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10 Beliefs You Need For Personal Excellence

10 Beliefs You Need For Personal Excellence

Your potential is limitless. As you move towards becoming the best person you can be, you have the opportunity to experience amazing adventures and personally evolve in the process. In striving towards personal excellence, your core beliefs are of the utmost importance.

Here are ten beliefs that will propel you towards the excellence you desire:

1. There are no mistakes in life.

There are only experiences. There is value behind every choice you make, even if the outcome turns out differently than you had hoped. Although it isn’t always easy to understand the meaning behind every “bad” decision, you gain wisdom in experiencing challenges.

Be thankful for your missteps. They are your greatest teachers.

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2. I am responsible for my present situation.

By blaming other people or circumstances for your present state, you fail to realize you are the one responsible for creating your own life. Don’t give your power away by maintaining the belief that you have no control over your future. You do! If you don’t have one already, begin cultivating an internal locus of control by being accountable for everything that happens in your life.

3. I will never stop learning.

The world is changing fast. To keep up with it you must be committed to continuing your education on a daily basis through reading, studying and interacting with others. Being dedicated to learning doesn’t necessarily mean you have to open up a textbook every day. It can be as simple as talking to a stranger and being receptive to the lessons that person might have to teach you.

4. I only need to be focused on the action I am taking in this moment.

In the pursuit of personal excellence, sometimes we set “big” goals for ourselves. In setting these benchmarks, it is easy to get overwhelmed. Consider this: to climb a mountain, you only need to concentrate on putting one foot in front of the other.

Your goals will become more attainable when you break down the steps you need to take, then focus on completing each of them, one at a time.

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5. It is OK to ask for support.

You aren’t on your journey alone. Allow the people who want your continued success to lend a hand, but also give someone you don’t know (but whom you admire) the opportunity to share their knowledge with you. Also remember that because of our global interconnectedness, many of the resources you seek will readily appear with the push of a few buttons.

Asking for support demonstrates courage and openness.

6. I am dedicated to pushing myself beyond my existing boundaries.

To become a better version of yourself, you will have to take calculated risks. If you aren’t challenging yourself, you aren’t growing. In evaluating whether a chance is worth taking, consider whether your action has the potential to power you to a new personal high in your life.

Then…close your eyes, plug your nose and jump off that cliff.

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7. I am willing to adapt to changing circumstances.

Life can be a wild ride. Sometimes we don’t know what is waiting for us around the corner. The ability to recalibrate after something unexpected happens will not only expand your capabilities, but it will guarantee your sustained existence in an ever-changing world.

8. All knowledge I acquire has the potential to serve me.

Whether you are aware of it or not, you are constantly absorbing information from the world around you. Even those things you aren’t cognizant of (or don’t understand) have the potential to help you in your search for personal excellence. Some portion of this subconscious knowledge will likely surface as a future answer to a burning question or problem.

Because of this, never discount any person or experience as worthless; that person or thing will someday serve you in a way you don’t expect.

9. I give myself permission to say no.

You can’t give to others if your personal gas tank is empty. To keep your tank full, stay in optimum performance condition by maintaining emotional, physical, mental and spiritual balance in your life. Sometimes this means saying no to others and saying yes to yourself.

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10. By authentically expressing myself, I bring my unique signature to every person and thing I touch.

Stop allowing your mind to censor your heart’s desires, and live your passion. Take pride in your every strength and fault. Have full confidence in your gifts without comparing yourself to others. Nobody is more excellent at being you than you.

Remember, the road to personal excellence never ends. As long as you are breathing, you will always be working towards realizing a newer, better version of yourself. Don’t get caught up in thinking you will be “complete” once you attain one goal or another.

The achievement will be in your constant advancement. Your real joy will be in the journey.

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Last Updated on February 11, 2021

Easily Misunderstood by Others? 6 Barriers You Should Overcome to Make Communication Less Frustrating

Easily Misunderstood by Others? 6 Barriers You Should Overcome to Make Communication Less Frustrating

How often have you said something simple, only to have the person who you said this to misunderstand it or twist the meaning completely around? Nodding your head in affirmative? Then this means that you are being unclear in your communication.

Communication should be simple, right? It’s all about two people or more talking and explaining something to the other. The problem lies in the talking itself, somehow we end up being unclear, and our words, attitude or even the way of talking becomes a barrier in communication, most of the times unknowingly. We give you six common barriers to communication, and how to get past them; for you to actually say what you mean, and or the other person to understand it as well…

The 6 Walls You Need to Break Down to Make Communication Effective

Think about it this way, a simple phrase like “what do you mean” can be said in many different ways and each different way would end up “communicating” something else entirely. Scream it at the other person, and the perception would be anger. Whisper this is someone’s ear and others may take it as if you were plotting something. Say it in another language, and no one gets what you mean at all, if they don’t speak it… This is what we mean when we say that talking or saying something that’s clear in your head, many not mean that you have successfully communicated it across to your intended audience – thus what you say and how, where and why you said it – at times become barriers to communication.[1]

Perceptual Barrier

The moment you say something in a confrontational, sarcastic, angry or emotional tone, you have set up perceptual barriers to communication. The other person or people to whom you are trying to communicate your point get the message that you are disinterested in what you are saying and sort of turn a deaf ear. In effect, you are yelling your point across to person who might as well be deaf![2]

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The problem: When you have a tone that’s not particularly positive, a body language that denotes your own disinterest in the situation and let your own stereotypes and misgivings enter the conversation via the way you talk and gesture, the other person perceives what you saying an entirely different manner than say if you said the same while smiling and catching their gaze.

The solution: Start the conversation on a positive note, and don’t let what you think color your tone, gestures of body language. Maintain eye contact with your audience, and smile openly and wholeheartedly…

Attitudinal Barrier

Some people, if you would excuse the language, are simply badass and in general are unable to form relationships or even a common point of communication with others, due to their habit of thinking to highly or too lowly of them. They basically have an attitude problem – since they hold themselves in high esteem, they are unable to form genuine lines of communication with anyone. The same is true if they think too little of themselves as well.[3]

The problem: If anyone at work, or even in your family, tends to roam around with a superior air – anything they say is likely to be taken by you and the others with a pinch, or even a bag of salt. Simply because whenever they talk, the first thing to come out of it is their condescending attitude. And in case there’s someone with an inferiority complex, their incessant self-pity forms barriers to communication.

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The solution: Use simple words and an encouraging smile to communicate effectively – and stick to constructive criticism, and not criticism because you are a perfectionist. If you see someone doing a good job, let them know, and disregard the thought that you could have done it better. It’s their job so measure them by industry standards and not your own.

Language Barrier

This is perhaps the commonest and the most inadvertent of barriers to communication. Using big words, too much of technical jargon or even using just the wrong language at the incorrect or inopportune time can lead to a loss or misinterpretation of communication. It may have sounded right in your head and to your ears as well, but if sounded gobbledygook to the others, the purpose is lost.

The problem: Say you are trying to explain a process to the newbies and end up using every technical word and industry jargon that you knew – your communication has failed if the newbie understood zilch. You have to, without sounding patronizing, explain things to someone in the simplest language they understand instead of the most complex that you do.

The solution: Simplify things for the other person to understand you, and understand it well. Think about it this way: if you are trying to explain something scientific to a child, you tone it down to their thinking capacity, without “dumbing” anything down in the process.[4]

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Emotional Barrier

Sometimes, we hesitate in opening our mouths, for fear of putting our foot in it! Other times, our emotional state is so fragile that we keep it and our lips zipped tightly together lest we explode. This is the time that our emotions become barriers to communication.[5]

The problem: Say you had a fight at home and are on a slow boil, muttering, in your head, about the injustice of it all. At this time, you have to give someone a dressing down over their work performance. You are likely to transfer at least part of your angst to the conversation then, and talk about unfairness in general, leaving the other person stymied about what you actually meant!

The solution: Remove your emotions and feelings to a personal space, and talk to the other person as you normally would. Treat any phobias or fears that you have and nip them in the bud so that they don’t become a problem. And remember, no one is perfect.

Cultural Barrier

Sometimes, being in an ever-shrinking world means that inadvertently, rules can make cultures clash and cultural clashes can turn into barriers to communication. The idea is to make your point across without hurting anyone’s cultural or religious sentiments.

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The problem: There are so many ways culture clashes can happen during communication and with cultural clashes; it’s not always about ethnicity. A non-smoker may have problems with smokers taking breaks; an older boss may have issues with younger staff using the Internet too much.

The solution: Communicate only what is necessary to get the point across – and eave your personal sentiments or feelings out of it. Try to be accommodative of the other’s viewpoint, and in case you still need to work it out, do it one to one, to avoid making a spectacle of the other person’s beliefs.[6]

Gender Barrier

Finally, it’s about Men from Mars and Women from Venus. Sometimes, men don’t understand women and women don’t get men – and this gender gap throws barriers in communication. Women tend to take conflict to their graves, literally, while men can move on instantly. Women rely on intuition, men on logic – so inherently, gender becomes a big block in successful communication.[7]

The problem: A male boss may inadvertently rub his female subordinates the wrong way with anti-feminism innuendoes, or even have problems with women taking too many family leaves. Similarly, women sometimes let their emotions get the better of them, something a male audience can’t relate to.

The solution: Talk to people like people – don’t think or classify them into genders and then talk accordingly. Don’t make comments or innuendos that are gender biased – you don’t have to come across as an MCP or as a bra-burning feminist either. Keep gender out of it.

And remember, the key to successful communication is simply being open, making eye contact and smiling intermittently. The battle is usually half won when you say what you mean in simple, straightforward words and keep your emotions out of it.

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