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Seeking Help for Family Problems: List of Family Counseling Providers to Consider

Seeking Help for Family Problems: List of Family Counseling Providers to Consider

Family counseling, although it’s been seen as a step taken by people whose marriages are going to hit the rocks anyway, could actually prove effective. Over the years, people have been known to use family and marriage counseling as a way to sort out issues which they are facing in their homes and to have a new breath and lease of life in their families. Although on the average, family counseling seems to be helpful, there are some that seem to be more effective than the other. However, before we share out top picks with you, here are some tips you should know about family counseling before you go into it.

Family Counseling Isn’t a Substitute for Personal Activity

Basically, this means that although you’ll get clarity and certain solutions through a family counseling effort, it still doesn’t fill the void created by your inactivity and inability to do certain things. A family counseling effort will only tell you what to do. You’ve still got to act by yourself and see things work. Otherwise, there’s no reason why you should go into counseling in the first place.

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It Doesn’t Always Work

Although family counselors won’t want to admit this, family counseling won’t always work for you. This is because sometimes families have issues that family counseling just can’t fix. These issues usually get ironed out by simple confrontations and self searching.[1] So if you do go for a family counseling session and it seems not to be yielding any results, it’s a pretty clear pointer that you’re not necessarily in the right place.

You should consider family counseling if you’re experiencing any of the following:

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  • A prolonged feeling of sadness or helplessness about the issues facing your marriage and despite the efforts that you, your extended family and friends put in, things don’t seem to get better. Basically, this means that counseling shouldn’t be your first resort. You have to have put in a considerable amount of effort in trying to fix the problem before eventually resorting to family counseling.
  • A difficulty to carry out everyday activities, perhaps due to the stress being developed by your issues at home. At this point, seek help…..and FAST. You might be on the verge of a breakdown and that’s way much worse.
  • You worry constantly. This is another marker towards a breakdown. At this point, you’re more than free to consult a counselor.It shows that the issues are far more than you can stomach by yourself.
  • Actions at home are being harmful or injurious. Honestly, there is no clearer indicator to the fact that you need counseling more than this. Injurious actions include lashing out due to anger, excessive consumption of alcohol, drug use and abuse, a frequent occurrence of confrontations, disagreements and over aggressiveness. It’s much better to seek out a counselor before things get out of hand because once they do, counseling might not be able to help you anymore.

Those being said, feel free to browse our top picks for family counseling services:

Good Therapy: helps you to find a therapist, psychologist, or marriage counselor near you

Good Therapy is nifty in the sense that they help search for qualified counselors and therapists who are able to help you navigate through problems in your marriage. Equipped with a crop of highly competent and resourceful therapists, you can be sure that your issues will be brought to light and professionally treated.[2]

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Menninger: introduces unique stress-relieving tactics

Menninger is a state of the art and highly seasoned family counseling service. They offer awesome services and unique solutions to issues. With experienced staff, you can rest assured that they’ve seen basically everything and will be able to address your issues. They have a lot of stress-relieving tactics, including awesome exercise routines, anger management, etc.[3] In a nutshell, Menninger is a service that’s worth considering.

Austin Family Counseling: provides services in every aspect of family life

Austin Family Counseling is an awesome family counseling that offers services in basically every aspect of family life; dealing with children, teenagers, couples’ counseling, individual adult counseling, etc. Basically, they’ve got advice and fixes in every aspect of family life that you might need.

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Live Oaks Counseling: allows you to have personal counseling at home or online

At Live Oaks Counseling, there’s a safe and highly comfortable environment that offers the release of feelings and fosters trust and relaxation. That way, clients are free to explore perceptions, emotions and personal growth. They offer trained professionals who constantly strive to offer quality care to those who are in need. Also, they make allowances for personal counseling (whether at home, in your office, etc) or an online counseling course which will be carried out over a secure network.

The American Association for Marriage and Family Counseling: connects professional marriage and family therapists

Given the fact that there’s a department or association for basically everything in America, it’s hardly a surprise that there’s one for family counseling. This body, although not entirely a sanctioned government department, actually provides one of the best family counseling services in the country. They’re awesome for families of different sizes and they’ve got testimonials all over the country.

First Family Counseling: offers therapeutic counseling, resources, education and referrals

At First Family Counseling, individuals, newlywed couples and full families can have full access to therapeutic care and complete counseling. Although the duration of a counseling session varies depending on the type of counseling tat’s being administered, you can rest assured that your needs and issues will be efficiently addressed and taken care of.

FamiliesFirst: takes good care of every class of people, from children to adults

FamiliesFirst has actually been around for quite a while, providing a very wide range of counseling services. From children to adults, FamiliesFirst takes good care of basically every class of people. They offer individual, couples’, family and group counseling, all with the aim of healing any emotional wounds, ensuring mental stability, strengthening relation and cohesion among family members and other objectives.

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Published on November 28, 2018

How to Do Meditation at Home to Calm Your Anxious Mind

How to Do Meditation at Home to Calm Your Anxious Mind

The woman in yoga pants sitting in a lotus position atop a rocky cliff, overlooking a valley draped in fog — this is the glamorized version of meditation you’ll come across as you search. Yet if you’re seeking meditation to calm your mind, a fantastic setting with no distractions is rarely available.

So how to do meditation?

The truth about meditation is it’s an everyday practice for anybody. You could be a mountain climber or you could be an accountant — either way, your home is just as good a place for meditation as any.

Are you seeking to corral your racing thoughts and relieve a sense of unease, awkwardness, or uncertainty? Look to home meditation to cultivate a laid-back, creative, confident, and organized frame of mind. According to extensive scientific research, meditation relieves stress and anxiety, decreases blood pressure, improves sleep, and improves your ability to pay attention. [1]

From start to finish, this article will give you quick, easy steps to follow so that you can meditate at home regularly. You’ll begin by assessing, identifying and altering things that need to change in your home environment. You’ll end by understanding the basics of meditation so that you can let yourself do what you already know how to do deep down in the hidden reality of your mind.

You’re ready to let your mind be, and just be, in your own home — let’s begin.

1. Find the Right Space in Your Home

Where is your right space for meditation at home? Is it in your basement, your bedroom, your living room, or your study?

The right space will be one with the least distractions built in to its purpose. In that case, it may be your bedroom. If you’ve set up your bedroom to be a place for sleep and only sleep, it will lend itself well to meditation.

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The right space will also be a reasonably spacious one. Although comfort is not your goal, you need room to sit. Choose a space that is private, spacious, and quiet. If you don’t have a space in your home like this, create one. Free it from clutter and get it ready for you to meditate there any time.

Ultimately, your right space is one you feel comfortable meditating in, the space you can enter with no other expectations.

2. Improve the Feng Shui in Your Home and Meditation Space

Feng shui means “wind and water.” It’s the ancient Chinese art of placement.[2]

Feng shui improves harmony with nature. Adherents to the principles of feng shui believe all things have energy (chi). The focus of feng shui is to send negative chi (sha) out of the space and attract positive chi (yun).

Here’s the truth about feng shui: it’s not complicated or hard. The following will influence feng shui positively in your home and meditation space:

  • Living things, such as plants
  • Beautiful objects, such as sculptures or even a well-polished piece of driftwood
  • Mirrors in symmetrical placement with the lines in a room
  • Mellifluous sounds, such as trickling water or wind chimes
  • Furniture away from walls
  • A centerpiece, such as a small table with books or an ornate lamp on it
  • Incense or something else that smells good
  • A lack of clutter and an attention to organization that emphasizes the usefulness, purpose, and essential being of each item in your house

Given that feng shui is connected to Taoism and Buddhism, it will complement the meditative atmosphere you want to cultivate in your home.

3. Eliminate Pervasive Distractions That Can Harm Your Wellbeing

In part, meditation is about accepting the existence of distractions. When you meditate, you don’t judge and assign a positive or a negative value to distractions — the ticking of a clock, an itch, the barking of a dog — you let them occur and let them dissipate like waves.

However, in the same way that feng shui removes objects that attract negative chi, there are certain types of distractions that don’t belong in your meditative space. You must remove them.

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In a survey of 1,700 people who visited social media sites at least 30 times per week, 30 percent reported high levels of sleep disturbance and 25 percent presented symptoms of depression. [3]

Those individuals who experience sleep disturbances or mental health issues due to social media are not setting boundaries between themselves and their connected devices.

Part of learning how to meditate at home is learning how and when to set boundaries between yourself and your connected devices and social media accounts. If you need your phone for a timed meditation practice, but you normally receive social media notifications on your phone, set it on Do Not Disturb or Airplane mode during your meditation time.

4. Flow into Meditation Through Time

Next, set aside a time for meditation each day. It’s right to be structured and disciplined about your meditation time.

Buddhist monks whose lives revolve around meditation are very structured and organized with their tasks each day. Structure provides the balance your being needs. Once you are meditating, your mind has no need for time. Outside of your given meditation time, you are completing tasks essential to the wellbeing of yourself and your home.

Consider meditating as the sun rises. This is a quiet and contemplative time of the day when it is natural to set your day’s balance through meditation.

5. Recognize the Rightness of Doing Nothing

At home, you’re probably used to always doing something. When you do meditation at home, you are being, which is doing something and nothing simultaneously.

Maryville University points out that successful people unplug by doing nothing. [4] Not only this, but they set the right expectations for the time during which they will do nothing.

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We oftentimes look forward to the future by expecting something to happen and by expecting something of ourselves. To meditate from home, look to that time and that space by expecting nothing. You will not do any chores. You will not catch up on work. You will do nothing but meditate for a certain amount of time each day.

This might sound crazy, but in taking on meditation from home, you’re not expecting yourself to improve and become a better person. As Ram Dass put it, you are expecting yourself to be here now.

6. Choose from the Incredible Variety of Meditative Practices

As I outlined in my post on types of meditation, there are many different and not-so-different types of meditation from which to choose.

Many beginners find it right to choose guided meditation, for which there are apps, videos, and audio tapes available.

If you are not necessarily a beginner but are merely moving your meditative practice into the home, you can facilitate a practice such as Nada Yoga — sound meditation — by placing a fountain in your space or listening to ambient alpha wave music.

If you’re used to meditating outside of your home — perhaps you are drawn to the outdoors because of the sounds of nature — a practice like Nada Yoga can help you transition into your home space.

7. Understand You Can Meditate Any Time at Home

What if I told you to throw out all of the tips that came before this? Sounds crazy but that is how radical mindfulness meditation really is. We don’t think of it as radical because it is now ingrained in our popular discourse.

Mindfulness meditation does start as a sitting meditation practice. It goes like this:

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  1. Sit comfortably and close your eyes.
  2. Focus on breathing. Inhale through your nose slowly and exhale slowly.
  3. As distracting thoughts arise, don’t judge them and don’t hang onto them. Let each thought go as you focus on breathing.
  4. Treat all physical sensations and feelings in the same way you do thoughts: register them, then let them go, returning to breathing.
  5. Extend this practice to everyday activity, remaining “in the moment” of the body’s activity with each new breath.

As you practice mindfulness around your home, note the physical characteristics of the things in themselves. Note physical sensations: sounds, smells, textures, appearances, tastes. Stop now and then and do a body scan from head to toe, noting what each section is doing and how it’s feeling.

Note thoughts that come and the emotions attached to them: let them go. Concentrate on the breath and the physical activities — including the details of the objects with which you’re interacting.

You’ll notice that your home will lend itself to a meditative state when things are in order. This is where true feng shui originates. You will naturally sense how the arrangement of things affects the energy in a room.

Clutter will disappear because mindfulness tells you to dispose of unnecessary things. Plants will bloom. Birds will make their nests in your backyard. Your home will smell pleasing and people will naturally be attracted to it and your presence.

You’ve Reached the Beginning and the End

Once you are able to do mindfulness meditation even as you are attending to the normal and abnormal requirements of your home, the mundane and the unusual, you are at both the beginning and the end.

You are at the beginning because meditation never ends. Continue setting aside time each day to do sitting meditation in the space you’ve set aside. Continue practicing mindfulness as you attend to the energy of your house, your own energy, and the energy of those around you.

You are at the end because you grasped what it means to do meditation at home: it means letting go of cares and concerns and being in your home as you attend to the right tasks. The right tasks are those necessary for being in your home.

As you sit in your home, rise, open the door and you leave, you are calm in your mind because you are home.

Featured photo credit: Simon Rae via unsplash.com

Reference

[1]Healthline: 12 Science-Based Benefits of Meditation
[2]Marquette University: Feng Shui: The Wind and Water
[3]Rutgers University: Social Media and Well-Being
[4]Maryville University: How Successful People Unplug

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