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12 Effortless Ways to Show Love to Yourself

12 Effortless Ways to Show Love to Yourself

Living life is a constant work in progress for each person, but that doesn’t mean that you should get so caught up that you neglect showing yourself love. Break down the walls preventing you from self-love, and enrich your life.

1. Tell Yourself What You Love About Yourself

Many times, we get caught up in everything around us that we forget to remind ourselves just how awesome we are. Our own disappointment, acceptance, patience, and love that we have for ourselves will always reflect what we show others.

2. Accept Imperfection

One of the most worthwhile things that we can do for ourselves is to give up on being perfect, and start the journey to become our true selves. The best part of that journey is to return to feeling peace within ourselves. This peace comes from training your mind to process life as it actually is, rather than what you think it should be.

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3. Know That the Approval of Others Doesn’t Matter

Oftentimes people greatly value having the approval of others, even when it isn’t clear exactly what would gain their approval. According to Gifts Ready to Go, you should instead focus on doing what is right for your own self, disregarding what others will think. You do not need anyone’s permission to be happy.

4. Bring Distance Between Yourself and Those Who Bring You Down

Worry less about the people in your life that are not worrying about you. You should surround yourself with those who inspire you, respect you, love you, and support you.

5. Make the Changes You Know Are Necessary

When you know that you want to see changes in your life, you will need to do things that you’ve never done before. Aim to stay away from the things that tear you down, and gravitate toward the things, activities and thoughts that fulfill you in the way that you want.

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6. Let Go of Your Past Self

A part of life is that good people like you will sometimes make bad choices. Sure, past mistakes make up who you are today, but they do not define you. It is never too late to move on from them – dwelling will only lead to hurt. Accept the mistakes and actively live a truly good life.

7. Be Grateful For Who You Are and What You Have

You will never get everything that you want, nobody does. But remember – there are so many people who do not have a fraction of what you have right now. Use this frustration to motivate you to take action rather than to stew in annoyance.

8. Each Day, Do Something That Makes You Happy

Do the things that you care deeply for. Practice self-love by doing the things that move you. Express your creativity by drawing. Cook something that is simple, there are many recipes using a food processor that take little effort.

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9. Believe in Your Abilities

Anything is possible for you! All that you have to do is believe in yourself, know what you want, claim it, and believe that you deserve to have it.

10. Listen to Your Intuition and Be Honest With Yourself

This will allow you to live with integrity. Be genuine in everything that you do. You will be able to do what you know is right, and what is right for you.

11. Go Out of Your Way to Love Others, As Well

This is karma at its best. Those who love themselves will come across as generous, caring, and kind. Their confidence is expressed through humility and forgiveness, so seek to understand before judging.

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12. Don’t Be Too Serious

Self-pity comes from taking life too seriously, which will lead to self-misery. Taking life too seriously will make you fear each new step that you take. Surround yourself with those who have a good sense of humor, and a good sense of life. Treat yourself to something special – I’m sure you’ve been saving up gift ideas.

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Last Updated on April 8, 2020

Why Assuming Positive Intent Is an Amazing Productivity Driver

Why Assuming Positive Intent Is an Amazing Productivity Driver

Assuming positive intent is an important contributor to quality of life.

Most people appreciate the dividends such a mindset produces in the realm of relationships. How can relationships flourish when you don’t assume intentions that may or may not be there? And how their partner can become an easier person to be around as a result of such a shift? Less appreciated in the GTD world, however, is the productivity aspect of this “assume positive intent” perspective.

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Most of us are guilty of letting our minds get distracted, our energy sapped, or our harmony compromised by thinking about what others woulda, coulda, shoulda.  How we got wronged by someone else.  How a friend could have been more respectful.  How a family member could have been less selfish.

However, once we evolve to understanding the folly of this mindset, we feel freer and we become more productive professionally due to the minimization of unhelpful, distracting thoughts.

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The leap happens when we realize two things:

  1. The self serving benefit from giving others the benefit of the doubt.
  2. The logic inherent in the assumption that others either have many things going on in their lives paving the way for misunderstandings.

Needless to say, this mindset does not mean that we ought to not confront people that are creating havoc in our world.  There are times when we need to call someone out for inflicting harm in our personal lives or the lives of others.

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Indra Nooyi, Chairman and CEO of Pepsi, says it best in an interview with Fortune magazine:

My father was an absolutely wonderful human being. From ecent emailhim I learned to always assume positive intent. Whatever anybody says or does, assume positive intent. You will be amazed at how your whole approach to a person or problem becomes very different. When you assume negative intent, you’re angry. If you take away that anger and assume positive intent, you will be amazed. Your emotional quotient goes up because you are no longer almost random in your response. You don’t get defensive. You don’t scream. You are trying to understand and listen because at your basic core you are saying, ‘Maybe they are saying something to me that I’m not hearing.’ So ‘assume positive intent’ has been a huge piece of advice for me.

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In business, sometimes in the heat of the moment, people say things. You can either misconstrue what they’re saying and assume they are trying to put you down, or you can say, ‘Wait a minute. Let me really get behind what they are saying to understand whether they’re reacting because they’re hurt, upset, confused, or they don’t understand what it is I’ve asked them to do.’ If you react from a negative perspective – because you didn’t like the way they reacted – then it just becomes two negatives fighting each other. But when you assume positive intent, I think often what happens is the other person says, ‘Hey, wait a minute, maybe I’m wrong in reacting the way I do because this person is really making an effort.

“Assume positive intent” is definitely a top quality of life’s best practice among the people I have met so far. The reasons are obvious. It will make you feel better, your relationships will thrive and it’s an approach more greatly aligned with reality.  But less understood is how such a shift in mindset brings your professional game to a different level.

Not only does such a shift make you more likable to your colleagues, but it also unleashes your talents further through a more focused, less distracted mind.

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