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10 Reasons To Tell Yourself, “I Love You”

10 Reasons To Tell Yourself, “I Love You”

Have you ever said something negative about yourself?

“I have such a big nose.”

“I’m so stupid.”

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When was the last time you said, “I love you,” to yourself? There are some surprisingly amazing benefits to this. If you want to increase your level of happiness, here’s why you should start saying those three little words—to yourself.

1. You deserve it.

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    You are a masterpiece. Not only are you great, you are great just the way you are. You’ve likely accomplished a lot in your life and you deserve love. So, why not leave yourself an “I love you” note as a reminder?

    2. It will make your day better.

    The kind of days where your friend cancels dinner, you didn’t get the job, and you just can’t find anything to wear are the days you need to hear, “I love you, most. The next time it seems nothing is going your way, try focusing on love instead of concentrating on what has gone wrong. See if your day doesn’t brighten—even just a little.

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    3. Your existing relationships will become stronger, and you’ll develop new relationships, too.

    When you feel good about yourself, you are able to give more to others. You worry less about your own problems and can devote more time to your friends and family. This, in turn, will strengthen your existing relationships. In addition, people will naturally be attracted to the selflessness you exude, and they will want to get to know you more. Sounds good, right?

    4. You will see an increase in your confidence and self-esteem.

    When successes are challenged, people can lose confidence. It’s best to keep in mind that failure creates momentum for ambition. If you are having an I’m-not-good-enough moment, soothe yourself by saying, “It’s okay, I love you.” It’s the same thing you would do for your kids and husband or wife, isn’t it?

    5. Your productivity will skyrocket.

    When you have love in your heart, you get things done. You are more efficient at home. You are more effective at work. Your chances at success increase. You might land that promotion, solve that issue, or fix that item you’ve been meaning to fix. People will likely notice. Go on, now. Give it a try.

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    6. It will help you truly be present.

    Forgive and forget—another set of three words with such huge meaning. Negative thoughts keep people stuck in the past. When you rethink and relive uncomfortable situations, you are preventing yourself from moving on. Telling yourself, “I love you, redirects your attention to the present moment (the here and now!) and lets you focus on what is happening right in front of you. Forgive. Forget. Then move on.

    7. You will feel healthier.

    Physical health is important. We truly need to take care of our bodies. We need to eat right, exercise, and drink lots of water. Also incredibly important is our mental health. Mentally healthy people feel good about their choices and are proud of themselves, which, in turn, allows them to work on their physical health. Balance out your health by improving both your physical and your mental health.

    8. It will motivate you.

    Maybe you’re feeling lethargic, you’re tired, and you’re having trouble getting going with your day. Love can go a long way. Sometimes you just need that extra push. Give it a whirl. It’s worth it.

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    9. It will make your mom happy.

    —and your dad. And your brothers, sisters, aunts, uncles, cousins, grandmas, grandpas, and friends, too. Those who love you will be happy to know you are treating yourself the way they would treat you. Not only that, but you will begin to appreciate your kindness and respect, too. Grandma would tell you she loves you, wouldn’t she?

    10. It will make you laugh.

    Everyone needs to laugh. If shouting “I LOVE YOU!” to yourself doesn’t make you laugh, giggle, or at the very, very least smile, try shouting louder! Laughter is happiness. And after all, isn’t that what we are all aiming for?

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    Last Updated on July 3, 2020

    30 Small Habits To Lead A More Peaceful Life

    30 Small Habits To Lead A More Peaceful Life

    In today’s world, true peace must come from within us and our own actions. Here are 30 small things you can do on a regular basis to increase your overall sense of harmony, peace, and well-being:

    1. Don’t go to every fight you’re invited to

    Particularly when you’re around those who thrive on chaos, be willing to decline the invitation to join in on the drama.

    2. Focus on your breath

    Throughout the day, stop to take a few deep breaths. Keep stress at bay with techniques such as “square breathing.” Breathe in for four counts, hold for four counts, then out for four counts, and hold again for four counts. Repeat this cycle four times.

    3. Get organized and purge old items

    A cluttered space often creates a cluttered spirit. Take the time to get rid of anything you haven’t used in a year and invest in organizational systems that help you sustain a level of neatness.

    4. Stop yourself from being judgmental

    Whenever you are tempted to have an opinion about someone else’s life, check your intentions. Judging others creates and promotes negative energy.

    5. Say ‘thank you’ early and often

    Start and end each day with an attitude of gratitude. Look for opportunities in your daily routine and interactions to express appreciation.

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    6. Smile more

    Even if you have to “fake it until you make it,” there are many scientific benefits of smiling and laughing. Also, pay attention to your facial expression when you are doing neutral activities such as driving and walking. Turn that frown upside down!

    7. Don’t worry about the future

    As difficult as this sounds, there is a direct connection between staying in the present and living a more peaceful life. You cannot control the future. As the old proverb goes, “Worry is like a rocking chair. It gives you something to do, but it won’t get you anywhere.” Practice gently bringing your thoughts back to the present.

    8. Eat real food

    The closer the food is to the state from which it came from the earth, the better you will feel in eating it. Choose foods that grew from a plant over food that was made in a plant.

    9. Choose being happy over being right

    Too often, we sacrifice inner peace in order to make a point. It’s rarely worth it.

    10. Keep technology out of the bedroom

    Many studies, such as one conducted by Brigham and Women’s Hospital, have connected blue light of electronic devices before bed to adverse sleep and overall health. To make matters worse, many people report that they cannot resist checking email and social media when their cell phone is in reach of their bed, regardless of the time.

    11. Make use of filtering features on social media

    You may not want to “unfriend” someone completely, however you can choose whether you want to follow their posts and/or the sources of information that they share.

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    12. Get comfortable with silence

    When you picture someone who is the ultimate state of peace, typically they aren’t talking.

    13. Listen to understand, not to respond

    So often in conversations, we use our ears to give us cues about when it is our turn to say what we want to say. Practice active listening, ask questions, process, then speak.

    14. Put your troubles in a bubble

    Whenever you start to feel anxious, visualize the situation being wrapped in a bubble and then picture that sphere floating away.

    15. Speak more slowly

    Often a lack of peace manifests itself in fast or clipped speech. Take a breath, slow down, and let your thoughtful consideration drive your words.

    16. Don’t procrastinate

    Nothing adds stress to our lives like waiting until the last minute.

    17. Buy a coloring book

    Mandala coloring books for adults are becoming more popular because of their connection to creating inner peace.

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    18. Prioritize yourself

    You are the only person who you are guaranteed to live with 24 hours a day for the rest of your life.

    19. Forgive others

    Holding a grudge is hurting you exponentially more than anyone else. Let it go.

    20. Check your expectations

    Presumption often leads to drama. Remember the old saying, “Expectations are premeditated resentments.”

    21. Engage in active play

    Let your inner child come out and have some fun. Jump, dance, play, and pretend!

    22. Stop criticizing yourself

    The world is a hard enough place with more than enough critics. Your life is not served well by being one of them.

    23. Focus your energy and attention on what you want

    Thoughts, words, and actions all create energy. Energy attracts like energy. Put out what you want to get back.

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    24. Assign yourself “complaint free” days.

    Make a conscious decision not to complain about anything for a whole day. It might be harder than you think and the awareness will stick with you.

    25. Surround yourself with people you truly enjoy being in the company of

    Personalities tend to be contagious, and not everyone’s is worth catching. Be judicious in your choices.

    26. Manage your money

    Financial concerns rank top on the list of what causes people stress. Take the time each month to do a budget, calculate what you actually spend and sanity check that against the money you have coming in.

    27. Stop trying to control everything

    Not only is your inner control freak sabotaging your sense of peace, it is also likely getting in the way of external relationships as well.

    28. Practice affirmations

    Repeat positive phrases that depict the life and qualities you want to attract. It may not come naturally to you, but it works.

    29. Get up before sunrise

    Personally witnessing the dawn brings a unique sense of awe and appreciation for life.

    30. Be yourself

    Nothing creates more inner discord than trying to be something other than who we really are. Authenticity breeds happiness.

    Featured photo credit: man watching sunrise via stokpic.com

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