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5 Ways to Get Over the Lost Love Fast and Become Mentally Strong Again

5 Ways to Get Over the Lost Love Fast and Become Mentally Strong Again

There is no doubt that a romantic break-up is tough even if you haven’t been involved for that long. Breaking up might be the best thing overall if things are not working out but at the end of the day, if you are the one who has been left and your feelings are still in limbo. It hurts.

How to get over the lost love fast and avoid wasting time on unnecessary pain?

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1. Recovery doesn’t have to take a long time

Some people think that it takes a long time to get over a lost love but although the process is going to be different and more timely depending on the extent of your feelings, it is more about  how you handle this period of ‘singledom’ that will determine how quickly you bounce back from the break-up.

Apart from an intense feeling of loss, you are likely to be feeling angry and rejected and it is how you channel this anger that will be instrumental in recovering. When a relationship is over, quite often you don’t get a chance to express how you really feel because sometimes the break-up happens in a burst of anger during a row or sometimes, more callously, by text or email. In the initial stages, this sudden grief and loss are suppressed as are the feelings of anger.

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2. Grieve intensively but shortly

By your not having the opportunity to fight back and say what you think about your former partner, the emotions can simply well up and choke you from the inside out. You have no opportunity to rid yourself of this inner angst. Unfortunately, your instinct might let you wallow in this grief and this torrent of stored emotion by listing to the soppiest, saddest music possible which instead of allowing you to free your pent-up emotions, simply enables you to feel the rush of emotion, pain and loss over and over again. Don’t do it. Don’t let emotions drain you.

3. Acknowledge the break-up

Of course, it’s good to acknowledge that you hurt emotionally. You are heart broken and you have full rights to feel bad. Hiding from your emotions is not good. In fact, it’s damaging. You might even curl up on your bed and relive those last moments, wondering how you could have done things differently. Or visualise you back together once more as a couple, when he has come to his senses and realised that he cannot live without you.

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Visualising this backwards step can heighten your emotions even further, stopping you from moving on from the pain. It can prevent the natural healing process if you start trying to call him, to find him, and worst case scenario stalk him.

If you feel tempted to do any of these, stop right there! You will not be doing yourself any favours. You will only increase your feelings of sadness and actually suppress your anger further within yourself. Plus, in years to come, you will find yourself horribly embarrassed by your actions.

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4. Choose activities which empower you

You probably feel very helpless, like he has all of the control and you are left feeling wishy washy and just overcome with emotion. When you feel helpless, this hinders your fight back to normal emotions and so you need to stop waiting and hoping for him to call you. Whilst you know it will take you a while to forget him, you can determine to do just that or at the very least, that you are going to get on with your life. If you want to listen to music, choose carefully. Don’t listen to those songs that make you feel completely sad; instead choose those that empower you.

If you feel the need to tell him what you feel. Then write him a letter and very clearly bullet point how his actions have made you feel. You don’t need to send it, just get out every emotion that you can onto paper and then burn the letter, visualising your anger dissipating and the sensation of relief as the words burn.

It’s never easy getting over a broken heart and sometimes you will not get the answers that you really want to have, but there is nothing that you can do about that. Keep a firm grip on your pride and just remember that if he doesn’t value you, then there will be someone out there who does.

5. Start going out

I know that in your mind no other person can replace your previous partner, but try to give it a try. Trying new hobbies, such as drawing class, a new sport, martial arts or whatever interests you. Getting involved into new activities can work wonders to clean up your mind. Why not to go even further and chat with new people on online dating apps? After all, nothing works better to relieve the pain of the lost love than the new love!

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Last Updated on February 11, 2021

The 20 Most Creative Instagram Accounts That Will Inspire You

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Instagram allows you to see exactly what inspires people and how creativity is drawn from their everyday life. We use Instagram to capture what makes us smile, what brings joy to our life, and what we are passionate about, and the accounts listed below are sure to inspire you in turn.

Here are our 20 top creative Instagram accounts that you should be following today.

1. Humans Of New York

Brandon Stanton walks the streets of New York City taking street photography, and he gets his subjects to open up about life details that even many family members may not know about them. It makes you smile and connect with the images at a new level.

 2.  Paris in Four Months

Carin Olsson moved to Paris and is documenting every part of her experience, from the macaroons to the Eiffel Tower with all of its shimmering lights. If you want to go to Paris but can’t get there today, Carin will take you.

3. Civilized Caveman Cooking

George Bryant offers up more than his love for cooking Paleo cuisine as he shares more about life, joy, and happiness. His coined hashtag is #hugsandbacon.

4. Andrew Knapp

Andrew has taken the world by storm with his adorable version of Where’s Waldo? His version is Find Momo, and stars his border collie.

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5. Idafrosk

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6. GrandmaBetty33

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7. Maya_on_the_Move

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8. Leoleoparis

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9. Jacob Santiago

Jacob Santiago creates stunning, vibrant images around New York City, showcasing the architecture and streets. I’m sure you haven’t seen the streets of NYC like this before.

10. Julie’s Kitchen

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11. iloveplaymo

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12. “Red” Hong Yi

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A breathtaking artist from Puerto Rico who loves to paint murals. Alexis’s work is featured all over the world.

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