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Seeking Help for Family Problems: List of Family Counseling Providers to Consider

Seeking Help for Family Problems: List of Family Counseling Providers to Consider

Family counseling, although it’s been seen as a step taken by people whose marriages are going to hit the rocks anyway, could actually prove effective. Over the years, people have been known to use family and marriage counseling as a way to sort out issues which they are facing in their homes and to have a new breath and lease of life in their families. Although on the average, family counseling seems to be helpful, there are some that seem to be more effective than the other. However, before we share out top picks with you, here are some tips you should know about family counseling before you go into it.

Family Counseling Isn’t a Substitute for Personal Activity

Basically, this means that although you’ll get clarity and certain solutions through a family counseling effort, it still doesn’t fill the void created by your inactivity and inability to do certain things. A family counseling effort will only tell you what to do. You’ve still got to act by yourself and see things work. Otherwise, there’s no reason why you should go into counseling in the first place.

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It Doesn’t Always Work

Although family counselors won’t want to admit this, family counseling won’t always work for you. This is because sometimes families have issues that family counseling just can’t fix. These issues usually get ironed out by simple confrontations and self searching.[1] So if you do go for a family counseling session and it seems not to be yielding any results, it’s a pretty clear pointer that you’re not necessarily in the right place.

You should consider family counseling if you’re experiencing any of the following:

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  • A prolonged feeling of sadness or helplessness about the issues facing your marriage and despite the efforts that you, your extended family and friends put in, things don’t seem to get better. Basically, this means that counseling shouldn’t be your first resort. You have to have put in a considerable amount of effort in trying to fix the problem before eventually resorting to family counseling.
  • A difficulty to carry out everyday activities, perhaps due to the stress being developed by your issues at home. At this point, seek help…..and FAST. You might be on the verge of a breakdown and that’s way much worse.
  • You worry constantly. This is another marker towards a breakdown. At this point, you’re more than free to consult a counselor.It shows that the issues are far more than you can stomach by yourself.
  • Actions at home are being harmful or injurious. Honestly, there is no clearer indicator to the fact that you need counseling more than this. Injurious actions include lashing out due to anger, excessive consumption of alcohol, drug use and abuse, a frequent occurrence of confrontations, disagreements and over aggressiveness. It’s much better to seek out a counselor before things get out of hand because once they do, counseling might not be able to help you anymore.

Those being said, feel free to browse our top picks for family counseling services:

Good Therapy: helps you to find a therapist, psychologist, or marriage counselor near you

Good Therapy is nifty in the sense that they help search for qualified counselors and therapists who are able to help you navigate through problems in your marriage. Equipped with a crop of highly competent and resourceful therapists, you can be sure that your issues will be brought to light and professionally treated.[2]

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Menninger: introduces unique stress-relieving tactics

Menninger is a state of the art and highly seasoned family counseling service. They offer awesome services and unique solutions to issues. With experienced staff, you can rest assured that they’ve seen basically everything and will be able to address your issues. They have a lot of stress-relieving tactics, including awesome exercise routines, anger management, etc.[3] In a nutshell, Menninger is a service that’s worth considering.

Austin Family Counseling: provides services in every aspect of family life

Austin Family Counseling is an awesome family counseling that offers services in basically every aspect of family life; dealing with children, teenagers, couples’ counseling, individual adult counseling, etc. Basically, they’ve got advice and fixes in every aspect of family life that you might need.

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Live Oaks Counseling: allows you to have personal counseling at home or online

At Live Oaks Counseling, there’s a safe and highly comfortable environment that offers the release of feelings and fosters trust and relaxation. That way, clients are free to explore perceptions, emotions and personal growth. They offer trained professionals who constantly strive to offer quality care to those who are in need. Also, they make allowances for personal counseling (whether at home, in your office, etc) or an online counseling course which will be carried out over a secure network.

The American Association for Marriage and Family Counseling: connects professional marriage and family therapists

Given the fact that there’s a department or association for basically everything in America, it’s hardly a surprise that there’s one for family counseling. This body, although not entirely a sanctioned government department, actually provides one of the best family counseling services in the country. They’re awesome for families of different sizes and they’ve got testimonials all over the country.

First Family Counseling: offers therapeutic counseling, resources, education and referrals

At First Family Counseling, individuals, newlywed couples and full families can have full access to therapeutic care and complete counseling. Although the duration of a counseling session varies depending on the type of counseling tat’s being administered, you can rest assured that your needs and issues will be efficiently addressed and taken care of.

FamiliesFirst: takes good care of every class of people, from children to adults

FamiliesFirst has actually been around for quite a while, providing a very wide range of counseling services. From children to adults, FamiliesFirst takes good care of basically every class of people. They offer individual, couples’, family and group counseling, all with the aim of healing any emotional wounds, ensuring mental stability, strengthening relation and cohesion among family members and other objectives.

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Last Updated on February 19, 2019

Why a Life Without Pain Is the Guarantee to True Suffering

Why a Life Without Pain Is the Guarantee to True Suffering

No one wants to suffer. As a general rule, people like to avoid hurt and pain as much as possible. As a species, humans want a painless existence so much that scientists make a living trying to create it.

People can now choose “pain-free” labor for babies, and remedies to cure back pain, headaches, body-pains and even mental pains are a dime a dozen. Beyond medicine, we also work hard to experience little pain even when it comes to loss; often times we believe a breakup won’t hurt as much if we are the ones to call it off.

But would a world without pain truly be painless? It’s unlikely. In fact, it would probably be painful exactly for that reason.

If people never experienced hurt, they wouldn’t know what it was. On the surface level, that seems like a blessing, but think for a moment: if we didn’t know pain, how would we know peace? If you don’t know you’ve hurt or been hurt, how would you know that you need to heal? Imagine someone only knowing they have an incurable cancer at the final stage because no obvious symptoms have appeared at early stages.

Without the feeling of pain, people won’t be aware of dangerous situations—what should or shouldn’t do for survival.

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Pain Is Our Guardian

Pain serves to protect human beings from harmful actions. It’s the same reason parents teach babies that fire equals hot, and that hot equals hurt. Should the baby still place its hand in a fire or on a stove, the intense pain remains so memorable, that the child is certain never to repeat that action.

In the same way, pain within human bodies can serve as a warning that something is not right. Because you know what it is to feel “well,” you know what it is to feel poorly.[1]

Along with serving as a teacher of what not to do, pain also teaches you what you are made of in terms of what you can handle as an individual.

While the cliche, “What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger” is a tired term, it’s used excessively for a reason: it’s true. Pain helps you learn to cope with life’s inevitable difficulties and sadnesses— to develop the grit it takes to push past hardships and carry on.

Whether it’s a shattering pain, like the loss of a loved one or a debilitating accident, pain affects everyone differently. But it still affects everyone. Take a breakup as an example, anyone who has experienced it knows it can hurt to the point of feeling physical. Especially the first breakup. At a young age, it feels like the loss of the only love you’ll ever know. As you grow and learn, you realize you’re more resilient with every ended relationship.

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No Pain, No Happiness

You only know happiness when you have known pain. While the idea of constant happiness sounds nice, there is little chance it would be. Without the comparison to happiness, there’s no reason to be grateful for it. That is to say, without ever knowing sadness or pain, you would have no reason to be grateful for happiness.

In reality, there is always something missing, or something unpleasant, but it is only through those realizations that you know to be grateful when you feel you have it all. Read more about why happiness and pain have to exist together: Chasing Happiness Won’t Make You Happy

In a somewhat counter-intuitive finding, researchers found one of the things that brings about the most happiness is challenge. When people are tested, they experience a greater sense of accomplishment and happiness when they are successful. It is largely for this reason that low-income individuals can often feel happier than those who have a sense of wealth.[2]

This is a great thing to remember the next time you feel you would be happier if you just had a little more cash.

Avoiding Pain Leads to More Suffering

Pain is inevitable, embrace it positively. Anyone who strives to have a painless life is striving for perfectionism; and perfectionism guarantees sadness because nothing will ever be perfect.

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This isn’t a bleak outlook, but rather a truthful one. The messy moments in life tend to create the best memories and gratitude. Pain often serves as a reminder of lessons learned, much like physical scars on the body.

Pain will always be painful, but it’s the hurt feelings that help wiser decisions be made.

Allow Room for the Inevitable

Learning how to tolerate pain, especially the emotional kind, is a valuable lesson.

Accepting and feeling pain makes you human. There is no weakness in that. Weakness only comes when you try to blame your own pain on someone else, expecting the blame to alleviate your hurting. There’s a saying,

“Holding on to anger is like drinking poison and expecting your enemy to die.”

Think back to the last time you were really angry with someone. Maybe you were hurt because you got laid off from a job. You felt angry and that anger caused so much pain that you could feel it in a physical way. Being angry and blaming your ex boss for that pain didn’t affect him or her in any way; you’re the only one who lost sleep over it.

The healthier thing to do in a situation like that is acknowledge your pain and the anger along with it. Accept it and explore it in an introspective way. How can you learn and grow? What is at the root of that pain? Are you truly hurting and angry about being laid off, or is the pain more a correlation to you feeling like you failed?

While uncomfortable, exploring your pain is a way to raise your self-awareness. By understanding more about yourself, you know how to deal with similar situations in the future. You can never expect to be numb to difficult situations, but you will learn to better prepare financially for the loss of a job and be grateful for an income since you now know nothing is promised (no matter how much you work or how deserving you may feel).

Pain Hurts, but Numbness Would Be Worse

Pain does not feel good, but the bad feeling of it will help you learn and grow. It makes the sweet moments in life even sweeter and the gratitude more sincere.

To have a happier and more successful life, you don’t learn from success or accomplishment, but through pain and failures. For it is in those moments that you learn how to do better in the future or at least cope a little more easily.

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You are the strong person you are today because of the hardships this life has presented to you. While you may have felt out of control when those hard times came, the one thing you will always have control over is how you choose to react to things. The next time you hurt or you’re angry or sad, acknowledge it and allow yourself to ruminate in it. Then take a deep breath and start learning from that pain. You’ve got this!

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Reference

[1] University of Calgary: Why is Pain Important?
[2] Greater Good Magazine: The Importance of Pain

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