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13 Signs You’ve Found Your Mr. Right

13 Signs You’ve Found Your Mr. Right

Everyone wants to find that perfect mate—a lifetime partner who will complement you and share your world. And while you might, perhaps rightly, say there is no perfect mate, there certainly is a right mate. If you are in relationship with a man and want to know if he’s a keeper, there are some solid signals you can look out for that tell you he’s Mr. Right for YOU and that you should hold on to him tight and not let go.

1. The physical chemistry between you two is palpable.

So much so that other people comment how great you are together. There is no guessing or wondering if the electricity between you is real. Just holding hands fills your heart with joy, even after many years of being together.

2. He takes a genuine interest in your life.

He asks you all about your hopes and dreams and even wants to know how your day was. He does that because he is keen and genuinely happy to be a part of your life. And you are comfortable telling him everything because you trust him and know he has your best interest at heart.

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3. He makes you feel loved, treasured and secure.

He tells you regularly that he loves you and, through his acts of love like taking you out for a romantic dinner or cooking you a meal at home, you know it’s true. You feel he is your “home.” And “home” is the person or place you always want to return to.

4. He gives you space.

He has no desire to control you in any way. He lets you wear what you want, pursue your other interests and just hang out with your friends and have a good time in peace. That’s because he understands the value of me-time and also expects you to give him some space too.

5. He remembers tiny details about you.

Like secret fetishes and how you still chew your nails when you’re nervous, as well as important milestones in your relationship like anniversaries and birthdays. He pretty much remembers everything you’ve ever told him about yourself and cherishes the memories you share together.

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6. He makes you laugh!

He actually has a knack for making you laugh so hard that your ribs hurt. And there is a lot of random dancing, singing and way too many inside jokes that others don’t even understand that goes on between you two. You always have a good time when you are with him.

7. He doesn’t keep secrets from you.

He is completely honest with you, even on sensitive topics like telling you that his ex called him. That’s because he trusts you. He trusts and loves you so much that he would not deliberately cheat, deceive or betray you in any way. And you trust him too in equal measure.

8. He has similar overall goals.

While you may not agree on every little thing, you’re on the same page where it matters. For example, you want the same things long-term like a house in the country, a few kids or travel to different places around the world. Your overall goals, ambitions, virtues and values match.

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9. He fights fair.

He never results to violence or abuse of any kind in the relationship. That means you can tell him directly what’s on your mind without fear he will result to hurtful name calling or physical abuse. He can criticize and correct you too without you misunderstanding the intention behind it.

10. He’s changed you for the better.

He’s overhauled things you thought you knew and wanted and opened your eyes to a whole new (and better) world that you never knew existed. For example, you may have never known how rewarding travelling is, if you’d never met him. His presence in your life just influences you so positively.

11. He likes your family.

And you like his family. Even though your relationship with your in-laws does not determine if your union will thrive, life is so much easier when you have each other’s family’s approval and blessings. Everyone just gets along better, for the most part.

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12. Your parents and closest friends actually like him.

Your parents have known you since you were born and looked out for you ever since. They want what’s best for you and are in a position to see what you might not have the distance or objectivity to see on your own. Tread carefully if your parents and long-term, close friends don’t like him.

13. You would marry him again.

Despite everything – the blowouts and tough times – you know in your heart this is the man you were meant to spend your life with. You realize it could be no other way. You would marry him in a heartbeat, and do it again. He is your Mr. Right and you feel a sense of pride in him.

Featured photo credit: Nathan Colquhoun via flickr.com

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Easily Misunderstood by Others? 6 Barriers You Should Overcome to Make Communication Less Frustrating

Easily Misunderstood by Others? 6 Barriers You Should Overcome to Make Communication Less Frustrating

How often have you said something simple, only to have the person who you said this to misunderstand it or twist the meaning completely around? Nodding your head in affirmative? Then this means that you are being unclear in your communication.

Communication should be simple, right? It’s all about two people or more talking and explaining something to the other. The problem lies in the talking itself, somehow we end up being unclear, and our words, attitude or even the way of talking becomes a barrier in communication, most of the times unknowingly. We give you six common barriers to communication, and how to get past them; for you to actually say what you mean, and or the other person to understand it as well…

The 6 Walls You Need to Break Down to Make Communication Effective

Think about it this way, a simple phrase like “what do you mean” can be said in many different ways and each different way would end up “communicating” something else entirely. Scream it at the other person, and the perception would be anger. Whisper this is someone’s ear and others may take it as if you were plotting something. Say it in another language, and no one gets what you mean at all, if they don’t speak it… This is what we mean when we say that talking or saying something that’s clear in your head, many not mean that you have successfully communicated it across to your intended audience – thus what you say and how, where and why you said it – at times become barriers to communication.[1]

Perceptual Barrier

The moment you say something in a confrontational, sarcastic, angry or emotional tone, you have set up perceptual barriers to communication. The other person or people to whom you are trying to communicate your point get the message that you are disinterested in what you are saying and sort of turn a deaf ear. In effect, you are yelling your point across to person who might as well be deaf![2]

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The problem: When you have a tone that’s not particularly positive, a body language that denotes your own disinterest in the situation and let your own stereotypes and misgivings enter the conversation via the way you talk and gesture, the other person perceives what you saying an entirely different manner than say if you said the same while smiling and catching their gaze.

The solution: Start the conversation on a positive note, and don’t let what you think color your tone, gestures of body language. Maintain eye contact with your audience, and smile openly and wholeheartedly…

Attitudinal Barrier

Some people, if you would excuse the language, are simply badass and in general are unable to form relationships or even a common point of communication with others, due to their habit of thinking to highly or too lowly of them. They basically have an attitude problem – since they hold themselves in high esteem, they are unable to form genuine lines of communication with anyone. The same is true if they think too little of themselves as well.[3]

The problem: If anyone at work, or even in your family, tends to roam around with a superior air – anything they say is likely to be taken by you and the others with a pinch, or even a bag of salt. Simply because whenever they talk, the first thing to come out of it is their condescending attitude. And in case there’s someone with an inferiority complex, their incessant self-pity forms barriers to communication.

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The solution: Use simple words and an encouraging smile to communicate effectively – and stick to constructive criticism, and not criticism because you are a perfectionist. If you see someone doing a good job, let them know, and disregard the thought that you could have done it better. It’s their job so measure them by industry standards and not your own.

Language Barrier

This is perhaps the commonest and the most inadvertent of barriers to communication. Using big words, too much of technical jargon or even using just the wrong language at the incorrect or inopportune time can lead to a loss or misinterpretation of communication. It may have sounded right in your head and to your ears as well, but if sounded gobbledygook to the others, the purpose is lost.

The problem: Say you are trying to explain a process to the newbies and end up using every technical word and industry jargon that you knew – your communication has failed if the newbie understood zilch. You have to, without sounding patronizing, explain things to someone in the simplest language they understand instead of the most complex that you do.

The solution: Simplify things for the other person to understand you, and understand it well. Think about it this way: if you are trying to explain something scientific to a child, you tone it down to their thinking capacity, without “dumbing” anything down in the process.[4]

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Emotional Barrier

Sometimes, we hesitate in opening our mouths, for fear of putting our foot in it! Other times, our emotional state is so fragile that we keep it and our lips zipped tightly together lest we explode. This is the time that our emotions become barriers to communication.[5]

The problem: Say you had a fight at home and are on a slow boil, muttering, in your head, about the injustice of it all. At this time, you have to give someone a dressing down over their work performance. You are likely to transfer at least part of your angst to the conversation then, and talk about unfairness in general, leaving the other person stymied about what you actually meant!

The solution: Remove your emotions and feelings to a personal space, and talk to the other person as you normally would. Treat any phobias or fears that you have and nip them in the bud so that they don’t become a problem. And remember, no one is perfect.

Cultural Barrier

Sometimes, being in an ever-shrinking world means that inadvertently, rules can make cultures clash and cultural clashes can turn into barriers to communication. The idea is to make your point across without hurting anyone’s cultural or religious sentiments.

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The problem: There are so many ways culture clashes can happen during communication and with cultural clashes; it’s not always about ethnicity. A non-smoker may have problems with smokers taking breaks; an older boss may have issues with younger staff using the Internet too much.

The solution: Communicate only what is necessary to get the point across – and eave your personal sentiments or feelings out of it. Try to be accommodative of the other’s viewpoint, and in case you still need to work it out, do it one to one, to avoid making a spectacle of the other person’s beliefs.[6]

Gender Barrier

Finally, it’s about Men from Mars and Women from Venus. Sometimes, men don’t understand women and women don’t get men – and this gender gap throws barriers in communication. Women tend to take conflict to their graves, literally, while men can move on instantly. Women rely on intuition, men on logic – so inherently, gender becomes a big block in successful communication.[7]

The problem: A male boss may inadvertently rub his female subordinates the wrong way with anti-feminism innuendoes, or even have problems with women taking too many family leaves. Similarly, women sometimes let their emotions get the better of them, something a male audience can’t relate to.

The solution: Talk to people like people – don’t think or classify them into genders and then talk accordingly. Don’t make comments or innuendos that are gender biased – you don’t have to come across as an MCP or as a bra-burning feminist either. Keep gender out of it.

And remember, the key to successful communication is simply being open, making eye contact and smiling intermittently. The battle is usually half won when you say what you mean in simple, straightforward words and keep your emotions out of it.

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