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20 Movies For People Who Are Having A Quarter-Life Crisis

20 Movies For People Who Are Having A Quarter-Life Crisis

Do you remember when you were younger and just couldn’t wait to grow up? And now, here you are, a full-fledged adult with a career, commitments, and bills. It’s not quite what you hoped for, right? This whole being an adult thing is just a little overwhelming and not that exciting. In fact, it can be pretty disappointing.

You’re not alone; almost everybody goes through this phase somewhere between their late 20s and early 30s — it’s called the quarter-life crisis. You start to feel trapped by your job or your relationship, and you just want out of it all. It can be a very confusing and painful time in your life.

Below are 20 movies that are truly inspirational that can relieve the pain and even motivate you.

1. Into the Wild

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    “When you want something in life, you just gotta reach out and grab it.”

    This is the true story of a young man going through a quarter-life crisis. He leaves home in search of adventure in the Alaskan wilderness.

    2. The Fault in Our Stars

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      “The world is not a wish-granting factory.”

      This is the heartwarming story of two teenage cancer patients who fall in love. They bond over reading the same book and set out to meet the author.

      3. Whiplash

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        “I’d rather die drunk, broke at 34, and have people at a dinner table talk about me than live to be rich and sober at 90, and nobody remembered who I was.”

        Whiplash is about the struggles of a young, talented drummer who gets into a prestigious music academy. He develops a complex relationship with his aggressive instructor, who tries to push him to greatness.

        4. 500 Days of Summer

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          “People change. Feelings change. It doesn’t mean that the love once shared wasn’t true and real. It simply just means that sometimes, when people grow, they grow apart.”

          500 Days of Summer is a romantic comedy about a girl who doesn’t believe in true love and a guy who has been waiting for true love his whole life. It’s a great reminder that no matter how bad things seem in your life, they can always get better.

          5. About Time

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            “We’re all traveling through time together, every day of our lives. All we can do is do our best to relish this remarkable ride.”

            About Time is about a 21-year-old-man who is going through his own quarter-life crisis. When he discovers that he can travel through time, he decides to improve his love life.

            6. Garden State

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              “If you can’t laugh at yourself, life is going to seem a whole lot longer than you’d like…What do you do? You laugh, you know. I’m not saying I don’t cry, but in between, I laugh.”

              Garden State is a great movie to help you with your quarter-life crisis. It revolves around two characters who are transitioning into adulthood, dealing with death, and learning from the past.

              7. The Devil Wears Prada

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                “I love my job. I love my job. I love my job.”

                This movie is great if your quarter-life crisis was brought on by career stress. The Devil Wears Prada is the story of a girl who lands her dream job but has a difficult boss.

                8. Walking and Talking

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                  “I wonder if I’ll ever know what it’s like to not break up with someone.”

                  Walking and Talking is the perfect movie about life changes and how close friends are not always on the same path.

                  9. Almost Famous

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                    “You’ll meet them all again on their long journey to the middle.”

                    Almost Famous is all about taking risks to get what you want. Sixteen-year-old William sets out to become a rock-and-roll journalist. He ends up learning quite a bit about life along the way.

                    10. About Alex

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                      “Judgment has a way of creeping into every relationship — even the most intimate. If we’re lucky, somewhere along the way, we meet a few people who listen to us without criticism or reproach. We call those people our friends.”

                      This movie is about a group of friends who come together for the weekend. They are there to support a friend after his suicide attempt. Coming together brings back a lot of old, unresolved issues.

                      11. Beaches

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                        “What will I do without a best friend?”

                        This movie is about two best friends who support each other through the quarter-life crisis, divorce, illness, and loss.

                        12. Office Space

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                          “So I was sitting in my cubicle today, and I realized, ever since I started working, every single day of my life has been worse than the day before it. So that means that every single day that you see me, that’s on the worst day of my life.”

                          This is another excellent movie about working in a dead-end job with a terrible boss.

                          13. Good Will Hunting

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                            “You’ll have bad times, but it’ll always wake you up to the good stuff you weren’t paying attention to.”

                            Matt Damon plays a math genius working as a janitor at M.I.T. who goes through a quarter-life crisis.

                            14. The Graduate

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                              “It’s like I was playing some kind of game, but the rules don’t make any sense to me. They’re being made up by all the wrong people.”

                              This movie portrays the classic quarter-life crisis. Ben finishes college at the top of his class, but what is he going to do next?

                              15. Reality Bites

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                                “Welcome to the world of the emotionally mature.”

                                Friends graduate from college and have to face adulthood. Their quarter-life crises are all about looking for love and work.

                                16. Amazing Grace

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                                  “…we’re too young to realize certain things are impossible, which is why we will do them anyway.”

                                  Amazing Grace is the story of a young man who fights against the British slave trade. It’s a reminder to anyone going through a quarter-life crisis that sometimes, it can take years of difficult, painful, and depressing work to achieve lifetime goals.

                                  17. The Secret Life of Walter Mitty

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                                    “To see the world, things dangerous to come to, to see behind walls, draw closer, to find each other, and to feel. That is the purpose of life.”

                                    In this movie, Ben Stiller plays Walter Mitty, a man who has diligently worked at the same job for years. Unhappy and about to lose his job, he takes off on an international adventure in an attempt to find himself.

                                    18. People Places Things

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                                      “Yeah, I’m fine. I’m just having a bad life. It’ll be over eventually.”

                                      People Places Things is about a newly divorced man and how he tries to get over his ex-wife while balancing his new life, his career, and parenting.

                                      19. Young Adult

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                                        “Sometimes, in order to heal, a few people have to get hurt.”

                                        A newly divorced woman returns to her hometown while she is going through her quarter-life crisis. Things aren’t as she left them, however, and she must learn to deal with the changes.

                                        20. Silver Linings Playbook

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                                          “If clouds are blocking the sun, there will always be a silver lining that reminds me to keep on trying.”

                                          Silver Linings Playbook is about a man who gets divorced, spends time in a mental institution, and moves back in with his parents. He has to learn to navigate his feelings about his ex-wife and a new girl he meets.

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                                          13 Ways Happy People Think and Feel Differently

                                          13 Ways Happy People Think and Feel Differently

                                          Let me begin by being 100% frank with you – everyone is capable of happiness.

                                          Happiness is first a choice but it also takes persistence to maintain. Happiness is our birth right and my mission is to help as many people as I can live their happiest life.

                                          My mission is to spread the message that everyone deserves happiness.

                                          To live a happy life; however, you must do the work, gain the necessary knowledge, and increase your awareness.

                                          You must fully embody this state and begin to think and feel happiness on every level of your being.

                                          Often times, excuses present themselves and our mind gives us the reasons why we can’t be happy:

                                          “I am too busy right now to focus on happiness”

                                          “I will be happy when I finish school, when I have the money, when I am in the right relationship, when I have kids, when my children are older….”

                                          “I would have had a happy life if this traumatic event had never happened”

                                          “I don’t deserve happiness”

                                          EVERYONE deserves happiness. The reason that you are here right now is because you have a purpose and you are on the earth to enjoy your journey.

                                          Think BIGGER than your excuses. Push FARTHER than your complaints.

                                          Don’t be pulled away from greatness. Get uncomfortable. At least these are what happy and successful people do on a daily basis.

                                          This article highlights the top 13 tips and tricks of how happy people think and feel.

                                          If you would like to begin embodying this life-changing state, then… Here are the 13 ways Happy People Think and Feel Differently:

                                          1. Happy People Put Happiness First

                                          Happy people have made the decision that their end goal is happiness.

                                          Every situation, event, bad day ultimately ends with happiness.

                                          To them, happiness is equivalent to sleep and water – it is a necessity to their life. To live an unhappy life is to have never lived at all.

                                          The happy person asks,

                                          “What would be the point of living if every day and moment were filled with negativity?”

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                                          “Why would I deplete my energy on negativity when I expend less to be positive?”

                                          They make happy-based decisions which means in EVERY MOMENT they choose happiness.

                                          If their circumstances can’t change then they instead change their perspective, they look for the silver lining in the negative.

                                          Happy people don’t let negativity steal their moments away – a positive mindset always prevails.

                                          If you ask a happy person how their day was, they will always answer your question with a highlight or a lesson learned.

                                          2. Happy People Embrace Pain

                                          I know what you are thinking –

                                          “No one is ALWAYS happy”

                                          or …

                                          “Even happy people get in bad moods”

                                          and …

                                          These statements are absolutely accurate.

                                          Happy people aren’t always happy and they DO get into bad moods. They get overwhelmed, they feel defeated, and their feelings get hurt.

                                          Happy people aren’t invincible and they feel pain just like everyone else. The only difference between happy people and people who let negativity run their lives is that…

                                          Happy people quickly acknowledge their pain and they make a decision to find a way to transform their pain into something greater. They also use these 13 simple ways to shake off the sadness.

                                          Happy people admit the negativity they feel and they do what it takes to get back into their natural state: happiness.

                                          When your end goal is happiness, then you will find a way to achieve it no matter how much strength you have to muster.

                                          3. Happy People Have a Happy Self-Image

                                          We all have an image in our minds that we subconsciously live up to.

                                          The reason that change is so hard is because our subconscious mind is programmed to live by how we define ourselves.

                                          How are you currently defining yourself?

                                          For happy people, they see themselves with a smile, positive outlook, and/or a bounce in their step. When an event or situation arises that brings in a negative emotion, they quickly change their state to resemble their natural self-image.

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                                          When happy people are in a bad mood, it feels unusual to them because feeling negative isn’t aligned with how they see themselves.

                                          When they feel upset, they acknowledge the negativity and look for a solution to bring their emotions to the level of how they perceive themselves.

                                          Look at how you define yourself today – your mind and body are always trying to live up to the definition it is taught to believe.

                                          Your body’s job is to keep you in a “normal” state because this is where it feels most comfortable.

                                          If your self-image is happy, then your mind and body will naturally be brought back to where it feels at home. Your actions will be a clue to how you define yourself.

                                          4. Happy People Have a Strong Support System

                                          The happiest people know that it takes a village and they lean on others for support.

                                          Happy people feel comfortable reaching out for help when they feel that their resistances are overpowering them. They quickly sense their negativity and they tell somebody.

                                          Happy people ask for assistance when they can’t figure out a problem. Seeking help takes strength and it never gets in the way of their self-worth. Happy people appreciate the wisdom that their support system provides.

                                          They have strong connections with the people who are close to them. They never trudge through tough times alone because jeopardizing their happiness for too long would be detrimental to their well-being.

                                          5. Happy People Safeguard Their Minds from Negative Triggers

                                          Warding off negativity is almost impossible when we live in a society that lives by what went wrong and feeds off of what could go wrong. News travels instantaneously so it would be unrealistic to shut this out of your life completely.

                                          However, one strategy that happy people use to safeguard their minds is regulating their environment.

                                          We have a lot of control on how we allow our environments to affect us. We can control our social media feed, the television shows and movies we watch, the books that we read, the people that we spend our time with, and the places that we hang out.

                                          If happiness is your end goal, then take a good look at what is bringing you down. What triggers your unhappiness? See if there is anything in your environment that can be changed……

                                          What we listen to, read, and who we hang out with influence our mind, what we think about, what we worry about, our reactions, and behaviors.

                                          Happy people know what triggers a feeling of negativity and it feels out of alignment for them so they do what it takes to avoid it.

                                          They might regulate their social media news feed to reflect the information that brings them positive energy. They might regulate the people that they spend their time with. It is important to hang out with like-minded people.

                                          What are you triggers? How can you avoid the negativity in your environment?

                                          These are ways that happy people regulate their environment and safeguard their minds.

                                          6. Happy People Know When to Say “No”

                                          Happy people know when to sit one out and say “no.” They do this to protect their happiness and well-being.

                                          Life gets overwhelming – a lot of people need our attention and the to do list can seem never ending.

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                                          Happy people give themselves permission to take the day off and they feel comfortable with saying “no” when their stress levels begin to climb. They understand that those around them aren’t benefiting from someone who is frazzled, overwhelmed, and tired.

                                          A happy person identifies their negative emotion and then they quickly treat it to bring themselves back to their “normal” state, so that they can be at their best for not only themselves but for those around them, too.

                                          A simple “no” can ultimately mean many more “yes’s” in the future because happiness has a long battery life. You can take a look at Leo Babauta’s article The Gentle Art of Saying No and learn to say no.

                                          7. Happy People Are Good Evaluators

                                          Happy people can quickly sense when something is off with themselves or others. They are very intuitive to happiness levels. When someone isn’t quite right, they are the first ones to notice.

                                          Being able to evaluate happiness means that you can identify when negativity is lingering around for too long.

                                          We all have bad days; however, the happy person evaluates often and quickly intervenes.

                                          In other words, happy people frequently evaluate their state and immediately change when their pessimism is overshadowing their joy.

                                          8. Happy People Bring Other People Up

                                          What goes on inside of us is mirrored into our physical world.

                                          What we think about literally consumes our life and is displayed in our work, relationships, and attitude.

                                          Happy people naturally feel good inside and about themselves so they treat others the way that they treat themselves. It never feels forced to give a compliment or to help out a stranger.

                                          When we are truly happy with ourselves, everyone around us has a better experience. Happy people are kind to themselves and because of this, it feels natural to them to want to make others’ happy, too.

                                          9. Happy People Go After Their Dreams

                                          Happy people are always following the joyful path. They make happy-based decisions and because of this, they always end up where they want to be.

                                          It’s absolutely impossible to be happy by following an undesirable path, which is quite opposite for unhappy people.

                                          Most people journey through life on a path they think they are “supposed” to be own. Warning signs (negativity) are often ignored because they truly believe that these feelings are a normal part of life.

                                          Negativity is NOT normal.

                                          The happiest people investigate the negativity in their life and quickly analyze the results. This process allows them to get back on the joyful path which ends in a desirable outcome.

                                          Follow your happiness and your dreams will come true (If that isn’t motivation then I don’t know what is!)

                                          In addition to happiness, here are 14 amazing things that happen when you live your passion.

                                          10. Happy People Never Sweat the Small Stuff

                                          The only expectation that the happy person has is that they remain in a joyful state.

                                          They rarely have expectations for the events and people in their lives because they know that this is a sure way to get let down.

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                                          The happiest people take life as it comes – you could say that they roll with the punches. When you don’t have expectations, thenyoue can just sit back and watch how beautifully life unfolds.

                                          Happy people understand that bad things are inevitable, they are a part of life – The car will break, the kids will make mistakes, people will be late, and dinner will burn.

                                          If it’s not anything seriously affecting their lives, then they don’t give their energy to it.

                                          11. Happy People Rarely Have to Prove That They Are Right

                                          Happy people remember that it’s more important to live up to what they believe. When you live your life aligned with your belief system, then there is no need to explain or prove yourself to others.

                                          Differences in opinions are inevitable, but the happiest of people know it’s wasted energy to defend their position.

                                          It is more effective to simply show people, through actions, how you think, feel, and what you believe.

                                          Energy is saved, arguments are diminished, and credibility/respect are gained when we live by what we believe.

                                          12. Happy People Smile (Even When They Don’t Want To)

                                          Smiling is one of the healthiest things we can do; and happy people use this simple trick quite often.

                                          It has been proven that smiling has the ability to boost your immune system, decrease stress levels, and can even make you look younger. The benefits of smiling have even been backed up by science.[1]

                                          Better yet, smiling is contagious. When you engage in a quick smile, you are likely to brighten someone else’s day along with your own. It is no wonder why happy people smile often!

                                          13. Happy People Live Life in the Present Moment.

                                          When we are genuinely happy, we are living for the moment.

                                          Happy people let go of the past, enjoy the present, and look forward to the future. They take the moments for what they are worth – they only invest their energy in what feels right to them.

                                          Everyone is capable of living a happy-centered life. You deserve a life that you desire – your dream life. All you have to start doing is make happy-based decisions TODAY.

                                          In every moment, decide on what makes you happy – decide on what gets you excited. Stop doing what you don’t love, don’t listen to the people that you dislike.

                                          If you are engaging in something that isn’t bringing you joy, then quit doing it. Listen to your heart, stop ignoring the warning signs (negativity) because they are there for a reason.

                                          I have observed, studied, and interviewed some of the happiest and most successful people along with some of the most miserable and self-loathing.

                                          It starts with one decision – happiness.

                                          The happiest, most successful people choose happiness with EACH and EVERY decision. And you can start doing this today.

                                          Featured photo credit: Autumn Goodman via unsplash.com

                                          Reference

                                          [1] Harvard Business Review: The Science Behind the Smile

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