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Signs You’re An Emotional Person And That’s Really Good

Signs You’re An Emotional Person And That’s Really Good

“The moment we cry in a film is not when things are sad but when they turn out to be more beautiful than we expected them to be.” – Alain De Botton

Emotional humans are often the sensitive ones. The ones who cry a little sooner in the cinema than everyone else, the ones that are perhaps wounded by a boss’s comment or a friends jokes that go a little too far. But you’re also the ones that see things that others don’t. You’re the ones that notice when somebody is feeling sad when everyone else just keeps going about their business. You’re the ones that run out into the pouring rain to bring in the freezing cold family dog! Yes, you might act emotionally before you think logically, but there are some things about being this kind of person that, actually, are not so bad at all. Here’s a few. 

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You’re very careful not to hurt people’s feelings

You understand what it feels like to have hurt feelings. And the last thing you would want is for anyone else to experience it if they don’t necessarily have to. It might not be the easiest thing, or even the most rational thing, to try and abstain from hurting a persons feelings. Sometimes it happens and it’s not our fault, and wasn’t our intention. But it is a very kind thing that you try so hard to not have another human being feel hurt, particularly not by you.

Memories are very important to you and sometimes you dwell on it too much

You have a tendency to think about the past and worry about the future. And while mindfulness is a wonderful approach and perhaps solution for this, the fact that you think so much on things does make you a pretty thoughtful person. Things that happened in your life that hold meaning are very special to you. Certain people and places and times can hold innate significance and that is pretty beautiful, and powerful! Just try to remember not to dwell too much on things if it isn’t particularly good for you. It’s always important to live in the present moment, so we can enjoy that too.

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To you happiness gets a higher priority than success

Some people will do anything to get to the top. They’ll put themselves first, before their families or friends, before anything. And sometimes it’s only when they reach the top that they realize they aren’t particularly happier for having reached their destination.
You don’t put success first. Your priority is happiness, and love, and care. Just be mindful that success can be a big factor in happiness. It’s important to have goals and feel like they are succeeding.

You’re not afraid to make mistakes

As someone who is pretty in tune with their emotions, you know that it is fairly human to make mistakes. You’ve made many before, everybody has. You are not afraid to get it wrong because you understand emotionally that this is part of life. When we act on our emotions we might get burned by our choices, yes. But we also will have had an experience, and perhaps a really great one.

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You care more about feelings than reasons

You are a good friend and a good human to be in somebody’s life because you understand the importance of how we feel. Everybody has feelings! You care about feelings and the part they play in everything that we do. We could write a list of all the reasons we should or should do something, but you care more about our personal investment, you follow your heart rather than the rules. It might not always lead to where you hope it will, but at least you have a true reason for heading down that certain path.

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Last Updated on October 22, 2019

How to Get “I Can’t Do It” Out of Your Vocabulary

How to Get “I Can’t Do It” Out of Your Vocabulary

When someone says, “I can’t do it” . . . I say to myself, “What do you mean you can’t do it?” Maybe you don’t want to do it, but saying you “can’t” do it is a completely different story.

With the right mindset, positive attitude, and a clear vision of what you want to accomplish, the only thing that is holding you back is yourself.

Can’t is a terrible word and it has to be taken out of your vocabulary.

By saying you can’t do something, you’re already doubting yourself, submitting to defeat, and you’re making that barrier around your life tighter.

So today, right now, we are going to remove this word for good.

From now on there is nothing we can’t do.

“Attitude is Tattoo”

Your attitude is everything; it’s your reason, your why and how, your facial expression, emotions, body language, and potentially the end result. How you approach an opportunity, and the result of it, is solely based on you — not your boss or your co-worker or friend.

If you enter a business meeting with a sour attitude, that negative energy can spread like wildfire. People can also feel it — maybe even taste it. This is not an impression you want to leave.

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Now imagine you enter a business meeting with a positive attitude, that whatever happens in here is going to be your result, in your control, not someone else’s. Of course, we can’t always win, but even if the outcome is negative, your attitude and perception can turn it into a positive. The question is: can you do it?

Of course you can, because there is nothing in this world you can’t do.

It’s much better to be known for your positive attitude — your poise, your energy, the reason why things go so well because you are able to maintain such character. A negative attitude is easy. It’s easy to complain, it’s easy to be mad, and it’s even easier to do nothing to change it.

When I say your “attitude is tattoo”, it sounds permanent. Tattoos can be removed, but that’s not the point. Your attitude is like a tattoo because you wear it. People can see it and sometimes, they will judge you on it. If you maintain a negative attitude, then it is permanent until you change it.

Change your attitude and I guarantee the results change as well.

Believe You Can Do It

Do you know why most people say “can’t” and doubt themselves before trying anything?

It’s our lack of self-confidence and fear on many different levels. The one thing we have to purge from ourselves is fear — fear of bad results, fear of change, fear of denial, fear of loss, the fear that makes us worry and lose sleep. Worrying is the same as going outside with an umbrella, waiting for rain to hit it. Stop worrying and move on.

Confidence is fragile: It builds up slowly, but can shatter like glass. Project your confidence and energy into believing in yourself. This is a very important and groundbreaking step — one that is usually the hardest to take. Start telling yourself you can do something, anything, and you will do it the best to your ability. Remove doubt, remove fear, and stick with positive energy.

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Embrace Failure

Do not fear failure. Do not run away from it. Face it, learn from it, grow, and take action. Just remember: You will never know success if you have never failed.

Your confidence will bolster after embracing these facts. You will be immune to demoralizing results, and instead you will find ways to fix it, improve upon it, and make it better than before. You will learn to never say “can’t,” and will realize how many more opportunities you can create by removing that one word.

Don’t let one simple and ugly word plague your confidence. You’re better and stronger than that.

Start Making the Change

But to actually start the process of change is very challenging.

Why is that?

Fear? Time? Don’t know how — or where — to start?

It’s hard because what we’re doing is unlearning what we know. We are used to doing things a certain way, and chances are we’ve been doing them for years.

So here are some ways that I avoid using the word “can’t”, and actually take the steps to put forth the change that I wish to see. I hope you can incorporate these methods into your life.

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Write down What You Want to Change

Write it on post-its, notecards, whatever makes you comfortable — something you will always see. I usually write mine on post-its and put them all over the wall behind my monitor so I always see them.

Tell a Friend and Talk About It

Discussing your goals, what you want to change, is very effective when you say it out loud and tell another person other than yourself. It’s almost like saying, hey, I bet I can do it — watch me.

When you fulfill that goal and tell your friend, it feels rewarding and will motivate you to do it again in a different aspect. Who knows? Maybe your friend adopts the same mindset as you.

Stop Yourself from Saying the Forbidden Word

Sometimes,I can’t control myself in public when I’m with friends, so I have to be careful with the words I use so I don’t embarrass or insult anyone.

Treat the word “can’t” as the worst word you can possibly use. Stop yourself from saying it, mid-sentence if you must, and turn your whole perspective around — you can do it, you will do it, and nothing is impossible!

Repetition, Repetition, Repetition

You think this change will be overnight? No way. This is a practice. Something you’re going to be doing for the rest of your life from now until forever.

As I said earlier, you are unlearning what you know. You know how easy it is to say you can’t do something, so by unlearning this easy practice, you’re self-disciplining yourself to live without boundaries.

Practice this everyday, a little at a time, and before you know it, the word can’t will not be part of your language.

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Do Anything That Can Relieve Your Uncertainty

When I catch myself saying I can’t do something or I don’t know something, looking up information on that action or subject, doing research, educating yourself, relieves that uncertainty.

Sometimes, we think we can’t do something because the whole idea of it seems too large. We skip the small steps in our head and only focus on the end.

Before you say you can’t do something, rewind and slow down a little bit. Focus on what the first step is, then the next. Take it a step at a time, and before you know it you will have done something you previously thought you couldn’t do.

Final Thoughts

You know what you must do. The first step is right now. Once you begin this habit, and really start noticing some change, you’ll realize the door to opportunity is everywhere.

The funny thing is: Those doors have always been there. The evil word that we no longer use put a veil over our eyes because that’s how powerful that word is.

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