Published on December 22, 2020

50 Best Journaling Questions For Self-Reflection

50 Best Journaling Questions For Self-Reflection

Did you use questions for self-reflection during your younger years? If you enjoyed your teenage years, you should know how journaling made you feel. It allowed you to open yourself up to a new you.

However, it also allowed you to access a part of you did not think you had and aligned your priorities. The most important aspect of journaling as a young adult was capturing moments that you could self-reflect on and improve on you.

Today, we are so busy that journaling is now an extension of our office work. Self-reflection is part of growing up. Most times, we are locked up not by the attitudes and actions of other people but by our perception of what is or what is supposed to be

These questions of self-reflection allow you to pause, access, analyze, and take the necessary step forward. Believe it or not, it is a cleansing process that scraps off the dirt that is covering and overwhelming the real you.

Why Journaling? Well, because it is your private space and you can do whatever you want in it. Do you remember that song by Lesley Gore, “It’s my party?” Journaling allows you to express your true emotions without prejudice or pressure.

Also, questions for self-reflection enable you to develop a sense of mindfulness and management of your space. It is a path to self-discovery, self-reflection, and acceptance of your capabilities while in tune with your inner self.

So, without wasting time, here are 50 journaling questions for self-reflection you should ask yourself. If you need serious self-reflection of your life and actions, these 50 questions should get you started.

1. Would You Consider Yourself a Spiritual Person?

If yes, how would you describe the impact of spirituality in building a better you? If no, what are your reasons for not accepting spirituality, and how it can be remedied to improve the better you?

2. Do You Believe in Dreams?

Do you believe that dreams are your subconscious speaking to you about your present realities? Are there any repeated pattern or message that spooks you out? Do you have any reoccurring dreams, and what have you thought or done about it?

3. Would You Describe Yourself as Unique?

What are your five best attributes and five worst ones? Explain why you have chosen these particular qualities instead of the others.

4. When Was the Last Time You Had a Good Cry?

What made you cry—was it your fault or another person? Have you healed and understood the situation, or did you just accept it? Have you found forgiveness in the healing? If not, why are you holding on to hurt?

5. Are You Where You Wanted to Be From 5 Years Past?

If yes, would you say you achieved it alone or had assistance getting there? If no, what obstacles prevented you from attaining the goals set by you?


6. Are You a Diehard Fan of Loyalty Regardless of the Circumstance?

Do you stick to a situation because you feel you have to be there? Or do you feel obligated to make a change? Either way, expand on your decision to be even in negative situations

7. Describe Your Ideal Morning—How Would the Setting Be? What Time Would You Wake Up?

What would the activities of the day be, and what would be the most interesting activity of the day? Do not forget to detail how the rest of the day would be, including retiring to the best.

8. If Money Was Not an Object, Would you Change the Life You Are Living Right Now?

If yes, why? What is wrong with it? If no, why? Do not be afraid to face reality here.

9. Do You Believe in Tit for Tat?

Do you forgive easily or hold a grudge or revenge at act? How has each one affected you as a person, your relationship, and career or business in life?

10. Do You Have Fears That You Are Recycling in Your Life?

Why are you holding on to them? What steps do you need to break free from them?

11. Are There Limitations or Thresholds You consider Not for You?

It can be in business, career, relationship, education, or anywhere. Is there a limiting factor you have created or accepted that is stopping you from achieving or expressing your capabilities in life?

12. What Are You Most Grateful for Today?

What do you wish could be different too? Why?

13. Do You Think Your Success Hinges on Your Relationship With Others?

If you think so, explain why and devise means to improve your self-esteem and confidence.

14. How Do You Get Away From a Negative Energy Space?

How do you reset your mindset from the valley to a mountain top?

15. What Have You Achieved This Year?

List out 5 of your accomplishment this year. Do not forget to also include those that you were not proud of.

16. Do You Have a Role Model?

Why did you choose that person, and how has the person helped up improved your life? Include all areas that have been positively impacted by that person, too.

17. Where Do You Want to Live?

If you could live in 5 places on earth, where would those be and why? Remember to write at least three reasons why you chose them. And if you have not visited them yet, what is stopping you?


18. Do You Feel Calm and in Control?

What makes you feel powerful, calm, and in control? What conditions or circumstances could shift you out of these spaces? How do you keep it together to maintain a good headspace?

19. What Are the 10 Things That Inspire You?

List 10 things that inspire you, list 10 things you would love to say no to, and 10 things you would love to say yes to. List 10 words that motivate you and why they make a difference in your life.

20. Who Are Your Family?

Do You Have Any Family? Are you away from your family because of a career choice, marriage, or relocation? Have you maintained communication with them or not? If not, what and why have you abandoned this relationship? And can it be remedied?

21. What Is Your Motto?

Describe yourself.  What rules do you live by in life and will not bend regardless of the situation? Would you consider them rigid or your attitude strict?

22. Are You in Love With Yourself?

Are you comfortable in your skin? Is your inner being in alignment with your outward appearance, if not why and how can you change it?

23. Do You Want to Go Back in Time?

If you could do so, at what age would you stop and why?

24. How Do You Face Challenges?

Think of the most challenging situation in your life, how did it affect you, and how did you overcome it? Do you think you could have handled it any differently looking back now?

25. What Advice Would You Give Your Future Self?

Write down 5 pieces of advice you would give your high school self about the future. Also, write five questions you wish you had asked at that age.

26. Is Your Childhood Good Enough for Your Children?

Would you say that you lived a successfully happy and fulfilling childhood worthy for your kids, whether you have them now or in the future?

27. What Is Happiness?

What makes you happy? Remember a time you were truly happy. Can you recall the reason and how long it lasted?

28. Do You Get Envious?

How do you maintain that balance between envy or jealousy and happiness when a colleague gets a position or promotion you feel yours deserve? Do you still celebrate with them or make snazzy comments with a hug?

29. Do You Live a Balanced Life?

Do you think you have created the perfect balance between your mental, emotional, and physical health in your life today? If not, which is taking precedence and which is lacking?


30. Can You Keep a Relationship?

How long is the longest relationship with your partner? Are you still together? If yes, who compromises more? If it is you, why do you feel the need to do that?

31. Have You Ever Contemplated Suicide?

What was the reason? How did you overcome that thought? And how has life been since then? Better? Or did you gain more understanding?

32. What Greatly Impacts Your Life?

Sincerely assess how the following has impacted your life and every aspect of it.

  • Social media
  • Career
  • Lifestyle
  • Belief
  • Relationship
  • Morality

Are there any changes you would like to make? If yes, what are they and why?

33. Who Represents Your Personality?

Choose a TV personality, a cartoon character, a superhero, and a villain that personifies you. State three reasons each why you have chosen them to represent your personality.

34. Are You in Your Dream Job?

Do you think your current position represents your efforts and sacrifice at your job? What can be done to make your boss notice you for that well-deserved promotion?

35. Have You Been Promoted Already?

If your promotion delayed or ignored, what is the problem?

Answer the following points sincerely:

  • Do you qualify for the new position?
  • Do you have the skills or professionalism to handle the requirements of this level?
  • Have you added any new certification to help you achieve the new position?
  • Do you have professional strengths to live up to the company’s values?

36. What Do You Want to Talk About?

If the world gave you five minutes to talk about one topic dearest to your heart, what topic would it be? Why did you choose it, and what would you say? It can be anything—no limits, no criticisms.

37. How Is Your Inner Circle Doing?

Would you say your inner circle is complete and perfect? If no, what is missing or what needs to be changed?

38. What Do Your Friends and Family Say About You?

Pick out five of your friends and family, write down three sentences that each one would say about you. Is it good or bad? Do not assume. Ask them if possible, and do not get angry.

39. How Do You Discuss Arguments?

Are you the type that feels the need to have the final say in an argument? Why do you do that? And is silence an option you are willing to try out?


40. What Are Your Similarities With Your Parents?

List out all the characters you have in common with your parents. Separate them into good, great, and bad. Can you improve the good and make changes to the bad?

41. How Is Your Current Lifestyle?

Would you consider your current lifestyle a building platform for a successful future of your choice? If not, what aspects need change to enable you to achieve the goals for future hope?

42. Would You Say You Are Living Your Best Life?

Do you like what and where you are today? What value do you impact in your world daily, and how has it affected you too?

43. How Are You?

Let’s talk about you. How do you stay happy? What makes you excited? What is your idea of fun and how do you enjoy that you live a happy life regardless of the situations around you?

44. Are You Stressed?

Do you have any emotional connection to anything that is draining your positive energy? Do you give off negative vibes that are not you? How have you changed people’s perception of you?

45. Are You a Goal-Getter?

If yes, have you achieved those goals you set for yourself in 2019/2020? If no, what is holding you back? And what motivation would make a difference?

46. Do You Care Too Much?

Would you consider yourself too caring or too responsible for others and how they feel? Do you always blame yourself for how people treat you? Do you feel the need to apologize every time?

47. What Legacy Do You Want to Leave to Your Grandchildren?

Write a short story about a page that you would tell your grandchildren about yourself if they ask tomorrow. List five attributes of your personality that can help your grandkids become better people in their future.

48. How Would You Describe self-Love and Self-Care?

Are you caring for yourself? and what is your ideal way of doing it?

49. Are You an Organized Person?

Or are you unorganized? How is this affecting you and your life?

50. Do You Know Your “Why”?

Are you speaking your truth or living somebody else’s truth? What is your “why”?

Final Thoughts

Well, I hope you have your journal ready to answer these questions on self-reflection. This is not an exam. Hence, just write your thoughts down as they come to your mind. Do not worry about grammar, punctuation, or handwriting. Instead, endeavor to write a good journal by understanding and contemplating these questions for self-reflection.


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30 Essential Core Values for Living the Life You Want

30 Essential Core Values for Living the Life You Want

The weather will always change. Technology will always change. Trends will always change. We will always change.

In a world that is constantly evolving and taking new forms, it can be somewhat overwhelming trying to make sense of this thing called life.

One of the things that rarely changes in this world though and what can provide a guiding light for you throughout your life is your core values. This article will provide you with a core values list of 30 incredible values to adopt and use when all else seems to be changing.

What Are Core Values?

Core values are principles or beliefs that you hold most dear and that are of central importance in your life. When everything around you is changing, when the world is difficult to understand, and when you are riding up and down the emotion rollercoaster, your core values will always be there for you.

Why Are Core Values Important?

Core values are important because they act like a compass to help you lead the amazing life that you want, no matter where you find yourself in this world.

Not only that, having the right core values can improve your decision-making, your productivity, your achievements and perhaps most importantly, your ability to love and be loved. They’re kind of a big deal. And it isn’t just us saying this, studies[1] have shown core values to have a whole host of other benefits.

30 Best Core Values to Live by

You might already have a few core values in mind or in your heart which is great. If you need some more ideas or haven’t really thought about your core values until now, here are our 30 favourite core values that you can adopt right now.

1. Acceptance

The ability to accept what you can control and what you can’t control. Being able to understand that on some days you are the hammer, and other days you are the nail. With acceptance as a core value, you can build either way and be happy while doing it.

2. Adaptability

Life is going to throw you curve ball after curve ball and if you aren’t ready for them, you are going to strikeout. Your life and the life of those you surround yourself with are far too complex to confine yourself to one mould.

Be adaptable and ready and willing to change when you need to.

3. Awareness

Awareness is one of the best core values that you can adopt. Period. Awareness means paying attention to yourself, to others, to the world around you, to emotions, to situations. It means being able to see everyone and everything clearly – most importantly yourself.

4. Balance

There are going to be times when you need to sprint in life, and other times when you are going to need to slow down. The yin and the yang.

Balance is one of the most important core values in many ancient cultures because it reflects nature for what it truly is: perfectly balanced and able to bend, rather than break.

5. Calmness

As well as being a sublime state of mind, many people forget that calm is a simple decision to make.


You can be calm in any situation should you allow yourself to be. No amount of angry drivers, long queues or frustrating technology can penetrate you when you adopt calmness as a core value.

6. Community

Every one of us is a social creature, whether we believe it or not, and community has been a key core value for us as a species for thousands of years.

We are hard-wired to socialize; to eat, drink, gossip, laugh, tell stories, share ideas, give and receive amongst ourselves. Community also enhances the effect of other core values on this list, such as creativity.[2]

7. Compassion

Compassion is taking the time to understand the suffering of others and hopefully, being able to do something about it. There is a lot of struggle and suffering that can be alleviated in the world; with a core value like compassion you might be able to do help your fellow humans in some meaningful way.

8. Creativity

With technology taking most of the administrative jobs, creative people are going to be leading us into the future.

Someone who cherishes creativity is able to think up new and big ideas, see things that other people can’t and see the world around them through their own lens, not somebody else’s.

9. Discipline

Discipline will lead you to the life that you want, should you adopt it as a core value.

“Discipline Equals Freedom” is a term popularised by ex-Navy Seal Jocko Willink, and what it means is that if you can be disciplined in the right things, you will be free in the right things too.

Discipline to workout means more freedom in your body as you age. Discipline to save means more freedom with your time and money in the long-term. And so it goes…

10. Empathy

There is perhaps no greater value on this list that will connect you deeper to not just the closest people in your life but to complete strangers too.

Practising empathy requires the understanding that other people have a nagging voice in their own head, just like you do. That they have a worldview different to yours based on their experiences. And that’s ok. It’s not easy to adopt empathy as a core value, but it is certainly worth it.

11. Freedom

Freedom comes in many forms and that is why it is one of the ultimate core values to have. The freedom to choose, freedom to speak, freedom to live on your own terms, freedom to love and be loved.

If freedom becomes a core value of yours, watch how your life changes for the better.

12. Gratitude

Gratitude provides a powerful perspective shift whenever you feel yourself get into a rut.


You can become grateful for the big things like having shelter, food and great people in your life. You can also become grateful for the small things like the cup of coffee that you just drank or the soft sheets on your bed.

13. Happiness

Happiness is a powerful core value and is not just restricted to your own happiness but also friends and family.

When happiness guides your decision-making rather than superficial things like money and status, you will find yourself in a much more satisfying position than if you chase other people’s idea of happiness.

14. Health

They say that a healthy man has a lot of dreams and wishes whereas a sick man only has one – to be able to get out of bed.

Health is the precursor to every other core value on this list; if you don’t have your health, you can’t do much else until you do. Because of this, health has to be a core value in your life.

15. Humility


is the antidote to arrogance and selfishness and is a value to adopt if you want to keep your feet firmly on the ground. It is said that you are never as good or as bad as people say you are.

Humility recognizes this and keeps you moving towards your goal, no matter what anyone else says.

16. Innovation

The act of innovation involves taking one existing thing and making it better. Although images of whacky car designs and complicated technology can spring to mind when thinking about innovation, it doesn’t have to be that grandiose.

Simply seeing something small and making it better in your own life is enough to make a world of difference.

17. Knowledge

Knowledge is power. Not power in the 14th-century medieval banker-sense but in the power to change your own life-sense.

Knowledge about yourself, others and the world allows you to understand everything that you see a bit better. When you see things for what they are, you can act accordingly and get to where you want to be.

18. Leadership

It take guts, determination, confidence and humility to lead. All of these qualities are both rare and admirable and are the reason why leadership is such an excellent core value.

The future is dark and unknown but also full of hidden treasures. We need someone to lead us, will it be you?


19. Love

It can be argued that all of the core values on this list can be tied together by the one, all-encompassing value of Love.

When you value love deeply and try to show it in everything that you do, you make your world and the world of others a much better place.

20. Moderation

Forget this diet, that diet, eating there, eating then, working out before coffee or always in the afternoon. It’s all noise that works for some people some of the time – moderation is the key.

Not acting in moderation can also have some damaging consequences, especially for your health.[3] What works well for all people is everything in moderation.

Of course, life should be fun too so even ‘everything in moderation’, should be in moderation.

21. Peace

Peace is another core value that takes years of practice to perfect. However, its rewards are boundless with both the journey and destination full of rewards.

Peace enables clear decision-making, freedom in thoughts and actions as well as providing a deep understanding of the special life that you live.

22. Purpose

Purpose can be doubled up with ‘meaning’ as these are two values that provide the drive in any endeavour that you might pursue.

Purpose is what gets you out of bed every morning, it is why you sacrifice what you sacrifice and often entails something bigger than yourself. If you don’t have a purpose, it is unlikely that you will find much meaning in your life.

23. Responsibility

Nobody likes having to take the dog on a walk, having to clean the dishes or do things that they are reluctantly responsible for. However, responsibility can actually be an awesome way to add meaning and value to your life.

When other people depend on you and you fulfil your role as provider, not only are they better off but you get the satisfaction that comes along with it too.

24. Service

Similar to the responsibility point above, when you adopt service as a core value, you will have very little time to wallow in any self-pity, anxiety or existential angst because you will be busy making the world a better place.

Funnily enough, by serving others, many people find that they themselves are internally served with feelings of satisfaction and contentment.

25. Spirituality

Of course, there is the importance of physical health, mental health and emotional health, but spiritual health is just as important.


Spirituality has nothing to do with religion, it simply means taking the time to listen to your body, to watch your thoughts, to connect with and appreciate the world and the universe that you find yourself in.

26. Trust

Trust is a core value on this list because it requires many other difficult skills that also help to develop you as a person.

To be able to trust and be trusted, you need strong relationships, an ounce of risk, a healthy dose of vulnerability and a smidge of humility. All of this creates a recipe for a very positive life with trust at the centre.

27. Understanding

Understanding comes from a place of acceptance of what is, not what should be or could be. It is the ability to recognise someone else’s viewpoint without trying to change it. It is learning that it is useless to fight against the way the world is and other people are, and to learn to dance with them instead.

28. Wealth

Not in the monetary sense but in the ‘having everything that you need sense’. Someone who is truly wealthy possesses great relationships, plenty of freedom, a life filled with joy as well as many of the other values on this list.

Adopt wealth as a core value and it will act as a magnet to other incredible things.

29. Wisdom

Contrary to popular belief, wisdom does not come with age but rather, experience. There are many young people with more wisdom than the oldest people that you know. What makes someone wise is their ability to see broadly and clearly, to use good judgement and to be decisive when necessary.

Wisdom is something that we all should seek.

30. Wonder

The final value on this list is wonder and it is the ideal place to finish.

Wonder is thinking about the possibility of what comes next, dreaming about how you and things could be better, pushing your own boundaries and what you think you are capable of each day.

Wonder is practical dreaming, and you should start right away.

Final Thoughts

Now you have a good idea of some of the core values that you can adopt, it’s time to not only decide which ones you like the best but also integrate and use them in your daily life.

Core values are designed to guide your decisions in your most difficult moments. Now you have everything you need to go and live the life that you want to live!

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