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8 Interesting Questions To Help You Truly Understand People Around You

8 Interesting Questions To Help You Truly Understand People Around You

Everyone is used to being around other people. We see people every day at school, at work, at the shop and on the streets, and we have friends and family who we spend time with.

Yet, despite this, most people struggle to understand the people around them. Most people want to form bonds and have deep, emotional relationships, but sadly, they don’t really know how to do that. They are interested in how other people feel and what they think, but they just can’t think of a way to get the other person to open up to them.

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Can you relate to this? If so, don’t worry. It is easy to communicate with people and understand them if you ask the right questions. Here are 8 interesting questions that will help you truly understand people around you.

1. “What do you have in common with your childhood self?”

This question will help you to understand more about the other person as both an adult and a child. Their answer will tell you a lot about how they view themselves, and it will also help you to find out more about their personality. For instance, if they say “humor,” you will know that they enjoy having fun and that they view themselves as a joker.

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2. “If you had your own TV show, what would it be about?”

The answer to this question will reveal more about their interests, including TV shows that they like. It will also help you to understand how the other person views their own life. For instance, if they imagine that the show is about the apocalypse, they may feel lonely, and if it is set in an office, they may be extremely career-orientated.

3. “If you had an extra hour every day, how would you spend it?”

This will let you understand more about the other person’s hobbies and passions. If they tell you that they would study, you will understand that they are currently focused on exams, and if they say that they would paint, you will understand more about one of their hobbies.

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4. “If you could master one skill you don’t have right now, what would it be?”

This question will help you to understand more about the traits that the other person admires. If they choose chess, it is likely that that they aspire to be more intelligent, and if they wish that they could play the guitar, it is likely that they have a strong appreciation for music.

5. “What words would you pass to your childhood self?”

This question will give you an insight into how they view the quality of their life. If they say “enjoy the ride,” it is likely that they are very happy with their life, but if they say “avoid dating until you’re 20,” they may feel regret about past relationships.

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6. “Would you rather lose all of your old memories or never be able to make new ones?”

This question will help you to understand more about how happy the other person is. It will also give you an insight into the way that they think.

7. “If you could trade lives with one of your friends, who would it be?”

Different people value different things; some people dream of money, while others dream of love and a family. The answer to this question will help you to understand more about what the other person classes as successful.

8. “What stands between you and happiness?”

This question often has a surprising answer. They may tell you that they are already happy, or maybe they will mention something completely unexpected. This will help you to understand more about how the other person views happiness.

Simply choose a few questions that you’d like to ask someone, and make a note of the questions on a piece of paper. Next time you see the other person, sit down with them and ask them some of your questions. Remember that it is easy to understand people and form bonds – you just need to ask the right questions!

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Amy Johnson

Amy is a writer who blogs about relationships and lifestyle advice.

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.

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1. Listen

Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

“Why do you want to do that?”

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“What makes you so excited about it?”

“How long has that been your dream?”

You need this information the help you with the following steps.

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3. Encourage

This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

5. Dream

This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.

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6. Ask How You Can Help

Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

7. Follow Up

Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

Final Thoughts

By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

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