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Top 10 Unusual Places to Propose a Marriage

Top 10 Unusual Places to Propose a Marriage

Anyone can propose a marriage over dinner; however, choosing the perfect location is key. Sure, there are some places that are pretty obvious, but why not choose somewhere unusual? Not only will it make for a great vacation spot, but the thought that will be put into it will also show her how much she means to you.

1. Big Sur, California

This 90 miles of highway has inspired poets, storytellers, and song writers. Take your lady love on a road trip, and tell her how she inspires you—then pop the question. There are numerous spectacular lookout points to choose from, containing rocky cliffs and enormous mountains. Who could say no with views like these?

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2. Fiji

The beaches of Fiji have risen in fame for their sunsets and incomparable diving. Coined one of the most romantic getaway destinations, it is not only ideal for the perfect marriage proposal, it also doubles as a great destination for an uber-romantic wedding. Take your lady to one of the nearby tiny private islands and she will want to be yours forever.

3. Phnom Bakheng Temple, Cambodia

How many people can say that they began their journey to marriage at a temple that is over 1000 years old? To up the ante for proposal day, plan an elephant ride up the hill and give your lady a day full of firsts. She will see these gestures as the tone being set for the marriage and will give you her heart forever.

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4. At the Top of Any Mountain

Plan a hike to the top of one of her favorite mountains. The altitude will give you privacy, and there won’t be any distractions—other than the breathtaking scenery. It doesn’t have to be Mount Everest by any means. Choosing such an unusual place to propose will catch her so off-guard that she will only remember all the very best of the day.

5. Ponts des Arts, France

France might seem obvious. The Eiffel Tower would make your proposal cliché. Instead, go for the underdog, Pont des Arts Bridge. If your girl is a fan of Sex and the City, she will recognize the scenery and will be even more impressed. Pop the question here and get ready for a lifetime of bragging rights. Your lover will gush about it forever!

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6. Stairway to Heaven in Hawaii

These stairs are nestled among the mountains and ascend up and down, as if they assist in traveling to and from Heaven. The beauty of the surrounding area will blow your mind. While it is an obvious place to hike, it is an unusual place to propose. If you two can conquer this massive set of stairs together, there is no better way to reward yourself than to ask the love of your life to spend the rest of their days with you.

7. Las Vegas, Nevada

Known for being a destination to get married, Las Vegas can take you anywhere to get engaged. The cultural replicas will transport you to Venice, New York, Rome, Egypt, and Camelot. If she agrees to marriage and you’re the spontaneous type, you can get married that same day with no hassle. This will make for a unique story to tell all of your friends and family.

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8. Where You Had Your First Date

This is a simple option for those that still want to show how much they love their sweetie. While she will think that you are so amazing for remembering where you had your first date, she will gush over the great memories while you scheme to make a new unforgettable memory with your proposal.

9. Overlooking the Pitons in St. Lucia

The Pitons are impressive volcano peaks that rise almost 3,000 feet from the ocean. They are one of the most sensational natural sights in the Caribbean. Covered in forests, with a beautiful bay nestled between the two peaks, you can surprise your love with the proposal of her dreams over dinner with a magnificent view.

10. Bali

This captivating Indonesian island is a much sought after honeymoon spot. However, you should consider it as the place to serve as the backdrop for your proposal. The beachfront city of Nusa Dua provides optimal photographic opportunities that all of your Instagram followers will be jealous of. Stretches of white beaches are accompanied with monstrous cliffs. Turning this romantic getaway into a proposal will provide you and your sweetie a story that will never get old.

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Last Updated on July 10, 2020

How to Take Control of Your Life with Better Boundaries

How to Take Control of Your Life with Better Boundaries

We all have them—those hurtful, frustrating, offensive, manipulative people in our lives. No matter how hard we try to surround ourselves with positive and kind people, there will always be those who will disrespect, insult, berate, and misuse you if we allow them to.

We may, for a variety of reasons, not be able to avoid them, but we can determine how we interact with them and how we allow them to interact with us.

So, how to take control of your life and stop being pushed around?

Learning to set clear firm boundaries with the people in our lives at work and in our personal lives is the best way to protect ourselves from the negative effects of this kind of behavior.

What Boundaries Are (And What They’re Not)

Boundaries are limits

—they are not threats or ultimatums. Boundaries inform or teach. They are not a form of punishment.

Boundaries are firm lines—determined by you—which cannot be crossed by those around you. They are guidelines for how you will allow others to treat you and what kind of behaviors you will expect.

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Healthy personal boundaries help protect you from physical or emotional pain. You may also need to set firm boundaries at work to ensure you and your time are not disrespected. Don’t allow others to take advantage of your kindness and generosity.

Clear boundaries communicate to others that you demand respect and consideration—that you are willing to stand up for yourself and that you will not be a doormat for anyone. They are a “no trespassing” sign that makes it very clear when a line has been crossed and that there will be consequences for doing so.

Boundaries are not set with the intention of changing other people. They may change how people interact with you, but they are more about enforcing your needs than attempting to change the general behavior and attitude of others.

How to Establish Boundaries and Take Control of Your Life

Here are some ways that you can establish boundaries and take control of your life.

1. Self-Awareness Comes First

Before you can establish boundaries with others, you first need to understand what your needs are.

You are entitled to respect. You have the right to protect yourself from inappropriate or offensive behavior. Setting boundaries is a way of honoring your needs.

To set appropriate boundaries, you need to be clear about what healthy behaviors look like—what healthy relationships look like.

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You first have to become more aware of your feelings and honest with yourself about your expectations and what you feel is appropriate behavior:

  • Where do you need to establish better boundaries?
  • When do you feel disrespected?
  • When do you feel violated, frustrated, or angered by the behavior of others?
  • In what situations do you feel you are being mistreated or taken advantage of?
  • When do you want to be alone?
  • How much space do you need?

You need to honor your own needs and boundaries before you can expect others to honor them. This allows you to take control of your life.

2. Clear Communication Is Essential

Inform others clearly and directly what your expectations are. It is essential to have clear communication if you want others to respect your boundaries. Explain in an honest and respectful tone what you find offensive or unacceptable.

Many people simply aren’t aware that they are behaving inappropriately. They may never have been taught proper manners or consideration for others.

3. Be Specific but Don’t Blame

Taking a blaming or punishing attitude automatically puts people on the defensive. People will not listen when they feel attacked. It’s part of human nature.

That said, you do not need to overexplain or defend yourself. Boundaries are not open to compromise.

Sample language:

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  • “You may not…yell or raise your voice to me…”
  • “I need…to be treated with respect…”
  • “It’s not okay when…you take things from my desk without asking…”
  • “I won’t…do your work…cover for you anymore…”
  • “It’s not acceptable when…you ridicule or insult me…”
  • “I am uncomfortable when…you use offensive language”
  • “I will no longer be able to…lend you money…”

Being able to communicate these without sounding accusatory is essential if you want others to respect your boundaries so you can take control of your life.

4. Consequences Are Often Necessary

Determine what the appropriate consequences will be when boundaries are crossed. If it’s appropriate, be clear about those consequences upfront when communicating those boundaries to others.

Follow through. People won’t respect your boundaries if you don’t enforce them.

Standing our ground and forcing consequences doesn’t come easily to us. We want to be nice. We want people to like us, but we shouldn’t have to trade our self-respect to gain friends or to achieve success.

We may be tempted to let minor disrespect slide to avoid conflict, but as the familiar saying goes, “if you give people an inch, they’ll take a mile.”

It’s much easier to address offensive or inappropriate behavior now than to wait until that behavior has gotten completely out of hand.

It’s also important to remember that positive reinforcement is even more powerful than negative consequences. When people do alter the way they treat you, acknowledge it. Let people know that you notice and appreciate their efforts.

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Final Thoughts

Respect is always a valid reason for setting a boundary. Don’t defend yourself or your needs. Boundaries are often necessary to protect your time, your space, and your feelings. And these are essential if you want to take control of your life.

Start with the easiest boundaries first. Setting boundaries is a skill that needs to be practiced. Enlist support from others if necessary. Inform people immediately when they have crossed the line.

Don’t wait. Communicate politely and directly. Be clear about the consequences and follow them through.

The better you become at setting your own boundaries, the better you become at recognizing and respecting the boundaries of others.

Remember that establishing boundaries is your right. You are entitled to respect. You can’t control how other people behave, but you do have control over the way you allow people to treat you.

Learning to set boundaries is not always easy, but with time, it will become more comfortable. You may eventually find that boundaries become automatic and you no longer need to consciously set them.

They will simply become a natural extension of your self-respect.

Featured photo credit: Thomas Kelley via unsplash.com

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