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8 Things All 20-Something Women Need To Own

8 Things All 20-Something Women Need To Own

You’re in your 20s and it’s amazing! You can be trusted to live on your own, you have a driver’s license, a job, a partner (maybe), and you have lots of fun. All these things are great, but you have to start buying real things now—adult stuff. You are over the rockstar bracelets, gothic makeup, and Gilmore Girls (OK, sort of…) and you are ready to start being an adult—a really serious, reliable person who does adult things. The best way to start your transformation is reassessing your shopping habits and the items you own.

After all, what you have defines you and says a lot about who you are and what you want to become in the future.

This transformation won’t turn you into Martha Stewart, but it will give you a new perspective on your own life and will prepare you for the best years of your life. Are you ready? Here are a few of the things that all 20-somethings should consider owning.

1. A versatile wardrobe

Every 20-something needs a versatile wardrobe. This includes pieces which can make a statement at a crazy party and pieces which can scream “professional” from the bottom of their lungs. Comfortable is not out either!

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Every woman needs a dress or an outfit that makes her feel sexy, and there’s nothing hotter and more versatile than an LBD. Invest in a great little black dress which can be worn at multiple events, such as a wedding, a birthday party, and even a funeral.

Next, you should look into getting a pair of nude pumps. They are highly versatile and work great with any color and every style. Moreover, they complement all skin tones!

A leather jacket is another must because deep inside, we all want to look like a hot biker.

When we speak about statement clothing pieces that all 20-somethings need to own, we can’t overlook the blazer. No, it’s not the standard dull, boring black blazer—it’s about a fresh and classy clothing item which is able to complete every plain outfit and turn it into a runway outfit.

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2. A real piece of jewelry

Most jewelry pieces a 20-something owns are made of inexpensive materials, but it’s time to own some real jewelry. You are still too young for carrying the burden of a diamond, but you’re not too young for a gold ring or a jewelry set that has market value. If you are in love with statement pieces, go for the same style; you can even pick a set of statement jewelry made from precious materials, such as gold and semi-precious stones, like turquoise.

The key is to invest in jewelry which won’t rust—not in couple of weeks and not in couple of years!

3. A vibrator

As a 20-something, your sex life is blooming, but you have to experience self-pleasure. When you find a great vibrator your life will change. Drop the misconceptions and the shame and head to your first sex shop, online or offline, and look for a USB-charged, modern vibrator. Keep in mind that someone once said if everyone owned a vibrator, there would be no wars in the world!

4. A very expensive art piece

During your teen years, art was something for adults—pretty much like Cosmopolitan and bills. But when you assault your 20s, you need to start polishing yourself and your taste in art. Spend some time in an art gallery, a museum, or another place where you can see multiple types of art. Then, invest in a piece you really love.

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The alternative is to “adopt” a family art piece. Either way, you need to be really in love with your new acquisition and understand its meaning as well as its value. In other words, if your house is on fire, that art piece will be the first thing you will rush to save. My own art piece is a sewing machine inherited by my mother from her mother, who inherited it from her mother. And my daughter will inherit that sewing machine one day!

5. A medicine drawer

As a child, you rely on your parents to give you medicines when you are sick. As a 20-something you need to have a medicine drawer with the essential remedies for common ailments. In this micro-pharmacy, you should have painkillers, fever remedies, cold remedies, and basic digestive-related ailment remedies. Next time you are down with a cold, you won’t be rushing to your parent’s house or to the pharmacy.

6. A set of expensive sheets

When you are in your 20s, you start working just as hard as you party, so you need to get a good night’s sleep. For this, you need at least one set of expensive, high-quality sheets. Of course, you also need an actual bed, along with a frame and mattress, to put the sheets on. Opt for a king-sized bed, which can look great in both a really small apartment and a normal-sized apartment. Cozy sheets and pillows will make it feel like Heaven!

7. A book you can read over and over again

Reading needs to be one of the constants in your life, and you have to find that book that can keep you tied to it for hours on end, over and over again without ever getting bored. All 20-somethings need to own a book which means a lot for their soul. Head to the library and start reading until you find the one book you can fall in love with forever.

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Tip: buy two or three copies so you can give it to your best friends, too.

8. A professional makeup kit and the ability to use it

In your 20s, you can still get away without any makeup at all, but you have to practice how to enhance your natural beauty. Because you are now over the “strange” phase of makeup, you need to have professional products and the ability to use them like a pro! The latter can be achieved by watching online tutorials and experimenting. When it comes to makeup products, focus on investing in the basic items: a red lipstick, a nude/soft pink lipstick or gloss, a transparent gloss, mascara, eyeliner, concealer, and foundation.

Bonus: Something silly

This might be a silly bag or a pair of silly shoes that you only wear at home, or maybe a shirt with a silly message on it. Being in your 20s is fun, and you need to stay connected with your childish side at the end of the day!

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Last Updated on January 17, 2019

8 Simple Mindfulness Exercises to Bring Peace and Happiness to Your Life

8 Simple Mindfulness Exercises to Bring Peace and Happiness to Your Life

In life, we all need to be conscientious of what we are doing. You don’t need to live a life of stress if you don’t want to. You can achieve peace and happiness in life by carefully building mindfulness exercises into your life’s routine.

Exercising mindfulness isn’t rocket science and as importantly, you can do it. It will, however, take a few tries to get into the groove of things but once you get it, it is like riding a bike, you will never lose it.

Trust me. It’s in your best interest to learn and put these mindfulness exercises into practice. In this article, I will share with you 8 mindfulness exercises that will help you to boost your energy, vitality and live a more peaceful and happier life.

Why Is It Hard to Live A Peaceful And Happy Life?

Our Habitat Has Become Too Technological

The world has accepted the idea that technology is often the cure for all evil. We have accepted, as a society, that everything technological will make us live a better life without fully investigating the many side effects that modernity brings.

There are a number of technological side effects that have a tremendous impact on your life that the media rarely tells you about.[1] Some of them include self-harm, economic inequality, having less sex, and even suicide. The global community is becoming less happy because of technology.

How can anybody live a peaceful and happy life when they are depressed? Technology advancements, ladies and gents, is a major reason for why we are living a poor life because it has infiltrated our lives too much.

According to my research, Americans spend an average of 8 hours a day looking at the computer screen — The average screen time spent on smartphones alone is about 20 hours per week. That’s a lot! No wonder why living a happy and peaceful life is so difficult these days.

Too Many People Don’t Want to Unplug

Americans check their phones an average of 80 times during vacation.[2] Some admit to checking their smartphones 300 times every single day. In countries like Brazil, India and China, the situation is no different.

The reality is that people are constantly plugged into technological devices and this behavior is literally making people all over the globe fight an inner war with themselves, which consequently makes them very sad. As we know, war is the enemy of peace which won’t make anybody happy.

Listen carefully:

We have a global anxiety epidemic because people don’t want to unplug from their smartphones and most people aren’t doing anything to fix it. It is a sad state of affairs but very real. This obsession with technology is turning us into perishable robots who live terrible lives.

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The era of anxiety is here to stay. There is little doubt about it. We can, however, fight back with the best remedy of all — We call it mindfulness!

Thank God there is an antidote to this whole technological madness. Without further ado, let’s go straight to the mindful exercises.

8 Mindfulness Exercises to Start Practicing

There are tons of mindfulness exercises available for you to engage with out there.[3] In the paragraphs below, I will include the best ones I’ve personally tried or have seen my close friends and family members try.

Are you ready for it? Let’s go!

1. Pray Daily

You should pray on a daily basis. Why is that you may ask — Well, because science has told us to do so.

When people pray, they feel peaceful, almost eliminating anxiety. Worries become secondary, and often gives people energy and hope to cope with the difficulties of life.

Prayer can make you more confident and focused. Prayer also helps you with self-control, helps to control pain, and can protect you against illnesses and disorders like cancer and high blood pressure. At least, this is what researchers from Harvard Medical School have said.[4]

Pray. You won’t regret it.[5]

2. Pay Attention to Your Inner Thoughts

A lot of people allow themselves to be influenced by their negative thoughts. Be different and resist believing in them. It is a bad habit that can lead to unhappiness.

By the way, if you do feel this way, chances are high that somebody other than you put these thoughts into your head.

Here is my secret to combat this cancer — look at things objectively. I bet that if you look at things as they are, you will realize that most if not all of your negative thoughts are only inside of your head.

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If you pay close attention, you will quickly realize that these voices aren’t worth your time. Believe me — Ignoring them and looking at things with objectivity is often the best course of action.

This article can guide you to beat negative thoughts:

How to Stop Automatic Negative Thoughts When You’re Overwhelmed

3. Smile Often

Smiling will slow down your heart. It will also relax your body because when you smile, your body releases endorphins which in itself has a number of positive benefits for you as a person.

Smile often! You may want to smile early in the morning, during the day, and late in the evening. It is amazing what happens to you when you decide to smile instead of being grumpy.

Surrender your problems to a nice smile. You will notice two things. First, most people just don’t which makes them live a miserable life. Second, if you decide to smile often, you will eventually smile unconsciously which is the ideal.

The moment that you smile unconsciously, you then know that you are truly happy.

4. Organize Your Working Desk

A messy desk will make you less productive and can agitate and overstimulate you. You don’t want that.

When you clear your desk, you engage in deep inner-thinking and your systematic decision making ends up becoming therapeutic.

Most people realize that they are most creative when their creative space is clean and organized. The former often makes people more aware of what they are doing which lends to less stress and more productivity.

Organizing your desk will also make you more energetic and focused because order often decreases chaos which is a condition that often slows down daily progress.

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5. Celebrate Your Friend’s Victories

I love this mindful exercise. One of the best ways to live a happy and peaceful life is to celebrate the victories of others. When you do that, you automatically make your friends in a better mood which makes you in a better mood, as well.

Happiness is contagious! We might as well celebrate others as much as we can. If you find out that your peer has won an award, celebrate with him! If your friend is the recipient of a local charity award, celebrate with her!

What is also awesome is that when you celebrate with others, they often celebrate with you in return. This, ladies and gentleman, will make you feel fantastic. You can’t go wrong with this one, period.

6. Listen to Your Spouse/Partner

God put someone in your life for a reason. You might as well listen to him or her.

I listen to my wife everyday. In fact, I often ask the following question to her, “Amanda, what are your thoughts about…” or “What am I missing about…” It is shocking what I hear back from her. Without her having much context and perspective, by the art of observation in my own nonverbal behavior and the behavior of others, she accurately gives me incredible insights which helps me out with living my life to the fullest.

I’m a firm believer that spouses are supposed to engage in interpersonal communication every day. I most definitely do and will continue doing it. You should do the same.

7. Give Yourself a Break from Technology

You can’t be in total equilibrium if your computerized devices control your life. You must get away from technology on a daily basis.[6]

How do you do that? This is my formula:

First, take this smartphone control test. It is only ten questions but this test will place you somewhere in the human robot cycle continuum.

If your score is between 25-30, take a break from the computer (or smartphone, pad, laptop/desktop) every twenty minutes and stop being on a computerized device after 8:00pm.

If you score between 30-35, still take a break every 20 minutes but stop being on these devices at 5:00pm.

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If you score more than 35, you need to take action immediately.

Limit computer use as much as possible throughout the day. Give yourself as many breaks from the computer as possible. Are you ready for the challenge?

8. Go Exercise

Go exercise at least three times a week. I don’t care if you need to workout early in the morning, late in the evening, on the weekends or during work days. Working out is absolutely imperative for you to live happy and peaceful life.

The stresses of the modern world are too much for you to neglect this important mindfulness exercise. When you go to the gym, you burn calories, focus on activities one step at a time, your mind relaxes, anxiety decreases, you sweat and often think about topics unrelated to your work place among many other benefits.

You must exercise at least three hours each week for optimum results. Why? Just take a look at all the benefits of regular exercising:

12 Benefits of Regular Exercise You Should Know

The Bottom Line

It’s in your best interest to learn and put these mindfulness exercises into practice. Now that our habitat has become too technological and many people just don’t want to unplug, engaging in daily prayer, celebrate your friends’ victories, and listening to your spouse are among the best ways to be mindful about what you are doing and how you are living.

It is possible to live a happy and peaceful life. It only depends on you.

Go exercise! Take a break from technology and invest in you! Life is too short for distractions.

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