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10 Things Only People Who Enjoy Being Single Understand

10 Things Only People Who Enjoy Being Single Understand

Do you love being single? Although there is a common misconception that single people are often lonely, this is normally completely untrue. In fact, many people find being single much more fun and fulfilling than being in a relationship.

Check out this list of 10 things only people who enjoy being single understand.

1. They Don’t Have To Factor Someone Else Into Their Decisions

It is common courtesy to check in with your partner when you’re making a big decision. However, when you’re single, the only person you need to please is yourself. From booking a last minute weekend trip away with your friends, to choosing to quit your job and go back to school, you can do anything you want – without having to discuss the choice with someone else.

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2. They Learn To Love Time Spent Alone

Spending time alone can seem like you don’t have plans, but many single people love to hang out alone – In fact, they embrace it. From long walks listening to music, to cooking yourself a meal you loved as child, you love to spend an evening alone; after all, you’re one of your favorite people.

3. They Can Make Everything Exactly How They Want It

From the way you decorate your house to the food you want in your fridge, everything is exactly how you want it. One of the best parts of this is the cleaning; you only have to tidy up after yourself.

4. They Don’t Have To Compromise Their Priorities

You know what matters the most to you, whether it is your home, friends, family or career. When you are single you can choose what you want to focus most of your energy on. While it may feel scary and intimidating to be fully in control of your own decisions, it means you are likely to make the best choices for yourself.

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5. They Rarely Go Through Intense Arguments

You may find your tipsy uncle irritating after five hours at a family event, but you’re not actually sure when you last took part in a screaming argument. Instead, you listen to your friends and co-workers discuss the latest fights in their relationships, while feeling grateful that your life is actually fairly stress free.

6. They Can Have Privacy Whenever They Want

Most people have rituals to make them look the way they do when they leave the house, and they are often pretty unsightly. Acne cream and face masks might make you look and feel amazing tomorrow, but you probably don’t want an audience while they are actually on.

7. They Are In Control Of The Remote

Or the mouse pad on the laptop. Whenever you load up Netflix it’s so you can catch up on the TV shows you love – and if your favorite way to watch TV is to marathon trashy reality television, there’s no-one to judge you or turn it off.

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8. They Don’t Have To Find A Balance Between Their Relationship And Their Friends

Sometimes people in relationships can struggle to spend the right amount of time with both their friends and their partner. However, when you’re single you can spend all the time you want with your friends. From last minute film nights to a weekend trip away, you can always say yes – perfect!

9. They Don’t Have To Worry About Settling

You don’t have to worry about someone else’s baggage, different viewpoints, or simply ending up with someone who is completely wrong for them. Learning to love being alone means it will take someone truly amazing for you to change your lifestyle.

10. They Don’t Have To Share Their Bed

When you wake up in the night, you can easily roll over in your bed. You don’t have to worry about someone stealing all of the quilts or taking up all of the space. Enough said.

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Featured photo credit: Side view shot of an attractive young woman sitting on her bed reading an interesting novel. Caucasian female model in bedroom reading a book. via shutterstock.com

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Amy is a writer who blogs about relationships and lifestyle advice.

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Easily Misunderstood by Others? 6 Barriers You Should Overcome to Make Communication Less Frustrating

Easily Misunderstood by Others? 6 Barriers You Should Overcome to Make Communication Less Frustrating

How often have you said something simple, only to have the person who you said this to misunderstand it or twist the meaning completely around? Nodding your head in affirmative? Then this means that you are being unclear in your communication.

Communication should be simple, right? It’s all about two people or more talking and explaining something to the other. The problem lies in the talking itself, somehow we end up being unclear, and our words, attitude or even the way of talking becomes a barrier in communication, most of the times unknowingly. We give you six common barriers to communication, and how to get past them; for you to actually say what you mean, and or the other person to understand it as well…

The 6 Walls You Need to Break Down to Make Communication Effective

Think about it this way, a simple phrase like “what do you mean” can be said in many different ways and each different way would end up “communicating” something else entirely. Scream it at the other person, and the perception would be anger. Whisper this is someone’s ear and others may take it as if you were plotting something. Say it in another language, and no one gets what you mean at all, if they don’t speak it… This is what we mean when we say that talking or saying something that’s clear in your head, many not mean that you have successfully communicated it across to your intended audience – thus what you say and how, where and why you said it – at times become barriers to communication.[1]

Perceptual Barrier

The moment you say something in a confrontational, sarcastic, angry or emotional tone, you have set up perceptual barriers to communication. The other person or people to whom you are trying to communicate your point get the message that you are disinterested in what you are saying and sort of turn a deaf ear. In effect, you are yelling your point across to person who might as well be deaf![2]

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The problem: When you have a tone that’s not particularly positive, a body language that denotes your own disinterest in the situation and let your own stereotypes and misgivings enter the conversation via the way you talk and gesture, the other person perceives what you saying an entirely different manner than say if you said the same while smiling and catching their gaze.

The solution: Start the conversation on a positive note, and don’t let what you think color your tone, gestures of body language. Maintain eye contact with your audience, and smile openly and wholeheartedly…

Attitudinal Barrier

Some people, if you would excuse the language, are simply badass and in general are unable to form relationships or even a common point of communication with others, due to their habit of thinking to highly or too lowly of them. They basically have an attitude problem – since they hold themselves in high esteem, they are unable to form genuine lines of communication with anyone. The same is true if they think too little of themselves as well.[3]

The problem: If anyone at work, or even in your family, tends to roam around with a superior air – anything they say is likely to be taken by you and the others with a pinch, or even a bag of salt. Simply because whenever they talk, the first thing to come out of it is their condescending attitude. And in case there’s someone with an inferiority complex, their incessant self-pity forms barriers to communication.

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The solution: Use simple words and an encouraging smile to communicate effectively – and stick to constructive criticism, and not criticism because you are a perfectionist. If you see someone doing a good job, let them know, and disregard the thought that you could have done it better. It’s their job so measure them by industry standards and not your own.

Language Barrier

This is perhaps the commonest and the most inadvertent of barriers to communication. Using big words, too much of technical jargon or even using just the wrong language at the incorrect or inopportune time can lead to a loss or misinterpretation of communication. It may have sounded right in your head and to your ears as well, but if sounded gobbledygook to the others, the purpose is lost.

The problem: Say you are trying to explain a process to the newbies and end up using every technical word and industry jargon that you knew – your communication has failed if the newbie understood zilch. You have to, without sounding patronizing, explain things to someone in the simplest language they understand instead of the most complex that you do.

The solution: Simplify things for the other person to understand you, and understand it well. Think about it this way: if you are trying to explain something scientific to a child, you tone it down to their thinking capacity, without “dumbing” anything down in the process.[4]

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Emotional Barrier

Sometimes, we hesitate in opening our mouths, for fear of putting our foot in it! Other times, our emotional state is so fragile that we keep it and our lips zipped tightly together lest we explode. This is the time that our emotions become barriers to communication.[5]

The problem: Say you had a fight at home and are on a slow boil, muttering, in your head, about the injustice of it all. At this time, you have to give someone a dressing down over their work performance. You are likely to transfer at least part of your angst to the conversation then, and talk about unfairness in general, leaving the other person stymied about what you actually meant!

The solution: Remove your emotions and feelings to a personal space, and talk to the other person as you normally would. Treat any phobias or fears that you have and nip them in the bud so that they don’t become a problem. And remember, no one is perfect.

Cultural Barrier

Sometimes, being in an ever-shrinking world means that inadvertently, rules can make cultures clash and cultural clashes can turn into barriers to communication. The idea is to make your point across without hurting anyone’s cultural or religious sentiments.

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The problem: There are so many ways culture clashes can happen during communication and with cultural clashes; it’s not always about ethnicity. A non-smoker may have problems with smokers taking breaks; an older boss may have issues with younger staff using the Internet too much.

The solution: Communicate only what is necessary to get the point across – and eave your personal sentiments or feelings out of it. Try to be accommodative of the other’s viewpoint, and in case you still need to work it out, do it one to one, to avoid making a spectacle of the other person’s beliefs.[6]

Gender Barrier

Finally, it’s about Men from Mars and Women from Venus. Sometimes, men don’t understand women and women don’t get men – and this gender gap throws barriers in communication. Women tend to take conflict to their graves, literally, while men can move on instantly. Women rely on intuition, men on logic – so inherently, gender becomes a big block in successful communication.[7]

The problem: A male boss may inadvertently rub his female subordinates the wrong way with anti-feminism innuendoes, or even have problems with women taking too many family leaves. Similarly, women sometimes let their emotions get the better of them, something a male audience can’t relate to.

The solution: Talk to people like people – don’t think or classify them into genders and then talk accordingly. Don’t make comments or innuendos that are gender biased – you don’t have to come across as an MCP or as a bra-burning feminist either. Keep gender out of it.

And remember, the key to successful communication is simply being open, making eye contact and smiling intermittently. The battle is usually half won when you say what you mean in simple, straightforward words and keep your emotions out of it.

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