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5 Reasons Why School Doesn’t Prepare You for the Real World

5 Reasons Why School Doesn’t Prepare You for the Real World

For a person to become a truly independent and capable grown up, they need to work on themselves and do more when it comes to getting ready for life than just attend school regularly. Although improvements are constantly being introduced to the educational system, it’s still not nearly enough.

It’s a big world out there, and it will throw various challenges your way. You need to prepare yourself for them – you wouldn’t believe how many graduates have difficulties with very simple tasks like paying the bills, for example.

Neglecting this piece of advice will most certainly leave you confused and discouraged to make it on your own, and I know you don’t want to be one of those people who comes back running to their parent’s house only months after school is done. So, check out the following five pointers related to different areas of resourcefulness you should focus on.

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It Suffocates Curiosity

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    The lucky among us have some affinities already developed and school simply helps us learn about them in more detail, but those who still haven’t discovered their talents spend their school years just wandering from one class to another.

    The general problem with classes and lessons is in saturation – the materials that professors are trying to teach you, which you later need to study so that you can pass your tests, are rather extensive. Considering that fact, even that little curiosity students have gets suffocated.

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    In order to avoid this, you should never stop developing your skills and working on your talents, because that’s exactly what you’re meant to do in life and no amount of unnecessary school material should take it away from you.

    Methods are Unadjusted

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      Just a small number of elite schools are testing and later applying revolutionary teaching methods, and they are not available to the wide public because of one simple reason – they are very expensive. There must have been a wrong turn in the history of mankind where everyone decided that it’s just fine for education to have a ridiculously high price.

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      Besides, the forms of tests and assignments based on which students get their grades are old and dated, like essays – ask your teachers and professors when was the last time they wrote one. Chances are their answer won’t be yesterday, so why is it that we spend so much time learning about the proper way to write essays, when this skill is almost completely useless later in life?

      There’s not much we can do about it in a short period of time, but what you can do is explore your options. Not all schools are like this, so my suggestion is to do some serious research when deciding where you should continue your education because it’s not a matter of days or weeks, but years.

      Being Plain Old Handy

      Sure, you’re done with your education and you should start living by yourself, enjoying your privacy and independence, but there are a couple of things you forgot about. Another problem you’ll probably be faced with are minor home repairs because chances are that you never had something as simple as a screwdriver in your hands. So, I guess you’ll be confused with changing a light bulb.

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      Unfamiliarity of Monetary System

      One more thing you should definitely know how to do is money management. Unless you have chosen to study something that’s strictly related to economy, not a single class you attended taught you about how to handle money, save and invest, and this usually turns out to be a serious problem in adulthood.

      Lack of Cooking Skills

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        And the last, but certainly not the least important reason why a school doesn’t prepare you for the real world is related to your home. You need to be able to feed yourself, and almost everyone I know is incredibly confused when they enter the kitchen, let alone when they start using a knife or a pan. Cooking is fun and a great way to relieve stress while you’re doing something creative, so I don’t fully understand why this still isn’t one of the classes everyone must attend.

        One last piece of advice – take classes outside of school. I personally believe that everyone should have a wide knowledge base and learn about everything in their lifetime, but you should take your future in your hands and build it exactly how you want to. There’s enough time for everything, of course – if you actually plan it properly.

        Featured photo credit: https://www.flickr.com/photos/photomonkey/ via flickr.com

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        Last Updated on December 17, 2018

        Why You Think You’re Not Good Enough and How To Believe in Yourself

        Why You Think You’re Not Good Enough and How To Believe in Yourself

        Have you ever wanted to say something at work, but a little voice of doubt crept in and said, “what if you are wrong”?

        Maybe you wanted to apply for that promotion or ask that special someone on a date, but something kept you from taking action. When you think you’re not good enough, you tend to fear the outcome and lack faith in your abilities. That is why it is vital you discover how to believe in yourself so you can accomplish your goals and create your dream life.

        Whatever your situation, the fears and self-doubt your false beliefs create will always stop you in your tracks. Identifying the beliefs that cause you to sabotage your life is the first step to removing them.

        Self-doubt causes inaction, and inaction leads to regret. When you are not following your passion and living your dream life, you are left with a lot of questions:

        • What if I took a chance on myself?
        • Could I have had a better life if I took more risks?
        • Am I be satisfied with the legacy I am leaving behind?
        • What could I have accomplished if I did not settle for less?

        So why would you think you’re not good enough?

        1. Parenting

        The perception you have of yourself is based on your past experiences. There are studies that show children mimic everything from their parents ability to regulate emotions, to their parents belief about money.[1]

        I have had clients who did not believe they were good enough because they did not receive any positive reinforcement as a child. When they were young, their parents were extremely overprotective.

        Think of your childhood challenges like dragons you had to slay. Each obstacle you overcame was another dragon you successfully removed from your life. As you slay more dragons, your self-esteem and confidence increase. When someone has overprotective parents, their parents end up slaying the dragons.

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        As a result, the child builds more confidence in their parent’s abilities, while still doubting their own.

        If you are never encouraged to slay your own dragons, you start to doubt whether you can. It is only natural for a child to conclude their parents are always helping them because they think they need it. This child ages into an adult who still believes they are not good enough. They seek the help and confirmation of others, and they rarely stand-up to opposition.

        Solution: Slay Your Dragons!

        If you want to believe in yourself, you are going to have to take steps to rebuild your trust in yourself. Start by keeping your word to others and arriving on-time. By showing yourself that others can (and do) trust you, you are going to feel more comfortable trusting yourself.

        As you move onto larger and more challenging tasks, you have built a foundation of trust in your ability to keep your word. Next, you are going to want to reclaim your sword from others. At first, you may want to confide in whoever it is currently slaying your dragons.

        Understand if it is your parent or someone who loves you, they want the best for you and mean well. You are simply going to tell them that you want to do the work, and will ask them for their thoughts in the planning phase. Feel free to check in with them and give them updates on your progress, while making sure they understand you are wanting to do the work yourself.

        Then when the task is completed, let them know so you can celebrate together. Now that you have slayed your own dragon, you can start to reclaim your confidence. By you utilizing them as your guide, you get the added bonus of someone you respect and admire, telling you how amazing you are.

        Think of it like a symbolic passing of the torch. Now, you are both dragon slayers. Which means all the positive attributes you attributed to them slaying your dragons, now belong to you.

        2. Over-Exaggerating and Oversimplifying

        Your past experiences may involve you or someone close to you failing. When you experience failure, you can lose your desire to continue. This has less to do with whether you are brave or scared, and more to do with the fact that your mind does not like failure.

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        No one enjoys participating in events in which they under-perform. Outside of the usual reasons of embarrassment, feelings of inadequacy, and fear of failure – it is simply not fun.

        Who wants to play baseball if they strikeout every time it is their turn? Would you enjoy singing in front of an audience if you were booed off the stage every time you performed? I could go on, but I think you get the point.

        The thing about those two examples is no one really strikes out “every” at-bat. It is also unlikely someone could be booed off the stage “every time” they performed in-front of an audience.

        What ends up happening is you oversimplify and exaggerate your past experiences and then your mind believes you. If you believe you are not good enough to ask someone on a date because they “always” tell you no, then do not be surprised you never muster the courage to do so.

        If you want to overcome these feelings of inadequacy, start by changing your beliefs. This exercise does not need to be complicated. If you believe you strikeout every time it is your turn, I want to you to go to a batting cage and keep swinging until you hit the baseball.

        When you experience success, I want you to take a mental note, write it down, or have someone video it. This is your proof that you do not always strike out. Then, whenever your belief that you are not good enough resurfaces, you are going to replay that video.

        Regardless of the situation, you can find a successful experience that you are overlooking.

        Solution: Read About the Failures of Others

        It sounds a little crazy, I know, but reading about the failures of other successful people will improve your confidence. In a study conducted by Columbia University, they found that teaching students about the failures of great scientists encouraged them to do better.[2]

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        When you are battling fear and self-doubt, you tend to over-exaggerate the abilities of others and diminish your own by comparison. You start to believe the successful are successful because they are courageous risk-takers, who do not take no for an answer. You tell yourself, they are meant to succeed, while you on the other hand are not.

        When you are able to relate to the successful, you start to realize they have the same struggles and challenges you do. The only difference is they kept going.

        Now it is not a question of whether you can succeed, it is a question of whether you want to succeed.

        3. Undervalue Yourself

        What is the main difference between someone who believes they are good enough and someone who does not? The person who believes they are good enough understands they are a person of value.

        What I mean by this is if you do not believe you are worth being listened to, you will not have anything to say. If you do not believe you are good enough to be respected and treated as such, you will accept and rationalize all kinds of mistreatment.

        There is an old saying that we are treated as we allow ourselves to be treated. When someone has the confidence and self-esteem that commands respect, they will not accept being treated any kind of way. However, if someone does not see themselves as worthy, they will remain in toxic situations because they do not believe anything better is on the horizon.

        Dr. Jennifer Crocker, who worked on a series of self-esteem studies, found in her latest research that:[3]

        “College students who based their self-worth on external sources–including appearance, approval from others and even their academic performance–reported more stress, anger, academic problems, relationship conflicts, and had higher levels of drug and alcohol use and symptoms of eating disorders”

        Solution: Internalize Your Self-Worth

        Instead of valuing yourself based on the awards, recognition, and accolades of others, you need to search internally. By basing your perception of yourself on your core values, you can regain control over self-image.

        Instead of focusing on things that are outside of control, keep your mind on what it is that makes you special. You are not defined by your job, relationships, religion, or education. Rather, you are defined by the manner in which you participate in these things. You may be a creative, hard-working, and compassionate person; and that shows up in every thing you do.

        Understand that you do not need to be creative, hard-working, and compassionate all the time to consider yourself these things. You are not trying to be perfect, but you are trying to connect with your true self.

        By understanding the similarities in which you tackle objectives, you will build a consistent and powerful self-worth that stands apart from external confirmation.

        Final Thoughts

        Do not allow your past experiences do dictate your future success. You do not want to look back on your life and have a lot of questions and regrets.

        Build trust in yourself by taking action today. This will help you build the confidence you need to believe in yourself and your ability to become the champion of your life.

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        Featured photo credit: Riccardo Mion via unsplash.com

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