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Being Mentally Strong Is About How You Recharge, Not How You Endure

Being Mentally Strong Is About How You Recharge, Not How You Endure

We were led to believe that being tough means you can endure more. The more we work, the more resilient we become. When we think we don’t have the strength anymore, but we still get up and keep going – that’s what we think resilience is. How wrong we all are about what it really means to be resilient. If we deprive ourselves of deep relaxation and recuperation, we’ll become less and less resilient and less and less productive. To keep the balance and to keep our brains healthy, we need to truly unwind and step back from what we are doing. According to a study,[1] the recovery time is the precondition for healthy life and for avoiding occupational stress. If we exhaust our bodies to the limits, we’ll eventually break down, whereas keeping a healthy balance between working and resting will help us accomplish all our tasks and not feel overwhelmed.

Without resting, you become less successful

To always be productive and to do our best at performing every task, the key is to let our body and mind recover from everyday obligations imposed by our jobs. If you look at how we work, we can see why it’s important to let our bodies recharge. We tend to deprive ourselves of sleep in order to get more things done, but we don’t realize to what extent we harm our bodies and that it will have the opposite effect. Sleep deprivation impairs our attention, working memory, long-term memory and decision making ability.[2] It also has a negative impact on homeostatic processes, which are necessary for our bodies to restore balance and keep us healthy.

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Feeling recovered in the morning from the previous day allows us to be fully focused on what we are doing and to perform to the best of our abilities. And consequently, if we proceed to think about our work even when we go to bed, it will result in us waking up feeling fatigue, even though we had enough hours of sleep, and we won’t be able to fully focus on our work the next day.

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Leave your work physically and mentally

True recovery means not only to leave the office, come home and lie down. We need to give our brains some time to recover by doing activities that will lead to true state of relaxation. Lying down and thinking about the pile of work we have to deal with the next day will produce no positive results and we’ll end up feeling exhausted even though we practically did nothing – that is because our brains require rest too. Try doing some fun creative activity that will take your mind off work and allow you to recuperate. Non-work related creative activities have positive effects on the performance at work place.[3] So, get creative and unwind.

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Take time to recover

Find the time every day for activities that will help you to unwind. You can take your time and read your favorite books, watch a comedy movie, look at funny pictures, even buy a coloring book for adults and see all the stress disappear as you unleash your creativity. Use the time, for example, when you are commuting to and from work to listen to some music that makes you happy, or to call your friends and chat about some non-work related topics. If you can’t stop thinking about your work when you go to bed, you can try meditating for 15-30 minutes each night before you go to sleep. It will help you clear your mind of all worries.

In order to stay healthy and energized, it’s important to know when to stop, take a break and recharge. If you don’t let your body recover, you’ll always feel exhausted, and thus less able to do your best. Pushing yourself to the limits doesn’t mean you are resilient, knowing how to keep the balance between working and resting does.

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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