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Do You Have A Base Foundation For A Happy Life?

Do You Have A Base Foundation For A Happy Life?

Do you have a base foundation for a happy life? Or is happiness something that you pursue and take for granted at the same time? For example, you could have a sense of satisfaction with where you are or what you have, but easily dismiss the state of happiness in lieu of wishing for something better!

Our wish for “something greater” than what we have going on in our life is a conflict that swirls within every one of us. We all want for something more, something better with greener grass on the other side, rainbows, fireworks, and, of course, winning the lottery.

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There are plenty of snippets of pleasure all around us that we overlook because we tend to look outside of ourselves for tangible materialistic joy and wealth to somehow fix the brokenness that we have within us. Even when we accomplish something worthwhile, we still continue to look for something touchable to take its place to fill up yet another hole deep inside. All of this entanglement of searching outside of ourselves can cloud our sense of joy or fulfillment and what we should be valuing the most.

Happiness is built from the positive experiences that we’ve encountered throughout our lives, and is nurtured by the love and support that we receive from those around us. Along your life journey, you may have lost your structure for a base foundation for a happy life.

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Just like a house needs to have a proper foundation to keep it stable, we too need to have a solid base that holds us up and keeps us together with support and care.

Four signs that you are missing a base foundation for a happy life:

  • You feel lost in life, with a lack of focus and care.
  • You’ve stopped taking care of yourself physically and emotionally.
  • You feel a sense of dread and agitation for where you are and who you are with.
  • You have ongoing ailments and drained energy.

What is your base foundation? What holds you up and keeps you going in life, with support and structure? Is it unconditional love from a relationship, family or friends, your life’s passion or career?

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Below are some key things that you will need in order to attain happiness, satisfaction, and a sense of peace.

Discover these four key components to base your happiness from. Plus, ask yourself these questions to gauge what is most important to you.

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1. Purpose and Vision

  • When you wake up in the morning, are you happy with where you are? Do you have a sense of excitement for your impending day?
  • What kind of things do you look forward to? And are you fulfilling your purpose and vision for your life?

2. Personal Core Values

  • When you lay your head down on the pillow at night, are you satisfied with the way you’ve portrayed yourself throughout your day?
  • Are you holding yourself to the core values that you have set for yourself?

3. Positive Reinforcement and Support System

  • Do you get positive reinforcement from those around you?
  • Do you have a support system, whether from family, friends, or society?
  • What gives you a sense of security and peace?

4. A Sense of Life Satisfaction and Accomplishments

  • Are you satisfied with your accomplishments?
  • What do you look to deep inside yourself when things are falling apart?
  • Do you feel drained from life with nothing left to give?
  • Do people take more from you than they give to you?

You need to have something to look forward to that keeps you happy and excited. With a positive support system and a strong set of values that you set for yourself, you will keep your power and reach your accomplishments, giving you a strong base foundation of happiness worth standing on. No one can drain your energy or take your power away unless you let them!

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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