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10 Romantic Relationship Myths Debunked

10 Romantic Relationship Myths Debunked

Do you believe in myths about relationships? Often people believe popular myths about relationships, which can make their lives more difficult and stressful. However, many people find that their relationship become less stressful and more fulfilling after they stop believing the sometimes silly myths about relationships.

Here, we debunk 10 of the most famous relationship myths.

1. Your Relationship Should Be Like A Movie

Many people expect relationships to be like the relationships portrayed in romantic films, but they are often overly dramatic and painful. Don’t seek out drama as a sign of passion and love; a true sign of love is stability and consistency, and the ability to weather bad storms together.

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2. If You Feel Doubt, You Must Be With The Wrong Person

It is normal to feel uncertain at times, especially if you plan to spend a long time with your partner. It is likely your doubts have more to do with your own personal fears, such as fear of commitment, rather than fears about your partner. Try to remember that feeling uncertain is very different to feeling unhappy.

3. True Love Is Unconditional

Many people believe that true love is unconditional, as many movies and books portray this as the most ‘real’ love. However, people often change – and that is normal and healthy.

You are with your partner because you love who they are, and it is more important to grow together, rather than to provide them with unwavering love.

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4. Your Relationship Is Your Happiness

Lasting and true happiness comes from within. If you only find happiness in someone else’s love, or you don’t feel whole by yourself, you will find yourself becoming unhealthily dependant – which is unfair on your partner.

Take some time to be by yourself, so you can learn to love yourself first. Relationships are a chance for you to share your happiness with someone else, and to be with someone because you want them – rather than because you don’t want to be alone.

5. Jealousy Is A Sign Of Love

Jealousy is often a sign of insecurity, and feeling secure in a relationship is very important. Instead of fixating on your jealousy, try to work on your own confidence and being aware of your self-worth.

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6. You Change For Someone If You Love Them

Compromise is normal in a healthy and happy relationship, but you should be compromising on the relationship – not the person. If you have to change yourself to be with someone, you will struggle to be happy with them.

7. My Partner Should Know How I Am Feeling

Many people expect their partner to be able to know and understand how they are feeling. However, sometimes even you may not truly know how you feel or what you need. At times like this you cannot expect your partner to know how you are feeling – but you can tell them you feel confused, giving them the chance to acknowledge your feelings.

8. You Should Do Everything Together

While it is a great feeling to share interests with your partner, it is important to still have interests of your own. In a healthy relationship you will still both maintain friendships, hobbies and careers – spending time with only one person is emotionally unhealthy and can leave you feeling trapped.

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9. A Happy Relationship Doesn’t Require Work

Many people often mistakenly believe that a good relationship is effortless, and that both individuals are always on the same page.

The truth is you are both different people, and even the happiest relationships require work, effort and attention. Every day will not be perfect; sometimes life will get in the way and you will have to make a concentrated effort to make your partner happy.

10. Your Relationship Will Be Fight Free

Many people hope that they have so much in common with their partner that they won’t disagree. However, humans are complicated and opinionated, so it is important to realize voicing your opinion is fine – even when you do disagree.

It doesn’t mean you aren’t in love; it just means you care about each other enough to work through fights and respect each other nonetheless.

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Amy Johnson

Amy is a writer who blogs about relationships and lifestyle advice.

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.

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1. Listen

Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

“Why do you want to do that?”

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“What makes you so excited about it?”

“How long has that been your dream?”

You need this information the help you with the following steps.

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3. Encourage

This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

5. Dream

This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.

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6. Ask How You Can Help

Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

7. Follow Up

Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

Final Thoughts

By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

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