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At 19 I Decided It Was Time To Fire My Boss – Here’s Why

At 19 I Decided It Was Time To Fire My Boss – Here’s Why

If you’re reading this article, chances are you’re almost ready to do the same.

Let me guess, you’re stuck in the office right now, shielding your screen from nosey co-workers who are eager to bust you doing something other than your work. Or you’re reading this article while vegetating on the couch from another unfulfilled day at work, dreading going back in tomorrow. Do you ask yourself if this is it? Is this what life is going to be like for the next 40-odd years?

The answer: yes.  Yes – if you don’t do anything to change it.

For me, I decided that I needed to fire my boss otherwise I would continue to repeat my current reality over and over again until I died at 25 but only get buried at 75.

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Don’t misunderstand me, I am not advocating you resigning at this very moment and ignoring any and all responsibility you currently have. What I meant by ‘firing my boss’ was making a decision that I no longer would live my life at the whim of someone else control. I made a commitment to myself that I was going to, at this very moment, begin to create a life that I love and have always dreamed of living.

The first action I took was negotiating a pay raise at my current job (side note: the only way to do this is to add immense VALUE to your employment organisation, something I’ll write on another day) and as result I was able to cut my hours back without sacrificing my income, allowing an extra two full days to dedicate to chasing my passion and build my dream of writing and publishing a book.

Fast-forward 9 months and what most call a pipe dream – I achieved. I wrote and published my first book titled #SUCCESS in 2013, which opened all sorts of doors to opportunities on the writing and speaking circuit.

If you read through these four signs below and can say “yup, that’s me”, you may also be ready to make the leap from a 9 to 5 to full-time dream hustler.

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1. You’re bored and unfulfilled
It’s sad that in this day and age, being ‘unhappy’ isn’t a socially accepted motivator to hand in your resignation and venture out to create a fulfilling and meaningful life. So many suppress the feeling of lack and go through life on default just so they can collapse on the couch at the end of day and complain about it.

Here’s a piece of advice you’ll never be able to ignore: LIFE IS SHORT and you really, really don’t have to live a unsatisfying and dull life. Going against the gain (society) and making a change might be scary but what should make you even more scared is living a boring and unfulfilled life.

Breaking out of the 9-5 mold and dedicating your entire spare time to pursuing your biggest and wildest of dreams, is the only way to tame that voice inside you that says you’re so much more than what you’re currently doing.

2. You always think “I could have done that”
Have you ever read a book and thought, man I could have written that. Or you find out Flappy Birds sold for $6 million and thought, I can design apps better than that. Or you’ve spoken to other entrepreneurs or self-employed individuals and thought, man it sounds like hard work but I would rather spend 70 hours building my business than 40 hours at a desk watching the clock tick.

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If so, you’re on the right track.

My advice would be to link up with mentors who can help you learn. Find ways to add value to them and in exchange they will teach you what they know. Remembering that every winner was once a beginner will help you preserver through the tough times ahead.

3. You’re using your head as well as your heart
Do you have a game plan? Have you figured out exactly what it is you want to pursue? I would hate for you to read this article, quit your job then spend all your extra time and resources on unproductive activities that serve you no purpose.

Having a detailed game plan is critical when going out on your own. Ensure you’ve prepared all the basics BEFORE you jump ship. Have a business plan? Great! Have all your marketing material? Yes? Awesome. If you don’t, sacrifice your weekends now so you don’t waste your time on non-revenue producing activities when you cut back your employment hours.

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Set your D-day and start preparing. When the day comes to start making your dream a reality, ensuring you’re as prepared as possible will help with the overwhelm and uncomfortableness. (Remember, the magic happens outside of your comfort zone. Always has, always will.)

4. You’re ready to know the word ‘sacrifice’ extremely well
Sorry to burst your bubble but overnight success is a total myth. One of my favorite sayings is, ‘it takes ten years to become on overnight success’. AMEN!

You’re ready to join the entrepreneur train when you’ve made peace with living a few years of your life like most people won’t, so that you can spend the rest of your life like most people can’t. Late nights will mean prospecting, writing proposals, planning, learning NOT fancy dinners and nightclubs. Early mornings will mean Skype calls, reading, research, marketing and emails NOT 4am cab rides home or sleep ins.

Think about what expenses are necessary in your life right now and what you’re actually just buying to compensate for the unhappiness of your current reality. What you might actually find is that your need for particular luxuries or distractions will fall away completely when you are fulfilled with chasing your dreams.

Hustling isn’t perfect – it’s stressful and consuming however I know most self-employed people would never go back to a mind numbing 9 to 5 (including me).

If you’ve read through these four signs and feel at least halfway ready – jump! Start planning, start saving, start networking, and continue learning. The fear you feel now and will continue to feel is normal, but choose to use it as a motivator. I know you agree that uncertainty and feeling uncomfortable is better than regret.

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The Best Way to Create a Vision for the Life You Want

The Best Way to Create a Vision for the Life You Want

Creating a vision for your life might seem like a frivolous, fantastical waste of time, but it’s not: creating a compelling vision of the life you want is actually one of the most effective strategies for achieving the life of your dreams. Perhaps the best way to look at the concept of a life vision is as a compass to help guide you to take the best actions and make the right choices that help propel you toward your best life.

your vision of where or who you want to be is the greatest asset you have

    Why You Need a Vision

    Experts and life success stories support the idea that with a vision in mind, you are more likely to succeed far beyond what you could otherwise achieve without a clear vision. Think of crafting your life vision as mapping a path to your personal and professional dreams. Life satisfaction and personal happiness are within reach. The harsh reality is that if you don’t develop your own vision, you’ll allow other people and circumstances to direct the course of your life.

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    How to Create Your Life Vision

    Don’t expect a clear and well-defined vision overnight—envisioning your life and determining the course you will follow requires time, and reflection. You need to cultivate vision and perspective, and you also need to apply logic and planning for the practical application of your vision. Your best vision blossoms from your dreams, hopes, and aspirations. It will resonate with your values and ideals, and will generate energy and enthusiasm to help strengthen your commitment to explore the possibilities of your life.

    What Do You Want?

    The question sounds deceptively simple, but it’s often the most difficult to answer. Allowing yourself to explore your deepest desires can be very frightening. You may also not think you have the time to consider something as fanciful as what you want out of life, but it’s important to remind yourself that a life of fulfillment does not usually happen by chance, but by design.

    It’s helpful to ask some thought-provoking questions to help you discover the possibilities of what you want out of life. Consider every aspect of your life, personal and professional, tangible and intangible. Contemplate all the important areas, family and friends, career and success, health and quality of life, spiritual connection and personal growth, and don’t forget about fun and enjoyment.

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    Some tips to guide you:

    • Remember to ask why you want certain things
    • Think about what you want, not on what you don’t want.
    • Give yourself permission to dream.
    • Be creative. Consider ideas that you never thought possible.
    • Focus on your wishes, not what others expect of you.

    Some questions to start your exploration:

    • What really matters to you in life? Not what should matter, what does matter.
    • What would you like to have more of in your life?
    • Set aside money for a moment; what do you want in your career?
    • What are your secret passions and dreams?
    • What would bring more joy and happiness into your life?
    • What do you want your relationships to be like?
    • What qualities would you like to develop?
    • What are your values? What issues do you care about?
    • What are your talents? What’s special about you?
    • What would you most like to accomplish?
    • What would legacy would you like to leave behind?

    It may be helpful to write your thoughts down in a journal or creative vision board if you’re the creative type. Add your own questions, and ask others what they want out of life. Relax and make this exercise fun. You may want to set your answers aside for a while and come back to them later to see if any have changed or if you have anything to add.

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    What Would Your Best Life Look Like?

    Describe your ideal life in detail. Allow yourself to dream and imagine, and create a vivid picture. If you can’t visualize a picture, focus on how your best life would feel. If you find it difficult to envision your life 20 or 30 years from now, start with five years—even a few years into the future will give you a place to start. What you see may surprise you. Set aside preconceived notions. This is your chance to dream and fantasize.

    A few prompts to get you started:

    • What will you have accomplished already?
    • How will you feel about yourself?
    • What kind of people are in your life? How do you feel about them?
    • What does your ideal day look like?
    • Where are you? Where do you live? Think specifics, what city, state, or country, type of community, house or an apartment, style and atmosphere.
    • What would you be doing?
    • Are you with another person, a group of people, or are you by yourself?
    • How are you dressed?
    • What’s your state of mind? Happy or sad? Contented or frustrated?
    • What does your physical body look like? How do you feel about that?
    • Does your best life make you smile and make your heart sing? If it doesn’t, dig deeper, dream bigger.

    It’s important to focus on the result, or at least a way-point in your life. Don’t think about the process for getting there yet—that’s the next stepGive yourself permission to revisit this vision every day, even if only for a few minutes. Keep your vision alive and in the front of your mind.

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    Plan Backwards

    It may sound counter-intuitive to plan backwards rather than forwards, but when you’re planning your life from the end result, it’s often more useful to consider the last step and work your way back to the first. This is actually a valuable and practical strategy for making your vision a reality.

    • What’s the last thing that would’ve had to happen to achieve your best life?
    • What’s the most important choice you would’ve had to make?
    • What would you have needed to learn along the way?
    • What important actions would you have had to take?
    • What beliefs would you have needed to change?
    • What habits or behaviors would you have had to cultivate?
    • What type of support would you have had to enlist?
    • How long will it have taken you to realize your best life?
    • What steps or milestones would you have needed to reach along the way?

    Now it’s time to think about your first step, and the next step after that. Ponder the gap between where you are now and where you want to be in the future. It may seem impossible, but it’s quite achievable if you take it step-by-step.

    It’s important to revisit this vision from time to time. Don’t be surprised if your answers to the questions, your technicolor vision, and the resulting plans change. That can actually be a very good thing; as you change in unforeseeable ways, the best life you envision will change as well. For now, it’s important to use the process, create your vision, and take the first step towards making that vision a reality.

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