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10 Things You Don’t Need to Be Humble About (Though You Think You Should)

10 Things You Don’t Need to Be Humble About (Though You Think You Should)

They say humility shows a sign of maturity and growing up. Why be arrogant when we have many others who have accomplished more than us. But you should not forget that on the same note, pride is a virtue and being humble about everything may not boost your self-esteem or self-confidence. Such confidence could help you attain a mindset that will serve as a pedestal to the next level of your life. Why be concerned or let others dictate what you should be not be humble about. Here are ten things I am not humble about and I certainly think you shouldn’t be.

1. Your relationships with others

Friendships oil the motor of our lives. There is nothing as devastating as having everything and not having the support group of friends who have always been there with you along the way to share your joys with. Never be humble about your friends, flaunt them and make them aware of this.

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2. Your attitude

When you have a friendly and positive attitude that helps you sail through difficult times, then you have another accomplishment in the bag. Your attitude and approach to life distinguishes you from others and you should never be humble about this.

3. What you have learned

Learning doesn’t come cheap, whether it is the conventional or the unconventional process of learning. Be happy about the knowledge life has dealt you with because it will make you understand yourself and the world better.

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4. Your accomplishments

It could be a course you took, it could be a commendation at a job, it could be a responsibility that you have judiciously taken care of, it could be starting a business against all odd, it could be taking a bold decision; whatever your accomplishments are, flaunt it and always be aware that it counts.

5. Your finances

It takes effort and work to make money. It also takes discipline to spend it judiciously or save it. As far as you have some money in the bank or have been able to afford certain things in your life, you should be happy and never be humble about this.

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6. Your leisure activities

It could be that helpful post you just posted on Facebook or Twitter, it could be that book you just bought and read, it could be traveling to a recent destination or climbing a mountain; your leisure activities do count. Make sure you never embrace humility for this.

7. Your appearance

Something in your appearance could be what makes you wow others. This could be your physical appearance or how you speak or how you have been able to make yourself look younger after all these years. You should be proud of your appearance.

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8. Your charitable causes

There is always an opportunity for you to show compassion and display that you care. There is that day you made a visit or called someone to show how much you cared, or simply saying I love you to someone who needed it or contributing to assist disaster survivors. Whatever way you have added to the positive flow of energy to life is worth being proud of.

9. Your relationship with yourself

In an age when social media and technology have stormed into our private lives, it is noteworthy when you have been able to build a relationship with yourself. This could be through fighting and ridding yourself off a habit, or developing some sense of self awareness.

10. Your skills

Maybe you are a wonderful writer or a fantastic chef: whatever your proficiency is, always be happy and proud you have been able to create something out of virtually nothing. Embrace your abilities and never be humble about your skills, no matter how unimportant they may seem.

Featured photo credit: Man in depression via shutterstock.com

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Casey Imafidon

Specialized in motivation and personal growth, providing advice to make readers fulfilled and spurred on to achieve all that they desire in life.

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Last Updated on October 16, 2019

5 Powerful Ways for Building Fulfilling Relationships

5 Powerful Ways for Building Fulfilling Relationships

We all have relationships. We have acquaintances, relatives, colleagues, neighbors and friends. However, for a large percentage of us, many of these relationships are not fulfilling.

They are unfulfilling because they lack real strength; and they lack real strength because they lack real depth.

Unfortunately, in today’s society, we tend to have shallow, superficial relationships with others, and it’s extremely hard for this kind of relationships to provide anything more than faint satisfaction.

I’d like to show you, based on my experience as a communication and confidence coach, how you can add a significant amount of depth, and thus strength, to your relationships and make your social life a whole lot more meaningful.

Here’re 5 simple yet powerful ways for meaningful relationships building:

1. Meet More People

This is an apparent paradox, but the quality of the people you meet has considerably to do with the quantity of people you meet.

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If you don’t know a lot of people and you barely meet one or two new people every season of the year, considering the variety of individuals out there, you won’t meet very often people who are a good match with you in terms of personality, interests and values.

And since this natural match plays a huge part in building strong relationships, you’ll just as seldom have the opportunity to develop strong relationships.

Conversely, if you go out a lot, you meet a lot of new people and you constantly expand your social circle, you’re much more likely to meet people you match up well with, and these people have a tremendous potential to become good friends, reliable partners, etc.

This is why it’s important to meet more people.

2. Talk about the Things That Matter To You

A relationship becomes the strongest when two people discover they believe in the same things and have similar interests. It’s these commonalities regarding values and interests that create the strongest emotional connection.

I’ve noticed that many people keep conversations shallow. They talk about trivial stuff such as the weather, what’s on TV, the lives of various movie stars, but they rarely talk about what really matters to them in life. This is a mistake from my perspective, because it’s the perfect method for a relationship to not develop.

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Talk about the things that truly matter to you and give others a chance to know what you care about and what you believe in. If they believe in the same things and they care about the same things, they’ll eagerly let you know. Thus you’ll find meaningful common ground and you’ll feel more connected.

3. Express Vulnerability

Many people try to come off as perfect. They don’t talk about their failures, they hide their shortcomings and they never say anything that could embarrass them.

This is all just a facade though. You may appear perfect to some, but you know you’re not perfect and they know that too. You’re only human and humans have flaws.

However, by hiding your flaws, what you do succeed in is appearing cold and impersonal. You seem like a marble statue rather than a real person. And this makes it very hard for anyone to connect with you emotionally.

Humans connect with other humans, not with ideals. Keep this in mind and don’t be afraid to let your vulnerability and your humanity show. This is what takes a relationship to the next level.

Take a look at this article and find out Why Showing Vulnerability Actually Proves Your Strength.

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4. Have Integrity

Integrity, as I see it, is the alignment between your thoughts, your words and your actions. When you say what you think and you do what you said you’ll do, you have integrity.

This is a crucial trait because if you have integrity, people can trust you. They can trust you to give them an honest feedback, even when it’s hard to shallow, and they can trust you to keep your promises.

This trust is one of the central pillars of a strong relationship, both in your personal and your professional life. So, as challenging as it can be sometimes, always try to have integrity.

Be honest with the people around you, even when this will initially hurt them. It’s more important for them to trust you than to not feel hurt. And always do what you promised. Even better, think twice before you promise anything, and only promise what you really can and you are willing to do.

5. Be There for Others

Another central pillar of strong relationships is support. Connections between people grow sturdy if they can rely on each other for support when it’s needed, whether that support means a few kind words or several massive actions.

Of course, you can’t be there for everybody, all the time. Your time, energy and other resources are limited. But what you can do is identify the genuinely important people in your life and then seek to be there as much as possible, at least for them.

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Your support will help them practically, and it will comfort them emotionally; which makes one hell of a difference in a relationship.

The Bottom Line

With the right mindset and the right behavior, you can strengthen a wide range of relationships in your life and advance them as far as they can be advanced.

And with strong relationships, not only that you feel more fulfilled, but you feel more connected to the entire world. You feel that your life has real value, you have more fun and you live in the moment. An entire world of opportunities opens up in front of you.

Then your task is to simply walk through the open doors.

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