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10 Signs That You’re Leading A Life That Is True To Yourself

10 Signs That You’re Leading A Life That Is True To Yourself

Growing up, many of our parents told us what they wanted us to become in life. Maybe it was a doctor, a lawyer, or a politician. Whatever the expectations, at some point in life we need to realize that we are in control of our own destiny. So it’s important to get to a place where we can honestly say that we are leading a life that is true to ourselves – and no one else. Here are 10 signs that you are leading that kind of life:

1. You are not afraid to make mistakes.

Mistakes are inevitable. But I don’t even like the word ‘mistake.’ I like the term ‘learning opportunity‘ much better because it implies that no life experience is ever wasted. Every single, solitary thing that happens to us can be viewed as a way to improve ourselves – or at the very least, a chance to figure out what we do want as a result of having what we don’t want.

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2. You follow your intuition.

When you make a decision, you pay attention to the feeling in your stomach. Does it feel good? Great. Then go do it. But if you suddenly feel like you are being suffocated or that you want to vomit, then that is your intuition telling you that it’s wrong. When you lead a life that is true to yourself, you pay attention to those feelings on a regular basis.

3. You don’t care what other people think.

When you are a ‘people pleaser,’ you can never make yourself happy. Now, I’m not suggesting that we stop making other people happy. We should absolutely do that. However, when you are living a life that is true to yourself, you put yourself as a priority. Not in a selfish way, but in a way that honors your self-love. When you do that, what other people think about your life doesn’t matter anymore.

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4. You follow your passion.

People who dread going to work on Mondays are not living a life that is true to themselves. Of course, we all need to make a living, but it is possible to turn your passion into your life’s work. Many people have done it. It may not always be easy, but it can be done. And when you’re true to yourself, you try to find a way to make that happen.

5. You don’t waste time.

People who are living in alignment with their true selves don’t waste time doing things that aren’t productive or enjoyable. If you find yourself indulging too often in things like television or social media, maybe you’re not living a life true to yourself. However, if that is what you truly enjoy doing, then go head and keep doing it.

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6. You always dream big.

You don’t settle. You know that there are big things out there for you and you go after them. You don’t sit on the sidelines of life. You know that you have a purpose on this earth and you continually seek to fulfill it.

7. You know that little things matter.

Sure, making millions of dollars a year sounds awesome. But money, fame, and power are not the only things that matter. In fact, the ‘little things’ like spending more time with your friends and family are what really matters the most – not only today, but at the end of your life.

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8. You know what you want in life.

You have goals. You have a plan. You take steps every day to make those things happen. You don’t just sit around and wait for life to happen to you. Instead, you make life happen.

9. You are not afraid to make decisions.

Decisions can be scary, but without them, you can’t really get anywhere in life. Instead, you become stagnant, and there is no growth or truth in being stagnant. In order to move forward in life, we need to continually make good decisions – sometimes even tough ones. But you don’t shy away from doing that.

10. You don’t remember the last time you got bored.

You love life! You think life is good! You think life is fun! You think there is always something to do – always something to accomplish. You don’t lay around complaining that there is nothing to do because you know that there is always something you can do to keep moving forward in life.

Being true to yourself is vital to happiness. If we deny who we are, then we become suffocated by life, and that’s no way to live. So break the chains that are holding you back and make sure you always keep these 10 things in mind.

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Dr. Carol Morgan is a communication professor, dating/relationship and success coach, TV personality, speaker, and author.

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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