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4 Ways Learning to Drive Strengthens Your Personality

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4 Ways Learning to Drive Strengthens Your Personality

In high school, I recall that having a driving license or the fact that you’re choosing a driving school puts you in the popular group. Your friends look up to you as if you’re Wonder Woman or Superman, while your nemesis becomes your best friend. It’s become a rite of passage and a form of responsibility, which symbolizes adulthood and independence. Being able to drive actually defines many aspects of one’s life whilst transcending to adulthood.

Here are 4 ways in which learning to drive can strengthen your personality.

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1. Adapting and Improvising at A Very Young Age.

Adapting and improvising is an important life skill that many fail to understand. We move past life so swiftly with responsibilities and innovation that we fail to focus on developing certain life skills. Therefore, upon facing certain adverse situations, they stammer, panic and forget to improvise. In some ways, adapting to changes or new situations becomes a challenge too.

How do you cater to change or how does one actually develop such life skills without having to read about it in “Life Skills for Dummies”? Perfecting the art of driving is the best way to learn this. In many ways a new age driving school caters to this aspect. Performance driving schools usually helps student adapt to real life challenges. For example, learning in an open space and having to test our unpredictable streets gives the drivers a quick thinking to adapt and improvise.

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2. Defines Your Own Confidence and Identity.

Growing up the biggest problem I failed was forming my own identity and self – confidence. As a writer, I had a problem of understanding my style and being confident in my words. However, over time and with lot’s of hard work, my perspective changed. However, my self-discovery took me through many detours.

When I observed my friends who actually learned driving, their personalities were different. They were more assured and confident about their identity, which got me wondering whether that was their pivotal point of change. Needless to say it was. This is because when you’re a driver, you need to trust your instincts and your own style of driving. Criticism and complaints are often left out of the window, when you’re in the driver’s seat. After a certain point, you develop a confident attitude and your own identity.

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3. Gives You a Sense of Self Reliance and Independence.

Being self-reliant is an amazing feeling, as you finally feel liberated and the guilt of troubling someone doesn’t bother you. To be able to do what you want when you want is an amazing feeling which somewhat represents the feeling of soaring to the sky. Independence and freedom is often times what we fight for, hence having that eventually gives us a weapon to face life’s adversities.

However, some might argue that due to technology development, we are self-reliant in different ways. Uber and cab drivers seems to come to our aid anytime we want, but the amount we spend on such necessities can be solved in the simplest way. Therefore, when you notice teenagers getting their license you’ll sense the independence and the charisma they possess. They tend to rely on themselves more. Years later it makes them extremely vocal and gives them the courage to stand up from themselves. Hence, portraying themselves are extremely reliable individuals

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4. Teaches You The Importance of Responsibility.

Being in a stage, the midst of a kid and an adult we often times enjoy indulging in recklessness. We enjoy being at parties and we enjoy being the center of attention. Responsibility seems to be a boring and annoying word. Our parents seem irritating when they stress on the importance of being responsible. However, one of the first rules of driving always revolves upon being a responsible driver, which means never drink and drive, and never text and drive. This form of responsibility becomes a deterrence for unworthy risk taking and becomes an anchor towards self-control. This early education of responsibility allows transition into adulthood easier which makes the later life easier.

Being able to have self-control guarantees that you will never fall easily towards egocentric challenges and unnecessary financial commitments. Over the years this will develop as part of your character which creates a happy and successful ambience around you. A responsible drives keeps themselves alive and others safe too. In a nutshell, learning how to drive at a young age gives you the opportunity to explore yourself and discover your identity. Over the years, this becomes the pivotal point of change and defines your character. Hence, if you have to chance to drive, take it and don’t think twice, because that will be one of the best decisions in your life.

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Last Updated on November 18, 2021

10 Proven Ways to Judge a Person’s Character

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10 Proven Ways to Judge a Person’s Character

We all fall into the trap of judging a person’s character by their appearance. How wrong we are! All too often, the real character of the person only appears when some negative event hits them or you. Then you may see a toxic person emerging from the ruins and it is often a shock.

A truly frightening example is revealed in the book by O’Toole in Bowman called Dangerous Instincts: How Gut Instincts Betray Us. A perfectly respectable, charming, well dressed neighbor was found to have installed a torture chamber in his garage where he was systematically abusing kidnapped women. This is an extreme example, but it does show how we can be totally deceived by a person’s physical appearance, manners and behavior.

So, what can you do? You want to be able to assess personal qualities when you come into contact with colleagues, fresh acquaintances and new friends who might even become lifelong partners. You want to know if they are:

  • honest
  • reliable
  • competent
  • kind and compassionate
  • capable of taking the blame
  • able to persevere
  • modest and humble
  • pacific and can control anger.

The secret is to reserve judgment and take your time. Observe them in certain situations; look at how they react. Listen to them talking, joking, laughing, explaining, complaining, blaming, praising, ranting, and preaching. Only then will you be able to judge their character. This is not foolproof, but if you follow the 10 ways below, you have a pretty good chance of not ending up in an abusive relationship.

1. Is anger a frequent occurrence?

All too often, angry reactions which may seem to be excessive are a sign that there are underlying issues. Do not think that every person who just snaps and throws his/her weight around mentally and physically is just reacting normally. Everyone has an occasional angry outburst when driving or when things go pear-shaped.

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But if this is almost a daily occurrence, then you need to discover why and maybe avoid that person. Too often, anger will escalate to violent and aggressive behavior. You do not want to be near someone who thinks violence can solve personal or global problems.

2. Can you witness acts of kindness?

How often do you see this person being kind and considerate? Do they give money to beggars, donate to charity, do voluntary work or in some simple way show that they are willing to share the planet with about 7 billion other people?

I was shocked when a guest of mine never showed any kindness to the weak and disadvantaged people in our town. She was ostensibly a religious person, but I began to doubt the sincerity of her beliefs.

“The best index to a person’s character is how he treats people who can’t do him any good, and how he treats people who can’t fight back.”

Abigail Van Buren

3. How does this person take the blame?

Maybe you know that s/he is responsible for a screw-up in the office or even in not turning up on time for a date. Look at their reaction. If they start blaming other colleagues or the traffic, well, this is an indication that they are not willing to take responsibility for their mistakes.

4. Don’t use Facebook as an indicator.

You will be relieved to know that graphology (the study of that forgotten skill of handwriting) is no longer considered a reliable test of a person’s character. Neither is Facebook stalking, fortunately. A study showed that Facebook use of foul language, sexual innuendo and gossip were not reliable indicators of a candidate’s character or future performance in the workplace.

5. Read their emails.

Now a much better idea is to read the person’s emails. Studies show that the use of the following can indicate certain personality traits:

  • Too many exclamation points may reveal a sunny disposition
  • Frequent errors may indicate apathy
  • Use of smileys is the only way a person can smile at you
  • Use of the third person may reveal a certain formality
  • Too many question marks can show anger
  • Overuse of capital letters is regarded as shouting. They are a definite no-no in netiquette, yet a surprising number of  people still use them.

6. Watch out for the show offs.

Listen to people as they talk. How often do they mention their achievements, promotions, awards and successes? If this happens a lot, it is a sure indication that this person has an over-inflated view of his/her achievements. They are unlikely to be modest or show humility. What a pity!  Another person to avoid.

7. Look for evidence of perseverance.

A powerful indicator of grit and tenacity is when a person persists and never gives up when they really want to achieve a life goal. Look for evidence of them keeping going in spite of enormous difficulties.

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Great achievements by scientists and inventors all bear the hallmark of perseverance. We only have to think of Einstein, Edison (who failed thousands of times) and Nelson Mandela to get inspiration. The US Department of Education is in no doubt about how grit, tenacity and perseverance will be key success factors for youth in the 21st century.

8. Their empathy score is high.

Listen to how they talk about the less fortunate members of our society such as the poor, immigrants and the disabled. Do you notice that they talk in a compassionate way about these people? The fact that they even mention them is a strong indicator of empathy.

People with zero empathy will never talk about the disadvantaged. They will rarely ask you a question about a difficult time or relationship. They will usually steer the conversation back to themselves. These people have zero empathy and in extreme cases, they are psychopaths who never show any feelings towards their victims.

9. Learn how to be socially interactive.

We are social animals and this is what makes us so uniquely human. If a person is isolated or a loner, this may be a negative indicator of their character. You want to meet a person who knows about trust, honesty and loyalty. The only way to practice these great qualities is to actually interact socially. The great advantage is that you can share problems and celebrate success and joy together.

“One can acquire everything in solitude, except character.”

Stendhal

 10. Avoid toxic people.

These people are trying to control others and often are failing to come to terms with their own failures. Typical behavior and conversations may concern:

  • Envy or jealousy
  • Criticism of partners, colleagues and friends
  • Complaining about their own lack of success
  • Blaming others for their own bad luck or failure
  • Obsession with themselves and their problems

Listen to these people talk and you will quickly discover that you need to avoid them at all costs because their negativity will drag you down. In addition, as much as you would like to help them, you are not qualified to do so.

Now, having looked at some of the best ways to judge a person, what about yourself? How do others see you? Why not take Dr. Phil’s quiz and find out. Can you bear it?

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