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Signs You’re An Emotional Person And That’s Really Good

Signs You’re An Emotional Person And That’s Really Good

“The moment we cry in a film is not when things are sad but when they turn out to be more beautiful than we expected them to be.” – Alain De Botton

Emotional humans are often the sensitive ones. The ones who cry a little sooner in the cinema than everyone else, the ones that are perhaps wounded by a boss’s comment or a friends jokes that go a little too far. But you’re also the ones that see things that others don’t. You’re the ones that notice when somebody is feeling sad when everyone else just keeps going about their business. You’re the ones that run out into the pouring rain to bring in the freezing cold family dog! Yes, you might act emotionally before you think logically, but there are some things about being this kind of person that, actually, are not so bad at all. Here’s a few. 

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You’re very careful not to hurt people’s feelings

You understand what it feels like to have hurt feelings. And the last thing you would want is for anyone else to experience it if they don’t necessarily have to. It might not be the easiest thing, or even the most rational thing, to try and abstain from hurting a persons feelings. Sometimes it happens and it’s not our fault, and wasn’t our intention. But it is a very kind thing that you try so hard to not have another human being feel hurt, particularly not by you.

Memories are very important to you and sometimes you dwell on it too much

You have a tendency to think about the past and worry about the future. And while mindfulness is a wonderful approach and perhaps solution for this, the fact that you think so much on things does make you a pretty thoughtful person. Things that happened in your life that hold meaning are very special to you. Certain people and places and times can hold innate significance and that is pretty beautiful, and powerful! Just try to remember not to dwell too much on things if it isn’t particularly good for you. It’s always important to live in the present moment, so we can enjoy that too.

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To you happiness gets a higher priority than success

Some people will do anything to get to the top. They’ll put themselves first, before their families or friends, before anything. And sometimes it’s only when they reach the top that they realize they aren’t particularly happier for having reached their destination.
You don’t put success first. Your priority is happiness, and love, and care. Just be mindful that success can be a big factor in happiness. It’s important to have goals and feel like they are succeeding.

You’re not afraid to make mistakes

As someone who is pretty in tune with their emotions, you know that it is fairly human to make mistakes. You’ve made many before, everybody has. You are not afraid to get it wrong because you understand emotionally that this is part of life. When we act on our emotions we might get burned by our choices, yes. But we also will have had an experience, and perhaps a really great one.

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You care more about feelings than reasons

You are a good friend and a good human to be in somebody’s life because you understand the importance of how we feel. Everybody has feelings! You care about feelings and the part they play in everything that we do. We could write a list of all the reasons we should or should do something, but you care more about our personal investment, you follow your heart rather than the rules. It might not always lead to where you hope it will, but at least you have a true reason for heading down that certain path.

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Last Updated on June 19, 2019

6 Ways to Be a Successful Risk Taker and Take More Chances

6 Ways to Be a Successful Risk Taker and Take More Chances

I’ve stood on the edge of my own personal cliffs many times. Each time I jumped, something different happened. There were risks that started off great, but eventually faded. There were risks that left me falling until I hit the ground. There were risks that started slow, but built into massive successes.

Every risk is different, but every risk is the same. You need to have some fundamentals ready before you jump, but not too many.

It wouldn’t be a risk if you knew everything that was about to happen, would it? Here’re 6 ways to be a successful risk taker.

1. Understand That Failure Is Going to Happen a Lot

It’s part of life. Everything we do has failure attached to it. All successful people have stories of massive failure attached to them. Thinking that your risk is going to be pain free and run as smooth as silk is insane.

Expect some pain and failure. Actually, expect a lot of it. Expect the sleepless nights with crazy thoughts of insecurity that leave you trembling under the covers. It’s going to happen, no matter how positive you are about the risk you are about to take.

When failure hits, the only options are to keep going or quit. If you expect falling into a meadow of flowers and frolicking unicorns, then you’re going to immediately quit once you realize that getting to that meadow requires you to go through a rock filled cave filled with hungry bats.

2. Trust the Muse

Writing a story isn’t a big risk. It’s really just a risk on my time. So when I start writing a story, I’m scared it will be time wasted. Of course, it never really is. Even if the story doesn’t turn out fabulous, I still practiced.

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When I’ve taken risks in my life, the successful ones always seemed to happen when I followed the muse. Steven Pressfield describes the muse,

“The Muse demands depth. Shallow does not work for her. If we’re seeking her help, we can’t stay in the kiddie end. When we work, we have to go hard and go deep.”

The muse is a goddess who wants our attention and wants us to work on our passion.

If you’re taking a risk in anything, it’s assumed that there is some passion built up behind that risk. That passion, deep inside you, is the muse. Trust it, focus on it, listen to it.

The most successful articles and stories I write are the ones I’ve focused all my attention on. There were no interruptions during their creative development. I didn’t check my phone or go watch my Twitter feed. I was fully engaged in my work.

Trust the muse, focus your attention on your risk, let the ideas and path develop themselves, and leave the distractions at the side of the road.

3. Remember to Be Authentic

Taking a risk and then turning into something you’re not, is only going to lead to disaster. Whether you are risking a new relationship or new opportunity, you must be yourself throughout the entire process.

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How many times have you acted like you loved something just because the men or woman you just started going out with loved it?

For example, I’m not an office worker. I have an incredibly hard time working in a confined timeline (ie. 9-5). That’s why I write. I can do it whenever the mood strikes, I don’t have somebody breathing down my neck, telling me that I’m five minutes late, or missed a comma somewhere. I don’t have to walk on eggshells wondering if what I’m writing will get me fired or make me lose a promotion. I can just be myself, period.

One girlfriend didn’t understand that. She believed solely in the 9-5 motto, specifically something in human resources because that was a very stable job. I was scared for my future, but I stuck with the relationship because of my own insecurities and acted like I would do it to make her happy.

Here’s a tip: NEVER take away from your happiness to make somebody else satisfied (note I didn’t say happy).

Making somebody else happy will make you happy. Doing something to satisfy somebody is murder on your soul.

4. Don’t Take Any Risks While You’re Not Clearheaded

I’d been considering the risk for a couple weeks. It all sounded good. I was 22 and I could be rich in a couple of years. That’s what they were selling me, anyways.

One night, while at a house party with some friends, I found myself at a computer. A couple of my friends were standing nearby and asked me what I was doing. I told them I was considering starting my own business and it was only going to cost me $1,500.

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Of course, when a bunch of drunk people are surrounded by more drunk people, things get enthusiastic. It sounded like the best business venture in the world to everybody, including me. So I signed up and gave them my credit card number.

A few painful months and close to $4,000 dollars lost later, I quit the business. I was young and fell into the pyramid scheme trap. It was an expensive drunk decision.

Drinking heavily and making decisions has a proven track record of failure. So when you have something important to decide, don’t let your emotions take over your brain.

5. Fully Understand What You’re Risking

It was the start of my baseball comeback. I got a tryout with a professional scout and killed it. After the tryout, he talked to my girlfriend and myself, making sure we understood I would be gone for up to 6 months at a time. That strain on the relationship could be tough.

We understood. I left to play ball, chose to stay in the city I played in, and a year later we broke up. Not because of baseball, see point 3 above. Taking big risks can have massive impacts on everything in your life from relationships to money. Know what you’re risking before you take the risk.

If you believe the risk will be worth it or you have the support you need from your family, then go ahead and make the leap.

You can get more guidance on how to take calculated risks from this article: How to Take Calculated Risk to Achieve More and Become Successful

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6. Remember This Is Your One Shot Only

As far as we know officially, this is our one shot at life, so why not take some risks?

The top thing people are saddened by on their deathbeds are these regrets. They wish they did more, asked that girl in the coffee shop out, spoke out when they should have, or did what they were passionate about.

Don’t regret. Learn and experience. Live. Take the risks you believe in. Be yourself and make the world a better place.

Now go ahead, take that risk and be successful at it!

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