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8 Things All 20-Something Women Need To Own

8 Things All 20-Something Women Need To Own

You’re in your 20s and it’s amazing! You can be trusted to live on your own, you have a driver’s license, a job, a partner (maybe), and you have lots of fun. All these things are great, but you have to start buying real things now—adult stuff. You are over the rockstar bracelets, gothic makeup, and Gilmore Girls (OK, sort of…) and you are ready to start being an adult—a really serious, reliable person who does adult things. The best way to start your transformation is reassessing your shopping habits and the items you own.

After all, what you have defines you and says a lot about who you are and what you want to become in the future.

This transformation won’t turn you into Martha Stewart, but it will give you a new perspective on your own life and will prepare you for the best years of your life. Are you ready? Here are a few of the things that all 20-somethings should consider owning.

1. A versatile wardrobe

Every 20-something needs a versatile wardrobe. This includes pieces which can make a statement at a crazy party and pieces which can scream “professional” from the bottom of their lungs. Comfortable is not out either!

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Every woman needs a dress or an outfit that makes her feel sexy, and there’s nothing hotter and more versatile than an LBD. Invest in a great little black dress which can be worn at multiple events, such as a wedding, a birthday party, and even a funeral.

Next, you should look into getting a pair of nude pumps. They are highly versatile and work great with any color and every style. Moreover, they complement all skin tones!

A leather jacket is another must because deep inside, we all want to look like a hot biker.

When we speak about statement clothing pieces that all 20-somethings need to own, we can’t overlook the blazer. No, it’s not the standard dull, boring black blazer—it’s about a fresh and classy clothing item which is able to complete every plain outfit and turn it into a runway outfit.

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2. A real piece of jewelry

Most jewelry pieces a 20-something owns are made of inexpensive materials, but it’s time to own some real jewelry. You are still too young for carrying the burden of a diamond, but you’re not too young for a gold ring or a jewelry set that has market value. If you are in love with statement pieces, go for the same style; you can even pick a set of statement jewelry made from precious materials, such as gold and semi-precious stones, like turquoise.

The key is to invest in jewelry which won’t rust—not in couple of weeks and not in couple of years!

3. A vibrator

As a 20-something, your sex life is blooming, but you have to experience self-pleasure. When you find a great vibrator your life will change. Drop the misconceptions and the shame and head to your first sex shop, online or offline, and look for a USB-charged, modern vibrator. Keep in mind that someone once said if everyone owned a vibrator, there would be no wars in the world!

4. A very expensive art piece

During your teen years, art was something for adults—pretty much like Cosmopolitan and bills. But when you assault your 20s, you need to start polishing yourself and your taste in art. Spend some time in an art gallery, a museum, or another place where you can see multiple types of art. Then, invest in a piece you really love.

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The alternative is to “adopt” a family art piece. Either way, you need to be really in love with your new acquisition and understand its meaning as well as its value. In other words, if your house is on fire, that art piece will be the first thing you will rush to save. My own art piece is a sewing machine inherited by my mother from her mother, who inherited it from her mother. And my daughter will inherit that sewing machine one day!

5. A medicine drawer

As a child, you rely on your parents to give you medicines when you are sick. As a 20-something you need to have a medicine drawer with the essential remedies for common ailments. In this micro-pharmacy, you should have painkillers, fever remedies, cold remedies, and basic digestive-related ailment remedies. Next time you are down with a cold, you won’t be rushing to your parent’s house or to the pharmacy.

6. A set of expensive sheets

When you are in your 20s, you start working just as hard as you party, so you need to get a good night’s sleep. For this, you need at least one set of expensive, high-quality sheets. Of course, you also need an actual bed, along with a frame and mattress, to put the sheets on. Opt for a king-sized bed, which can look great in both a really small apartment and a normal-sized apartment. Cozy sheets and pillows will make it feel like Heaven!

7. A book you can read over and over again

Reading needs to be one of the constants in your life, and you have to find that book that can keep you tied to it for hours on end, over and over again without ever getting bored. All 20-somethings need to own a book which means a lot for their soul. Head to the library and start reading until you find the one book you can fall in love with forever.

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Tip: buy two or three copies so you can give it to your best friends, too.

8. A professional makeup kit and the ability to use it

In your 20s, you can still get away without any makeup at all, but you have to practice how to enhance your natural beauty. Because you are now over the “strange” phase of makeup, you need to have professional products and the ability to use them like a pro! The latter can be achieved by watching online tutorials and experimenting. When it comes to makeup products, focus on investing in the basic items: a red lipstick, a nude/soft pink lipstick or gloss, a transparent gloss, mascara, eyeliner, concealer, and foundation.

Bonus: Something silly

This might be a silly bag or a pair of silly shoes that you only wear at home, or maybe a shirt with a silly message on it. Being in your 20s is fun, and you need to stay connected with your childish side at the end of the day!

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Last Updated on January 3, 2020

The 10 Essential Habits of Positive People

The 10 Essential Habits of Positive People

Are you waiting for life events to turn out the way you want so that you can feel more positive about your life? Do you find yourself having pre-conditions to your sense of well-being, thinking that certain things must happen for you to be happier? Do you think there is no way that your life stresses can make you anything other than “stressed out” and that other people just don’t understand?  If your answer is “yes” to any of these questions, you might find yourself lingering in the land of negativity for too long!

The following are some tips to keep positive no matter what comes your way. This post will help you stop looking for what psychologists call “positivity” in all the wrong places!  Here are the ten essential habits of positive people.

1. Positive people don’t confuse quitting with letting go.

Instead of hanging on to ideas, beliefs, and even people that are no longer healthy for them, they trust their judgement to let go of negative forces in their lives.  Especially in terms of relationships, they subscribe to The Relationship Prayer which goes:

 I will grant myself the ability to trust the healthy people in my life … 

To set limits with, or let go of, the negative ones … 

And to have the wisdom to know the DIFFERENCE!

 2.  Positive people don’t just have a good day – they make a good day.

Waiting, hoping and wishing seldom have a place in the vocabulary of positive individuals. Rather, they use strong words that are pro-active and not reactive. Passivity leads to a lack of involvement, while positive people get very involved in constructing their lives. They work to make changes to feel better in tough times rather than wish their feelings away.

3. For the positive person, the past stays in the past.

Good and bad memories alike stay where they belong – in the past where they happened. They don’t spend much time pining for the good ol’ days because they are too busy making new memories now. The negative pulls from the past are used not for self-flagellation or unproductive regret, but rather productive regret where they use lessons learned as stepping stones towards a better future.

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4. Show me a positive person and I can show you a grateful person.

The most positive people are the most grateful people.  They do not focus on the potholes of their lives.  They focus on the pot of gold that awaits them every day, with new smells, sights, feelings and experiences.  They see life as a treasure chest full of wonder.

5. Rather than being stuck in their limitations, positive people are energized by their possibilities.

Optimistic people focus on what they can do, not what they can’t do.  They are not fooled to think that there is a perfect solution to every problem, and are confident that there are many solutions and possibilities.  They are not afraid to attempt new solutions to old problems, rather than spin their wheels expecting things to be different this time.  They refuse to be like Charlie Brown expecting that this time Lucy will not pull the football from him!

6. Positive people do not let their fears interfere with their lives!

Positive people have observed that those who are defined and pulled back by their fears never really truly live a full life. While proceeding with appropriate caution, they do not let fear keep them from trying new things. They realize that even failures are necessary steps for a successful life. They have confidence that they can get back up when they are knocked down by life events or their own mistakes, due to a strong belief in their personal resilience.

7. Positive people smile a lot!

When you feel positive on the inside it is like you are smiling from within, and these smiles are contagious. Furthermore, the more others are with positive people, the more they tend to smile too! They see the lightness in life, and have a sense of humor even when it is about themselves. Positive people have a high degree of self-respect, but refuse to take themselves too seriously!

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8. People who are positive are great communicators.

They realize that assertive, confident communication is the only way to connect with others in everyday life.  They avoid judgmental, angry interchanges, and do not let someone else’s blow up give them a reason to react in kind. Rather, they express themselves with tact and finesse.  They also refuse to be non-assertive and let people push them around. They refuse to own problems that belong to someone else.

9. Positive people realize that if you live long enough, there are times for great pain and sadness.

One of the most common misperceptions about positive people is that to be positive, you must always be happy. This can not be further from the truth. Anyone who has any depth at all is certainly not happy all the time.  Being sad, angry, disappointed are all essential emotions in life. How else would you ever develop empathy for others if you lived a life of denial and shallow emotions? Positive people do not run from the gamut of emotions, and accept that part of the healing process is to allow themselves to experience all types of feelings, not only the happy ones. A positive person always holds the hope that there is light at the end of the darkness.  

10. Positive person are empowered people – they refuse to blame others and are not victims in life.

Positive people seek the help and support of others who are supportive and safe.They limit interactions with those who are toxic in any manner, even if it comes to legal action and physical estrangement such as in the case of abuse. They have identified their own basic human rights, and they respect themselves too much to play the part of a victim. There is no place for holding grudges with a positive mindset. Forgiveness helps positive people become better, not bitter.

How about you?  How many habits of positive people do you personally find in yourself?  If you lack even a few of these 10 essential habits, you might find that the expected treasure at the end of the rainbow was not all that it was cracked up to be. How could it — if you keep on bringing a negative attitude around?

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I wish you well in keeping positive, because as we all know, there is certainly nothing positive about being negative!

Featured photo credit: Janaína Castelo Branco via flickr.com

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