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13 Things People Who Truly Love Their Life Don’t Do

13 Things People Who Truly Love Their Life Don’t Do

People who love life have bad days, too. It’s just that they respond to them in a productive way. Do you have a positive outlook, or do you expect the worst? Do you have the confidence to act, or do you take forever to decide? If you want to be a happier person, watch out for these thirteen bad habits people who truly love life avoid.

1. They don’t expect life to be perfect.

Your outlook determines your happiness more than your situation. Don’t get upset when you have a bad day. They provide the context you need to appreciate the good ones.

2. They don’t stay in relationships that aren’t meant to be.

Your social environment makes a big impact on your mood. Don’t stay in relationships with people who bully you. Good friends will challenge you to be better, but without condemning or criticizing you.

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3. They don’t believe in time travel.

Your past cannot control you. Don’t waste time regretting things you would have done differently last week/month/year. Concentrate on what you can do to make things better today.

4. They don’t obsess with things they can’t fix.

Your present focus determines your future success. Don’t let yourself get miserable over a problem you cannot solve. Direct your attention to the issues you can address and forget the rest.

5. They don’t give up their power.

Your self-confidence affects your ability to act. Don’t view yourself as a damsel in distress or helpless victim who needs to be saved. You are responsible for your outcome.

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6. They don’t pursue comfort.

Your fear of the unknown could be making you complacent. Don’t chase “quick” or “easy” fixes to problems that require complex solutions. The thing you are afraid to do is often the thing you need to do.

7. They don’t make themselves feel small.

Your thoughts should encourage you to put forth effort. Don’t insult yourself with words like fat, lazy, ugly, or unworthy. Empower yourself with affirmations that make you feel confident.

8. They don’t make comparisons.

Your transformation will take as long as it needs to take. Don’t draw comparisons. No one can promise you will lose 10 lbs in a week, meet your soul-mate in 100 days, or make $1,000 in your first month of business.

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9. They don’t live in the past.

Your mind should be focused on the present moment. Don’t let past mistakes turn into a fear of failure that cripples your ability to act. Find the moral of the story, make any fixes you can, and forget about it.

10. They don’t neglect their personal health.

Your body is like a car; if you don’t take care of it now, you might end up paying for it later. Don’t claim to be “too busy” to exercise and eat healthy. Movement and nourishment should be priorities for every person.

11. They don’t worry about everything.

Your worries only exist in your imagination. Don’t create mental monsters out of little concerns. To increase perspective, ask yourself, “Will this still seem like a big deal next month?”

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12. They don’t treat life like a race.

Your patience muscles need to be trained every day. Don’t forget to pause and reflect. Consciously appreciate the little things that excite you, no matter how silly!

13. They don’t let other people’s opinions dictate their decisions.

Your opinion is the only one that counts. Don’t refuse feedback that might help you, but also accept that not everyone will understand you. You are the only person with the power to choose your destiny.

Nobody is perfect! Don’t be afraid to tell us what you struggle with in the comments. I’m working on #12. Splitting big projects into baby steps seems to help. Click share if you want to help your friends love life, too! :)

Featured photo credit: Love, love/Serena via flickr.com

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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