even over the last 10 years.  The rise of consumerism has given way to so much clutter in our lives.  We all each have 10 pairs of shoes for one season. Eight different versions of a jackets for one season.  A raincoat, a workout coat, a nice dressy coat-okay maybe one in black and one in red, a long one, a short one, a leather one.  Remember when it was so easy to keep up with one?  So we’ve created a lot of stress in our lives trying to keep up with our possessions.  This stress takes away from the quality time we can be spending with people.  Life is about relationships, not things.

11.  “Accept who you are; and revel in it.”

The biggest lesson is life is that the sooner you know how to be as authentic to your self as possible is when you really come alive.  Be no one else but as you as you can be.

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12.  “Everyone knows they’re going to die but nobody believes it. If we did, we would do things differently.”

The best thing is to not live life in denial.  There is as bit of pressure in life to make it count.  Don’t be complacent about life.  Be aware and try to make something matter in the time you are here.  If you don’t know where to start, it usually good to start with giving of yourself and finding out where that takes you.

13.  “Forgive yourself before you die. Then forgive others.”

Don’t live a life of regret.  Don’t linger in the wrongs.  Linger in making things right and moving from there.  Say sorry even when you don’t want to, the act of saying it will release you.  Hanging on to wrongs does nothing for you.  Move forward.

14.  “Without love, we are birds with broken wings.”

In order to fly we need to be intact.  Love is what holds us together and keeps us up in the air soaring with the wind blowing in our faces feeling alive.

Featured photo credit: By Mitch Albom and Jeffrey Hatcher via google.com

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How to Improve Communication Skills for Workplace Success

How to Improve Communication Skills for Workplace Success

Possessing strong communication skills will help you in every phase of your life. This is especially true in the workplace.

I have personally worked with several leaders who were masters of communication. A few were wonderful speakers who could tell a great story and get everyone in the room engaged. Those of us in attendance would walk away feeling inspired and eager to help with what came next. Others were very skilled at sharing a clear direction and job expectations.

I knew exactly what was expected of me and how to achieve my goals. This was the foundation of an energized and vibrant role I was in. What I have found is strong communication skills are incredibly helpful and sometimes critical in how well we perform at work.

Here we will take a look at how to improve communication skills for workplace success.

How Communication Skills Help Your Success

Strong communication skills pave the way for success in many ways. Let’s look at a few of the big ones.

Create a Positive Experience

Here are two examples of how well developed communication skills helps create a positive experience:

When I first moved to the city I now live in, I began a job search. Prior to my first live interview, I was told an address to go to. Upon arriving at the address provided, I drove around and around attempting to find the location. After 15 minutes of circling and looking for the address, I finally grabbed a parking spot and set out on foot.

What I discovered was the address was actually down an alley and only had the number over the door. No sign for the actual company. The person that gave me those very unclear directions provided a bad experience for me.

Had they communicated the directions to get there in a clear manner, my experience would have been much better. Instead the entire experience started off poorly and colored the entire meeting.

As a recruiter, I frequently provide potential candidates with information about a job I’m speaking to them about. In order to do this, I also provide a picture of the overall company, the group they might be joining, and how their role fits in and impacts the entire company.

Time and time again I have been told by candidates that I have provided the clearest picture of a company and role they have ever heard. They have a positive experience when I clearly communicate to them. Even when the position does not work out for them, often times they will want to stay in touch with me due to the open communication and beneficial experience they had during the interviewing process.

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Strong communication skills will provide a positive experience in virtually any interaction you have with someone.

Help Leadership Skills

It’s certainly a skill all its own to be able to lead others.

Being a mentor and guiding others towards success is a major hallmark of great leaders. Another characteristic of effective leaders is the ability to communicate clearly.

As I referenced above, having a leader who can plainly articulate the company’s mission and direction goes a really long way towards being the Captain of the boat that others want to follow. It’s like saying “here’s our destination and this is how we are going to get there” in a way that everyone can get on board with.

Another critical component of everyone helping to sail the boat in the right direction is knowing what your portion is all about. How are you helping the boat move towards its destination in the manner than is consistent with the leaders’ vision?

If you have a boss or a manager that can show you what it takes for not only you to be successful, but also how your performance helps the company’s success then you’ve got a winner. A boss with superior communication skills.

Build Better Teams

Most of us work in teams of some sort or another. During the course of my career, I have led teams up to 80 and also been an individual contributor.

In my individual contributor roles, I have been part of a larger team. Even if you are in business for yourself, you have to interact with others in one manner or another.

If you have strong communication skills, it helps to build better teams. This is true whether you are in an IT department with 100 other fellow programmers or if you own your own business and have customers or vendors you communicate with.

When you showcase your robust ability to communicate well with others while interacting with them, you are building a better team.

Now let’s jump in to how to improve communication skills to help you pave the way for your workplace success.

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How to Improve Communication Skills for Workplace Success

There are many tips, tricks, and techniques to improve communication skills. I don’t want to overwhelm you with too much information, so let’s focus on the things that will provide the biggest return on your time investment.

Most of these tips will be fairly easy to become aware of but will take time and effort to implement. So let’s go!

1. Listen

Ever heard the saying you have two ears and one mouth for a reason? If you haven’t, then here’s the reason:

Being a good listener is half the equation to being a good communicator.

People who have the ability to really listen to someone can then actually answer questions in a meaningful way. If you don’t make the effort to actively listen, then you are really doing yourself and the other person a disservice in the communication department.

Know that person who is chomping at the bit to open his or her mouth the second you stop talking? Don’t be that person. They haven’t listened to at least 1/2 of what you’ve said. Therefore the words that spill out of their mouth are going to be about 1/2 relevant to what you just said.

Listen to someone completely and be comfortable with short periods of silence. Work on your listening skills first and foremost.

2. Know Your Audience

Knowing your audience is another critical component to having strong communication skills. The way you interact with your manager should be different than how you interact with your kids. This isn’t to say you need to be a different person with everyone you interact with. Far from it.

Here is a good way to think about it:

Imagine using your the same choice of words and body language you use with your spouse while interacting with your boss. That puts things in a graphic light!

You want to ensure you are using the type of communication most relevant to your audience.

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3. Minimize

I have lunch with a business associate about 3 times a year. We’ve been talking for several years now about putting a business deal together.

He is one of those people that simply overwhelms others with a lot of words. Sometimes when I ask him a question, I get buried beneath such an avalanche of words that I’m more confused than when I asked the question. Needless to say this is most likely a large portion of why we never put the deal together.

Don’t be like my lunch business associate. The goal of talking to or communicating with someone is to share actual information. The goal is not to confuse someone, it’s to provide clarity in many cases.

State what needs to be stated as succinctly as possible. That doesn’t mean you can’t have some pleasant conversation about the weather too.

The point is to not create such an onslaught of words and information that the other person walks away more confused than when they started.

4. Over Communicate

So this probably sounds completely counter intuitive to what I just wrote about minimizing your communication. It seems like it might be but it’s not.

What I mean by over communicating is ensuring that the other person understands the important parts of what you are sharing with them. This can be done simply yet effectively. Here’s a good example:

Most companies have open enrollment for benefits for the employees in the fall. The company I work for has open enrollment from November 1 to 15. The benefits department will send out a communication to all employees around October 1st, letting them know open enrollment is right around the corner and any major changes that year. There’s also a phone number and email for people to contact them with any questions.

Two weeks later, we all get a follow up email with basically the same information. We get a 3rd communication the week before open enrollment and another one 1 day before it starts.

Finally we get 2 emails during enrollment reminding us when open enrollment ends.

There’s minimal information, it’s more of a reminder. This is effective over communication.

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5. Body Language

The final critical component to how to improve communication skills for workplace success is body language. This is something most of us have heard about before but, a reminder is probably a good idea.

When I am in a meeting with someone I am comfortable with, I tend to kind of slouch down in my chair and cross my arms. When I catch myself doing this, I sit up straight and uncross my arms. I remember that crossing arms can many times be interpreted as a sign of disagreement or conflict.

In general, the best rule of thumb is to work towards having open body language whenever possible at work. This means relaxing your posture, not crossing your arms, and looking people in the eye when speaking with them.

When you are speaking in front of others, stand up straight and speak in a clear voice. This will convey confidence in your words.

Conclusion

Possessing strong communication skills will help you in many facets of your life and most certainly in the workplace.

Good communication helps create better teams, positive experiences with those we interact with, and are critical for leadership.

There are numerous tactics and techniques to be used to improve communication skills. Here we’ve reviewed how to improve communication skills for workplace success.

Now go communicate your way to success.

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