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10 Simple Things Couples Often Forget When Maintaining A Happy Relationship

10 Simple Things Couples Often Forget When Maintaining A Happy Relationship

Often, it’s the simple things that keep couples satisfied in their relationships. Create healthy habits that will help you grow closer as a couple and maintain a happy relationship that stands the test of time.

1. Enjoy Meals Together

Set aside time each day to eat at least one meal together. Turn off the TV and use the time to talk about your day. Creating this daily ritual ensures that you’ll take time out of your fast-paced lives each day to connect with one another. Cooking, eating, and cleaning up together can be a great time to squeeze in some much-needed time together as a couple.

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2. Ask For What You Need

Part of being in a committed relationship means you shouldn’t be completely independent anymore. Instead, it’s important to be able to ask for help and tell your partner what you need. When your partner meets those needs, it helps you grow closer as a couple.

3. Love Your Partner According to Your Partner’s Needs

Remember that what you consider to be loving behavior may not feel like love to your spouse. For example, perhaps a husband thinks he’s showing love by doing the laundry each night, but instead of feeling loved, his wife may be wondering why he’s not choosing to spend time with her. Find out what makes your spouse feel loved so you can show your love in a way that it will be well-received.

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4. Set Aside Quality Time For Each Other

Today’s world can be very chaotic at times. Don’t forget to set aside quality time to nurture your relationship. Schedule regular date nights and other time to be alone together. Spending quality time together on a regular basis helps couples maintain emotional intimacy.

5. Plan a Weekend Get-Away at Least Once a Year

Getting away from the rest of the world at least once a year can do wonders for a relationship. It doesn’t have to be extravagant or expensive, but it can make a big difference in the health of your relationship. Make your weekend away a priority each year. Take turns planning your weekends each year to surprise one another or plan your weekends together as a couple.

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6. Unplug From Technology

Shut off your cell phone, laptop, and TV so you can devote your undivided attention to your partner. If you’re texting at the dinner table or sending emails while your partner’s talking, you’ll harm your communication. Treat your partner with respect by offering your undivided attention.

7. Maintain Privacy but Avoid Secrecy

Everyone needs some level of privacy, however, secrecy should have no place in a relationship. Your partner doesn’t need an all-access pass to everything you own, but if you’re hiding specific things because you know your partner would be angry, it can mean trouble for the relationship. Healthy relationships shouldn’t include harmful secrets.

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8. Don’t Expect Your Partner to Meet All Your Needs

It’s impossible for your partner to meet all of your needs all the time. If you expect your partner to always be able to do so, you’ll likely be disappointed often. Your relationships with friends, family members, and co-workers should meet some of your unmet social and emotional needs.

9. Deal with Issues as They Arise

Deal with problems in your relationship as they arise. If you don’t, you risk keeping score or growing resentful. If you’re angry or upset by your partner’s behavior, talk about it when you’re feeling calm. Holding onto your anger or frustration may cause you to eventually explode and say things you don’t necessarily mean.

10. Offer Compliments Liberally

Praise and compliment your partner every single day. Offer words of encouragement and support regularly. Make sure that you are genuine with your words and keep focused on the positive things your partner does.

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Last Updated on September 12, 2019

12 Things You Should Remember When Feeling Lost in Life

12 Things You Should Remember When Feeling Lost in Life

Even the most charismatic people you know, whether in person or celebrities of some sort, experience days where they feel lost in life and isolated from everyone else.

While it’s good to know we aren’t alone in this feeling, the question still remains:

What should we do when we feel lost and lonely?

Here are 12 things to remember:

1. Recognize That It’s Okay!

The truth is, there are times you need to be alone. If you’ve always been accustomed to being in contact with people, this may prove difficult.

However, learning how to be alone and comfortable in your own skin will give you confidence and a sense of self reliance.

We cheat ourselves out of the opportunity to become self reliant when we look for constant companionship.

Learn how to embrace your me time: What Your Fear of Being Alone Is Really About and How to Get over It

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2. Use Your Lost and Loneliness as a Self-Directing Guide

You’ve most likely heard the expression: “You have to know where you’ve been to know where you’re going.”

Loneliness also serves as a life signal to indicate you’re in search of something. It’s when we’re in the midst of solitude that answers come from true soul searching.

Remember, there is more to life than what you’re feeling.

3. Realize Loneliness Helps You Face the Truth

Being in the constant company of others, although comforting sometimes, can often serve as a distraction when we need to face the reality of a situation.

Solitude cuts straight to the chase and forces you to deal with the problem at hand. See it as a blessing that can serve as a catalyst to set things right!

4. Be Aware That You Have More Control Than You Think

Typically, when we see ourselves as being lost or lonely, it gives us an excuse to view everything we come in contact with in a negative light. It lends itself to putting ourselves in the victim mode, when the truth of the matter is that you choose your attitude in every situation.

No one can force a feeling upon you! It is YOU who has the ultimate say as to how you choose to react.

5. Embrace the Freedom That the Feeling of Being Alone Can Offer

Instead of wallowing in self pity, which many are prone to do because of loneliness, try looking at your circumstance as a new-found freedom.

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Most people are in constant need of approval of their viewpoints. Try enjoying the fact that  you don’t need everyone you care about to support your decisions.

6. Acknowledge the Person You Are Now

Perhaps you feel a sense of loneliness and confusion because your life circumstances have taken you away from the persona that others know to be you.

Perhaps the new you differs radically from the old. Realize that life is about change and how we react to that change. It’s okay that you’re not who you used to be.

Take a look at this article and learn to accept your imperfect self: Accept Yourself (Flaws and All): 7 Benefits of Being Vulnerable

7. Keep Striving to Do Your Best

Often those who are feeling isolated and unto themselves will develop a defeatist attitude. They’ll do substandard work because their self esteem is low and they don’t care.

Never let this feeling take away your sense of worth! Do your best always and when you come through this dark time, others will admire how you stayed determined in spite of the obstacles you had to overcome.

And to live your best life, you must do this ONE thing: step out of your comfort zone.

8. Don’t Forget That Time Is Precious

When we’re lost in a sea of loneliness and depression, it’s all too easy to reflect on regrets of past life events. This does nothing but feed negativity and perpetuate the situation.

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Instead of falling prey to this common pitfall, put one foot in front of the other and acknowledge every positive step you take. By doing this, you can celebrate the struggles you overcome at the end of the day.

9. Remember, Things Happen for a Reason

Every circumstance we encounter in our life is designed to teach us and that lesson is in turn passed on to others.

Sometimes we’re fortunate enough to figure out the lesson to be learned, while other times, we simply need to have faith that if the lesson wasn’t meant directly for us to learn from, how we handled it was observed by someone who needed to learn.

Your solitude and feeling of lost, in this instance, although painful possibly, may be teaching someone else.

10. Journal During This Time

Record your thoughts when you’re at the height of loneliness and feeling lost. You’ll be amazed when you reflect back at how you viewed things at the time and how far you’ve come later.

This time (if recorded) can give you a keen insight into who you are and what makes you feel the way you feel.

11. Remember You Aren’t the First to Feel This Way

It’s quite common to feel as if we’re alone and no one else has ever felt this way before. We think this because at the time of our distress, we’re silently observing others around us who are seemingly fine in every way.

The truth is, we can’t possibly know the struggles of those around us unless they elect to share them. We ALL have known this pain!

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Try confiding in someone you trust and ask them how they deal with these feelings when they experienced it. You may be surprised at what you learn.

12. Ask for Help If the Problem Persists

The feeling of being lost and lonely is common to everyone, but typically it will last for a relatively short period of time.

Most people will confess to, at one time or another, being in a “funk.” But if the problem persists longer than you feel it should, don’t ignore it.

When your ability to reason and consider things rationally becomes impaired, do not poo poo the problem away and think it isn’t worthy of attention. Seek medical help.

Afraid to ask for help? Here’s how to change your outlook to aim high!

Final Thoughts

Loneliness and a sense of feeling lost can in many ways be extremely painful and difficult to deal with at best. However, these feelings can also serve as a catalyst for change in our lives if we acknowledge them and act.

Above anything, cherish your mental well being and don’t underestimate its worth. Seek professional guidance if you’re unable to distinguish between a sense of freedom for yourself and a sense of despair.

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