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20 Movies For People Who Are Having A Quarter-Life Crisis

20 Movies For People Who Are Having A Quarter-Life Crisis

Do you remember when you were younger and just couldn’t wait to grow up? And now, here you are, a full-fledged adult with a career, commitments, and bills. It’s not quite what you hoped for, right? This whole being an adult thing is just a little overwhelming and not that exciting. In fact, it can be pretty disappointing.

You’re not alone; almost everybody goes through this phase somewhere between their late 20s and early 30s — it’s called the quarter-life crisis. You start to feel trapped by your job or your relationship, and you just want out of it all. It can be a very confusing and painful time in your life.

Below are 20 movies that are truly inspirational that can relieve the pain and even motivate you.

1. Into the Wild

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    “When you want something in life, you just gotta reach out and grab it.”

    This is the true story of a young man going through a quarter-life crisis. He leaves home in search of adventure in the Alaskan wilderness.

    2. The Fault in Our Stars

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      “The world is not a wish-granting factory.”

      This is the heartwarming story of two teenage cancer patients who fall in love. They bond over reading the same book and set out to meet the author.

      3. Whiplash

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        “I’d rather die drunk, broke at 34, and have people at a dinner table talk about me than live to be rich and sober at 90, and nobody remembered who I was.”

        Whiplash is about the struggles of a young, talented drummer who gets into a prestigious music academy. He develops a complex relationship with his aggressive instructor, who tries to push him to greatness.

        4. 500 Days of Summer

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          “People change. Feelings change. It doesn’t mean that the love once shared wasn’t true and real. It simply just means that sometimes, when people grow, they grow apart.”

          500 Days of Summer is a romantic comedy about a girl who doesn’t believe in true love and a guy who has been waiting for true love his whole life. It’s a great reminder that no matter how bad things seem in your life, they can always get better.

          5. About Time

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            “We’re all traveling through time together, every day of our lives. All we can do is do our best to relish this remarkable ride.”

            About Time is about a 21-year-old-man who is going through his own quarter-life crisis. When he discovers that he can travel through time, he decides to improve his love life.

            6. Garden State

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              “If you can’t laugh at yourself, life is going to seem a whole lot longer than you’d like…What do you do? You laugh, you know. I’m not saying I don’t cry, but in between, I laugh.”

              Garden State is a great movie to help you with your quarter-life crisis. It revolves around two characters who are transitioning into adulthood, dealing with death, and learning from the past.

              7. The Devil Wears Prada

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                “I love my job. I love my job. I love my job.”

                This movie is great if your quarter-life crisis was brought on by career stress. The Devil Wears Prada is the story of a girl who lands her dream job but has a difficult boss.

                8. Walking and Talking

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                  “I wonder if I’ll ever know what it’s like to not break up with someone.”

                  Walking and Talking is the perfect movie about life changes and how close friends are not always on the same path.

                  9. Almost Famous

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                    “You’ll meet them all again on their long journey to the middle.”

                    Almost Famous is all about taking risks to get what you want. Sixteen-year-old William sets out to become a rock-and-roll journalist. He ends up learning quite a bit about life along the way.

                    10. About Alex

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                      “Judgment has a way of creeping into every relationship — even the most intimate. If we’re lucky, somewhere along the way, we meet a few people who listen to us without criticism or reproach. We call those people our friends.”

                      This movie is about a group of friends who come together for the weekend. They are there to support a friend after his suicide attempt. Coming together brings back a lot of old, unresolved issues.

                      11. Beaches

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                        “What will I do without a best friend?”

                        This movie is about two best friends who support each other through the quarter-life crisis, divorce, illness, and loss.

                        12. Office Space

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                          “So I was sitting in my cubicle today, and I realized, ever since I started working, every single day of my life has been worse than the day before it. So that means that every single day that you see me, that’s on the worst day of my life.”

                          This is another excellent movie about working in a dead-end job with a terrible boss.

                          13. Good Will Hunting

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                            “You’ll have bad times, but it’ll always wake you up to the good stuff you weren’t paying attention to.”

                            Matt Damon plays a math genius working as a janitor at M.I.T. who goes through a quarter-life crisis.

                            14. The Graduate

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                              “It’s like I was playing some kind of game, but the rules don’t make any sense to me. They’re being made up by all the wrong people.”

                              This movie portrays the classic quarter-life crisis. Ben finishes college at the top of his class, but what is he going to do next?

                              15. Reality Bites

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                                “Welcome to the world of the emotionally mature.”

                                Friends graduate from college and have to face adulthood. Their quarter-life crises are all about looking for love and work.

                                16. Amazing Grace

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                                  “…we’re too young to realize certain things are impossible, which is why we will do them anyway.”

                                  Amazing Grace is the story of a young man who fights against the British slave trade. It’s a reminder to anyone going through a quarter-life crisis that sometimes, it can take years of difficult, painful, and depressing work to achieve lifetime goals.

                                  17. The Secret Life of Walter Mitty

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                                    “To see the world, things dangerous to come to, to see behind walls, draw closer, to find each other, and to feel. That is the purpose of life.”

                                    In this movie, Ben Stiller plays Walter Mitty, a man who has diligently worked at the same job for years. Unhappy and about to lose his job, he takes off on an international adventure in an attempt to find himself.

                                    18. People Places Things

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                                      “Yeah, I’m fine. I’m just having a bad life. It’ll be over eventually.”

                                      People Places Things is about a newly divorced man and how he tries to get over his ex-wife while balancing his new life, his career, and parenting.

                                      19. Young Adult

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                                        “Sometimes, in order to heal, a few people have to get hurt.”

                                        A newly divorced woman returns to her hometown while she is going through her quarter-life crisis. Things aren’t as she left them, however, and she must learn to deal with the changes.

                                        20. Silver Linings Playbook

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                                          “If clouds are blocking the sun, there will always be a silver lining that reminds me to keep on trying.”

                                          Silver Linings Playbook is about a man who gets divorced, spends time in a mental institution, and moves back in with his parents. He has to learn to navigate his feelings about his ex-wife and a new girl he meets.

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                                          Published on October 7, 2019

                                          4 Types of Toxic People and How to Deal with Them

                                          4 Types of Toxic People and How to Deal with Them

                                          Can a person really be toxic? Well, a toxic person does not refer to those who are affected by the virus or toxic. To be precise, toxic people are those who are very unsupportive, abusive and unhealthy in nature. Their behavior is filled with venom and you will not feel any sort of gentle breeze in their words.

                                          In this article, you will learn how to spot out a toxic person, and what you can do to deal with them.

                                          Signs of Toxic People

                                          To make it more obvious, I have added some signs of toxic people below.

                                          Manipulative Behavior And Fabricated Mind

                                          Toxic people are unable to deal with the bitter truth firmly. If you are going to blurt out their fabrications with proof, they will try to change the whole matter with their manipulative behavior. They will titillate you with sensitive words or they will try to frighten you to get rid of the problems.

                                          Inhuman And Merciless in Nature

                                          We know that sharing our thoughts with friends will keep us in good mental state. But, if you are not getting fruitful outcomes, you have to understand that you are spending time with toxic friends.

                                          Toxic people do not know how to put themselves in other’s shoes. They just put on a mask of simplicity. But, in reality, they don’t have feelings for you. Therefore, you should stop sharing your valuable time with them as you will get nothing except annoyance and silence.

                                          Hypocrisy at Its Best in Their Nature

                                          Toxic people have a great hunger for respect, adoration, and fidelity. After dignifying them with these valuable elements, you will get nothing; you will be cheated, manipulated and criticized by them. And, if you are not willing to listen to them, you will be controlled by guilt-tripping.

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                                          Emotional Outburst And Pathological Excuses

                                          Toxic people always want to see themselves in the positive end. Therefore, to get their job done, they always have an emotional outburst and emotional excuse to make an impulsive impression upon you.

                                          We do mistakes and it is our duty to accept those mistakes. But, toxic people have their own rules, they have a tendency to present themselves rationally even after committing a mistake. If someone tries to expose themselves with facts, they show no embarrassment and use emotional excuses as a shield.

                                          Play with Your Emotion And Gradually Erode It

                                          Toxic people always try to condescend you with critical jokes and when you try to elicit your thoughts, they just burst out laughing. Teasing becomes an important element in your relationship with toxic person. They even give you backhanded compliments to belittle you.

                                          Thus, using their toxic mindset, they just gradually diminish your abilities as well as intelligence. And you will have nothing left in your hand other than putting up with these things to maintain the silence.

                                          Well, you probably might have not seen all these signs in one person as there are different types of toxic people roaming around you.

                                          4 Types of Toxic People

                                          To understand it better, I’m mentioning the different types of toxic people here.

                                          1. Conversational Narcissist

                                          There are some toxic people who do not know how to give importance to others. They will talk about themselves but never ask you about your condition; they will only recall you when they need you or they are facing some sort of problems.

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                                          2. Emotional Vampires

                                          These vampires do not suck your blood but dissipate your emotion. They always talk negatively about everyone and compel you to think in the same pattern that they follow. They mask themselves in such a way in front of you that you gradually start giving importance to them. But, ultimately, you will not get any positive outcome from them.

                                          3. Monsters with Green eyes

                                          As discussed earlier, toxic people will give you backhanded compliments. Basically, these are called monsters with green eyes. These monsters feel happy when you feel sad. Therefore, they will always try to belittle your achievements, intelligence, and strengths. Along with it, they give compliments with some negativity in it.

                                          4. Black-Eyed Cats

                                          These cats always do mew-mew and try to control everything around them. They love to be pampered but, they do not like if someone goes against them.

                                          If you are in a relationship with such persons, you will be nagged until you are giving them complete satisfaction. In a nutshell, it must be said that you have to align yourself with them if you want to live with them. But, ultimately, you will lose your mental, conversational and emotional freedom.

                                          How to Deal with Toxic People

                                          Living with problems is more convenient than living with toxic people. But, toxic people are parasites and therefore, you will see these monsters rambling around you wherever you go.

                                          However, if you know how to deal with them, it would be very helpful for you and your life would be much easier to live. We have added some tips to assist you, just check these out.

                                          Get Rid of Intermittent Reinforcement

                                          We are very optimistic in nature and over the time, this optimism has reached to such a level that we can happily put up with the ‘close losses’ instead of trying to catch the ‘near wins’.

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                                          B.F Skinner once did an experiment with three rats. He put them in different cages attached with levers. The lever delivered food when it was pressed. In the 1st cage, the lever always delivered food when the rat pressed it. In case of the 2nd cage, food was never delivered by the lever even after pressing it, therefore, the rat understood the lesson and never tried to get food. But, in the third cage, the lever delivered food randomly and as a result, the rat was completely hooked and fixated. He constantly pushed it but didn’t get the food always.

                                          Well, this is called intermittent relationship and the same thing happens in human relationships where toxic people give you intermittent reinforcement and your heart gets pumped up with optimism. As a result, you will be hooked and your life will be fixated at some point with toxic people.

                                          You should learn to move on without them and live your life happily because random happiness cannot bring permanent relief.

                                          Never Make Too Many Allowances And Pardons

                                          Well, sympathetic attitude is very good and it is also a fact that sometimes toxic people suffer from genuine depression, physical as well as mental illness. But, you have to set a boundary and you cannot allow people to get away with anything so easily.

                                          If you make too many allowances as well as pardons, it would not be good for you in the long-term. Yes, there are some people who are facing extreme hardships and they are not even toxic in nature. But, all you can do is show some genuine compassion keeping yourself within the boundaries.

                                          Always Try to Ignore Their Toxic Traps

                                          Demotivational words are the primary weapon that they frequently use in their implications to detract you. Along with this, they throw words in such a way that you start feeling guilty. Well, you must understand that these are just toxic traps and you should not step on it.

                                          Always remember that you will have full access to freedom if you stop taking things personally. They not only do this with you but also with everyone. You just have to keep in mind that these toxic words are not based on truth but on their own mental reproduction. So, you just have to ignore this and focus on your work.

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                                          Show Them Your Beautiful Smile Not the Curves on Your Forehead

                                          Toxic people have an aptitude to attack mentally, mock disgracefully and diminish shamefully. But, you will not be affected if you don’t surrender yourself. Show them that you are not getting belittled or insulted.

                                          We all have our problems and we also know that we are capable of solving these problems. Therefore, the matter entirely depends upon us and if we don’t allow these vampires to enter into our life or play with our emotions, they cannot suck our happiness. So, I’d suggest you show your beautiful smile when they buzz around you.

                                          Don’t Suppress Yourself

                                          Toxic people will intimidate, bully, pass guilt, and forcefully take money from you to get their job done. They know very well that they are doing wrong and at the same time, they are acquainted with the concept that we are incapable of doing anything against them.

                                          Most of the time, we keep ourselves quiet until someone speaks up. And because of this suppressive mindset, we are gradually being dragged into their mind games.

                                          Well, we have to change this concept as it infuses courage into them. We need to obstruct them with firm minds and make them realize the negative consequences of their behavior.[1] If they are upsetting you, just tell them directly. Your direct statement might open a new gate of opportunity that will allow you to help them if they are suffering from genuine problems.

                                          So, why are you still tolerating these toxic people? Follow the tips mentioned above and deal with them in the right way.

                                          Featured photo credit: Devin Avery via unsplash.com

                                          Reference

                                          [1] Tips for Grooming: Change Your Fixed Negative Belief

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