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Signs That You’re Capable Of Feeling Fulfilled On Your Own

Signs That You’re Capable Of Feeling Fulfilled On Your Own

1. Alone time never feels lonely.

When you’re a healthy, self-sufficient person time alone is a pleasure. You aren’t checking your phone every ten minutes to see if anyone texted, Whatsapped, or tagged you in a Facebook post. You relish your alone time because you’ve got plenty of  #%*$ to do, and it’s easier to get it done without any distractions. Or you’re simply happy to be able to have time to take care of yourself and have time for stuff like reading a book, binge watching that show you’ve got six episodes queued up of, or doing your beauty regime.

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2. You can go a day without texting or calling someone (except for work obligations) or updating your statuses online.

O.K so we are all somewhat addicted to our phones these days. It’s where we check work emails and answer calls- not just where we do meaningless stuff like check out FB updates or play games. If you’re someone who doesn’t rely on others to validate your popularity or to keep you entertained, you’ll find it easier to take a device-free day and not freak out about it. (Obviously don’t do it on a workday if you need your phone for work.) Secure, fulfilled people don’t feel the need to get public responses to everything they do, or to chat about nothing. They might do it for fun sometimes, but won’t feel it’s a huge loss if they aren’t online for a few days.

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3. You break up with people when they aren’t right for you. You’re o.k. with being single until someone truly great comes along.

Relationships can be awesome. Having a partner to do everything with and cuddle with on movie night is something most of us would like. Who doesn’ t like to be part of a romance? There’s a difference between being in a rewarding relationship and just killing time with people so you don’t have to be alone. Self-fulfilled people understand this and are happy enough to wait until someone they really like (and who deserves it) comes along. They have friends and also their own company (which they find enjoyable) and that’s enough. If Mr. Right comes along, great! Until then, “la vita e bella”  anyways!

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4. You travel solo or attend social events solo and don’t feel awkward.

Sure when we were kids everyone’s worst nightmare might have been showing up to a dance alone, or being out on the playground with no one to play with. That’s because we were kids! Getting older brings more life experience and more confidence. It also teaches us how to socialize better and to talk to strangers even when we don’t want to. (He hem… been to a networking event, office party, or interview lately?) Some people find showing up to events, or traveling solo a scary thing. Not you! You are a comfortable, poised social curator who’s not afraid to sit alone at a restaurant or café while writing in your journal, taking in the scenery, or walking up and introducing yourself to the group of people milling around near the door of the LinkedIn business mixer you hit up solo after work. If you want to get out there and do things, you do them. Even if you can’t always find someone free to do them with you.

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5. You take care of yourself even when no one is watching.

We all know what we should be doing to take care of ourselves and our health. However, many people don’t practice healthy habits unless someone is watching. Having a partner always around (or a group) watching motivates many people to take better care of themselves. When you don’t need someone else to convince you to be good to yourself, you take care of yourself every day, not just on the days that people see you. You hit the gym or take a run even when you don’t want to because you know if you don’t do it, it’ll keep getting harder. You floss your teeth even when it’s not almost your dental check up date, because you know it’ll keep you from having worse problems in the future.  In short, you value yourself enough to take care of the amazing vessel (your body) you were given.

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Last Updated on July 3, 2020

30 Small Habits To Lead A More Peaceful Life

30 Small Habits To Lead A More Peaceful Life

In today’s world, true peace must come from within us and our own actions. Here are 30 small things you can do on a regular basis to increase your overall sense of harmony, peace, and well-being:

1. Don’t go to every fight you’re invited to

Particularly when you’re around those who thrive on chaos, be willing to decline the invitation to join in on the drama.

2. Focus on your breath

Throughout the day, stop to take a few deep breaths. Keep stress at bay with techniques such as “square breathing.” Breathe in for four counts, hold for four counts, then out for four counts, and hold again for four counts. Repeat this cycle four times.

3. Get organized and purge old items

A cluttered space often creates a cluttered spirit. Take the time to get rid of anything you haven’t used in a year and invest in organizational systems that help you sustain a level of neatness.

4. Stop yourself from being judgmental

Whenever you are tempted to have an opinion about someone else’s life, check your intentions. Judging others creates and promotes negative energy.

5. Say ‘thank you’ early and often

Start and end each day with an attitude of gratitude. Look for opportunities in your daily routine and interactions to express appreciation.

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6. Smile more

Even if you have to “fake it until you make it,” there are many scientific benefits of smiling and laughing. Also, pay attention to your facial expression when you are doing neutral activities such as driving and walking. Turn that frown upside down!

7. Don’t worry about the future

As difficult as this sounds, there is a direct connection between staying in the present and living a more peaceful life. You cannot control the future. As the old proverb goes, “Worry is like a rocking chair. It gives you something to do, but it won’t get you anywhere.” Practice gently bringing your thoughts back to the present.

8. Eat real food

The closer the food is to the state from which it came from the earth, the better you will feel in eating it. Choose foods that grew from a plant over food that was made in a plant.

9. Choose being happy over being right

Too often, we sacrifice inner peace in order to make a point. It’s rarely worth it.

10. Keep technology out of the bedroom

Many studies, such as one conducted by Brigham and Women’s Hospital, have connected blue light of electronic devices before bed to adverse sleep and overall health. To make matters worse, many people report that they cannot resist checking email and social media when their cell phone is in reach of their bed, regardless of the time.

11. Make use of filtering features on social media

You may not want to “unfriend” someone completely, however you can choose whether you want to follow their posts and/or the sources of information that they share.

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12. Get comfortable with silence

When you picture someone who is the ultimate state of peace, typically they aren’t talking.

13. Listen to understand, not to respond

So often in conversations, we use our ears to give us cues about when it is our turn to say what we want to say. Practice active listening, ask questions, process, then speak.

14. Put your troubles in a bubble

Whenever you start to feel anxious, visualize the situation being wrapped in a bubble and then picture that sphere floating away.

15. Speak more slowly

Often a lack of peace manifests itself in fast or clipped speech. Take a breath, slow down, and let your thoughtful consideration drive your words.

16. Don’t procrastinate

Nothing adds stress to our lives like waiting until the last minute.

17. Buy a coloring book

Mandala coloring books for adults are becoming more popular because of their connection to creating inner peace.

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18. Prioritize yourself

You are the only person who you are guaranteed to live with 24 hours a day for the rest of your life.

19. Forgive others

Holding a grudge is hurting you exponentially more than anyone else. Let it go.

20. Check your expectations

Presumption often leads to drama. Remember the old saying, “Expectations are premeditated resentments.”

21. Engage in active play

Let your inner child come out and have some fun. Jump, dance, play, and pretend!

22. Stop criticizing yourself

The world is a hard enough place with more than enough critics. Your life is not served well by being one of them.

23. Focus your energy and attention on what you want

Thoughts, words, and actions all create energy. Energy attracts like energy. Put out what you want to get back.

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24. Assign yourself “complaint free” days.

Make a conscious decision not to complain about anything for a whole day. It might be harder than you think and the awareness will stick with you.

25. Surround yourself with people you truly enjoy being in the company of

Personalities tend to be contagious, and not everyone’s is worth catching. Be judicious in your choices.

26. Manage your money

Financial concerns rank top on the list of what causes people stress. Take the time each month to do a budget, calculate what you actually spend and sanity check that against the money you have coming in.

27. Stop trying to control everything

Not only is your inner control freak sabotaging your sense of peace, it is also likely getting in the way of external relationships as well.

28. Practice affirmations

Repeat positive phrases that depict the life and qualities you want to attract. It may not come naturally to you, but it works.

29. Get up before sunrise

Personally witnessing the dawn brings a unique sense of awe and appreciation for life.

30. Be yourself

Nothing creates more inner discord than trying to be something other than who we really are. Authenticity breeds happiness.

Featured photo credit: man watching sunrise via stokpic.com

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