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10 Reasons To Tell Yourself, “I Love You”

10 Reasons To Tell Yourself, “I Love You”

Have you ever said something negative about yourself?

“I have such a big nose.”

“I’m so stupid.”

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When was the last time you said, “I love you,” to yourself? There are some surprisingly amazing benefits to this. If you want to increase your level of happiness, here’s why you should start saying those three little words—to yourself.

1. You deserve it.

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    You are a masterpiece. Not only are you great, you are great just the way you are. You’ve likely accomplished a lot in your life and you deserve love. So, why not leave yourself an “I love you” note as a reminder?

    2. It will make your day better.

    The kind of days where your friend cancels dinner, you didn’t get the job, and you just can’t find anything to wear are the days you need to hear, “I love you, most. The next time it seems nothing is going your way, try focusing on love instead of concentrating on what has gone wrong. See if your day doesn’t brighten—even just a little.

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    3. Your existing relationships will become stronger, and you’ll develop new relationships, too.

    When you feel good about yourself, you are able to give more to others. You worry less about your own problems and can devote more time to your friends and family. This, in turn, will strengthen your existing relationships. In addition, people will naturally be attracted to the selflessness you exude, and they will want to get to know you more. Sounds good, right?

    4. You will see an increase in your confidence and self-esteem.

    When successes are challenged, people can lose confidence. It’s best to keep in mind that failure creates momentum for ambition. If you are having an I’m-not-good-enough moment, soothe yourself by saying, “It’s okay, I love you.” It’s the same thing you would do for your kids and husband or wife, isn’t it?

    5. Your productivity will skyrocket.

    When you have love in your heart, you get things done. You are more efficient at home. You are more effective at work. Your chances at success increase. You might land that promotion, solve that issue, or fix that item you’ve been meaning to fix. People will likely notice. Go on, now. Give it a try.

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    6. It will help you truly be present.

    Forgive and forget—another set of three words with such huge meaning. Negative thoughts keep people stuck in the past. When you rethink and relive uncomfortable situations, you are preventing yourself from moving on. Telling yourself, “I love you, redirects your attention to the present moment (the here and now!) and lets you focus on what is happening right in front of you. Forgive. Forget. Then move on.

    7. You will feel healthier.

    Physical health is important. We truly need to take care of our bodies. We need to eat right, exercise, and drink lots of water. Also incredibly important is our mental health. Mentally healthy people feel good about their choices and are proud of themselves, which, in turn, allows them to work on their physical health. Balance out your health by improving both your physical and your mental health.

    8. It will motivate you.

    Maybe you’re feeling lethargic, you’re tired, and you’re having trouble getting going with your day. Love can go a long way. Sometimes you just need that extra push. Give it a whirl. It’s worth it.

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    9. It will make your mom happy.

    —and your dad. And your brothers, sisters, aunts, uncles, cousins, grandmas, grandpas, and friends, too. Those who love you will be happy to know you are treating yourself the way they would treat you. Not only that, but you will begin to appreciate your kindness and respect, too. Grandma would tell you she loves you, wouldn’t she?

    10. It will make you laugh.

    Everyone needs to laugh. If shouting “I LOVE YOU!” to yourself doesn’t make you laugh, giggle, or at the very, very least smile, try shouting louder! Laughter is happiness. And after all, isn’t that what we are all aiming for?

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    Last Updated on October 22, 2019

    How to Get “I Can’t Do It” Out of Your Vocabulary

    How to Get “I Can’t Do It” Out of Your Vocabulary

    When someone says, “I can’t do it” . . . I say to myself, “What do you mean you can’t do it?” Maybe you don’t want to do it, but saying you “can’t” do it is a completely different story.

    With the right mindset, positive attitude, and a clear vision of what you want to accomplish, the only thing that is holding you back is yourself.

    Can’t is a terrible word and it has to be taken out of your vocabulary.

    By saying you can’t do something, you’re already doubting yourself, submitting to defeat, and you’re making that barrier around your life tighter.

    So today, right now, we are going to remove this word for good.

    From now on there is nothing we can’t do.

    “Attitude is Tattoo”

    Your attitude is everything; it’s your reason, your why and how, your facial expression, emotions, body language, and potentially the end result. How you approach an opportunity, and the result of it, is solely based on you — not your boss or your co-worker or friend.

    If you enter a business meeting with a sour attitude, that negative energy can spread like wildfire. People can also feel it — maybe even taste it. This is not an impression you want to leave.

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    Now imagine you enter a business meeting with a positive attitude, that whatever happens in here is going to be your result, in your control, not someone else’s. Of course, we can’t always win, but even if the outcome is negative, your attitude and perception can turn it into a positive. The question is: can you do it?

    Of course you can, because there is nothing in this world you can’t do.

    It’s much better to be known for your positive attitude — your poise, your energy, the reason why things go so well because you are able to maintain such character. A negative attitude is easy. It’s easy to complain, it’s easy to be mad, and it’s even easier to do nothing to change it.

    When I say your “attitude is tattoo”, it sounds permanent. Tattoos can be removed, but that’s not the point. Your attitude is like a tattoo because you wear it. People can see it and sometimes, they will judge you on it. If you maintain a negative attitude, then it is permanent until you change it.

    Change your attitude and I guarantee the results change as well.

    Believe You Can Do It

    Do you know why most people say “can’t” and doubt themselves before trying anything?

    It’s our lack of self-confidence and fear on many different levels. The one thing we have to purge from ourselves is fear — fear of bad results, fear of change, fear of denial, fear of loss, the fear that makes us worry and lose sleep. Worrying is the same as going outside with an umbrella, waiting for rain to hit it. Stop worrying and move on.

    Confidence is fragile: It builds up slowly, but can shatter like glass. Project your confidence and energy into believing in yourself. This is a very important and groundbreaking step — one that is usually the hardest to take. Start telling yourself you can do something, anything, and you will do it the best to your ability. Remove doubt, remove fear, and stick with positive energy.

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    Embrace Failure

    Do not fear failure. Do not run away from it. Face it, learn from it, grow, and take action. Just remember: You will never know success if you have never failed.

    Your confidence will bolster after embracing these facts. You will be immune to demoralizing results, and instead you will find ways to fix it, improve upon it, and make it better than before. You will learn to never say “can’t,” and will realize how many more opportunities you can create by removing that one word.

    Don’t let one simple and ugly word plague your confidence. You’re better and stronger than that.

    Start Making the Change

    But to actually start the process of change is very challenging.

    Why is that?

    Fear? Time? Don’t know how — or where — to start?

    It’s hard because what we’re doing is unlearning what we know. We are used to doing things a certain way, and chances are we’ve been doing them for years.

    So here are some ways that I avoid using the word “can’t”, and actually take the steps to put forth the change that I wish to see. I hope you can incorporate these methods into your life.

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    Write down What You Want to Change

    Write it on post-its, notecards, whatever makes you comfortable — something you will always see. I usually write mine on post-its and put them all over the wall behind my monitor so I always see them.

    Tell a Friend and Talk About It

    Discussing your goals, what you want to change, is very effective when you say it out loud and tell another person other than yourself. It’s almost like saying, hey, I bet I can do it — watch me.

    When you fulfill that goal and tell your friend, it feels rewarding and will motivate you to do it again in a different aspect. Who knows? Maybe your friend adopts the same mindset as you.

    Stop Yourself from Saying the Forbidden Word

    Sometimes,I can’t control myself in public when I’m with friends, so I have to be careful with the words I use so I don’t embarrass or insult anyone.

    Treat the word “can’t” as the worst word you can possibly use. Stop yourself from saying it, mid-sentence if you must, and turn your whole perspective around — you can do it, you will do it, and nothing is impossible!

    Repetition, Repetition, Repetition

    You think this change will be overnight? No way. This is a practice. Something you’re going to be doing for the rest of your life from now until forever.

    As I said earlier, you are unlearning what you know. You know how easy it is to say you can’t do something, so by unlearning this easy practice, you’re self-disciplining yourself to live without boundaries.

    Practice this everyday, a little at a time, and before you know it, the word can’t will not be part of your language.

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    Do Anything That Can Relieve Your Uncertainty

    When I catch myself saying I can’t do something or I don’t know something, looking up information on that action or subject, doing research, educating yourself, relieves that uncertainty.

    Sometimes, we think we can’t do something because the whole idea of it seems too large. We skip the small steps in our head and only focus on the end.

    Before you say you can’t do something, rewind and slow down a little bit. Focus on what the first step is, then the next. Take it a step at a time, and before you know it you will have done something you previously thought you couldn’t do.

    Final Thoughts

    You know what you must do. The first step is right now. Once you begin this habit, and really start noticing some change, you’ll realize the door to opportunity is everywhere.

    The funny thing is: Those doors have always been there. The evil word that we no longer use put a veil over our eyes because that’s how powerful that word is.

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