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3 Ways To Use Traveling As A Self Coaching Session

3 Ways To Use Traveling As A Self Coaching Session

There are numerous articles on traveling to find yourself, and the internet is flooded with different life coaches guiding you find the real “you”, however personal experience and scientific research proves that traveling is one of the best self coaching tools. To put travel and coaching into the same space came from my insights, extensive practice and was inspired by recent studies on health and behavior change.

Traveling as a process has positive effects on the self, and can be very rewarding! You can travel in a group or with another person, but it is even more rewarding if you travel by yourself. For some folks such experiences become business opportunities, to transfer the message and content of the travelling lifestyle. For others, there may be a breakthrough in discovering inner capabilities and thoughts.

When you travel by yourself and learn self reliance, the following factors will be developed:

Self confidence

The number one thing to be developed when pushing your boundaries – traveling, tripping, climbing, you name it! Pushing beyond your comfort zone begins with fear, strange feelings in the stomach and ends with discovery as you face people, situations and the most importantly yourself.

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Personal development

This covers activities that improve awareness and identity, develop talent and potential, enhance quality of life and contribute to the realization of dreams and aspirations. It’s all about who you choose to be during your travels.

Presence and Gratitude

Bring to the forefront your ability to appreciate where you are and what you have. Builds and strengthen your personality first, and strengthen your capacity to enjoy every experience.

Solo travelers become explorers who feel, taste, touche, experience and reflect. The transformation behind the journey will result in life changing virtue – once you leave, you’ll never be the same. Similar to coaching – it opens up the senses, increases awareness and most of all: it changes perspective, alters your points of view and conception of your own self. When you walk to your destination the process itself gives extra benefits to your productivity and happiness, and therefore it is every bit as effective an experience as life-coaching!

The research undertaken by Dr. Julia Zimmermann and Researcher Franz Neyer found long-term adventures can actually alter your personality. Prior to traveling, each and every participant was required to take a test that measured the “Big Five” personality aspects: openness to experience, agreeableness, extraversion, emotional stability and conscientiousness.

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In comparison to those who did not travel, those who did scored higher in conscientiousness, openness to experience, emotional stability and agreeableness.

Here are a few questions and affirmations I came across in my journeys that I would like to share.

Questions:

–          What makes me feel happy here?

–          What can I do for you?

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–          What is the best thing I can do today?

Affirmations for anywhere you go:

–          Open your heart and mind to give and receive.

–          Appreciate, accept, and acknowledge what comes your way.

Traveling – whether an inner journey or actual trip, brings practical benefit to the self. The purpose of life coaching is to bring a sense of inner peace to the participant – a state of being mentally and spiritually at peace, with enough knowledge and understanding to keep oneself strong in the face of discord or stress. This state can be measured and brings the following results according to the research. To summarize, participants were more self-sufficient and self-reliant, they sounded more upbeat and flexible, felt healthy, relaxed and more enthusiastic.

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Whether you go for a short or long journey, even a brief walk from point A to B – maintaining and connecting to the self may give tremendous boons and inspiration. Go for it!

Featured photo credit: VIKTOR HANACEK via picjumbo.com

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

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