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15 Creative Ways To Surprise Your Husband

15 Creative Ways To Surprise Your Husband

If you’re married, you know it’s hard work to keep your marriage good. Everyday life can make it feel so much harder to be happy together. On an average day, you need to get up, eat, shower, dress and you’re off to work. When you get back you eat and chill and go to bed. There is no special time to spend with your spouse.

So how do you keep your marriage alive besides your everyday routine? Surprises! When you have a spare moment, surprise your husband. It will make him feel like you think about him, even when he isn’t around. It may even make him fall in love with you a little more.

You probably feel like you won’t have the time or money to get a complete surprise ready. That’s why I made a list of 15 awesome surprises! You don’t need a big budget or a lot of time. No matter what you have available, you can make your hubby jump with joy!

1. Write a Note

Really? Writing a note? That sound boring! But trust me, it’s not. Take some paper, maybe even in color, and a pen, preferably red, and write that note. Make it as romantic or sexy as you can. Put it somewhere he looks every day, like his wallet or the pocket of his pants and let the magic happen.

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2. Chore Date

What do chores and dates have in common? Not much. But… Imagine telling your man he needs to get you some milk from the store after work. He goes to the store and walks into you! And what do you have? Tickets to that movie/game he wanted to go to! Now that’s a good surprise.

3. King’s Day

I’m not saying you should be a slave, but give him a day of everything he wants. Write down a list of things he would love to do or eat or see and do it. Try to do as many things as possible off that list. You enjoy when he helps you out, so he will surely enjoy a day for him.

4. Try His Hobby

Your man probably has a hobby that you’re not very keen on. For example, my husband loves gaming. Now it is not my kind of entertainment, but to everyone his own. Most of the time when he does it, I’m doing my own thing. So for this surprise, try his hobby. Go with him and do it together. Try to see what he likes about it. It may not be your cup of tea but he will appreciate your effort.

5. Lunch Break

Simply put, go to his workplace and surprise him for lunch. You can keep it simple and just make a delicious lunch at home, or you can fancy it up and take him out. It’s up to you!

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6. Re-honeymoon

Yeah, I know that’s not a real word. There are a lot of websites, such as Groupon, where you can get deals on cheaper getaways. Subscribe to get emails and when a good one comes along, surprise your husband! Nothing better than saving money and spending time together.

7. Scottish Lord

This idea is not the cheapest, but I had to add it. When I read it, I was so amazed! So on this website, you can buy a plot of land in Scotland and then be get the title Lord or Lady. Don’t just say Lord to surprise your hubby, get him the official title! He’ll feel real manly then.

8. Surprising Surprise

Surprise your husband by putting a surprise in a surprising place. When he’s asleep, leave a note on his skin with wash-off marker, or put a little surprise in his underwear. He will be more surprised by the location of the surprise than the surprise itself!

9. Exploding Love Box

So I found this idea of an exploding love box. You can make it at home, which is easy and cheap. And it’s full of your love! Add in pictures, quotes, ideas, and everything you can think of.

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10. Sing Along

Go out for a date and surprise him by singing one of his favorite songs. Who cares if you sing well or not? He’ll be smiling the rest of the night!

11. Year of Dates

This idea is super cute and gives him a bit of say too. Think of 12 different dates you want to go on. Write them down and put in envelopes. Then let him choose. That way you have a date for every month, doing something different every time.

12. Little Black Photobook

Go to a local photographer and get some sexy or artsy pictures taken. Get a black photobook and add all the pictures you like. Surprise him with it, so any time he wants a peek, he’ll have you right there with him.

13. Get sweaty

Find a dance studio and take some hot dance classes together. Go to a dance club and show off the steaming steps you learned. If others aren’t impressed, I’m sure your hubby will!

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14. Unexpected Dare

Think of the one thing you’d never do… Now do it! Go out with your husband and do something he didn’t expect. It’ll give you a real rush. He’ll be really impressed once you’re doing that one thing that scared you.

15. Classic: Simple and Sweet

The simplest and sweetest ideas can just be the perfect ones. Write a letter and put some red kisses on it. Have a dinner with candlelight. Or, if you want to spice it up a little, put some rose peddles on the bed and wrap yourself in a big bow! Use your creativity. He will love every gift that truly comes from your heart.

Featured photo credit: mochicho via morguefile.com

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Last Updated on April 6, 2020

10 Powerful Ways to Influence People Positively

10 Powerful Ways to Influence People Positively

Most discussions on positively influencing others eventually touch on Dale Carnegie’s seminal work, How to Win Friends and Influence People. Written more than 83 years ago, the book touches on a core component of human interaction, building strong relationships. It is no wonder why.

Everything that we do hinges on our ability to connect with others and formulate deep relationships. You cannot sell a house, buy a house, advance in most careers, sell a product, pitch a story, teach a course, etc. without building healthy relationships. Managers get the best results from their teams, not through brute force, but to careful appeals to their sensibilities, occasional withdrawals from the reservoir of respect they’ve built. Using these tactics, they can influence others to excellence, to productivity, and to success.

Carnegie’s book is great. Of course, there are other resources too. Most of us have someone in our lives who positively influences us. The truth is positively influencing people is about centering the humanity of others. Chances are, you know someone who is really good at making others feel like stars. They can get you to do things that the average person cannot. Where the requests of others sound like fingernails on a chalkboard, the request from this special person sounds like music to your ears. You’re delighted to not only listen but also to oblige.

So how to influence people in a positive way? Read on for tips.

1. Be Authentic

To influence people in a positive way, be authentic. Rather than being a carbon copy of someone else’s version of authenticity, uncover what it is that makes you unique.

Discover your unique take on an issue and then live up to and honor that. Once of the reasons social media influencers are so powerful is that they have carved out a niche for themselves or taken a common issue and approached it from a novel or uncommon way. People instinctually appreciate people whose public persona matches their private values.

Contradictions bother us because we crave stability. When someone professes to be one way, but lives contrary to that profession, it signals that they are confused or untrustworthy and thereby, inauthentic. Neither of these combinations bode well for positively influencing others.

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2. Listen

Growing up, my father would tell me to listen to what others said. He told me if I listened carefully, I would know all I needed to know about a person’s character, desires and needs.

To positively influence others, you must listen to what is spoken and what is left unsaid. Therein lies the explanation for what people need in order to feel validated, supported and seen. If a person feels they are invisible, and unseen by their superiors, they are less likely to be positively influenced by that person.

Listening meets a person’s primary need of validation and acceptance.

Take a look at this guide on how to be a better listener: How to Practice Active Listening (A Step-By-Step Guide)

3. Become an Expert

Most people are predisposed to listen to, if not respect, authority. If you want to positively influence others, become an authority in the area in which you seek to lead others. Research and read everything you can about the given topic, and then look for opportunities to put your education into practice.

You can argue over opinions. You cannot argue, or it is unwise to argue, over facts and experts come with facts.

4. Lead with Story

From years of working in the public relations space, I know that personal narratives, testimonials and impact stories are incredibly powerful. But I never cease to be amazed with how effective a well-timed and told story can be.

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If you want to influence people, learn to tell stories. Your stories should be related to the issue or concept you are discussing. They should be an analogy or metaphor that explains your topic in ordinary terms and in vivid detail. To learn more about how to tell powerful stories, and the ethics of storytelling, take a look at this article: How To Tell An Interesting Story In 4 Simple Steps

5. Lead by Example

It is incredibly inspiring to watch passionate, talented people at work or play. One of the reasons a person who is not an athlete can be in awe of athletic prowess is because human nature appreciates the extraordinary. When we watch the Olympics, Olympic trials, gymnastic competitions, ice skating, and other competitive sports, we can recognize the effort of people who day in and day out give their all. C

ase in point: Simone Biles. The gymnast extraordinaire won her 6TH all-around title at the U.S. Gymnastics Championships after doing a triple double. She was the first woman to do so. Watching her gave me chills. Even non-gymnasts and non-competitive athletes can appreciate the talent required to pull off such a remarkable feat.

We celebrate remarkable accomplishments and believe that their example is proof that we too can accomplish something great, even if it isn’t qualifying for the Olympics. To influence people in a positive way, we must lead by example, lead with intention and execute with excellence.

6. Catch People Doing Good

A powerful way to influence people in a positive way is to catch people doing good. Instead of looking for problems, look for successes. Look for often overlooked, but critically important things that your peers, subordinates and managers do that make the work more effective and more enjoyable.

Once you catch people doing good, name and notice their contributions.

7. Be Effusive with Praise

It did not take me long to notice a remarkable trait of a former boss. He not only began and ended meetings with praise, but he peppered praise throughout the entire meeting. He found a way to celebrate the unique attributes and skills of his team members. He was able to quickly and accurately assess what people were doing well and then let them and their colleagues know.

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Meetings were not just an occasion to go through a “To Do” list, they were opportunities to celebrate accomplishments, no matter how small they are.

8. Be Kind Rather Than Right

I am going to level with you; this one is tough. It is easy to get caught up in a cycle of proving oneself. For people who lack confidence, or people who prioritize the opinions of others, being right is important. The validation that comes with being perceived as “right” feeds one’s ego. But in the quest to be “right,” we can hurt other people. Once we’ve hurt someone by being unkind, it is much harder to get them to listen to what we’re trying to influence them to do.

The antidote to influencing others via bullying is to prioritize kindness above rightness. You can be kind and still stand firm in your position. For instance, many people think that they need others to validate their experience. If a person does not see the situation you experienced in the way you see it, you get upset. But your experience is your experience.

If you and your friends go out to eat and you get food poisoning, you do not need your friends to agree that the food served at the restaurant was problematic for you. Your own experience of getting food poisoning is all the validation you need. Therefore, taking time to be right is essentially wasted and, if you were unkind in seeking validation for your food-poison experience, now you’ve really lost points.

9. Understand a Person’s Logical, Emotional and Cooperative Needs

The Center for Creative Leadership has argued that the best way to influence others is to appeal to their logical, emotional and cooperative needs. Their logical need is their rational and educational need. Their emotional need is the information that touches them in a deeply personal manner. The cooperative need is understanding the level of cooperation various individuals need and then appropriately offering it.

The trick with this system is to understand that different people need different things. For some people, a strong emotional appeal will outweigh logical explanations. For others, having an opportunity to collaborate will override emotional connection.

If you know your audience, you will know what they need in order to be positively influenced. If you have limited information about the people whom you are attempting to influence, you will be ineffective.

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10. Understand Your Lane

If you want to positively influence others, operate from your sphere of influence. Operate from your place of expertise. Leave everything else to others. Gone are the days when being a jack of all trades is celebrated.

Most people appreciate brands that understand their target audience and then deliver on what that audience wants. When you focus on what you are uniquely gifted and qualified to do, and then offer that gift to the people who need it, you are likely more effective. This effectiveness is attractive.

You cannot positively influence others if you are more preoccupied by what others do well versus what you do well.

Final Thoughts

Influencing people is about centering your humanity. If you want to influence others positively, focus on the way you communicate and improve the relationship with yourself first.

It’s hard to influence others if you’re still trying to figure out how to communicate with yourself.

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