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13 Things People Who Truly Love Their Life Don’t Do

13 Things People Who Truly Love Their Life Don’t Do

People who love life have bad days, too. It’s just that they respond to them in a productive way. Do you have a positive outlook, or do you expect the worst? Do you have the confidence to act, or do you take forever to decide? If you want to be a happier person, watch out for these thirteen bad habits people who truly love life avoid.

1. They don’t expect life to be perfect.

Your outlook determines your happiness more than your situation. Don’t get upset when you have a bad day. They provide the context you need to appreciate the good ones.

2. They don’t stay in relationships that aren’t meant to be.

Your social environment makes a big impact on your mood. Don’t stay in relationships with people who bully you. Good friends will challenge you to be better, but without condemning or criticizing you.

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3. They don’t believe in time travel.

Your past cannot control you. Don’t waste time regretting things you would have done differently last week/month/year. Concentrate on what you can do to make things better today.

4. They don’t obsess with things they can’t fix.

Your present focus determines your future success. Don’t let yourself get miserable over a problem you cannot solve. Direct your attention to the issues you can address and forget the rest.

5. They don’t give up their power.

Your self-confidence affects your ability to act. Don’t view yourself as a damsel in distress or helpless victim who needs to be saved. You are responsible for your outcome.

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6. They don’t pursue comfort.

Your fear of the unknown could be making you complacent. Don’t chase “quick” or “easy” fixes to problems that require complex solutions. The thing you are afraid to do is often the thing you need to do.

7. They don’t make themselves feel small.

Your thoughts should encourage you to put forth effort. Don’t insult yourself with words like fat, lazy, ugly, or unworthy. Empower yourself with affirmations that make you feel confident.

8. They don’t make comparisons.

Your transformation will take as long as it needs to take. Don’t draw comparisons. No one can promise you will lose 10 lbs in a week, meet your soul-mate in 100 days, or make $1,000 in your first month of business.

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9. They don’t live in the past.

Your mind should be focused on the present moment. Don’t let past mistakes turn into a fear of failure that cripples your ability to act. Find the moral of the story, make any fixes you can, and forget about it.

10. They don’t neglect their personal health.

Your body is like a car; if you don’t take care of it now, you might end up paying for it later. Don’t claim to be “too busy” to exercise and eat healthy. Movement and nourishment should be priorities for every person.

11. They don’t worry about everything.

Your worries only exist in your imagination. Don’t create mental monsters out of little concerns. To increase perspective, ask yourself, “Will this still seem like a big deal next month?”

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12. They don’t treat life like a race.

Your patience muscles need to be trained every day. Don’t forget to pause and reflect. Consciously appreciate the little things that excite you, no matter how silly!

13. They don’t let other people’s opinions dictate their decisions.

Your opinion is the only one that counts. Don’t refuse feedback that might help you, but also accept that not everyone will understand you. You are the only person with the power to choose your destiny.

Nobody is perfect! Don’t be afraid to tell us what you struggle with in the comments. I’m working on #12. Splitting big projects into baby steps seems to help. Click share if you want to help your friends love life, too! :)

Featured photo credit: Love, love/Serena via flickr.com

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Daniel is a writer who focuses on blogging about happiness and motivation at Lifehack.

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.

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1. Listen

Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

“Why do you want to do that?”

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“What makes you so excited about it?”

“How long has that been your dream?”

You need this information the help you with the following steps.

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3. Encourage

This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

5. Dream

This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.

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6. Ask How You Can Help

Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

7. Follow Up

Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

Final Thoughts

By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

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